I receive many emails and comments from males wanting to know how to find a strong woman for a successful FLR or how to convince their wives to take charge of their marriage.
Here’s my advice on the five changes men must make to live in a real-life successful FLR.
A SUCCESSUL FLR
I often think that some males believe that an FLR is a fun sex game for the weekend. It’s not, it’s a lifestyle transformation. If you think your wife or partner is going to let you dress up in a little maid’s dress on Saturday night, serve dinner, curtsy once or twice, put the dishes in the dishwasher, have sex and then watch the football on TV then forget it.Any man wanting a real-life Female-Led Relationship is going to have to work for it and at it. For the rest of a man's life he's going to be his wife's submissive servant. You will lose your rights. It's not a game boys.Click To Tweet
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Still with me? Great here we go. These five changes are, for me, the most important things any male needs to go through to live in a real-life successful FLR.
1. AN FLR IS ABOUT THE LADY, NOT THE MAN
How many times do I get the question from men, “How can I get my wife to feminise me?” The answer is easy, think about what’s in it for her not you. Why would any woman think it’s fun for them for their man to prance around in sexy female clothes saying, “look at me, aren’t I pretty?” without there being any benefit to them.
As a woman who has feminised her husband, believe me, I didn’t do it just for Alice’s sexual excitement and to see her in a pretty skirt. No. Feminisation was just one element of a successful FLR. It was part of a change in our relationship status where Alice becomes my submissive housewife who performs domestic duties and serves me. OK I happen to prefer feminised men but it’s more than just seeing them looking pretty. It’s about changing their whole approach to life and relationships.
The FLR package means male submissiveness 24/7. Yes 24/7, 365 days per year. It’s a lifestyle not a weekend game.
Alice is not a slave, she gets a lot out of our relationship too. She is relaxed not having to take responsibility, she gets to wear nicer clothing and she is cared for. Alice likes to serve me. But, in any real FLR it’s all about the woman not the man.
2. THE MALE TAKES ON ALL DOMESTIC CHORES
I don’t really care if a man works full time or not. Once he comes home from work it’s time to take up his other role in the relationship; the domestic maid. In a successful FLR the lady of the house does not do domestic work, unless she wants to of course. I sometimes enjoy cooking for example. However, all housewife duties fall to the male by default unless the lady says otherwise.
My own Alice works full-time and then fulfils all domestic chores, after work and at weekends. If a man is not fully prepared to commit to do the domestic chores day in and day out for ever then he’s not going to find a successful FLR.
3. DEFERENCE TO THE WOMAN
Respect and deference to the woman in an FLR is fundamental. It’s about demonstrating the status differential. Remember it’s not called a female-led relationship for fun, it means the female is the leader. Leaders demand respect and demonstrations of their leadership and superior position
Alice is not permitted to call me Alexa. She has to refer to me as Mistress (my preference) or my Lady. She has to curtsy when serving me food and drink. When I come home in the evening she has to come to the door when I enter, curtsy as a greeting and take my jacket, bags or what ever.
Deference and respect for your Mistress in an FLR is the key to a successful relationship.
4. FOLLOW HER INSTRUCTIONS WITHOUT DEBATE
The wife or female partner is now also the superior, the boss, the leader: the clue’s in the title of the relationship. A male will no longer have a say in the day-to-day running of a relationship.
In reality I do ask Alice for her opinion, why not? She may have some good ideas too. However, the point is I have the final decision.
This means no debate, no discussion. I do still have some problems with Alice who sometimes forgets and thinks we live in a democracy at home. We don’t. Once the lady of the house tells the male to do something it should be done without question.
The man in an FLR may be tired, may not agree with his wife’s decision. It doesn’t matter, if it’s an FLR this is what you have both signed up to.
5. MALE FEMINISATION
In truth, male feminisation isn’t strictly necessary in all circumstances. The male could remain male; kept naked maybe? Dressed as a butler? I don’t know, there are other variations I suppose that emphasise the status differential in an FLR.
I subscribe to feminisation of the male partner. I believe that nothing works better in modifying a male’s behaviour.
I found it out by a lucky accident in the early days of our marriage, observing the changes in Alice when she was put in something feminine. If you then exaggerate the clothing somewhat and add in a female name and use female pronouns then you’ve won.
Put a man in a pretty little dress and heels and any machismo melts away like a bucket of ice on the equator.
I like dressing Alice in mini skirts and dresses. I enjoy seeing her in pleated skirts for example as they are so feminine. I also enjoy her in colours like white, pinks, yellows. I also like her naked or exposed too as this heightens the status differential.Anything that demonstrates my power and her submission works for me.
For me feminisation is a fantastic ‘weapon’ in a woman’s FLR armoury.
FIVE MALE CHANGES FOR A SUCCESSFUL FLR
I’m sure that other women will have other ideas on what constitutes a successful FLR, but for me these are the key changes any man must commit to to enter into an FLR. It’s not a decision to take lightly. For me it as easy as I pushed forward with the changes and Alice acquiesced.
For males it is not all hard work. For Alice it frees her of all the demands that society expects from a man. She is not a natural leader and used to find it stressful to be expected to be an alpha male. We have found a great approach to life.
The single important point to remember for any males wishing to find a real-life FLR is that it’s not all about you. Remember always: it’s all about what the woman wants. Not the man.