There are many obstacles and frustrations we face once we decide to feminise our husbands and partners.
The demands of day to day life, social constructions and, in my case, the reluctance of our husbands mean that women like me have chosen a challenging path to follow.
However, I believe strongly that the forced / encouraged feminisation of males is a path worth taking and an investment worth making. That doesn’t always make it easy.
TIME FOR FORCED FEMINIZATION CHANGES
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Finding time to push through and practice male forced feminization changes can be a challenge. If you’re busy with other projects or the day job you don’t always have time to keep an eye on your husband or to press on with deepening their feminization.
The problem with Alice, and I’m sure with other feminised males, is that she is a little lazy and lets her feminisation slip if I’m not on top of things. Little things like keeping a neat pubic triangle, putting on a bra. It made me angry at first but then I realised it’s an opportunity.
I have taken a little time out to consider where we are in Alice’s progressions, our FLR and what my options are for improving my Alice further. I still want to make her more feminine and to increase the depth of our Female-Led Relationship.
I went to the spare room and thought I’d write down what I need to do to avoid having to check every moment that Alice hasn’t slipped back and to make my life a little easier.
FRUSTRATIONS IN FORCED FEMINIZATION CHANGES
To start off, we’ve come a long way over the past few years. Even if we go no further in our FLR then I’m in a place I never thought we’d get to and never imagined. It’s a great place to be; I lead the marriage and my husband is feminised. Pretty good.
But, I feel that there is more. To be completely honest, I don’t think I’d ever be happy until Alice lives permanently as a girl.
A feminised man is so much more attractive and attentive. I really can’t understand why all women don’t want this for their husbands.Click To TweetBut I have to realise that this may not be practical and we may just have to continue as we are. It’s frustrating. Family and friends are a problem and it’s an overhead to ensure Alice maintains her femininity as she is inclined to slip back if not kept in line.
So here’s my list of further changes and what I can realistically do in the short term, what the chances are of success and then what I can’t probably manage.
MY LIST OF FURTHER IDEAS FOR FORCED FEMINIZATION CHANGES FOR ALICE
1. A FEMALE HAIRSTYLE
I don’t believe a female hairstyle would be a problem if Alice had a full head of hair. I would love for Alice to grow her hair and get it styled at a female hairdresser. Many men have feminine hairstyles these days and I don’t see a problem in theory.
The obstacle to this is not our family, friends or society’s view of men with long hair. I got Alice to grow her hair and it didn’t work. She’s too thin on top and it ended up looking like a clown’s hairstyle.
The side bits looked great, curled up and dyed. Her top looked like a man’s – male pattern baldness. Damn those male hormones.
Therefore I told her to get it cut short again. She wears a wig at times and others just has short hair. I am going to look into some kind of hair weave or transplant. If this doesn’t work I’m going to have to admit defeat and put her in a wig or accept short hair.
Success certainty: 1 out of 10 🙁
2. THE MALE CLITTY AND BALLS DILEMMA
I do love to see Alice completely feminised but with a prettified clitty. I have uses for it, I am a demanding wife after all…
There is of course a problem. The male clitty give men feelings of masculinity. Any women reading this can put on a strap-on and feel what I’m talking about.
So with the self-imposed restriction that I want Alice to retain a functioning clitty, it’s vital to make her realise that her male clitty is not masculine. I therefore feminise it by ensuring it has a cute pubic triangle and it is otherwise shaved. A pink bow and pretty knickers are a must.
I think it’s time to go a stage further and have her pubic hair permanently removed so that her triangle is permanent. I think laser is the way to go.
I’ve also had ideas of reducing Alice’s clitty size. Size matters for men, it’s part of their masculinity. So, I like the idea of her having a smaller clitty which would make it look cuter and more like a feminine clitty. Since hormones are out as it needs to function I’m not sure how to do this.
I can think of temporary solutions such as making it cold with ice cubes? Maybe this is the solution. In fact that sounds like fun.
Success possibility: 9/10 (for making it look cute) 🙂
3. FEMALE BREASTS
I would absolutely love for Alice to have breast implants. I’m sure no one would really notice, they’d probably think that she was out of condition with man boobs.
Realistically though, implants are probably not practical and I’m not sure that anyone in England would do the operation legally just because I liked the idea.
Alice hasn’t been using the breast pump as we’ve busy and haven’t been overseeing things. I think what I need to do is make sure it’s with us at all times and make sure that Alice uses it every single day.
This is part of the overhead that I’ll just need to do. Without my pressuring her and standing over her, Alice doesn’t bother.
Success certainty: 5/10 as I’m not sure how effective the pump will be 😐
4. PRETTY NAILS
OK it’s probably not practical to make Alice wear red nail polish every day. However, a trip to the nail salon to improve and shape her finger and toenails and put on a clear lacquer seems to me to be a reasonable improvement.
Actually there’s no reason why her toenails can’t be coloured.
The very act of going to a nail bar is a great start. I know it will be difficult for Alice at first but, like the other changes I’ve made, once done a few times then she’ll get used to it. The idea being that once used to having her nails done I can move her onto a clear varnish and then have something with a little colour.
As for her toenails I think anything goes. I think something like in the photo below for her feet is perfect and eventually for her fingernails.
Success certainty: 10/10 (for the shaping and toenails) 🙂
5. BUTT PLUG
I’m not entirely sure why I like Alice to use a butt plug but I do. I think it’s the fact I can put something inside her, it’s something so intimate and controlling. Alice isn’t so keen but is willing to accept that it’s something I want her to get used to.
I like the mere act of inserting it inside her and then knowing it’s inside. This is something I want to increase. Eventually I’d like to use a penis-shaped device on her. Maybe I can find a small one online? Anyway, one step at a time.
Success certainty: 10/10 🙂
6. EXPOSED AS A GIRL TO OTHERS
It’s important that others see Alice as a girl. This helps to make her used to wearing female clothing and being a girl in front of others. It normalises her feminisation and takes it further away from being a private game.
I’m going to do this in two ways. Firstly, we’ll be going to more femdom events. I’m not always a fan of these places but we need to get used to them. Having Alice spend the evening/night dressed in a little skirt with lots of others more regularly will be great.
As will being around other dominant women.
Secondly, I’m going to invite others to our home. I want Alice to become more accustomed to being dressed feminine or naked in front of other dominant ladies and sissies.
As I said in an earlier post, I will only be inviting sissies I already know well. I’m also going t bite the bullet and mention our lifestyle to a couple of my female friends and see what happens.
Success certaintly: 9/10 – the events will happen but not sure about my friends yet 🙂
MAKING MORE PERMANENT FORCED FEMINIZATION CHANGES
I know that there are other things I could do such as pierced ears but I think these forced feminization changes would move things on it the short term, not be too obvious externally and mean I don’t have to expend so much of my busy life managing Alice’s feminisation.
Lady Alexa's first rule of FLR: feminize your man to control and improve him. Click To TweetAs always, Alice is nervous of some of my plans as we have of course discussed it. Nothing happens unless I push so a push it is. Yes I’ll get angry but in the end Alice will realise that she likes it and we’ll move on. I have so many other things to do, not least finishing Feminized and Pretty 3, the final book in the series.
The easier I make Alice’s feminisation the better for me and eventually Alice.
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Ian Elliott says
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Alice is so lucky to be married to you! Many submissive men would love to be in her place. But we can only read your posts and dream of sharing her progress.
Never give up on changing her!
Cathy Peterson says
Alexa, these are all lovely things to see a man embrace for himself. I initiated an FLR with my husband once we had a truly empty nest at home that gave us a whole new level of personal lifestyle privacy. I never demanded or pushed too hard, but instead always went for gradual, subtle transitions. His hair grew long over 2 1/2 years without a cut, but I did touch-ups and trims of bangs and ends. His nails were just simple change of routine to let them grow longer and keep them polished (quite easy). Daily herbal extract breast massage and pumping became a new routine with over 3 years patience to get noticeable results – well worth the commitment and of course his full breasts are permanent. These make wearing a bra every day VERY easy to include. If like us, you’re lucky enough to have your ’50-something’ guy with low-T/chronic ED/elevated estrogen, then small-soft-flaccid can be shaved and easily tucked up and away under a maxi-pad and tight stretch panties, and that’s that!! He forgets, I forget about it, and our attention moved to hair, nails, breasts, bras, smooth legs, dieting-exercise to slim waist. A high-quality plug is also out of sight/out of mind under panties, slip, skirt/dress – yet such a lovely passive reminder of relaxing, submitting, quieting-calming-slowing down (THE BEST is the Lovense Hush brand with cell phone App remote-control vibrations). All the front-end time invested in moving slowly to these places in FLR are so worth it as now these are no longer negotiable and have settled nicely into our/his daily lifestyle. He’s happier, and I’m loving this life!
colly says
Dear Cathy. “No longer negotiable” what a beautiful way to put it. And rightly so too after all the help you’ve given Mike X
At what point did he realise or surrender to the magic of femininity? Was there “a moment” or an acceptance point … first time out dressed, clothing (bra?) shopping… Being left alone with other ladies etc etc ?
I think you know how much I truly love your journey together … Bless u both X
Colly
Carla says
Hello Miss Cathy,
I just wanted to tell you that you are my favorite guest contributor to Lady Alexa’s place here. Your manner seems less forced and more encouraged. Some of the things I’ve read that were done to the partner being feminized seem very degrading and make me cringe at the thought. Your style is similar to what I hope to find. I’m sure there are many of us that at felt we should have been born female at one time but because lack of options made a decision or accepted what we thought was a mistake and decided to try and live as a male… For awhile anyway. Being feminized lets that part breathe again. I had enough humiliation and degradation being bullied as a child for being different. I want acceptance, not the forcing of anything… Anyway, I ramble on at times, my apologies. I hope to read more of your input soon,
Xx
Carla
carla says
I wish my wife would do this to me I love dressing femme especially in pink. I would love to wear a bra fulltime and have breasts to. I would be very nervous but would accept everything I was instructed to do including hair and nail salons. My ideal feminisation would be ordered to strip in front of women and have all my maleness removed and never return to male.
Lady Alexa says
Talk to your wife then. Tell her what would be in it for her – a submissive housewife?
Gerry says
So if its “forced feminization” that means it is not consensual. I wonder if “reluctance” is his way of saying “no I don’t want to do this”. You get men so amped up and horny, he will do anything. Such a modern and progressive society under gynarchy.
Lady Alexa says
The forced is an excuse for males to imagine they have no choice or to put the blame on someone else for their feminisation. I prefer the term encouraged feminisation which describes the process better
toni says
i think you have a great plan in place. my wife has feminized me over a period of more then 25 years and the results have been very significant especially in the breast area. They are now a full 36 C-D cup size. Within the last month she took me to a friend to have my eyebrows shaped in a very feminine manner and they are very humiliating to me especially in public. My hair is worn pageboy style but we do have several wigs. It is now apparent to anyone that see’s me that something is going on and i am looking more feminine as time progresses. Some friends and family have asked her questions privately but no one has said anything to me personally. Over a period of time i have under her direction lessened contact with my male friends so at this point i really have no social contact with them at all. My objections or complaining of her plans or how i am used or treated have come to be non-existent and she controls my life completely now to my dress, mannerism, hair and personal hygiene and even toilet time. i have become weaker in my mind, spirit and also physically due to the hormones and she has become stronger, more dominant and controlling. Her instructions and orders are now followed to the letter no matter how much i am humiliated, used, punished or controlled. Its a completely a new life for me!
Lady Alexa says
Very nice to hear this Toni. I don’t like the idea of hormones but each to their own if that suits both parties. And although you say even toilet time, this is important for control
toni says
Lady Alexa,
The hormones and the herbal supplements that i have and am being given have been the reason for the growth of my breast. They now fill a 36 C /D bra very easily. i am 5’9 with a 34 waist. My beard is less noticeable and my skin is definitely softer in texture. My wife researched this completely and i am given low doses and also herbal supplements as well. The results have been remarkable. i have loss about 80% of my body hair also on my legs, chest, beard and back. i have always had thick hair on my head and now its still full and thick but seems to be thinner and softer in texture. The negative side effect is for me that my penis or as my wife calls it her clit has shrunk in size about 50% both in the erect and flaccid state. We have a couple of pictures of my breast taken about a year ago but can’t seem to post it with this reply. Is there a way? Yes, the supervised toilet time is all about control and humiliation. She says it prevents un-allowed masturbation, stimulation and she enjoys the control over my urination and bowel release. i find it very humiliating but exciting at the same time. Out in public in a public restroom i am allowed 3 minutes. If it is a male / female single use bathroom she always enters and accompanies me to supervise. My yearly medical check ups with blood test always show low testosterone levels. My doctor asked if i wanted to take testosterone to increase the levels and i replied no. But she saw no problems at all in my general health at all. She is also my wife’s physician also so our check ups are usually at the same time during the year. At first i was somewhat uncomfortable about the changes in my body but over time i have accepted it. Mentally i have become very much more sensitive and obsequious in nature. My wife states that most my male mannerisms and ways have faded away much to her delight. Please let me know if sending the pictures of my breast is possible as my wife would love to see them posted on your site. She is a big fan of yours and reads all your postings also.
toni says
BTW Lady Alexa,
My real male name is toni which over the years my wife has me spell my name as toni not Toni. It even now appears on my drivers license as Toni after she had me fill out a correction in name spelling when i renewed it several years ago. She calls me Annette and is the female name she gave me and that’s how she calls me 24/7 even when we are out unless in front of family or friends then its toni. Back when she was in school many years ago she had a girlfriend whose name was Annette but everyone called her Toni and that’s how she came up with this years ago.
Lady Alexa says
Yes Toni is a girl’s name too. I thought Tony with a y was the male version?
toni says
BTW Lady Alexa,
My male name is Toni and was spelled TONY until my wife had me spell it differently. It was also changed on my drivers license to Toni when it was renewed last year. There was a space in the application for spelling correction. At home and in public i am called Annette by my wife unless in the company of relatives or friends. Back in her school days she had a friend named Annette who was always called Toni and that gave her the idea to name me Annette.
Lady Alexa says
Ah I should have read this comment before replying to your first one
Lady Alexa says
Toni, send your photos to me at ladiesontop@mail.com and I’ll post them on my blog.
Patti59 says
Hi Toni! That is wonderful what your wife has done to you. Feminized men make the best husbands. Just out of curiosity, you mentioned that you no longer have contact with your male friends…..were you once a Macho type of man? What was the motivation of your wife to feminize you?
Annette says
Patti,
Yes, i was the macho type in my profession and my personality but was just never a guy into sports. More into motorcycles, cars and women. But i always enjoyed wearing female underwear all the way back to my childhood where i would sneak and wear my mothers underwear and also take underwear from relatives and friends hampers when i visited. i had a secret stash of undies and i always felt very submissive and comfortable when wearing them. In the beginning of our relationship i was very Dominant with my wife who was then my girlfriend. i used humiliation, discipline and sex as a training tool to condition her. Sex was sex and never the romantic sensual loving kind just raw sex. As the relationship progressed i let her know my interest in dressing in female underwear and it became part of our sex fun. Gradually when dressed she became more Dominant and me more submissive. We found out we preferred it that way and at some point remained that way. She became a very creative Dominant and always wanted to get revenge for the humiliating and sometimes disgusting things i made her do when i dominated her. Also she wanted to get revenge for never having a normal sexual relationship physically with me. Over time i became a 24/7 in home gurl. Our sex was like two girls, her pleasure became important and mine became less important. i pleased her orally and while wearing a strap on. She became less interested in my pleasure and actually hated my male penis and balls over time because they never pleased her in a way a alpha male should. Somewhere in the relationship she made the decision to change me more physically into her gurl. She became a very creative, controlling strict and Dominant wife. The love between us remained strong but she took total control and over time i lost the ability to resist her. her conditioning of me sexually only left me with the ability to orgasm by me masturbating, her masturbating me with rubber dishwashing gloves on or her roughly massaging my prostrate or penetrating me with a dildoe. After she started me on female herbal supplements and hormones my penis really shrunk. my personality became more female like and of course their were changes in my body in several ways. Over the years my will to resist her became non-existent and her power over me became total. She has made me do some really disgusting and humiliating acts both in private and sometimes in public to really break me of my male ways. At times i sense its payback for what i did to her when our roles were reversed and also for not giving her a normal female marriage that every girl wants in her life. My wife is a strong Dominant female now. She stands 5’9 with a beautiful body also for her age. We are approaching 60 and this relationship evolved in a period of over 35 years in which her being dominant has been at least the last 30 since just before we married. My wife feminized me to totally take control and also to ensure i could never be sexual or have sexual relations with another woman ever. When we were single i strayed several times and she was very hurt by it but loved me so much. By keeping me dressed back then 24/7 under my male clothes with undies, girdles and even at times diapered when she said i was being childish she knew i could never undress in front of another woman. When she conditioned me to only certain types of stimulation for me to orgasm i was unable to perform in normal sex. The female herbs and hormones came later probably about the 23 to 25 year mark. The changes have been remarkable. I now have 36 C/D breast, shaved completely, my penis has shrunk to about 1 1/2 inches flaccid and about 2 1/2 – 3 inches erect. My mannerisms, look and demeanor are definitely female and feminine. My male persona doesn’t exist but its not hard to see i am a feminized male much to my shame and embarrassment. Her family notices the change but say’s nothing. Her one older sister knows the situation and i am often sent to her apartment to clean or run errands for her. Deep inside i always felt even as a child that i would have preferred being born a female and always felt jealous of girls and their lifestyles. Probably why in the past i was able to be soo sexually cruel and humiliating to females sexually in my younger years. It was because i was so jealous of them being female and i wasn’t. My wife has put me in my proper place almost 98% and inside i am content and relaxed. But there is a price to pay for this and its the humiliation, punishments, embarrassments and my total loss of normal sex with my wife in this situation. My wife wants for nothing. i am her gurl, her slave, property and basically an object to her. But the love is still there and she knows that everything she does to me is showing her love. Its not for many but for us it works. Any questions please ask them and i will reply back.
Patti59 says
That is just awesome Annette! It is such a delight to see a once Macho man being Feminized, and totally submissive to s Strong Woman. It is very important that Women realize that most men and boys can be feminized, and taught to be Pretty and Sweet, so as to be “Objects” for the Stronger Female sex! If you would care to share some of the humiliating experiences your wife has put you through, I am sure many of us here would love to hear your stories!
Annette says
Patti,
Some of the things my wife humiliates me with is as follows:
i experience my period each month. i have to wear used pads that she retrieves due that she no longer has her period. Also tampons are inserted for the duration of my period in my male vagina usually Pearl Super Plus Tampons. Sometimes i have to change them when we are out in restaurants etc. in the stall in the men’s room leaving the applicator and used tampon in plain view.
i have been taken out in diapers when i act childish in her opinion.
i have been taken to the beach in a one piece pink and white bathing suit.
i have breast 36 C/D after herbal & hormone supplements.
Used as her slave and toilet slave.
Verbally & face slapped in public.
Forced to buy panties, girdles, Summers Eve, tampons and adult diapers in stores. She stands back and watches the cashier, peoples faces and my humiliation.
i have had my diaper changed laying in the back hatch area of our SUV with the hatch open in public parking lots.
Clean her older sisters apartment weekly.
Wearing female nylon jogging shorts, leotards, tights and now yoga pants in public. White tops so my bra shows.
Over the past 25 or so years i have been humiliated and used in many ways and also disciplined. i have been spanked and strapped in parking lots, parks and even in public family bathrooms. We both enter, she locks the door and spanks or straps mem almost to tears. Can be any reason like i don’t respond properly to her, don’t open her door fast enough, walking too slow etc.
i have just been through so many years of this and some public moments have been very embarrassing. If you want to hear more please let me know.
Annette says
Patti,
One of my most humiliating times with my wife was at the mall and it was mid summer in July. We left the house and i was wearing a white female T-shirt with a print on it, a bra that the straps showed, this was before my breast grew. A pair of Danskin white panties and a pair of white female nylon jogging shorts and white slip on sneakers. This was in the mid-eighties. We would always go to a mall quite far from where we lived at the time. But as years have gone by and there is no hiding my situation or my breast and we are 20 years older my wife simply doesn’t care who see’s or knows and for me there is no going back to the Alpha male i once was. My life is completely different now. we are both retired. Like i said if for some reason i need to be seen as a male with my wife she binds my breast flat with 2-3 ACE elastic bandages. When she binds them its very uncomfortable especially in the summer. It also irritates my nipple area quite a bit. Usually i can’t wait for her to remove the bandages. She enjoys seeing it bother me and be uncomfortable. My Doctor thinks i have gynecomastia and wanted to give me medicine and also testosterone because he said my level was very low. But i refused it saying they didn’t bother me and i really don’t want to take any more prescribed medicines besides my blood pressure pill. So he accepted my opinion. When i am there i do see his nurse and his female PA give me stares at times. Over many years i have been put through a lot as my wife became a very creative and sometimes cruel Dominant. But my male strength and attitude are completely gone especially after she started me on the herbs and hormones. i have become very docile, pliable and even more submissive in my personality. Looking back i was never comfortable in the male mode and always more comfortable when i wore female underwear. Now at this point i find myself very comfortable and relaxed. Sort of at peace with myself. My wife still has her Dominant attitude, personality and demeanour. She still enjoys what she puts me through everyday 100%. i have accepted my position has her sissified male, her slave and also her property. For us it works! Questions please feel free to ask them!
Submissively & Sincerely,
annette
Dani says
Hi iam male 29 years of age and have often fantasized this lifestyle change seems scary and I don’t know anyone interested to try would love to meet someone who would take me and mold me to truly be theres i live in the USA how do u meet girls interested in this ? Any suggestions? D
Lady Alexa says
I neither live in the USA nor have I ever looked for girls? Maybe you need to look online or go to femdom events ?
Curious Georgina says
Dear Lady Alexa,
Perhaps it may be better to focus less on the external feminization of Alice (such as her hair, nails etc.) for the time being and focus on her internal (pun unintended) feminization. Is Alice able to feel pleasure in being penetrated? Can she derive enjoyment in taking on a passive role, from that feeling of surrender and that sensation of fullness when penetrated deeply? How about nipple stimulation – does Alice enjoy it? Making her give in to these pleasures will take her deeper into a feminine head space. Feminization of external appearance will follow naturally with little resistance.
You have mentioned in your earlier posts that Alice does not enjoy being penetrated and she is unable to hold a butt plug inside her for long. There are harnesses available that she can wear to fix precisely this issue, so she can get used to her “pussy” being filled and gradually getting to derive pleasure and fulfilment (ha!) from it. Indeed she can regard it as personal development as that is one further step in her feminization.
You can wear a strap on dildo and spoon her. You should be the outer spoon, of course. To start with do not penetrate her deeply. Penetrate just an inch or so and do not thrust. Just remain still inside her and let her get used to being penetrated and realize that she cannot escape it, it is inevitable, it is her destiny and her only choice is to surrender to your strap on and learn to enjoy it. You can stimulate her nipples and her “clit” to distract her mind from any passing feelings of discomfort. You can come out of her after about ten minutes or so. Gradually increase the penetration time and depth. Then add small thrusts while penetrating her, gradually increasing the depth of thrusts and intensity. You can also try this in a missionary position with you on top, of course. For more feminization and enhancing Alice’s surrender to you you can try the missionary position with some mild bondage – tie up Alice’s wrists, spread her legs and tie up her ankles exposing her to you and increasing her feelings of powerlessness and surrender. These feeling will remain and spill over into other aspects of the FLR even outside the bedroom.
You can also add stimulating Alice’s p-spot (prostate) either with your fingers or with toys especially designed for that. Combine p-spot stimulation with stimulating her “clit”. The goal is to first have her achieve orgasm using both “clitoral” and p-spot stimulation. Then gradually reduce the “clitoral” stimulation and increase p-spot stimulation in duration and intensity until Alice is able to consistently achieve orgasms with just p-spot stimulation. Once that happens Alice will be addicted as p-spot orgasms are much more intense and pleasurable than plain vanilla orgasms.
As Alice progresses in this training, her inner feelings of femininity will intensify and her desire to revert back to masculinity will quickly decrease. In fact, masculinity will seem coarse and meaningless. Alice will realize that her destiny in life is to give you pleasure and she will begin to derive intense pleasure and satisfaction from being used by you in this way. She will realize that you will user her body in any way you want for your pleasure, whether it is by using her “pussy” or by making use of her “clit” or any other way you desire and that she simply has to give in to it. That will take Alice deeper into femininity.
Males are conditioned by society to associate masculinity and power. You will merely be taking advantage of this foolish conditioning. The simplistic male logic is that if masculinity and power go together then the opposites must also go together – powerlessness and femininity. The more powerless that Alice is the more femme she will feel. Feminine hairstyle and pretty nails will seem natural and even desirable to her; she might even ask for it herself.
In case you are concerned, it will not reduce her ability to give you pleasure by penetrating you with her “clit” whenever you want. You have mentioned in your posts that is something you enjoy.
There are more steps that you can take to further reinforce the FLR, deepen Alice’s femininity and your control.
After each session of the training described above, ask Alice to blog in her own words the feelings and sensations she experienced. You can keep these posts private if you wish. Writing them down will prevent Alice from tuning out those sensations and feelings. Tuning them out will reduce the mental feminization achieved, so it is best to prevent that. Also, reveal to at least a few other dominant women about this new training of Alice and require Alice to answer any questions they may have about it, however embarrassing or humiliating Alice might think it is. You can even ask Alice to read to your domme friends some of those blog posts. This humiliation and embarrassment will further prevent Alice from tuning out her inner femme feelings and deepening her journey into femininity. Follow this training regimen and Alice’s journey to the femme side will be complete!
If you wish you can go even further with Alice’s training and humiliation. After Alice has progressed enough to a point where she enjoys fairly deep penetration and thrusts with a strap on, perhaps you can invite some of your domme friends over and conduct a training session while they watch. Imagine the delicious humiliation that Alice will feel and enjoy – display and exposed to all while you user her! The next step, if you feel it is right, will be to pass Alice around among your domme friends so they can use her for their strapon pleasure. After that Alice will be a willing gurl for life and will never even dream of relapsing back into ugly masculinity as you have complained about in your posts.
The proverbial way to a man’s heart may be through his stomach but the way to a gurl’s inner femininity is through her “pussy” and p-spot.
PS: pro-tip: If Alice clenches her anus to prevent penetration then just gently turn her ankles a little so that the big toes are pointing inwards. This will reduce some of the leverage required by the muscles to clench down there.
Annette says
As a almost 98% feminized male i totally agree. Sexual conditioning and physical, verbal, public and private humiliation and physical punishments is the way to achieve complete control and results. The mind and body connect in a magical way. Its almost like training a dog but easier. The way to condition a male into total feminine behaviors and lifestyle is also through his penis orgasms that will soon be clitoral orgasms. Control the male genitals and you will soon control him. Withholding his orgasms is another powerful tool to gain control. The only trace of my former male self is my tiny clit that has been reduced greatly in size and now produces a very small amount of cum due to the hormones and feminine herbal supplements i am required by my wife to take. My skin and body as changed dramatically and also i am more emotionally a female also and tend to even cry at times etc. My conditioning took years. My day to day life both in private and in public is very different then most people. Like i said previously i am a feminized male with 36 C/D breast that are very noticeable. Yesterday my wife took me to the beach and i was in a one piece pink and white bathing suit that was very sexy and feminine. It was also very embarrassing and humiliating also. But sexually exciting for both of us also!
Lady Alexa says
I do agree that women need to control a male’s genitals. In my case this is not through hormones but feminising Alice’s genitals
Patti59 says
I bet you looked Great in your swimsuit! This is something Women need to do to show off their submissive husbands!
Annette says
Patti,
The swimsuit day was so embarrassing and humiliating. i was so nervous especially at first when we arrived at the spot we chose to drop our blanket. The beach was crowded with people. We laid out our blanket and two chairs. My wife removed her cover up and i had shorts and a t shirt top on and pink and blue flip flops. She laid out on the blanket and i sat in one of our chairs. Not removing my shorts and T-shirt. After a moment my wife looked up at me and said in a pretty loud and clear voice. “we are at the beach not the park get them clothes off now or you will be a very sorry person and I will humiliate you in front of everyone”. i hesitated and she gave me that look of displeasure and i knew better then to disobey her especially in public. She really doesn’t care anymore about being discreet with me in public. i removed my t-shirt and then dropped my shorts. i was so nervous as it wasn’t hard to see i was male. i was afraid we would be asked to leave the beach. My small penis/clitty was tucked with an Ace Bandage so it wouldn’t be noticeable. ( My wife’s idea). Before we left she tucked my flaccid clit inside and pushed my male ovaries inward also. She then wrapped the flesh colored bandage around my waist then several times through my crotch area and then back up to my waist where she secured it with the little metal clips that come with the bandage. The only issue was that i would be unable to use the bathroom to urinate. So i mentioned that and she said “If and when you need to pee and if i permit it you will be allowed to go into the water to pee”. So that issue was settled. The bathing suit was one piece mostly white with pink sides and also sort of a pink swirl design in the front. There were people of all ages all around us. Other blankets not more then 10 feet from us. People did look! Every time someone had their phone in their hand i wondered if my picture was being taken or if i was being videoed. i was also instructed at times to apply sunscreen on my wife or pour her water for her when she was thirsty. i did notice a few men giving me disapproving looks and some women staring. one woman about 40 actually stated to my wife ” You trained him well I envy you”. My wife replied “Thank you and it wasn’t easy” to which she replied ” I bet”. She then continued walking with her daughter towards the food stand.
We have been to the beach many times after that and i still remain nervous but also excited at the same time. If you can understand that. Sine that first time i also have quite a few more one piece bathing suits that she picked out for me. i have no choice or say in the matter. The one i hate is a pale lavender one that has a white ruffle around the waist and the top of the breast cups. i would never tell her that because her opinion and choices for me aren’t questionable at this point. i do feel somewhat more relaxed at the beach but the nervousness still somewhat remains. My wife loves the beach and its now summer her so we go often. i thought as we aged she would be less Dominant but the fact is she is becoming more creative and Dominant. Sometimes i feel its because i was never the Alpha husband i was suppose to be to her in all ways even sexually. So that repressed anger and disappointment of me fuels her dominant attitude towards me. This is how inside her mind she justifies her punishments, humiliation and treatment of me. She once said to me “You were never meant to be or was a real man so you might as well be the closest you can be to being a gurl. But you will pay the price for it for the rest of our lives” My reply was “Whatever you decide for me is OK and i will live by your rules and instructions as you see fit. Its been that way for many years now and i am 100% submissive and compliant to her wishes and needs!
Pat Lacos says
Omg a womens swim suit did you enjoy that
annette says
Yes i did but it was so humiliating and feminine at the same time!
Lady Alexa says
Alice has no feeling in her nipples, touching them does nothing. I’m not sure I’ll go down the route you describe but I like the idea of her sucking my strap on in front of others. I don’t have so many domme friends, just a couple who have their own sissies.
Curious Georgina says
Dear Lady Alexa,
Here is a suggestion to help sensitize a gurl’s nipples. Fill her bra with styrofoam packing peanuts or other styrofoam pieces and make her wear it. This works for breast forms too if the gurl has started wearing them. You can easily get packing peanuts or styrofoam from shipping supply stores and are quite inexpensive. You may even have enough lying about the house if you shop online. You can cut up that styrofoam into little pieces of irregular shapes about half inch in size with a knife if they are in large slabs.
This will provide gentle and near constant stimulation of nipples as the gurl goes about her chores through the day, helping to sensitize her nipples. You may want to try a few different types, shapes and sizes of styrofoam pieces with different degrees of roughness to find the one that works best without being too abrasive or chafing.
This technique can be used even on gurls who have naturally sensitized nipples to give them a delightful feminine pleasure through the day and to make them bear their femininity in mind.
Here are a few other suggestions, not related to nipples, that I did not add in my earlier comment to keep it short.
Jingle bells
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Make your gurl wear a butt plug when you next meet up with your domme friends. Tie one or more small bells to the base of the butt plug using a thread a few inches long so that the bells hang below between your gurl’s lower thighs outside of her panties and butt plug harness, but inside her skirt. Every time your gurl moves there will be a pleasant jingle of bells. She will no longer be able to keep her butt plug a secret. Make your gurl explain in detail her plugged state and the bells to whoever asks about it. Enjoy your gurl’s humiliation as much as she does!
You can get tiny bells that are used for Christmas (or Holiday) decorations online throughout the year. These are about half an inch long or smaller and do not make a loud noise.
Rituals and ceremonies
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You mentioned in an earlier post that you inspect your gurl’s body at unexpected times. Such ceremonies are really effective in maintaining her submissive, gurlish head space. Here are a few more you can add.
Deflowering
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Feminization using strap-on is even more effective if it is accompanied by ceremonies. Bringing the concepts of deflowering a gurl, gurl losing her virginity etc. through ceremony will have a more feminizing effect on most gurls. This simply continues the overall strategy to feminize using the same tropes and conditioning that society has used to separate masculinity and femininity.
The deflowering ceremony should mark the formal beginning of a gurl’s “pussy” being used by any domme. So it is best to have this ceremony early on in her strap-on training when the gurl has been used only for shallow penetration without vigorous thrusting or perhaps even before any penetration of the gurl has taken place at all. A domme should make this ceremony the first occasion where she introduces her gurl to deep thrusting. That will make it memorable for the gurl. A gurl will always remember her first time!
Pick a date at least a week in advance for the deflowering ceremony, preferably on a weekend. Occasionally remind your gurl of the upcoming ceremony in the remaining days so that she has it in her mind. On the day of the ceremony have your gurl decorate your bedroom with flowers, candles etc. or in any other way that your feel will make it a memorable occasion. Have her prepare herself for the night by removing all her hair, bathing, wearing feminine perfumes and in any other way you want her to. Make the preparations more laborious and stringent than her usual feminization training. It will help instil a sense of importance and significance to this occasion in your gurl’s mind.
Invite your domme friends over to dinner the evening of the deflowering ceremony and for a late brunch or lunch the next day. Make your gurl wear all white to signify that she has not been deflowered yet, perhaps a white skirt with white top, white bra and panties. Make it clear to your domme friends what the ceremony is for. After the dinner is over and the guests leave, take your gurl to the decorated bedroom and deflower her with your strap-on. use more vigour than you have used on her thus far and do that for a longer time. Repeat the strap-on session as many times that night as you desire. Throw in some bondage as I described in my earlier comment. Use the occasion to reinforce your gurl’s femininity, submission, her surrender to inevitable feminization. Remind her that her only option is to give in, accept her feminine destiny and start to enjoy it. Reinforce your dominance and her submission and humiliation.
For brunch or lunch the next day, have your girl wear non-white to signify that she has been deflowered, perhaps all pink, pink skirt, top, pink bra and panties. Let your domme friends question your gurl about the ceremony, her feelings and the sensations she experienced. Make your girl answer in detail. This will deepen your gurl’s humiliation and reinforce her experience of being deflowered, her femininity and her position in life.
All this ceremony, wearing white, pink etc. may seem corny and ridiculous but every ceremony of every culture had corny and ridiculous beginnings. It was only over years as a ceremony gets practised by more and more people that its significance grows and takes root in the minds of people. I see FLR as the basis of future societies, peaceful communities with more happiness and fulfilment and less conflict. Communities need shared ceremonies to preserve their values and vision.
I believe the deflowering ceremony will go a long way in preserving the vision of the FLR-femininization lifestyle. It is a rite that marks a stage of a gurl’s feminization. Another such ceremony might be to mark when a gurl is able to consistently achieve p-spot orgasm with very little stimulation of her “clit”.
Madam Chris says
Curious Georgina, what a lovely imagination you have. You seem very experienced. I have a young, adorable husband I am trying to feminize and accept a FLR. I have had some success but have hit some rough patches. I’d love to hear more from you and get proper advice.
Curious Georgina says
Dear Madam Chris,
I would be absolutely delighted to share ideas on feminization and FLR with you. Please let me know how you want us to contact each other.
Madam Chris says
Curious Georgina, how do I get in touch with you? Email address? So much to talk about.
Curious Georgina says
Dear Madam Chris,
Email works for me.
Jaime says
sounds really cool! enjoy!
Katie says
Lost my wife early 2015. Lost my fiance mid 2016. She was totally dominant. I was going to take her last name. I was going to wear a light blue pantsuit. I have had my ears pierced 1999.. I have my body shaved 2003.. My eyebrows 2015.
I have remarried 6 months now.
She said couldn’t do that. Last week at the mall in a voice loud enough for people near could hear. Called me Katie. On the way home she said she has been thinking about this for two months.
She is going to call me Katie when we are alone or when she wants others to hear.
Tuesday this week I went to get milk. She told me to get some Tampons. They were for me. When she a period it lasted 4 days, so shall I. I was to go to the store where her friend Samantha worked as a checker. I went through her line. She just smiled. She said Larry was in the parking lot loading groceries. He was parked next to me. He was wearing a pair of women’s pants. We started talking. He told me from now on I was to call him Lydia. His wife was to be called Sam. My wife was to be called Jack instead of Jacqueline I will be called Katie. Today is day four of my period.
When I got back home Jack and I talked a lot. She was to be wife husband and I was to be husband wife. When Sam and Lydia we were us she will be husband and I will be wife.
Tomorrow the four of us will be going to a movie and dinner.
Sam has told Jack there is at least six other couples that have similar lives. She said there some dramatic changes that will be fun. She wished when we were married I would have taken her last name. I suggested it but she said no.
toni says
Katie,
i am also made to experience my period monthly by my wife after commenting about her mood during her period many years ago. i am on a monthly schedule and i am made to wear heavily soiled pads and a tampon in my male vagina. The used pads were hers and in the past she suffered from heavy periods. We are older now and she no longer has her period so she retrieves pads from relatives, friends and public restrooms for me to wear. Quite embarrassing at times especially in the summer wearing shorts and i have to worry about noticeable period odor when others are around me. She always calls me annette in public and private. When i purchase tampons or sometimes adult female diapers she loves to stand back and see the expressions on the female cashiers faces and my embarrassment.
Katie says
Toni this morning I was awaken by Jack saying good morning my wife,. Katie.. I said good morning my husband Jack. Got a smile. I don’t think she wants men’s clothing. It just to reinforce my position. Calling her husband and Jack. Most of my female clothes were burned in a fire. Sometime Jack got up and got my box of panties, hose and bra and put them in the dresser. I got up to go the bank for cash for the movie. Jack said my slacks for the day were laid out. They were a pair of her brown jeans. Jack said he couldn’t fit in them, so they are mine now.
I am also wearing a female pad. Before I got dressed Jack pushed my penis inside me. Then she put a pad to hold in place then pulled my underwear up. Jack said put on your new slacks and look in the full length mirror. I am completely flat in front and slacks accent my backside. Thanks for the Email. Katie
Joy Columba says
My wife transformed me by starting with prostate massages. She added those to sex and slowly increased the application until I could not cum any other way. Slowly, she reduced stimulation of my little clittie, until I only could come from her prostate massages. After that, I could not cum without her ministrations. Later she put me into chastity and locked in a butt plug just to be sure, but it didn’t really matter since I can’t come without her help. I am beholden to her for any release, and she’s exploited that. I will do anything to come.
She’s insisted that I remain completely shaven and in feminine attire at all times. She’s taken me out in public fully feminized, and I don’t get too many looks. For the last few months, she’s commented that I need to be taken by a man. She tells me that it will feel much better than her massages. I don’t think I want that, however.
Joy Columba says
My wife transformed me by starting with prostate massages. She added those to sex and slowly increased the application until I could not cum any other way. Slowly, she reduced stimulation of my little clittie, until I only could come from her prostate massages. After that, I could not cum without her ministrations. Later she put me into chastity and locked in a butt plug just to be sure, but it didn’t really matter since I can’t come without her help. I am beholden to her for any release, and she’s exploited that. I will do anything to come.
She’s insisted that I remain completely shaven and in feminine attire at all times. She’s taken me out in public fully feminized, and I don’t get too many looks. For the last few months, she’s commented that I need to be taken by a man. She tells me that it will feel much better than her massages. I don’t think I want that, however.
Katie says
Joy and Toni and Lady Alexa. I really am going to legally change my name to Katie. There are seven other men that are wives to dominant women. I really think some I feel we are girl friends. What do think about the name change?
Katie says
When I got back from the bank. We talked some more. I was asked how I felt wearing women’s slacks . I didn’t feel different I said.
Wearing a pad you will to sit to pee so do it all the time, even in public restrooms.
Then I call a phone call, it was a female lawyer. She was a friend of Sam and Jack. I was to call her Dan her wife is Norma. She asked me if was serious to continue this.
I didn’t know what to say. I don’t being called Katie or wife. Dan not that he said. Jack told her I was interested in having my name legally changed to Katie. He said we will talk more at the 4th of July BBQ at his and Norma’s house there will 8 couples there like us. One wife had her name changed. (I am trying to get the pronouns correct.)
Katie says
Lady Alexa, you were right. This is not forced feminization. Led, directed ,motivated, helped along. I could have said no two weeks ago.
We went to the movies yesterday with Sam and Lydia. We got there first. Lydia drove, Sam got went and opened the door for Lydia. He extended his hand helped Lydia out. Jack did the same for me. They walked ahead of us. Sam put his arm around her waist and walked. Jack did the same to me. We parked far from the entrance. I thought they did that on purpose just so we could seen by more people.
When the movie started, Jack put his arm around me. Little later Jack kissed me on the cheek and bit me on the ear. The arm was put around again.
I was glad there was only seven rows behind us.
When the movie was over there was a couple behind us. She said, she would like to do that to her husband but didn’t know how.
Sam and Jack talked to her and we into the lobby and talked to him. He said he wanted her to be more dominant. Lydia and I smiled.
They came out, Jack went first Linda, Tom this is my wife Katie. The Sam then said this is my wife Lydia. Lydia’s face looked shocked. Sam and Jack gave their numbers to Linda.
We went into the mall to walk half way and then back to the cars. Sam didn’t know I was dressed 24/7 for 30 months. We walked ahead of them. When we finished Sam knew I have done this before. We walked with their arms around us. Sam talked loud enough voice. You girls walked well. You asses bounced sexy.
In the car Jack apologized for the phone call from Dan. She said what happened between car and return to car was better not discussed ahead of time. The thing with Linda was not planned.
I said do you want me submissive and feminized
She said yes I want to call you Katie and you call me Jack. I will be your husband and you will be my wife. We need to discuss your name change. This will not happen till at least Valentine’s day.
When we got home I put my bra on under my shirt. Three years ago I was 34B, I had on a 38C. When I came out of the bathroom with bra and T shirt I wore to the movie. Jack’s eyes opened wide. Jack asked me to take the T shirt off. The comment was that I need a new one size D.
I told her I took herbal supplements for almost three years. Just not in the last 8 months. I started on 1000 mg Saw Palmetto and Black Ochocha this morning.
Katie says
Today she shaved my clit completely. While she did it she filmed it on my phone. I told her it will need to be done every month. My arms shaved every other month. My legs haven’t been shaved in 18 months. The only shaving has been done with razor and the herbal supplements. My eyebrows fell off Easter 2015. I was real sick with the flu. The doctor gave my pills, three days later they were gone. I did have some wild hair there Jack plucked. With twizzer.
We had a more discussion on my name change. She wants it to be Katie Lynn Lydnsey. Her maiden name. She would like me to practice writing the name. This is not as important as other things The name change will be my choice. She does want to enter contests at stores with that name. Just so I will get some mail, even though junk mail with Katie on it.
All cards for each us. I will be Jack husband and I will get wife.
4th of July party all wives will wear female shorts. That is to show off our shaved legs. I will also be wearing a female top.
Jack has told many of his close friends that I am to be called Katie. One of the husband’s is a throat Doctor. He was trying to make something the would give his wife a temporary female voice. I was told by Jack it lasts 8-12 hours. There is no charge for us. Jack said only about 10 days till I’ll sound like a Katie. I then said how’s this for female voice. His eyes opened and he said impressive. I want you to talk like when we are out. Especially around Sam and Lydia. I told Jack that had to learn to do that if I was going to be out with my fiance. He said to me I hope you’re enjoying this as much as I am.
I am just afraid that I will wake up and it will not happen. He said I want this.
One thing. Alexa will are exposing me in public a lot in a short time.
Katie says
Friday after the movie. The four of us went to a fast food place. We sat and our husbands talked about feminine we acted in the movie. They said how lady like and sexy we walked. I then I started talking in my wife voice I got strange looks from Sam and Lydia.
Our orders were ready. The husbands went and got them. There’s on one table and ours on another. Lydia and I went to a table with two tables between us.
Lydia started telling about some things that will be happening soon. Did I know that Jack and Sam had a lesbian relationship. I said I guessed that. It’s been over for awhile. I think it may start again. You may be asked that we be girlfriends. I said thanks for the heads up. I asked Lydia what she thought of us being girlfriends. I can accept that she said.
When I got home from a short errand. Jack said Sam brought a package by. The first thing she showed me was a bag of boxers. Jack knew I don’t like them. Before I could say something. Jack said there not yours they’re mine. I will wear them at night only and you start wearing panties to bed He then they will be the only male clothing I plan to wear. The other thing in the bag was a skort for me. This is what I’ll be wearing for the 4th. This Friday when I do shopping I am to wear it then.
I told I met Barry another of the husbands. He came up to me and said you’re Katie Jack’s wife. His wife Laurie is at home.
Jack said he would find Sam’s and Barry’s schedule so they can see me in the skort.
Jack said Lydia told you that Sam and him had a lesbian relationship. I want you to be girlfriends with Lydia. I said that’s fine. You and Sam have a gay and Lydia and I lesbian relationship. I actually shocked Jack. You and Sam are husbands and Lydia and I wives. One thing when I am with Lydia I want to have panties, hose the slacks or skort on.
Jack said because of your receding hairline you will have to wear one of your wigs.
Jack gave me another gift my own purse.
Lady Alexa thank you for having this site. Things are moving fast now. I pray this is not to fast.
. Katie says
Lady Alexa here is Jack’s list for me. Jack told he didn’t believe in physicial punishment. If fail I an area he will do do something.
1. Jack did want to called mistress. I will call him Master Jack.
2.I will sign my name from now on as Katie Lynn Lyndsey. (Jack’s maiden name)
3 Will keep toe nails painted clear, white or color determined by Master Jack
4 Master Jack will write with marking pen on my butt cheek. Master Jack’s cock sucking bitch.
5. Will be introduced by Master Jack or any member of the seven other couples. Jack’s wife Katie Lynn
6 Will keep a picture of me in a dress with my credit and ID cards.
7 I am no longer to stand in the bathroom.
8 Will walk and talk like a woman from now at all times.
9 When with Jack he will walk with his arm around me
10 Will wear cherry chapstick on at all times. Punishment for this I will have to wear pink lipstick.
Jenn says
Lady Alexa you are an inspiration to those of us who have been feminized and have learned that this lifestyle isn’t the playful game it was in the beginning. Your desire to fully complete the process for Alice despite her reservations is more than most women want for their husbands but that’s not to say many of us don’t agree that the final outcome would in a perfect world be a natural solution. Your idea of pretty nails for Alice is something that is very achievable because unless her nails are too obvious she could probably get away with it. Having pretty coloured toenails is one of those things like wearing a bra that doesn’t let us forget why we are doing this and for who. Pretty nails are the first thing we see in the morning and the last thing we see at night not to mention how obvious the are in the shower. Combined with cute summer sandals or open toe high heels nice nails are a must.
colly says
Dear Lady A.
As usual Your strength of will and vision for the correct destiny for Alice is magnificent to witness. Encouraged feminisation is surely a magical thing. As You know i have made great strides in recent times. My trips to the brow and nail bar have ceased but my beautiful wife has accepted me being shaved almost full time now and i have tried to keep the little triangle much like i think You had Alice’s a while back. When we have fun She s happy for me to be as feminine as possible and as long as i remain functional for her, She’s happy to let me feel as feminine as possible. I couldn’t be happier in many ways but long for that “little extra” feminisation that only a true Mistress of the art like Yourself, Cathy Mistress and of course now Selina too are enjoying. while I enjoy dressing when i can I’m still in control- if You get my meaning, i think I’m ready to give up that control to go tongue next level…. how i do that, i do not know. You and Cathy nevertheless continue to inspire me X X
Lady Alexa says
Pleased to be of help. I think you’ve done well and the fact your wife is content is wonderful. Just ensure you defer to her and take the household tasks off her hands and I’m sure she’ll become more demanding as she gets used to her new life. As for Alice she still has a nice feminine triangle. It’s a little larger than before as I’ve tried to make it look more like a natural girl’s triangle
colly says
Thank You so much for the encouragement Lady A! i don’t deserve it. i will try as You suggest but am struggling to go further as it feels like im still controlling things and that doesn’t feel right for me on a few levels. i can always hope tho . Thank You again X X
Lady Alexa says
The very fact you worry about contoling things is a good sign
colly says
do You think so? It sometimes feels like im “unfinished” without that comforting affirmation that increasing my femininity is the right way to go. its easy to lapse back and forth. The value of Yours and Cathy’s “nip here, tuck there, Id like you to try this dear” cannot be underestimated – which is why You are so special X X
Lady Alexa says
Ok thank you although everyone’s different
Katrina says
That’s a great list Lady Alexa! One thing I would like to add is voice feminization. Selina has been taking lessons from a professional and doing homework with good results. I have been increasing exposure to others, recently adding a group of my old high school friends. They were amused and some intruiged by our new life with one of the ladies having a great time humiliating Selina. My friend Donna has purchased two more maid uniforms and two “sissy” dresses from Birch Place and Selina is now serving at my friend Donna’s house once a week as her maid. Donna takes great pleasure in having my husband as her sissy maid and goes the extra mile in completely sissifying her. I love your butt plug idea and have bought one for Selina. Her hair is growing out and has been femininly styled. She will be getting breast implants this fall. We are nearing the two month mark in our three month “trial” living a FLR lifestyle. The trial is over and this is our life! Being completely in charge and having my feminized husband serve me is wonderful! We don’t have the family concerns you do Lady Alexa so having Selina living fulltime as a feminized male will become a reality by September. There are some things to go through at her work but everything is moving forward there!
Patti59 says
Hi Katrina!
Congratulations on your Great Work with your husband. You stand as a Role Model for other Women that need to realize that men are best when they are completely Feminized and under the Control of Strong Women. I hope other Women will see what you have achieved, and do the same to their husbands, boyfriends and sons! Female Power is Awesome!
Katie says
Many things have happened this week.
Sunday afternoon I was taken had yellow rose tattoo put on right ankle.
Monday I needed a new pair of shoes. The ones I had needed to be retired.
Jack took me to a shoe store. A lady measured me and said I was a size ten. Jack left me and went to get a pair.
He came back the box had size eleven. Jack took them out, shock must have been on my face. They were woman’s. No heels. Just a very feminine tan color, and very feminine style.
We went to the register and the lady fitted me. Jack threw the old ones in the trash. The lady said they looked good on me and a very large smile. First time that I have been public humiliated. Jack said Katie you should able to walk more feminine.
The sales lady heard me being called Katie.
The shoes were much lighter and Jack said my new walk was much sexier.
Jack asked how did I feel about being humiliated in public.
I said it really didn’t bother me. I really enjoyed it.
Jack said that was a small test. If it bothered you, I was going to tone it down next time.
Yesterday, I got up. Jack heard me. Put the skirt on so I can see what it looks like. I took the skirt to the bathroom. Jack heard me looking in drawers, , and cabinets. Jack yelled all your cologne is gone. Second drawer has your new perfume. Put one on.
I can out and Jack that skirt looks good on your shaved legs. Wear that today you need to go and go to these places and get these three items. Plus check the price at the third place.
Sam was working and she said that skirt looked great with those legs.
Next two places were in the mall. I had to walk some distance from where I parked to the entrance.
I received some wolf whistles and comments that made me blush.
Saw Barry again. He was with two others. I thought they were part of the group. Barry pointed to the lady and said this Dr. Tom and his wife Fran. Barry then said this Jack’s wife Katie.
Dr Tom said to Fran give Katie two bottles. You know what these are.
I said Yes, the only reason you’re not a billionaire the government has not appeared it.
Dr. Tom said try them. Just put three drops in a liquid. Please let me now how it last for you. Dr. Tom gave me a card with his number on it. Fran had on women’s slacks. DT Tom was wearing a pant suit.
I said Dr Tom I won’t be able to test till Thursday. Jack will be some of his other friends tonight and, Wednesday. Then I on my way out two gay guys approached. They came on to me and gave their numbers to me. I asked one of them to use my phone and take a picture of me make sure my face is in it and my right ankle is it. The reason I wanted the tattoo in it I have a bet with my brother. I don’t really. He was no photographer. Only picture was OK.. I had to send it twice. First time at 1:20 not be able to receive. Then I sent another one at2:20 same address and it was received. DID YOU GET IT. I’ll be going of again Friday. Will
tell about Tuesday night and Friday then. Please whoever reads this I would feed back about me legally changing my nsme
Katie says
Yesterday I after I tried to send picture that failed. I walked back to the car. Got lots of strange looks for the women and some not so kind remarks from the men that turned my face red.
Walking in these woman’s shoes made it do most easier to walk feminine. I was about two cars away when Lydia pulled in next to me. She got out and came over gave me s kiss on the cheek. I froze. She started to apologize. I said stop.
She said we’re girlfriends right.
I said definitely. I gave her a peck on the lips We need to sit and talk. Your car or mine.
She said hers.
Her had a bench seat in the in front instead of buckets like mine. I said from what I understand we’re going to be more than girlfriends.
Lydia said I think the 13th you and Jack will be going with us to celebrate our anniversary.
I ‘all let Jack tell me I said.
Lydia said we will be going somewhere between ,90 and 120 miles. You and Jack will be together Friday and you and I will together Saturday.
I said that makes us lesbian lovers, right.
Lydia just chuckled, said I never thought of it that way.
I said let’s get out of the car. Let me show you how I think we should greet each other. We’ll see if you agree. I took her hand and took my hand put it behind her. Gave a mouth to mouth kiss to her.
I liked that she said.
Now it’s your turn to show me how you want to be greeted. She put one hand on my shouder and one on my ass. Took me.gave me a very passionate kiss tongue and all.
I said do you realize that we just had two public kisses. We got back in the car we kissed and held each other about fifteen minutes. She said, we are going to be lesbian lovers.
I got out and went home.
Nicola says
It’s a shame Alice isn’t always doing what you desire. Perhaps you could set up some webcams so that you can always monitor her and she will never know when you’re looking. If you want you could make them available online, if you make them searchable by Lady Alexa or Alice rather than Alice’s real name there is little chance she’ll be discovered by people you don’t want to know, but lot’s more people who appreciate feminizing will see her. This link https://www.wikihow.com/Stream-Your-Webcam may be helpful.
Lady Alexa says
Not sure. There’s always a risk
Jenn says
This lifestyle is full of risks both big and small Lady Alexa. Is the outline of my bra noticeable, have I left any traces of nail polish on or have I left any clothing items or shoes out that are clearly not my wife’s size for visitors to see? Being comfortable dressed as a girl most of the time at home has left me with my guard down numerous times. There’s no point taking unnecessary risks because once the cat is out of the bag it’s out for good.
Lady Alexa says
It is. There have been times when I’ve noticed that Alice has a trace of make-up on or traces of nail polish. We too have to put Alice’s clothing away as it would be obvious they are not mine, by the style (short skirts for example, pinks) and larger size.
Helena Power says
My mistress found #6 (More exposure to others) to be the key to her increased power over her sub. She found that I was so much more pliant in the week or two after exposure to a like minded woman in her first year or so. Since then, she has stepped up her exposure. Whereas it used to be one, or perhaps two ladies that would witness her control over me, now she has on occasion had as many as seven other domes witness my subjugation to her feminine power. She aims to expose me at least every two weeks, more frequently, if I have not been showing the respect and obedience that she requires of me. For me, it’s like a web of feminine power that I have been caught in and cannot escape. She wields it mercilessly when she wishes. I am in awe of my mistress and Belong to her.
Lady Alexa says
Yes I agree it’s something I’d like to do more. It’s finding like-minded women that’s difficult
Allana. Precia says
I am curious to understand why cis women like me would want to Feminize their men unless they are a part of the small minority of females into this lifestyle? I myself find it very interesting and erotic but I don’t think any of my close friends would ever go down this path.
Lady Alexa says
Hello Allana. This is indeed something I’ve thought about a lot. Like you I’m a heterosexual woman yet I found I wanted my husband feminised. I’ve attempted to answer the question various times in my blog posts. It started as I found it exciting at first as a bedroom game then noticed the changes in my husband when he was feminised. I moved things on to a more permanent basis and have not been disappointed
Curious Georgina says
Hi Allana Precia,
Perhaps I can summarize the philosophical/psychological basis for feminization. As you may have heard all humans have a masculine and feminine side usually called the yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) or anima/animus (as Carl Jung described it). Most men are out of touch with their feminine side as it is not socially acceptable for men to express femininity. In fact almost all of men’s motivations are based on either maintaining this separation by papering over it or sublimating their feminine side in socially acceptable ways or suppressing their feminine side . The sports obsession, video games etc. are just ways to achieve these ends. Male aggression is just an outward manifestation of this inner conflict.
A man’s relationship with women reflects his relationship with his own feminine side. A man who subconsciously despises his own feminine side or tries to suppress it will, in general, do the same to the women in his life too. When a man is physically intimate with a woman, left to himself, he will tend to do those things to the woman that his own feminine side desires. When a man has sex with a woman he subconsciously projects his inner femininity onto her; she acts as a stand in for his own femininity and he is able to briefly accept and unite with his feminine self (the converse happens for a woman, she unites with the external projection of her inner masculine side, but that is a different topic). Once he orgasms he goes back to the task of suppressing his femininity. That is why many men don’t like cuddle or talk after sex – that would require putting off that urgent task.
It is clear that suppressing the inner femininity of men leads to much instability, aggression and constant dissatisfaction. So why do it? Why not just encourage, facilitate and help that inner femininity to emerge and blossom?
Katrina says
I was one who thought being in a FLR and feminizing my husband was nothing more than a game he wanted to play by his rules. I really had no interest in it but humored him a handful of times over the years and it was strictly a bedroom game where he was calling the shots. It wasn’t until I read one of Lady Alexa’s blog entries ( Five male changes for a successful FLR) that I reluctantly agreed to give a FLR a 90 day trial. In the days leading up to the start I read most of Lady Alexa’s blog and and my eyes and mind were opened to what a FLR could be in real life and how it could benefit me….not him. I embraced the FLR lifestyle and rapidly began feminizing him which caught him off guard. Two plus months into this and our marriage has drastically changed and my once macho, controlling, husband is now my feminized, submissive, obedient sissy. I am well on my way to having her live fulltime as a feminized male. She does all the housework to MY standards and our house has never been cleaner! It is simply wonderful being in charge and the unquestioned leader in our marriage! During the 20+ years of marriage before starting our FLR, he wanted me to wear only lingerie around the house, often times wear revealing clothes outside the home, and perform sexually on his terms. I am taking great joy in having him wear only lingerie at home, and wearing what I choose when going out. He has only been allowed three orgasms since we started and I have had many more whenever I want! My point is that you would have looked at me and thought this lifestyle wouldn’t appeal to me, but you never know who is ready for a drastic and better change in their relationship. My friend Jackie who has always been meek and submissive with men has started taking steps in feminizing her husband and taking the lead in their marriage. Its exciting to see her gain confidence and talk about one day being the leader of her marriage and having a feminized husband! Some of my other friends who have been exposed to Selina have expressed curiosity and interest in living a similar lifestyle. It’s truly a wonderful way to live!
Patti59 says
Hello Katrina!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. As many of you are aware, I have been advocating for Male Feminization and the Empowerment of Women for decades. It is truly refreshing to see Women Taking Charge, and putting their men in their proper, Feminine places! What I really think is the most powerful thing that you have done is Both insist your hubbie now wears lingerie around the house AND showing him off to other Women. It will be delightful to see if Jackie indeed Feminizes her husband. Many Women need to “Get on Board” and Feminize not only their husbands, but also their sons and nephews. A Female Controlled Society with Dainty and Feminine males running around in skirts and dresses will be a Great Improvement for All!
Lady Alexa says
Hello Katrina I loved reading your comment. I’m so pleased you and now your friends are discovering the benefits of feminising their husbands
Katrina says
Thank you Lady Alexa for educating me on how wonderful this lifestyle is!
Jenn says
Women have expressed a lot of praise and satisfaction for their FLR and some more so than others. It seems the more forceful and permanent the feminization is the more women tend to be open about it with others. For feminized males who have a firm foothold in their new role the idea of being shown off isn’t necessarily something to be embarrassed about if done in a way that showed how proud and thankful we are at being given the ultimate opportunity to express our femininity. It has been said though that finding other women who would be accepting is the bigger challenge, many of us would jump at the chance if we knew the outcome would be favourable.
Katrina says
Hi jenn, I do agree with you that some men may be more difficult to feminize and get to live in a FLR lifestyle. There are many resources online and books/guides on how to achieve it. If it’s something a woman truly desires I firmly believe she will find a way if she persists. Women are starting to realize how powerful our femininity is and how we can influence/control/manipulate men. My friend Jackie is using her husband’s sexual fetishes and taking charge of their sex life to assert control over him. A big part of it is her changing her own mindset to believe she is worthy of being in charge of their marriage. As Lady Alexa often mention, once a step forward is taken NEVER go back and move on to the next step. I also believe that a great number of men have a submissive and feminine side they have kept carefully hidden. It is there waiting to be encouraged/forced out. So, the outcome has a great probability of being successful if a woman wants it bad enough.
Patti59 says
Katrina, you are “Spot On”! It all depends on what Women decide. If a Woman wants a man or boy to be Feminine, Docile and Sweet, then that is how he will be. I thing Women should encourage this in their males. I also think it is a Delight when Women show off their Feminine males to other Women. Male Beauty Pageants are Awesome. Encouraging males to control their Figure and Diets is essential. A Female Controlled World needs to have Sweet, Feminine males to take care of the home, and be pretty “Trophies” for Successful Women!
Katrina says
Hi Patti, I appreciate all the nice comments from you! I have been training Selina’s waist with a corset and controlling her diet. When we started our new life she was 5’10” 184 pounds, 32″ waist. She was in good shape but a male body type. Through waist training, dietary changes, and a new exercise regimen she now weighs 168 and her waist is 27″. Her arms and shoulders are much smaller but toned. Once she gets her implants and loses a little more weight and her waist gets to 25″ she will be exactly where I want her. I am doing this without putting her on hormones as I like her ” cute princess” and use it’s arousal as a way to control and humiliate Her! I will have to look into possibly entering her in a womanless beauty pageant.
Patti59 says
That would be Awesome. On the Womanless Pageants, I really think Women need to Insist that the “boys” have a Swimsuit competition! I really think that would be so Awesome. Especially if the Rules would require the boys to wear a One Piece with sheer pantyhose and Heels. Showing off the “maleness” for the Women’s pleasure. What a Great way to Drive home the point of being “Objectified”! Oh, for the Macho males…payback could be so Sweet!!
jennifer says
Hi love your web sit I am a fem wife has me on hormones .I do all the house work cooking .only have sex when she want it
Lady Alexa says
I’m pleased you like my site
Carla Cross says
Hello Lady Alexa,
and hello to all as well. I read these letters and I see many designs of or various styles/personalizations of a/an FLR. I see stories of the alpha male being stripped of his masculinity and being forced feminized so to speak. I wonder how alpha they were to begin with? (no insult intended). For myself(a brief background) I grew up an active child but hated and was horrible at macho sports and always preferred the company of girls and enjoyed softer past times. I often wished or wanted to be a girl playing them in school plays or ” jokingly”letting them give me makeovers. I was frequently mistaken for a girl which got me beaten up a few times. My alpha male facade (I eventually took steroids and trained in martial arts) to fit in and protect myself. As i got older and more secure in myself I let this go and have begun to feminize myself, or rather stopped trying to be something I wasn’t. Thank goodness for the internet! Also, thank goodness I stopped that nonsense before i lost hair from the roids. So, (trying to condense my thoughts) now what? It is difficult finding a female that is ok with this or encourages it. Many have been conditioned into being or wanting something dictated by societal ” norms”. In other words they think they want to be submissive to an alpha man or burly bearded manly man(part of growing up in a small Texas town). Sure, I’ve tried the fetlife and collarspace thing, but it seems to be kink oriented as opposed to relationship oriented. Sorry if I’m all over the place. There is much inside my head. Anyway, thanks for having this blog. It helps to read your posts and those from your readers.
XXX
Carla
Lady Alexa says
Hello Carla and thank you for your comment. You raise an interesting point about the crossover between a fetish game and a lifestyle choice. I’ve tried to address this at times on my blog as I believe that a true FLR and ‘forced’ feminisation is a lifestyle not a game. That said there is a sexual tension that’s exciting in pushing the boundaries, living an flr and increasing my husband’s feminisation. I think the two can go together
Carla Cross says
Thank you Lady Alexa for your comment. I absolutely agree with the excitement and sexual tension being very important! I see them as icing on a cake with a solid loving relationship being the cake that holds it all together.
xx
Carla
Lady Alexa says
I like the cake metaphor ?
Jenn says
If there is one thing I have learned about boundaries both in feminization ad FLR’s it is that there is always one more thing to try. True many things are fantasy but fantasies can become reality when a relationship needs a little more spice and when I think back long ago to wearing my first bra and panty set and stepping into my first pair of high heels I was sure this was as far as we were going to go. The sexual tension you mention Lady Alexa is very powerful when a woman uses her own femininity to playfully seduce her husband and we go along with it because we know resistance is futile. What is most exciting is knowing there are many women who prefer sissies to masculine macho men and I’ll just bet that shoots their ego down in flames. I have no idea if one day my boundaries will be pushed to include my being shown to other women but I trust my wife to do it in a way that puts feminized men in a positive light that would have them consider it a good option for their own relationship.
Katrina says
Jenn, I definitely use sexual tension as a tool in dominating Selina. She is so easy to control when aroused and denying her release increases my control. That’s one reason I am not putting her on hormones. Presenting my feminized husband in a positive light when exposing her to other women is an excellent point you make. Yes, I do put her through some humiliating things but show other women the many wonderful benefits of living a FLR with a feminized husband. A few of my friends are genuinely interested in the lifestyle, others are amused by it but don’t see it being a part of their lives, and only one was completely against it. I truly believe more and more women will come to realize how wonderful this kind of life can be and how easily many men can be led into it.
annette says
We recently returned from a beach vacation in Virginia. Everyday i was paraded on the beach by my wife in various one piece bathing suits. It was very plain to see that i was a male with breast and dressed as a female for the beach. The pink and blue flip flops were horribly uncomfortable and embarrassing. She also led me into a store called Sunsations where she had me try on and purchase several more bathing suits. After changing into each one i had to come out of the small dressing room to show my wife and she would make comments and have me look at myself in the mirror. It was quite embarrassing and humiliating. One day it rained and we used the hotel pool and that was also humiliating. All week long i received some strange looks and stares while in the hotel. The beach was very embarrassing as it was very crowded. She performed one release on me as usual with her rubber dishwashing gloves and that was on our balcony with me seated in a plastic chair at night. we were on the 5th floor and people were walking the boardwalk below. i was so scared and it took quite awhile to orgasm. My wife love what she put me through. The walk from the beach through the hotel lobby, the elevator and the hallway added to my humiliation. We were far from home and my wife never put me through such extended humiliation and embarrassment. But as time passed i was more comfortable and was able to not care about the stares and the people around me. When we went out to eat it was plain to see that i was a male with breast and wearing a bra. i only had t-shirts on. we also went to K-mart to purchase a new long line girdle and a few bras. She made me wear the girdle on a 95 degree day while we walked the boardwalk. it was so uncomfortable under my shorts and t-shirt. An unforgettable and exciting vacation. It was so humiliating. My wife can’t wait till the next one. She said it will be more intense then this one. She was so proud of what she was putting me through and it excited her so much. She really enjoys embarrassing and humiliating me now in public and she realizes that deep down inside it excites me and i need it physically and psychologically for my sexual needs. i am a totally different person then the male i was over 25 years ago. i enjoy being the gurl she has trained me to be and i have become so docile and compliant that i have no will to resist what she puts me through, and she loves her complete control and power over me as her gurl annette.
Lady Alexa says
Good to hear
Patti59 says
That is so Awesome Annette! Tony would have been so Destroyed, but now as a New Age man, you know that you are to be Feminine and Sweet, for the pleasure of your wife. Many men are going to be experiencing what you are now accustomed to. Women are enjoying their Power, and it is a Delight to see men so feminine and Obedient! Good Luck!
colly says
Dear Patti
You have no idea how encouraging it is to see strong Ladies like all of You coming out into the world. What can someone like me continue meet You half way (or even all the way)? in other words how can i treat the Ladies i meet everyday to let them know i am a girl inside andTheirs to rule?
Colly x
Katrina says
Hi Carla, I too enjoy Cathy’s style and look to her as someone I want to emulate. I agree that some of the things done to the husbands are over the top and border on being abusive but these are consenting adults. The main form of humiliation I use on Selina is exposure to other women and in public. As a wife in our “conventional” marriage my husband went out of his way to have me wear things at home and in public that made me uncomfortable and at times were humiliating to me. A few examples are he was constantly on me to wear only lingerie around the house and a number of times had friends come over unbeknownst to me and expose me to them. There were times He convinced me to serve male guests wearing lingerie and even in a maid uniform sometimes. He also wanted me to wear tight, revealing clothes in public and had a thing about my panties/pantry lines and bra being visible. I was never really comfortable with this yet complied often with his wishes. This went on for over 20 years!
Once he convinced me to give living a FLR a try and I started reading Lady Alexa’s blog it opened my eyes to the power I could have over him with femi nization and exposure to other women and in public. It is a form of payback for the years of him doing it to me, it increases and solidifies my leadership in our marriage, and his. “cute princess” gets visibly excited when I expose him. On his own he would never go this far, but he doesn’t have a choice in the matter. This past weekend I took him out wearing short/tight white shorts, tight pink tanktop with “Sweet girl” on the front. The pink bikini panties and black bra he wore were very visible! He wore pink open toed 4″ wedges, had pink bows in his hair, and carried a cute pink purse. I took him to the salon to have his nails and hair done, shopping at numerous stores, trying on clothes and shoes, and to lunch. Athough he is progressing quite well with his voice lessons I made him use his male voice to humiliate him. It was a fun day for me and a lesson for him. I will never do anything or put him in situations that jepordizes his safety or do things I consider to be abusive. Carla, I do hope you’re able to find someone who encourages you to be who you truly are and understand your concerns.
Lady Alexa says
It’s a fine balance regarding how far to go in humiliating our feminised husbands. I do need to push her on things but it’s for her own good. Certainly in a real-life flr anything abusive isn’t appropriate in a loving flr
jamie says
Hello Lady Alexa, ma’am,
My wife made it clear she would be in charge from our first date. I adored her and I suppose I was submissive before I knew what it meant. My wife was careful about the humiliation but over the years her dominance grew and my need to submit to her grew. Even humiliation from HER thrills me. She did slowly feminize me. I had little family and hers was accepting of our FLR. I never imagined I would be her maid fulltime but for me it has been perfect. I adore her more now than ever.
jamie
Lady Alexa says
Excellent to hear this Jamie
Carla says
Hello Ms Katrina,
thank you very much for your reply.
I do absolutely agree with the consenting adult part. I am very much a to each their own type gurl. I apologize if my post seemed judgemental. In truth much here seems to be written by sissies that almost seem to boasting of the humiliation they ” endure”.In your case especially, he/she is certainly due anything you dish out! Personally though, a trip to salon to have your hair done is heaven and worth any embarrassment 🙂 again I apologize to you and Lady Alexa. Even though I may read something and think ” Omigod I can’t believe that… ” I am also happy that this lifestyle seems to be growing and accepted by at least a few people! Its always comforting to know others think/do/want to do this!
Xx
Carla
colly says
Hi Carla
Wonderfully put. X X
Colly
Carla says
Thank you Colly!
Xx
Katrina says
Hi Carla, your comments didn’t come off as judgemental to me. One thing to keep in mind is once you find a woman who is into living a FLR, she may require things that right now you think you wouldn’t do. I have feminized my Selina far beyond where she imagined I would. Some other things I have done are taken her phone/computer privelages away, I control all her freetime, do not allow her to watch television without my permission, totally control what she wears at all times and more. My point is that my husband had his own ideas of what a FLR would be but I have taken him to a place he never imagined. There is still more to do but that will come in due time. I may have him post on here soon to share his experiences with our FLR.
I expose Selina to other women to humiliate/humble her but also with the hope that other women will see how wonderful my life is and want to live a FLR lifestyle themselves. My friend Jackie is slowly working towards a FLR in her marriage, another friend says she is going to do this, and my friend Donna who is divorced will definitely live a FLR in her next relationship. I truly believe that 10-15 years from now we will a society where women are in charge!
Carla says
Thank you Ms Katrina for your patient response. I do really love reading all of the post and getting different perspectives. I see that in any relationship, FLR or otherwise, its about what works with/for the couple. For me, i have known for some time that I would much rather be a wife than a husband. Eventually i may be lucky enough to find this. I do have some experience being in Female dominated relationships and have an idea of what I’m looking for. Working in health care in a small southern town makes the public exposure situation a little dicey as it really could jeopardize work. It already has in another place. Ah, well… Anyway
have a great day!
Carla Xx
colly says
Ms Katrina
i completely understand where You are coming from and from listening to Lady Alexas voice of experience on these matters, i understand that once i commit to an FLR then my hopes and opinions no longer matter – even to the point where i may not be feminised at all. But am i wrong therefore to hope for feminisation too – or is that only for those that have no wish to be in the first place? I.e. forced outof their comfort zone as opposedto into it! ( if You get my meaning!)
Katrina says
Hi Colly, you are most definitely not wrong for hoping to find a woman who will want to lead you AND feminize you! I hope you’re fortunate enough to find her!
Carla says
Hi Colly,
I agree with Ms Katrina (not that she needs it) in saying you are not wrong with desiring feminization. I feel that is simply the real you(i hope i am not projecting myself here). I know personally, the ” male image ” i poorly try to project is just a thin shell i use to protect myself… Although being frequently called ma’am cracks that open. Maybe as acceptance grows and more Women accept their power and leadership, girls like you and i can find these unicorns!
I hope you find yours. Thank the stars for Lady Alexa’s place here and her beautiful Dominant contributors (and to the girls here) to give us hope!
colly says
Hi Ms Katrina and Carla
i suppose where i’m coming from is that from reading Lady Alexas writings and Yours Ms Katrina, I realise just how much work You have to put in to start and then keep your (formerly) men along the feminisation path. It can only be bourne of a sense of iron will and love in equal (?) measure that allows any progress to be made. i am fortunate that i adore my wife but i feel terrible that i have foisted my latent femininity upon Her. i don’t wish to inconvenience Her by having to deal with my shortcomings and yet i can think of anyone I’d rather serve – feminised if possible! Lady A knows of the limited progress we’ve made – and yesterday She even brought me back a dress She got while out shopping (admittedly i dropped a hint that i would like to have got one but couldn’t make it out together). So i am on cloud 8 and 1\2 that She thought of me so in any way having femme needs, but not quite on cloud 9 as I am unable to relax as i feel like i may have “topped from bottom” again on my feminine journey. That said, i have mentioned & asked before about what to do to let other Ladies know of my openess to serve them. i even curtsey occasionally to Ladies i meet in the hope they see my true leanings …. and yet i find it impossible to take that step with my other half as i am mortified to be putting her in a position She may not be comfortable with – or think less of me as a result.
Is it any wonder i look on Your story Katrina and Lady A’s journey with Alice as a beacon for what has probably passed me by long ago X X
Jenn says
Annette’s feminization is obviously as extreme as it gets, her wife has made sure that every last bit of masculinity has been erased and must be very pleased that Annette has accepted her fate with unquestionable obedience. Surely Annette’s wife is enjoying knowing that she has what it takes to emasculate her husband and have the lifestyle she wants. It is interesting to see what other women expect in their FLR and it goes to show there is no “one size fits all” in this lifestyle. What it does show is that humiliation is a bit part of it and for whatever reason many women like to assert their authority in public. Personally my experiences are limited in this respect as it has never been done in a derogatory way if that makes any sense. My wife seems to enjoy seeing the shocked faces of sales ladies who figure out that some of the lingerie or other items we have purchased are for me. Yes I blush and turn a hundred shades of red but it is something we both giggle about when we get back in the car, “None of her damn business,” she’ll say.
My feminization has been rather mild compared to other FLR’s mentioned here, it seems many couples work towards meeting other couples in the lifestyle or at least showing off a feminized husband to other women all the while wondering if this would be a wise step or not. For women who are confident in this lifestyle it seems just a matter of us being obedient and our willingness to trust their decision but I will say for some of us it is difficult jumping from male to female depending on our wife’s mood at the time. I’m not complaining, I know I have been given an opportunity to see life from the other side of the fence and I like it so I’m in no position to judge what other consenting couples do.
colly says
Sounds like your wife has a lovely sense of humour and mischievousness about Her. That must surely be the cornerstone of a feminised for lifestyle. If we can’t have fun and laugh…… X
Annette says
My life now is under my wife’s control 100% right down to controlling my allowed bathroom time, frequency and a total lack of privacy also. As over the last 25 years including the last approximately 10 years on female herbs and hormones my maleness has been stripped away along with my will to resist her. This has been done through the herbs, hormones, discipline and intense humiliation. But at this point i am at peace with my inner self, my transformed body as i now have breast. i am as female as i can possibly be without SRS. i use to be tormented inside, jealous of females and also a very cruel at times and Dominant with females in the past. i guess i was taking out my frustrations of jealousy on them. But we started off with me being Dominant and over time our positions switched. She became a very creative Dominant and i became more and more docile and compliant. My penis has shrunk due to the hormones to almost 2″ erect and my ejaculate is less then a 1/2 teaspoon full. i never was a good male sex partner in terms of being sensual and loving. i fucked! Now i don’t have to pretend, i am at peace and have no decisions to make as they are all made by my wife. She is very strict, demanding and sometimes very cruel but i need this and she provides it. i often say that my failure to be a normal Alpha husband has justified in her mind the treatment of me and she has no regrets. After all i was the one who shortchanged her in the relationship. We are still very much in love and when she treats me this way and i obey 100% we are showing our love for each other. i service her orally, with a strap-on and she masturbates me very coldly with rubber gloves, prostate massage or actual penetration of my male pussy with her strap on. i do all the housework, bathe her and attend to some of her very personal bathroom needs also. i am a 100% broken male but also a 100% content submissive sissy gurl who is controlled and owned by my wife. We are both happy in this situation. Her being able to take her frustrations out on me for my lack of being male makes her happy. Not for everyone but it suits us just fine.
corsetjane says
Another classic blog entry Lady A..i thank you…curtsy
i love reading them..and getting an insight into a determined and dominant woman’s mind. As a “wannabee” feminised male..in the same age bracket as Alice, i can relate to many of the issues raised..not least your prime unsuccessful task so far..the hair! i myself tried to grow it long..but have now resorted to wigs for any transformation.
The male clitty (it still makes me squirm describing it as that after my former typical male orientated lifestyle) can be made to look cute as you say, but its overriding desire is to wave proudly in the air and no amount of light dressing will stop that…in fact it will probably encourage it lol. i know that you are not a great fan of chastity..something i have adopted, but for me, it has transformed the way i feel..paradoxically unlocking my femme side…and with long term use i have noticed it has shrunk and is less “excitable” on the few occasions that it is left dangling free. This is admittedly a temporary effect and return to normal conditions appears to occur over a week or two if left unlocked.
Your comments on breasts resonate..and one of the dilemmas i find, is that when in that later-age overindulgent, overweight state, my breast are more prominent, especially when in a tight uplifting bra, but my overriding desire is to remain slim (and able to take ever decreasing corset sizes) and with exercise and diet control (i tend to use the 5:2 approach) i loose the fat in the wrong places lol. i would say though that wearing a nice corset does accentuate the body shape and hides padding beneath breast tissue nicely without the need for implants. You may find that the effect is pleasing on Alice..perhaps a narrower waist with a nice corset should be a new target as this would accentuate a relatively limited set of breasts…just a thought…
Lovely coloured nails are a bonus to any transformation and i would love to permanently sport some elegant ones..but as you often point out..real life gets in the way…and your suggestions of a nail “makeover” seem the perfect solution with clear varnish.. i am already feeling uncomfortable for Alice imagining her situation if you go through with this…but am also confidant that acceptance and ultimate enjoyment for her will result.
Butt plugs can be intense…i love challenges and often try wearing them most of the day..including work..they are a constant reminder of ones position and if inserted by the dominant partner, take submission to a new level… but if Alice’s slip out…i would humbly suggest that she needs a bigger one… 😉
Exposure to others is the ultimate in humiliation…and excitement for any sub/feminised gurl.. Trust in one’s partner is the overriding factor here and those of us who do not have a partner who engages in this lifestyle miss out..big time. To trust your wife to lead you into a room of others, whilst dressed en femme, has to be the most humiliating erotic act possible . i for one would find it so hard…but would not want to stop it. The desire to do anything to please one’s partner would override everything whilst in this situation and as a dominant woman i am sure you will find it extremely empowering and erotic. i love the fact that you would also bring more feminine sissies into the house to show Alice examples of “best practice” and to enable “cross-pollination” of good ideas.
i wish you every success in your travail Lady A.. each time i open your blog, it sets my heart racing as i imagine how i would react …and i know it would be, like Alice.. with resistance … then with gently acceptance…and then with total enjoyment at pleasing.
“Bon Chance”
jane x
corsetjane says
As ever your blog is a pleasure to read Lady A…and once again, after quite a break, i have returned to read in awe how you continue to shape Alice’s lifestyle…and encounter frustrations along the way…
Although i am what you might call a willing victim…but without a dominant wife..i find i can relate to Alice’s predicaments and squirm at some of the additional pressures that are pushed on to him/her. i am sensible enough to know that there is a difference between the fantasies one reads online and the reality of a full FLR…but it is one that i yearn to experience..and continue to do so by proxy so to speak via your blog, imagining how i would cope in the same situation. Your list of challenges does strike a chord and i have some comments that i hope you wont mind me adding..
Female hair style: i totally relate to this situation..as a male, probably in the same decade as Alice, i dont have thick head of hair and much as i would love to be able to grow it long (i have tried like Alice) its a non starter and i have reverted to wigs…although i recently tried a hair extension and was pleasantly surprised how good it looked…so it may be worth considering.
Male Clitty: You have a devious mind Lady A… and i love it! lol.. As you probably know i have a penchant for chastity.. and it is this that paradoxically unlocked my femme side when i experimented with it. I appreciate that you are not into permanent chastity but i would point out that quite definitely i am smaller now that when i first started out in 24/7 chastity…it is a temporary phenomenon as if out of chastity for longer than a week or so it reverts to its former glory..but i have come to love it looking “cute”. At my age i too would be unhappy with hormones so this works for me. i like the idea of laser treatment for Alice..there is something very feminine about having a smooth feeling under delicate panties…it make me tingle every time.
Female Breasts: i would love to have a pair of swinging breasts ..but like Alice…life/work and family get in the way of that!.. I too have tried to cut down my weight but there ar advantages and disadvantages to that…the obvious benefit is a better figure that looks good…but i must admit i was able to produce some bosom when slightly overweight…that is gone now unaided. I have though added to the effect on two fronts.. firstly on my nipples..which have been so sensitive since i’ve been in chastity (its almost as if the body adjust when one erogenous zone is denied and allows pleasure elsewhere). I bought some nipple suction devices from US called SuppleNips.. size one and 2 and they have over time made my nipples much larger…something you may wish to consider for Alice. Secondly, as my name indicates…i love a corset…and a tight fitting overbust corset pulled in with a bit of chicken fillet breast augmentation, gives a pleasant cleavage that adds to the view!.. Give it a go..i swear by it!
Pretty Nails: This is a major hurdle for me..as i am sure it will be for Alice..i have yet to go to salon..but would love to. i do use colour on my toenails and it is a constant reminder when i undress or take a shower or bath and look down…and i am sure it would be mind changing for Alice too. If i was in a FLR situation it would be easier in the home..and it is a fact that as a clumsy male with long nails there is a “clipping of ones wings”… its harder to type, do ones shoe straps or put on or take of dresses and bras etc…almost a form of subtle bondage….more so the longer the nails… i wish my feel looked as good s the ones in your photo! lol…
Butt Plug: This is a major thing for a femme sub..like me…and presumably now like Alice. There is nothing more humiliating/erotic/exciting than leaving to go to work with a plug inside…known only to myself…and once in..one has to get a chance to get away from commitments to get it out…so the tension can be unbearable..and exciting….
Believe me…Alice will take a bigger one than you think…lol…(too small and it might fall out…and that could be even more embarassing in a meeting!) There are some fun ones with jewelled looks or why not get one with a little foxy tail when she is at home…hehe…a little tug will perk her up!… 😉
Exposure: i cant stress how lucky Alice is to have you directing her and leading her to such events…i dream of such… when the person you love and respect is doing it, whilst protecting you and guiding you, it has to be the best… and i hope that Alice complies with your wishes. i so hope that one day i can walk proudly amongst other women and dressed hubbies and show my respect to the stronger gender.
..and lastly you suggestion of inviting sissies to your house and invading Alice’s little comfort zone will inevitably bring a new twist to Alice’s transformation, and i for one, would love to hear how this turn out…and just wish i was the lucky gurl. Hey ho.
i wish you luck with your ongoing efforts and like you say…she may squirm a bit…but will eventually love it… i am sure i would..and i remain jealous…if not nervous for her..
Yours respectfully as ever…
jane 🙂
. Katie says
To Jane go and google dominant female submissive male group within _____ miles of _______ your city . See what you get.
Katie says
To Jane my local internet has groups women looking for submissive males. I am a submissive male housewife. My husband had me look so I could find other submissive males.
corsetjane says
Sounds a perfect setup….i suspect i would love it…
jane 🙂
Katie says
I am now legally Katie Lynn Lydnsey. 45-60 days for changes to be processed. I have done new driver license. Once my hair grows more I will have it colored to match he wig I wore for the picture.
Lady Alexa says
Do show us the photo
corsetjane says
Yes do!
Katie says
The picture in the blog is the one the driver license bureau took. Jack said no more pictures until finish product. Jack sent that one picture to show he was in charge. It was to embarrass me.
Katie says
I have posted this in a couple of places, his not here. The doctor said my body stopped producing testosterone about two or three months ago. My breasts are now bigger than 40D. There nothing to tuck or hide. I now wear tight fitting slacks that I couldn’t wear before. Wives in our group say they can’t wear them, they would show things that should be hidden. I am totally flat between my legs in clothes.
Katie says
The picture in the blog is the one the driver license bureau took. Jack said no more pictures until finish product. Jack sent that one picture to show he was in charge. It was to embarrass me.
Lady Alexa says
Which picture?
Katie says
The one that was sent a month ago with me with wearing a skorts in front of recycling box rest of clothes male. It was a test to see if I could through that by myself. Then have a stranger take the picture. You said you got it.
Lady Alexa says
Then I did but remember I receive hundreds of emails and photos so I need a reminder sometimes
Katie says
Lady Alexa you do some work to keep. I don’t mind helping on what I’ve sent before. That’s why I asked you twice did you get it. I am sure we all appreciate what you do.
Katie Lynn Lyndsey
colly says
i hope your husband doesnt catch you speaking to a superior Lady with that tone…
Katie says
Ms Colly, I would never be disrespecting Ms Alexa or any other person that takes care of one of us submissive males.
Jack also saw your post Ms Colly. Tomorrow I will be punished. A couple from our group Adam and Sarah is coming to the sale here. I was told by my husband since Adam and my husband would spend most of the afternoon together with the other husbands. Sarah wanted to come now and ask me to go on a date. I will wear the slacks I have on and a top Jack will pick out, a bra. Wig and make up choice. Adam talked with Jack done deal. Sarah will wear female clothing also.
Jack said this would never happen, this is my punishment.
Jack will view all my posts before I send them. My husband is pleased with this.
Katie Lynn Lyndsey
Lady Alexa says
I have to agree with Colly ‘Katie’ You should re-read your comments which do not come across as submissive at all. Look at Colly’s approach to learn if you want to know how to speak and act.
Katie says
Thank you. I will, I mean no disrespect anytime to anyone on this blog.
Katie Lynn Lyndsey.
Katie says
I figured my mistake. I sent. It to your Ladies On Top web site June 26 and 27. I am sorry.
Katie Lynn Lyndsey.
Saskia says
Dear Lady Alexa,
I did not read all the comments. But let me tell you my story (and maybe this post is not even the right place, sorry for that in the first place).
I am still in the early stage of discovering what we (my wife and I) can change in our marriage/relationship in this area.
To make it clear, I love to be a sub-(slave)girl as much as possible. I experienced my fetish in my very young years, adn later in went into (paid) BDSM sessions in the crossdressing area.
However I am a dominant man in my work and feeling tired every day to do my things. I love my job, but at home I would like to have some rest in my head.
I discovered that in the time visiting a Mistress and she treated me like Saskia being nothing. I discovered that my whole identity changed from being hard at work in my day-to-day job into being a sub girl. I loved it.
My wife (until) now is not able (at least she thinks) to be dominant in my direction and treat me like a girl and determining my life at home. I am 100% sure I have that wish.
Being dressed like a girl is not a punsihment for me as long as it is in a game (I mostly play with myself, out of home).
Well, I orderded some books from Elise Sutton and one of your books. I know my question might seem odd, but can anyone advise me how to go further? I don’t know if I can just ask my wif to dominate me after work. I even don’t know how I would react, once we go into that direction. The only things I know is that I approach this to much from what I want. Yes, I know, don’t repeat that 😉
But I have so many doubt on how to take this to the next level, especially that being dressed like a girl is not a punishment at all for me. Depending on the situation. If my wife would force me to go to do some shopping, it would be a different story. But I would do it. So the domination level might bring some humiliation for me, and hopefully she likes that power. But I simply don’t know. Any help, thanks!
Saskia
Lady Alexa says
Hello Saskia nice to hear from you. Your question is the most common one I receive. I can only answer from a woman’s perspective and from a naturally dominant woman. You thankfully touched in the main problem unlike most men who write to me: it’s all about what you want. So think about what’s in you being a feminised submissive for your wife. Once you understand this then maybe she’ll take charge. If she thinks she’s just playing a part for your fantasies then forget it. If you can put your wife’s needs and desires first then you’re on your way. Good luck
Saskia says
Thanks Lady Alexa,
I knew you would give me an answer in that direction. But my wife would feel that at once, once I would act to het as she being the Power in my life. I could not think of doing things extra for her, without her noticing my intentions. We have been married for a very long time (nearly 25 years) and yes, we still love each other, although without any sexual excitement anymore. She just plays with herself when I am doing my job, and I play with myself, out of home. Ans she even allows me to visit a Mistress if I would like that. That makes it sooooo difficult to communicate this need with her. Shoudl I just tell her or should I play a game? I don’t know….. And yes I know that it only worksto put her as the main ‘point’…..
Saskia
Lady Alexa says
The feminisation if my husband had spiced up our sex life try that angle. You do need to speak to her. I didn’t just force feminise my husband, we talked about it, I told her what I wanted. Just do it the other way round. You need to communicate. I told my Alice and showed her what was in it for her
Katie says
Saskia you have come tthe right place to get direction and encouragement for both of you.
They have helped me and my dominant female husband.
Thank you Lady Alexa for all your work.
Saskia says
Katie, thanks for your comment. I have to think about the approach I have to take. She knows my feelings about this and sometimes she agrees to let me dress in home and even give me a bondage and then leaves for an hour or two. She does that but she always says she does not like it. It seems hard for her to understand the feeling I get of being powerless. Yes, it is a bondage, yes it looks like it is connected to BDSM,but in my head it is just getting rest in being out of control. It is like a kind of yoga to me. That is what she could understand, since she is in yoga a lot.
Anyhow, to ask her to dominate and to feminize me, is for me a hard approach. I don’t know if she will enjoy her role since she said until now that she does not like to do things. And I don’t want to force anything. And the approach of pleasing her that she feels she gets more power by nature, I don’t know. I think she will ask me what I am doing that I please her so extra. She will notice me playing some game to get her in the right direction.
So, I don’t have the right approach yet. Again, I may do wath I want, I walk a lot like a sexy slavegrirl outside in black shiny catsuits and a big breast cup and a nice wig. But always on my own. It pleases me just a very little bit. I want to take this to a next level, but still don’t know how.
Saskia
Katie says
Saskia, we have gone where last month I have gone and had my name legally changed. I have Katie Lynn the name my female husband gave and her maiden name Lyndsey.
Joy Columba says
My wife and mistress derives great pleasure and enjoyment watching me interact with men while i am en femme. She swears that I am passable, but I doubt that. I don’t really enjoy it, but I love the thought of pleasing her. At any rate she bring it up and has recorded the interactions on occasion. Is this common among FLR and if so, where does it lead?
Lady Alexa says
Although I have feminised my husband and have a strong flr I have no interest in seeing Alice with men. I know Alice would have nothing to do with men and so it’s of no interest for us but every couple is different
Joy Columba says
Thank you, Lady ALexa. I understand. I am wondering what may be in my future. I appreciate your wisdom.
corsetjane says
Ironically..although my wife is sadly not interested in me dressing…she finds the thought of me being humiliated and abused by men exciting…at least in fantasy land…
i have, bearing in mind, as Lady Alexa says…its all about pleasing the Lady, tentatively raised the issue ..as in, would she really want to see me like that…for real…because if she did i would comply..
..but she wouldn’t… so thats that….
jane x 🙂
Rowena Morgan says
Hi Alexa,
Unsoliceted though they may be (only because I’m new and exploring here, otherwise, you DID ask), here are my thoughts for you and your Alice.
1. A female hair style? – given the thin hair on top, this is problematic. I’m leary of extensions for thinning hair, but then I’m blessed with very full hair, as have been my boys. I’d suggest talking to someone that is experienced putting in ‘permanent’ extensions then bringing Alice in for a consultation. I very much doubt it would be a permanent solution, but they would be the expert. Alternatively, I would be comfortable suggesting that both of you visit a well-stocked wig shop. Call first as you want to feel them out as to their experience and tolerance. This is important because it takes time to get a suitable flattering wig and if they aren’t tolerant you won’t get their best efforts. Do your homework on this one. As for making it easier on your Alice-management time, with the right wig you can glue the edges down with medical adhesive (no damage or allergic reaction to skin) which should keep it secure for five to ten days at a time. Of course, with the better wigs you can style them however you’d like.
2. The Male Clitty and Pussy Balls Dilemma – Several things I’ve done in the past: The first probably won’t satisfy you except maybe for special occasions. Manipulate his flaccid penis straight back into his body and secure it there with Dermabond medical adhesive. Be sure to leave the exit hole pointing downward or he’s going to tinkle all over the place!. I assume you have his ball sack shaved, but if not that can be taken care of. Once his clit is contained you can gently move his balls back into the abdominal cavity before flattening and gluing down his ball sack into a fake labia. All of this is a LOT of work for only a short term benefit. You see the adhesive tends to break down in water or sweat. Since, when clothed, the groin is damp, the glue won’t last long. BUT, since you talked about displaying him more to others in your home and may be willing to do that with Alice naked (or only covered by a gauzy, frilly apron you can raise easily) this might be viable for you. The second option is more practical. I’ve had my boys make tiny doll dresses (or in the case of very small cocks, a tiered, ruffled skirt) they can dress their penis in. I’d have Alice make several and, of course, if they fall off he has a problem, doesn’t he? Alternatively, the skirt could be used on just the ball sack, nestled up tight to the base of his clit. Extra points for fancy or colorful skirts and dresses.
3. Female Breasts – Your desires preclude this from working. The breast pump will only produce very limited change on their own, an hour or two at most, though it does make the nipple more sensitive for a bit longer. However, if you do ever decide to do hormones, the use of a breast pump will speed up the process. This happens because the suction increases the blood flow to the affected area which delivers more estrogen where it’s needed. I’m not saying stop the breast suction. If you can get Alice to do it without having to micro manage then it is a useful exercice because it keeps his focus on one of your long-term goals. If you want breasts in the meantime, a pocketed mastectomy bra and silicone breast forms will work just fine. Have him put it on and simply sew a few stitches securing the hook and eye closure. it doesn’t even have to be tight. If he takes it off, the stitches go. He can’t re-do them himself so you’ll know immediately.
4. Pretty Nails – These are VERY doable and you have many options! The first option is pink and white acrylics lengthened and shaped as you want. I prefer the more classically feminine almond shape about a quarter inch (.6 cm) beyond the finger tip. With this length and shape, I kick it up a notch with a deeply curved white smile line. These can be painted any color when you want that or simply done with clear to go back to the French tip inspired pink and whites. Just use non-acetone remover to protect the acrylics. If those bright white tips are too much for you, order and have him use an ‘American’ polish (Amazon) on them. Both the nail bed and the tips are a more natural color and less noticeable. Alternatively, you could simply keep his own nails shaped the way you want and have the salon do a clear gel base and top coat. This will give him super shiny natural nails. With the gel, he can put a single color coat on top of the gel. It will dry very quickly and be just as shiny. This means he can change out his color daily if that is your wish. Of course, the REAL advantage is that both require regular maintenance every 2 to 3 weeks, depending on how fast his nails grow. In other words, he will be conscious of them and have to deal with them on an ongoing basis. Toes are easily doable, but be sure to schedule in downtime with no polish. If polished continually, the nail bed will turn white and go very soft. Getting them healthy again is time-consuming and a pain. I’d suggest nail art for his toes. Since they are often covered, make them as pretty and girly as you can!
5. Butt Plug – If it ‘fell’ out then it was more of a dildo than a butt plug. Buy a complete set and start him off on the smallest but reward him when he moves up to the next size. Just be aware that if you ever have him stop using the plugs, it will take time for him to re-control his sphincter. For extra stimulation, you have two options. A wifi controlled vibrator model was mentioned earlier. I prefer this. Get a set of Ben-Wa balls. These are usually used by women and held in their vagina. They have an inner and outer ball with the inner ball floating free. In other words, make a move and the balls respond and the motion there stimulates you. With a strong pelvic floor (done your Kegals lately?) you can keep your vagina tensed and hold them in all day while walking or whatever. nice. For him, insert both balls (they come in pairs and clack together as well as having the inner balls) in his rectum before inserting the butt plug. He’ll feel them. Of course it will take a bowel movement to get them out unless he is stretched enough to be fisted. (Yes, that means what you think)
6. More Exposure to others – I’m of two minds about this one. I understand what you are going for, but unless you really want to play the humiliation card, this may not be your answer. If you want him comfortable in women’s clothes then he can’t be that until he is close to passable. From what you say, he isn’t. I’d suggest you think this one through further unless you plan on using humiliation as others on your blog have. I don’t know Alice and I don’t know you so anything I say is suspect. Does he respond positively to humiliation? Or does he shut down? Your call.
MAKING MORE PERMANENT FORCED FEMINIZATION CHANGES – I’d suggest making a list of all the different things you want to do with Alice. Then, when he balks or tries to get out of something (like pumping his breasts) his punishment is something from the list. If the penalty, in his eyes, is worse than the current task (and you’ve told him what the penalty will be up front) then he will do the lesser of ‘two evils’. Of course, this means that if he fails you MUST implement the penalty as soon as possible. Once he knows it will be enforced he won’t balk unless it is really serious to him, in which case you need to be willing to listen and make your ruling for or against him. If it is that serious to him, it should be that serious to you.
So, those are my thoughts. Use them freely if you wish. OR pitch them on the garbage pile at the end of the street. Your choice! Have fun.
Rowe
Lady Alexa says
Thank you for these ideas Rowe. I started my blog for exactly this reason , to meet others who live like us and to share ideas.1. I think you’re right, I probably need to take Alice down the high quality wig route. She does have a cheap one but I can’t style it for her which is what I’d like. 2. Since hormones are out for now then and I’m not keen on the idea of taping it up as I like to have access I have gone down the decoration and feminisation route for her clitty and balls, dressing it in ribbons and rings. I hadn’t thought of dressing it in little doll’s skirts, I love this idea. Humiliation is a big element of my FLR so this works on many levels. 3. My target is for her to achieve an A cup with the pump. Even if results are less, at least I have her trying to look more feminine for me. 4. Nails yes all great ideas, I need to invest time in making this a regular activity for her. 5. Butt plug: Alice isn’t keen but I am which makes things awkward so it’s a case of getting her used to it really. 6. Alice enjoys dressing up as a sex game but is not transgender so making her a permanent girl and exposing her is a humiliation for someone who was a typical male in the past who enjoyed male pursuits and had no interest in becoming female. The humiliation card is very effective and I enjoy it but it’s not just others seeing her as a ‘normal girl’ but with a twist of clitty exposure, verbal humiliation and light spankings for example in front of others. It’s a more complex mix for me. For example, if another mistress is with us I’ll make Alice wear a very short skirt with no underwear. Alexa
Rowena Morgan says
Hi Alexa,
There are many reasons I try hard NOT to use humiliation. The first and main one is that you get hooked on the power trip and once hooked, you lose your objectivity. If you are going to be in charge you need to be able to look at things objectively. By using his feminization as humiliation fodder you are feeling and showing your power, but you are making your long-term goal of fully feminizing him much more difficult. What you are teaching him is that any feminizing thing you want is intended to humiliate him. THAT is what he’ll carry out of the process. If you want him as your fully feminized wife then SHE (intentional) will NEVER be comfortable in that mode and will be less loving and frankly, less effective. You are training her to be your wife. The methods you use will impact that.
Here’s an example: If feminization isn’t linked to humiliation and you continue to raise that acceptable bar, he will reach a point where, regardless of how he is dressed, he will begin to get stares and comments. He will feel humiliated. Because being feminine isn’t linked to humiliation by you, his best option is to become MORE feminine and passable to get out of that humiliation zone. With your methodology there is absolutely no incentive for him to take that step because the humiliation isn’t going to stop anyway. You talk about hating to have to micro-manage him. Can you see why you are setting up that very condition? Train him in a way that works for you, not against you.
From what I’ve read of FLR, most of the females are in it for the power trip. The problem is that power is all they know. There is no room for the growth of the relationship for either party. So stereotypes rule. WHY did you marry him in the first place? FLRs are supposedly rebelling against the patriarchal marriage because it doesn’t work for the woman. So, they flip it upside gown so the women are on top. If it’s the same system (or seemingly in most cases an exaggerated version of it) how is it a functional system for your partner? So, it comes down to this: without examining and keeping your mind on your long-term goals, you are simply on a power trip. If that is what it is and that is what you want, fine. If it isn’t what you want in the long term, you may need to re-examine your methods. With power comes responsibility. You (the females in an FLR) have put yourself into a position of making decisions for the both of you. If it isn’t just a power trip, make those decisions wisely.
Again, those are my thoughts. Use them or pitch them. It’s your path to choose, not mine.
Rowe
P.S. To be clear, I am NOT criticizing any of you or what you are doing. I don’t judge others. I’m simply offering my thoughts for your consideration.
R
Lady Alexa says
Each flr and encouraged feminisation is different. You probably need to read back through the years of my posts to get a feel for our particular relationship to understand why humiliation works. Although I write about things from my perspective it takes two to tango and Alice is attracted to humiliation such that it works for both
Rowena Morgan says
I have just finished reading your entire blog last night. I’m in the process of composing an email for you. The main reason I am writing an email is I made notes as I read and it both takes time to organize them and, frankly, the size isn’t really suitable for a comment.
After the previous post didn’t receive a reply I decided I had stepped on a toe or two, simply because I started on the most recent post and was working back to the beginning. So, I stopped commenting and got caught up. Anyway, keep an eye open for it. I hope to send it off soon, but real life has it’s own demands.
Lady Alexa says
I’ve commented now Rowena. There are occasions when I’m occupied on other stuff and it takes a while to get around to my blog
corsetjane says
Oh my…i was on the edge of my seat and squirming (excitedly) for Alice whilst reading your suggestion Ms Rowena. Such a thought provoking reply..so matter of fact and direct…i loved it..thank you..
i wish!….
jane x
Rowena Morgan says
You’re welcome, sweety. BTW, there is no rule I know of that would preclude someone single from doing any or all of these. Just a thought. Enjoy.
Annette says
Humiliation especially in public is a very effective training method. Humiliation is often embarrassing and exciting at the same time. In my FLR with my wife she has grown to enjoy giving humiliation in both private and in public. Its become a turn on for her and also a test of how much control and power she has over me 24/7. It may not be for some but for us its a important part of our FLR.
Lady Alexa says
Yes well explained Annette, it works for us
Rowena Morgan says
Hi Alexa, annette and katie
I am well aware of the uses for humiliation and I’m not saying in any way to not do it. It’s all in the sub and the circumstances. Not every sub gets out of it what you and Alice do. In my experience, I’ve had very few subs into humiliation. From that standpoint, my comments stand and are valid. Obviously, if the sub desires it then it is fair game to use it in any way that would further your goals. In those cases, sometimes the denial of the humiliation does better than the humiliation itself.
My main concern was addressed in the first paragraph of my earlier response. THAT is still true. From the posts that I’d read, there was a lot of talk about power. Humiliation uncontrolled feeds that power trip. I’ve seen Dommes get lost in that power trip. That isn’t good for either of the participants.
What was missed is that when I made the comment I had been reading the blog from the most recent post back to the beginning. I had no context for the humiliation dynamic in this particular relationship as I had read no posts that contained it, so I used what, at least for my experience, was more the norm. I know that making a generalized statement will always bring out the ones for which it isn’t true. It doesn’t bother me to be called on it, especially if it opens up further discussion. It’s only when the discussion devolves into “You’re wrong!” “No, YOU’RE wrong!” that I have issues and would probably just leave.
As I’ve said, I don’t criticize or judge. Everyone has their own path to learn and grow. The most I’m willing to do is offer my insight, but even there I’m detached from whether it is taken or used.
Play safe and enjoy.
Katie says
Humiliation does not to be harsh. In our FLM relationship. I am feminized male housewife. Me putting myself on the blogs, that my dominant female husband, is part of my humiliation. On the 18th while all the other husbands meet together. I was told to go to a movie with another housewife, both of us dressed totally feminine. Another mentally humiliation, everyone saw two woman at a movie. Two weeks ago at county fair, I signed up for every demonstration and information on their products. I have been receiving mail in my feminine name. I had it legally changed six weeks ago. I don’t mind any of these humiliation actions.
Added info especially for Lady Alexa. Other members of our group are now reading your blogs. They haven’t commented yet.
Katie Lynn Lynddey
Annette says
Rowena,
Didn’t say you were wrong. i just posted our feelings on humiliation. i find it so humiliating and exciting at the same time. It also keeps me in my place both mentally and at times physically also. My wife enjoys humiliating me in both public and private as it reinforces her power over me. In public it leaves no doubt as to who is in complete control in the relationship. i have been humiliated in many ways both mild and extreme. Not knowing when i might be humiliated and in what way in public is also exciting. i never know when or who it will be done in front of and also what their reaction will be when my wife humiliates me. When i am given a humiliating task in public my wife loves to see the reactions of others also. For us it works!
Katie Lynn says
First week Nov. we went to sign papers for our new place. Jack will start new job there. Big promotion. The place is about a hour drive. There is about 100k more people.
We will be living there as two lesbian widows. Jack will be the dominant.
I am writing this to show latest humiliation. Jack’s new boss is Marilyn when at work or in dresses or skirts. Otherwise Marvin. Her wife is a feminized male Martina.
Since the retired income from two previous jobs was used for the loan I had to sign. Jack thought it was good that I had to use my new for a legal document.
Celebration the four of us went to a restaurant club. One side of the building was a restaurant. The other side a club live music.
We finished eating and went to the club. It is geared to all lifestyles.
Entering it the were some good ol boys slushing beer. Making some rather crude about female college basketball players. The rest was totally more civilized. We were at a table.
The band was getting started for the evening. Two guys came over and asked me and Martina to dance. We didn’t have a choice.
Don escorted me to the dance area. Marilyn made a gesture to the band. The played a slow sentimental tune.
Don pulled me close and we danced. He told me he was bisexual.
He started to nibble on my ears and neck always making sure I was turned to Marvin and Jack for them to see that.
The dance is over and I thought back to the table to see how red my face was.
Wrong another slow dance. Don held my close whispered in my ear that I was very beautifully for a male in women’s clothes. The dance ended, Don gave me kiss on the lips. I could see my red lipstick on him. We went back to the table. He gave Jack his cell number and E-Mail for me and Jack.
He asks permission of Jack before he talks to me. Jack has no problem with. Jack says Don knows proper procedures.
For Christmas lunch we will eating at Marvin and Martina’s. For dinner Martina and I will eating at Don’s. Marvin’s insistence Martina is to have a date also.
Don has asked Jack for me to go to a gay New Year’s party. Jack is thinking about it only if Martina goes as someone’s date.
I think Jack and Marvin have a place they want to go.
Mrs Katie Lynn Lyndsey.
Lady Alexa says
Thank you for the story Katie although I must confess I got a little confused with all the names and who was a real woman, who was a feminised man and who was bisexual (?)
Katie Lynn says
Marvin. Jack dominant female. Martina Katie submissive males
Don bisexual male
Sorry for confusion
Lady Alexa says
I think it was the male names for the females that confused me. I’m not sure why they use masculine names when women are the dominant sex?
Katie Lynn says
I don’t know why. We don’t deserve any explanation. I guess to add to our humiliation.
jeanie says
I really love, love your blog. I wish I were so fortunate as to be in a real FLR but I’m old and single ( sigh ). Best wishes and keep up the good work.
Lady Alexa says
I’m pleased you love it Jeanie and remember: age is no barrier. We’re hardly spring chickens, especially Alice
ola lundqvist says
Hi there Lady Alexa!
Been reading around on your site and I absolutely love everything! Since I am quite young this is more of a fantasy (but I should maybe start young?)
I am however confused to what you mean when you use the word forced.
As in you put a gun to his head kind of forced or more of small hints to see if he liked it? (And ofc if he did that was your go sign)
I am very intrigued on everything you and your friends have succeeded with!
/Sissy Astrid
Lady Alexa says
Forced doesn’t really exist but is used as cover for males to pretend they had no choice in being feminised. I prefer to say encouraged feminisation as that’s what really happens. I only use the term forced feminisation (with a z spelling on titles) as that’s what people search for
Penelopa says
Permanent change of his body and soul, to be her. even more submissive and obedient than he was. In pretty dresses, with a nice apron when she cooks.
James says
Hello Lady Alexa,
I find your blog very interesting.
Without going into myself (although I do love what you have done with your marriage and have an interest in entering into an FLR) I would like to provide you with a possible solution to your sissy’s clitty.
There is a product, an MTF prosthetic, that will cover your sissy’s parts and make it appear that she has a vagina.
There are several variations of the product but the one that I think you may be interested in is the one that allows the head of her clitty to be exposed for your pleasure.
You can find it at: https://castlesupplys.com/product/masturbator-v/
I hope that this helps you and any other Mistresses looking for a similar solution out.
Lady Alexa says
Thank you James. I’ve considered something like this for some time. Might be the moment soon
Anonymous says
Hi Alexa,
I’ve been reading your posts for some time now but have never commented. I hope you don’t mind me leaving my name as anonymous. I know this post is a bit old but had some ideas you might like to add to Alice’s feminization (if you already haven’t).
Have you thought of (you may have already thought of this I’m sure) getting Alice a custom made necklace or anklet that says Alice so she can wear it around the house or even out? A nice sterling silver one or gold depending on your taste. I think that along with a girly bracelet would be good additions to her feminization journey. Another possible thing if you haven’t tried is to have her wear press on nails (for her hands) during this whole Corona virus outbreak (that is unless her nails are already painted).
Anyways, I hope you like the suggestions and that all is well!
Lady Alexa says
Most of us in this lifestyle hide away a bit. The necklace / anklet idea is nice. Of course, Alice is permanently in pretty nail varnish at present, fingers and toes
Anonymous says
Hi Lady Alexa,
Thanks for writing back. Yeah, the lifestyle is not as prominent in the US as it may be in the UK. I’m glad you like the idea and maybe I’ll see you implement it in the future with Alice. I look forward to reading more of your posts in the future. Stay safe!
Lady Alexa says
I would say the lifestyle is far more prominent in the US than the UK. Around 80% of all the hits on my blog and 80% of all sales of my books are from the USA.
Anonymous says
Oh wow, really? That’s pretty wild, I had no idea. Good to know. I’ve definitely thought about it myself over time but more for play rather than as a lifestyle which I know you’ve mentioned doesn’t work. I’m a male just for reference.
Anonymous says
Hi Lady Alexa,
I’ve also thought of other ideas for Alice if you’re interested. You can get a custom name bracelet and ring that says Alice on it. Etsy has some good options for that! I think it’d be unique if you haven’t considered that before. Hope all is well.
Rachel says
Like
Lita says
After 1 week my Girlfriend made me her Girlfriend and told me that she was going to. I was never interested but I loved when the right Girl Queened me. And after 3 days of being spanked in girly Punishment Outfits I couldnt go back.
Lady Alexa says
Good