Male Chastity, Cock Cages and Submission

male chastity

OK I admit it. I was wrong about male chastity and cock cages, or better, clitty cages. I was blinded by the fact that sissies seem to fantasise about their little thingies being locked up in a clitty cage. I didn’t think about what might be in it for me.
 
Unlike many submissives, Alice isn’t someone who’s desperate to wear a clitty cage. That said, she always said she would always do whatever I told her about chastity devices. Well that goes without saying but I was still nice to hear it. So what happened?

New levels of submission and control

First I want to thank all my followers who send me information about clitty cages and the benefits of locking little clitties away. Alice and I read every piece of advice and this was all invaluable. A special note to corset jane who send me a very extensive email with photos and detailed options. I realise that many of you all are into male chastity but most understood that this wasn’t my motivation
 

Cheaper chastity:

I decided to go for a cheapish silicone device first, to see how Alice got on. I wanted her to have a pink one and for her first ever device to be comfortable. People kept referring to CB6000. I have no idea what this means but I searched on this and found a pink silicone CB6000. The one I chose came in a cute little case with a Hello Kitty logo on it and a Hello Kitty padlock. This was the final deciding factor. If having to wear a male chastity device in pink wasn’t humiliating enough then a little girl’s kitty logo was the icing on a wonderful cake.

Here’s the case: male chastity

 

male chastityNo escape for the cage:

I don’t like to post photos that are too revealing, we need some privacy. This photo is just so good I have to show the world.

Many people told me that it was possible for a submissive to escape from silicone devices. It doesn’t seem possible with this one. The ring clips tightly around the base of Alice’s pussy balls. This means there is not enough room for them to go through. The only way to release the balls is to unlock it. Perfect then.
 
The only problem is that the Hello Kitty lock is quite large. It shows under a skirt or under trousers when Alice is outdoors in male disguise. I don’t want to spoil the line of her skirts.

male chastitySlim-line chastity locks:

To get round this problem I told Alice to buy a more slim-line padlock which she did today. So from now on she will wear the Hello Kitty lock at home as she’s often exposed anyway, and the slim-line lock when out.

 
Thanks to all those who pointed out that a cage comes undone quickly. When I want to play or use Alice’s clitty, which is often, I can unlock it in a moment.

 

What are the benefits of a clitty cage for a domme?

I love it and there’s no going back for Alice. But why, you might ask, is the attraction for me? If you comb the web you find sissies extolling the wonders of chastity and chastity devices. So here’s the viewpoint of a newly converted domme woman.
 

1. Ownership of the male clitty:

I already owned Alice’s clitty and pussy. Encasing it in a device where I owned the key is a physical manifestation of my ownership.
 

2. The insignificance of the male clitty:

It’s important to show how unimportant the male clitty is. Men think with their little things and believe that it is so masculine. It’s not so I’ve always believed that feminisation and belittling of it is necessary. Now I’m locking it away in the clitty cage this reduces its status to nothing.

3. Peeing like a girl:

The only way she can pee is sitting down. At home this isn’t a problem but when we’re out, she’ll use the gents and the urinals. This means she’s not being a girl but acting as a man. This sweeps away the problem as she has to use the sit-down toilet to go, even when out.
 

4. Control of a submissive’s orgasms:

Alice is no longer on control of her orgasms. It truth she didn’t do anything untoward and I am confident she wouldn’t or wouldn’t dare. From a symbolic perspective, it shows that I control it. She can’t even touch it any more as it’s locked away.

Clitty cages are forever but not male chastity

Yes I changed my tune, I’m a convert. This cage is the first and I’ll see how Alice gets on with it. Maybe we can upgrade to something else once I have a bit more experience of the benefits and of any problems. Let’s see. Alice isn’t that keen but is happy to go along with what I want, it couldn’t be any other way. It’s not about male chastity though, it’s about my control of her clitty and what happens to it.

It’s a big step in her increasing submission to have to accept this and that can only be a good thing. Thanks again to everyone who persuaded me. Now…what can I do next?

 

About Lady Alexa

I'm an author and blogger of female domination, forced feminisation and erotica. I live in London with my feminised husband Alice in a Female Led Relationship.
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46 Responses to Male Chastity, Cock Cages and Submission

  1. SillyGirl says:

    I’m so glad you have taken the step. After a “breaking in” period, when you can be sure there are no rubbing or chafing areas, then you can leave it on for extended periods.
    I will bet that if you tell her that her next orgasm is allowed when she begs you to get her ears pierced, she will come around within two weeks. Thus…. you will experience the effect it has on a male.
    After one week I will ask for the most humiliating things just to get relief. (But don’t tell anyone, it’s embarrassing).

  2. Monika Kaemmerer says:

    It is amazing, Lady Alexa, to see how much progress Alice is experiencing under your leadership and control within a few days! I think in a true gynarchial society all genetic males (and the male girls anyway) would live in chastity. Probably, in her need to get relief, Alice will now quickly open up to new horizons of further feminisation, being shaved all over her body (maybe getting laser treatment against facial hair?), getting her ears pierced, getting her eyebrows plucked and her eyelashes done with Mascara, applying clear nail varnish, perhaps even growing her hair et least to some length which would enable her to get a beautiful girl´s haircut (for instance when you go for a vacation trip) and more. There is much she can do, even when it is necessary to be in male attire outside the house.
    I am in a similar situation like Alice has been so far: being my wife´s cute and obedient girl in skirst and dresses 24/7 at home, and often when we go out in the evening, but still needing the hated male attire compromise for some activities outside. So far my wife is not into chastity, and not into any kind of cuckolding. We are in a loving FLR marriage, but not too much driven by very kinky desires as you can find on most pages on the internet.
    But we should keep the CD in mind, and I would willingly accept if my wife wanted to lock my clitty. It seduces me to become more dependent on her than ever before.
    I don´t dare to argue anyway, but this would make it irreversable.
    Alice can be so happy to be your property in a loving relationship. I am curious about the effects of her chastity.

    • Lady Alexa says:

      Pleased to hear your story Monika, very nice. Although I had male chastity in the title it was about the topic rather than any plan to impose chastity on Alice. There will be no chastity, she has an important role to perform and I’m very demanding. The device is for when I’m not there mainly or because I can

    • jim sedrut says:

      such a hot comment!!!!!!!!!!!!

  3. C says:

    Be very careful. On the base ring of this device, you might notice that it has a trough in the middle of it on both sides. Just by looking at it you might notice that this doesn’t seem friendly towards the many angles a man’s genitals can geometrically create, nor does it seem friendly towards the sensitive, pliable skin. And indeed, it isn’t.

    I expect that Alice will have an extremely painful time in this device. And I do mean that. And I wouldn’t be surprised if there was scarring, in fact it is absolutely certain that there is potential for permanent damage if the device is worn for more than even a few days.

    I understand and sympathise with your desire to ‘start cheap’, however, you just can’t do that with chastity devices. You should have gone straight for a Holy Trainer, or even better, a custom steel device.

    Do not let Alice spend long periods of time in this device, she must not sleep in it nor be too far away from the key, and mark my words, she will let you know exactly how painful it is if she is left in it for more than a couple of days.

    I also can’t help but notice that, as well as buying a poor excuse for a chastity device (what use is a chastity device that can rarely if ever be worn?), you have had Alice put it on incorrectly. On the ‘guide peg’, the central peg which links all of the components of the device, she lacks a spacer. This is normally supplied with the device. It sits just in the elliptical grooves of the two adjacent components, and different lengths of spacers can be used with different lengths of guide pegs and different sizes of base rings to find as close to an ideal fit as possible.

    While I admittedly find it questionable that you would neglect to assemble the device properly, I don’t find it at all questionable that your cheapo chastity device was sold to you by a cheapo seller who did indeed neglect to supply all the required parts, in fact I find it likely. A more expensive device sold by a reputable seller would have yielded a much better experience for you, and really, for your first device, you should have focused on the best experience as opposed to the best value.

    Better luck next time. Don’t forget to ask Alice how she’s feeling down there.

    C

    • Lady Alexa says:

      Thank you for your concerns but I did indeed buy from a reputable seller. Why would anyone assume I would not. The device came with all options including 4 spacers of different sizes which are made of transparent plastic so maybe didn’t show up in my admittedly poor photos. I probably need to do another post on this topic as people are under the misunderstanding that Alice’s device is for chastity. As a married couple I do not believe in chastity for Alice. The device will not be worn for days and naturally never at night. She had a service to provide at night time. The device is a physical manifestation of my ownership and control. Nothing more.

  4. Philipp says:

    Congratulations, Lady Alexa! It is great to read and see that you put your submissive housemaid into a clitty cage! She will certainly become even more obedient and submissive and open towards further feminisation now! Your four points are absolutely correct: a cage is a physical symbol of your ownership of “your” clitty, it shows that the clitty is not important, she has to sit down to pee everywhere and she cannot touch the clitty anymore. Well done! I am looking forward to reading further posts on Alice’s ongoing feminisation.

  5. Pam says:

    the cb6000 is a good starter device but there will be some pinching from this device. Maybe soon in the future as you see the benefits of chastity and expand it more as I have done to my husband. We finally ended up with a Prince albert piercing and purchased a Mistress lori’s device. These are truly inescapable and are the best way to insure that there is no self manipulation. Good Luck

    • Lady Alexa says:

      Hello Pan and I agree. It’s just a starter device and I’ll see how things go. There was a bit of punching yesterday after about 4 hours of wear. I like the Prince Albert idea

  6. Britney says:

    The possibilities for control are so endless is made my clit grow a little bit

  7. dafni says:

    Lady Alexa, may I ask if you would ever make alice quit her job to go work as a personal assistant to a Female boss so she can be feminized 24/7 even when she is at work. There is a growing trend for companies to allow and support transgendered workers and I am sure there are many powerful dominant business women who would love to have a thoughtful well trained girl to grab them coffee, go to the cleaners, and handle all menial tasks.

  8. Lady Alexa says:

    Probably not dafni. She works from home mostly anyway so feminisation isn’t necessarily a problem. Besides it would mean a pay cut and I like my comforts

  9. Sophie says:

    I am really curious to know how Alice is finding it.. She must be beginning to like it..

    • Lady Alexa says:

      She doesn’t mind it at all

      • Stephie says:

        My Mistress K has me perform but rarely. AMostly with my tongue, fingers, using her strap on on her. Longest I have ever been denied was 2.5 months and as a reader stated after along enough time it’s possible that the submissive will cum from penetration alone when being taken by their Mistress strap on. I did, do now. My Mistress K derived great pleasure/ power from training me to cum like this. Always says good Gurl, that’s my good sissy Gurl. Then orders the usual clean up. To each their own tho. Your in charge.

  10. Stephie says:

    Great move Lady A. My Mistress/ fiancé has me wearing the exact same device. She said she may get a better one someday but this has worked well. Your right Alice will never be able to cheat when peeing.Mistress K is very good to me tho in that she lets me out of the device when we have a long sexual service session. She knows how much I enjoy feeling my lingerie on my sissy clit plus she usually has me put on her strap on with her favorite big vibrating toy to use on her . This also will make Alice more obedient in every way. It did me. I recommend taping the lock if it does not have a rubber coating as the corners can rip a sissies panties.

  11. Jennie Jaye says:

    Lady Alexa, Congratulations on taking “the first step” in Alice’s journey of chastity. The goal is to know get Alice to realize that her sexual pleasure will transfer from the sensations she receives from her clitty to those of her “boi pussy”. Your enjoyment of Alice has to change also. The next step is for your desires to be satisfied by Alice is through the use of strapons both for her and you.

    Let me explain: the act of receiving sexual pleasure from Alice must be derived with Alice wearing a strapon while in chastity and Alice’s penetration of you through the use of that strapon. In turn Alice’s ‘pleasure” will be derived from you wearing a strapon and penetrating her boi pussy.

    Overtime, Alice will start to have ‘sissygasms’ which are derived from the pleasure of your strapon rubbing against her prostate. Once Alice starts to realize sissygasms are pleasurable (which she will) this will be the only way she will want to have sex, thus ever expanding and deepening her feminization.

    Whatever, you do, DO NOT take off the chastity device and encourage Alice to perform in a masculine sexual way. This will only deter you from your actual goal of feminizing Alice.

    • Lady Alexa says:

      You’re forgetting it’s not about Alice’s sexual pleasures but mine

      • whyguys says:

        Superb Point, Ms Alexa…

        Suspect many here do not appreciate YOUR motives here that, YES, all that occurs to Alice is dependent upon YOUR empowerment, but also upon YOUR vision of how Alice’s growing submission and feminization add to YOUR fulfillment, sexual and/or otherwise….

        If Alice’s increasingly becoming the perfected male girl mate imagined reaps benefit however often from her training, not only so be it… but ALL THE BETTER as she shall develop even farther into the subsidiary feminine helpmate you as a Female Master deserve.

        Lady Alexa… You perfectly comprehend Woman’s ultimate victory and self-actualization shall be when the male sex is subdued. Then the male girl shall, in knowing loving, feminine contriteness and appreciation rightfully yields to Woman’s superior nature and power. And after such proper demure obedience is offered to the Woman, the Female Master may offer Her male girl Love and Protection due his place as Her beloved ‘weaker vessel’…

  12. whyguys says:

    Just for Your consideration on whether you might like one of alice’s chastity controls at times to hide the previously vaunted male sex organ – and thus keeping her more ‘ladylike’, here is one such model

    http://www.neosteel.de/Ns070801.GIF

    http://www.neosteel.de/Ns070201.GIF

    Do not know how up-to-date it is, but their sit was

    “http://www.neosteel.de/Nsepcbs.htm”

  13. Patricia says:

    Firstly, I have to congratulate you on putting Alice into clitty cage decision. You won’t regret it, I am sure. It is great to see her humilated and denied. Chastity makes perfect submissives with balls full of cum and no release. From long point of view, she will do anything for you even getting her eyes pierced, because chastity is total mind blower for her. Don’t let her out soon, girls don’t have a cock, she belongs into the cage. It is also very likely that she will beg for anal penetration, as chastity makes penetration much more rewarding, she might also cum from it. Anyway, have you ever considered corset training for Alice? It might be another thing, that you may add for her further feminisation. I would also appreciate more photos of Alice in chastity on the website. She could be masked, suck a strapon while in chastity and butt plugged. Have a great time.

    • Lady Alexa says:

      I may take some more photos yes good idea. But as I’ve written in the post there will be no chastity. That’s a male need, I need Alice to perform

      • SillyGirl says:

        Yes, Lady Alexa, I believe many or most of your readers understand that. As for my suggestions, I send my ideas as data points for you to gather and ponder. Some idea that may be way off of what you desire may spark another idea that you may like.
        As for myself, I may not especially “like” wearing the cage, but it does wonderful and powerful things to my psyche (hope I spelled that correctly). My Keyholder picks up on that immediately and it encourages and empowers her, and makes her happy. And that is the whole point anyway.
        The Keyholder can have it both ways; she can experience the additional power and control and still have the “performance” when and where it is needed. Actually, I really believe you will notice the difference in general behavior when the device is left on for a few days.
        My wife/Keyholder and I are rather new to this, under two months, but as of today I have been locked for eight days and am getting to the point of begging. I emailed her to be aware and not let me have a full orgasm because of the post-orgasmic letdown. I’m sure that this is “old hat” to you, but I think it may be what some of your readers are trying to say. Anyhow, experiment and have fun!!

        • Lady Alexa says:

          Nice comments SillyGirl I understand your point. Mine is more that many ‘subs’ write telling me about the pleasures of chastity for Alice and themselves and what I should do which is not Female Domination but a passive male domination. I have a lovely marriage and therefore I do like Alice to have pleasure but… ours is an FLR

          • SillyGirl says:

            Ahhhhhh…. OK, I understand. That makes sense. I’ve done that myself, start out trying to say what the advantages for the Keyholder are, but end up saying what the advantages for the sub are.
            When you are a loving and caring Keyholder, the line often blurs and moves when offering your sub pleasure. There are times, and then again, there are times… 😉

          • Lady Alexa says:

            You’ve got it SillyGirl that’s exactly the point

        • jim sedrut says:

          Great share,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

          • SillyGirl says:

            Thank you. I appreciate that. I am a left brain, logical, sequential, all facts and no feelings engineer type and it is difficult for me to express myself.

          • jim sedrut says:

            You did fine:)))))))))))

    • Connie Amanda says:

      Never seen pierced eyes before. Is it still possible to wear glasses ?

  14. Missi Maid says:

    A wonderful post, Lady Alexa. My wife/mistress started me in a pink cb6000s. Her goal was control and chastity and it certainly made it clear that my desires were not significant.

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