Being a dominant lady, leading a forced feminization and FLR marriage, is more than about using force of personality to get your way. There are a variety of techniques a lady needs to use to develop the relationship, to change the behaviour of their husbands and to make them more submissive.
Putting your man in feminine clothing, or lack of it, is one such important strategy when maintaining and controlling a submissive husband. Pretty dresses and skirts have an astonishing effect on male behaviour, a bit like putting him on an oestrogen drip.
Language is another important element in any forced feminization and FLR marriage. I don’t think I’ve covered this before as a specific topic, so here goes.
USING LANGUAGE TO MANAGE AN FLR
I’ve always been a demanding lady, if I’m being honest. I do enjoy telling people what to do. Well, telling men what to do really. Although Alice is my first (and last) true forced feminization and FLR relationship, in all the relationships before I met her, I was most definitely the boss.
However, living and working in our society, I would not get much done, even in a vanilla relationship, if I ordered people around all the time. Well, unless I was in the armed forces or the blue-light services. In vanilla life, you have to be reasonably polite and use the correct language.
ORDERS AND INSTRUCTIONS
At home in a formal FLR, it’s a different case. Although I’m not a tyrant, I am able to be more forceful and use more direct language. In fact, it’s important not to use socially polite language, as it may indicate that something is up for discussion or debate. It can weaken your leadership even.
These days, living in a real-life FLR, I am able to be natural and to use language that is clear and unequivocally an order. It’s still loving, but without some of the social constructions that make the orders more palatable to others.
For example, I avoid some modal verbs such as: would could, may/might, should and so on. Those verbs soften your request and often turn it into a question, a request or a seeking of agreement. Not an order then.
Modal verbs that do come into play are must and have to. You must do this, you have to do that etc. In most situations, it’s the reversal of what you’d use in everyday life away from your husband.
That said, we don’t live in a prison camp here at home, so my instructions and orders are firm, but given without malice. For example:
“Alice, once you’ve cleared up the dinner things, I want you to massage my feet.” (Not – would you massage my feet)
“Be a good girl and get me a cup of coffee.” (Not – could you get me a cup of coffee)
“Get upstairs and into a skirt now. Just do it.” Not – could you get changed please)
And so on. I’m clear, firm, in charge, but gentle. Alice knows where she stands and what to do. I liken this to the style, although not the content, of that of a boss and her secretary, the army officer and a private, a police superintendent and a constable.
THE IMPORTANCE OF NAMES IN FORCED FEMINIZATION AND FLRs
Changing your submissive husband’s name to something feminine is, for me, so important in any relationship like ours. I did this early in our FLR and it’s been effective in breaking down my husband’s masculinity which increases femininity and submission.The wearing of feminine clothing, and the sound of a feminine name, work perfectly together. Like strawberries and ice cream.
I have further cemented the status level by, nowadays, mostly calling her girl. This takes things up a level, or is that down a level? I focus on her being a girl as a gender and our status difference being such that I have a title: Mistress. She is just referred to by her gender. Note, I use girl and not woman.
Changing the name of her little thing is vital. Obviously, she has a clitty and a pussy now. I’ve stared to call her clitty her little princess, copying one of my followers, the mistresses Katrina’s, approach with her husband. If you don’t do this, males will see their little thing as masculine. We really don’t want masculinity rearing it’s nasty little head now do we.
Like clothing, language is so powerful in setting reality.
REGULAR CHANGES HELP TO KEEP FEMINISATION FRESH
You would think that now I’ve got Alice where I want her and we’re both living that way that all is fine. It’s all very good, but in my experience an FLR with a feminised husband needs occasional shake ups to maintain the tension.
Alice knows that if it were possible, I’d want her as a girl 24/7. This worries her. She knows I’ll keep pushing and I don’t believe there are any real boundaries. It’s more about the sensibilities of others in society, family, friends.
After about five years as a girl, Alice can, at times, become somewhat used to wearing a dress or skirt. I therefore like to shake things up a bit, to keep the tension going and my control in place. If I think Alice looks too comfortable in a pretty skirt, I’ll make her remove it and she spends the evening or morning naked.
I’ve invited a sissy we know well to spend an evening with us. That will really shake Alice up. Then, later in the month, a mistress will come to see us. This changes the dynamic and maintains Alice’s tension, keeping things fresh and on the edge.
NAMING YOUR HUSBAND IN AN FLR
I’ve been thinking recently. Alice is a nice feminine name and calling her girl works well too. I’ve been using Alice and girl as names for sometime. I think I’m missing a trick though. In the main, I’ve developed Alice into a fairly normal girl. Yes she wears pinks, whites and mini skirts and dresses, but most things are what we buy from stores aimed at real women. That’s good as I’m not so keen on her looking like a sissy.
I think it’s time to ramp things up a little more. Maybe more girly, more overtly feminine. Not sissy, but definitely more girly.
To start then, I’m going to add a few more feminine pet names for everyday use. A few come to mind nd I’m going to start using them at home and outside:
Princess, flower, babygirl, tulip, twinkie, kitten, petal, fairy, girly, blossom, Tinkerbell
I’ll probably drop the plain girl and use girly from now on as a start. I like the diminutive sound of girly more. I think these pet names would add a new level of frisson, especially outside the home and with others.
A NEW NAME FOR MY GIRLY?
Names and language are, therefore, an important part of a forced-feminization FLR. As I want to increase Alice’s girlyness and give her even more femininity, some new cute girly pet names are going to help.
However, I’m now left wondering whether to change Alice’s proper female name as well. I do like the name Alice, and it’s feminine. These days, here in London, maybe it’s become a little everyday for nice middle-class young ladies. What I’m thinking about is something much more girly-girl. Something more embarrassing for her when I use it in front of others.
I also sometimes get the feeling that when I call her Alice outside the home others might mishear it for Alan or Al is… or something. I haven’t noticed anyone ever doing a double take or looking. I’m not sure it stands out enough as girly girl.
Maybe what she needs then is a brand new girly name that really screams girly and there’s no doubt. Some pet names are going have that effect. Can you imagine me calling her princess in a coffee bar?
I’m thinking a name like Mandy or Candy, Lacy or Lily? Perhaps Poppy or Sophie, Jessie or Tiffany. How about Cindie or Chloe?
I’m not sure whether to do this or not as Alice is Alice and her name has bedded in with me, her and our friends. I think of her as Alice, even though I usually called her girl (now girly). What should I do?
I’d love to hear your opinions about whether to make a proper name change for Alice. Maybe you have some other ideas? They must be excruciatingly and obviously girly.
And if you know of any other nice girly-girl pet names that I maybe haven’t thought of then do let me know.
I’m really looking forward to your comments on this one.