In this article, I want to look at forced feminisation from another angle which is not somuch as feminising but as removing masculinity from your husband or partner
As regular readers know, I believe that feminising your husband or partner is vital in a functioning FLR. But part of feminisation, is also removal of masculinity.
Can Masculinity exist in an FLR?
No, no and no.
How can you lead and be the one making decisions when your husband (or partner) still thinks like a man? If he still has that masculine aggression, if he is lead by his willy, if he thinks he’s always right? Men therefore have to be feminised, but is that enough?
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You can force feminise your and put him in dresses, wigs, give him a feminine name and so on but is he a now a girl or a man in a dress? I would suggest from my experience that those nasty male traits can still surface from time to time.
What we need to do is to remove and strip away any masculinity and replace with it with pure submission and femininity. Only when he believes he’s really feminine will you have what you need; a submissive sissy girl.
Removing Masculinity
My big challenge was not only getting Alice to wear female clothing or even to accept being called Alice or a girl but to get her to accept that it’s no longer a sex game but a real change in her whole way of living. This has to be a psychological change.
To be honest, I’m not there yet with Alice but even being some way down the road to removing her masculinity is a vast improvement on what I had before. Maybe she’ll never be quite there but I’m aiming for 90%.
Time to Remove Masculinity
Much of forced feminisation and petticoating focuses on the outward appearances of your partner. This isn’t enough to get to a true FLR. It’s a great start though and a real pleasure to see. The necessity is to get into a male’s head that his masculinity is dead.
Re-enforcement of the message and constant reminders are required to show him that he’s a sissy girl. It’s an overhead for a mistress but one that’s worth the trouble. Incremental gains can be difficult to spot until, every so often, you notice that he’s doing something naturally that you’ve been working on for ages. It’s so satisfying.
Female habits, rituals and routines all help this process. As a mistress you need to be focussed on the process and ruthless in spotting transgressions and stamping them out immediately.
I like the fact that now I have now put CFNM in our relationship on some occasions and this doesn’t affect Alice’s femininity. Maybe I should have said CFNG; Clothed Female Naked Girl?
Removing masculinity is the only approach to feminisation of men
I’ve realised from my relationship that in any FLR and in a forced feminisation process you should never forget to strip away the male side at the same time as you are building up a man’s femininity.
It’s easy for your feminised male to remember to curtsey if he’s in a dress but does he remember if he’s naked? That’s the test. Forcing your feminised husband to be naked does introduce a potential problem in the clitty being on show.
This is part of the psychology and constant reinforcement of the renaming to a clitty and pussy and its feminisation. A shaved pussy balls and clitty and a nice triangle of pubic hair works well although I think a little pink bow is also nice as is my new-found enthusiasm for a clitty cage.
Framing it with stockings and a suspender belt works well as seen above.
Feminisation means removing masculinity
Putting your male into female clothing is only half the battle. What you really need to do is change his thinking to achieve the desired result in all relationships. A submissive sissy girl should be the destiny of any man and the goal of every woman.
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Sallyblonde says
Doesn’t constantly forcing feminisation ultimately lead to loss of masculine traits and automatic adoption of female actions,so small steps,swinging hips and arm movements, curtsying just become natural whether naked dressed in girly clothes or indeed male clothing.
Curtsey
Sally
Lady Alexa says
In my experience no. Perhaps I should have been clear about the difference between those males who embrace femininity and those who don’t – Alice
IanBrianna says
Dear Lady Alexa,
In my humble experience, it is when a sub male’s breasts start to sprout that he realizes his masculinity is on the wing.
Yours,
IanBrianna
Lady Alexa says
Probably but no hormones so it has to be in the mind
trissie1955m says
Ian Brianna,
What happened was that my breasts have seriously started to sprout as I increasingly accepted and then embraced my femininity, there were no medications. My male clit seems to have dried up, this is a huge relief to me. Today I am being taken by the hand to the very limits of my femininity and there tested,
Never in my life have I felt so fulfilled, but there again, I have a wonderful teacher who I respect, obey and love unreservedly.
In some ways I have it all.
whyguys says
Oh Mz Alexa… Your growing insight and understanding of how the sexes must and shall evolve are a model that Females should learn, internalize and disseminate!
“The need is to get into a male’s head that his masculinity is dead. Re-enforcement of the message and constant reminders that he’s a girl.”
Truly necessary is the termination of male ego and pretense. Repetitive reminder of the male’s proper feminine nature must be a constant overwrite in erasing her past errant behavior and thought patterns.
“Maybe I should have said CFNG; Clothed Female Naked Girl?”
Hilarious… yet a true insight. Putting feminine attire is a start, but frills and lace placed on the outside do not make a ‘man’ a Woman! But if she offers a true curtsy yet naked without skirt she is well on to being a Female’s sweet tempered and obedient male girl forever.
“Never forget to strip away the male side at the same time as you are building up a man’s femininity.”
Much the same vein as above. The male in the hands of a skilled Woman is much like a fine but unfinished piece of wood. Her strong skilled hands must sand and smooth Her male’s rough angular edges until she is a smooth and curvaceous delight to Her sight, touch and mind.
“This is part of the psychology and constant reinforcement of the renaming to a clitty and pussy and its feminization.”
ALL previous definitions and distinctions between Female and male must be corrected redefined and clarified.
“A submissive girl should be the destiny of any man and the goal of every woman.”
These changes are NOT a simple reversal but the next inherent step in the unfolding of human, or if You prefer WOMANKIND’s FUTURE!
Lady Alexa says
Let’s hope that more women follow my lead
whyguys says
Mz Alexa… that the number and percentage of Women like You are increasing is more than a hope… it is a promise.
Her & Him says
I hope so too
Brian O'Neill says
Indeed Miss. I can see the total logic of Your approach. i suspect from previous experience, my submission would be suited to Your ideals. But i equally suspect that many dominant females do not favour the feminisation approach.
Submissively
Brian (UC by Mistress Ayesha)
Philipp says
This article really scared me. Espececially this part: “The need is to get into a male’s head that his masculinity is dead. Re-enforcement of the message and constant reminders that he’s a girl.” If a woman achieves that with her male, then her (or better she) is really her submissive and obedient girl.
whyguys says
Philipp…. er… is that not exactly the desirous end result the growing cadre of Female ascendants seek? It’s a fait accompli that shall be up to the male girl to accept or not fit in future society.
Lady Alexa says
That’s the plan Philipp
Sophie says
Actually the transformation mentally into a submissive girl is the first part of transition as you had rightly advised in my case.The submission to the lady,doing the household chores and becoming her vassal and change in the thinking , in the gait etc. I remember i first changed the way i spoke..began speaking softly, sit straight with legs close to each other or crossed etc. the mental change came first then the change in the dress etc. further i totally agree it should be CFNG not CFNM. curtseys Lady A
Lady Alexa says
I trust you’re still wearing a bra fill time?
Sophie says
Yes Lady A i have been wearing a bra full time now.i have got used to wear the bra to work.maybe some ppl may have noticed but i am comfortable and feel relaxed wearing a bra fukl time..curtseys
Lady Alexa says
That’s what I like to hear
Stephie says
Excellent posts Lady A ! So agree with your observations. At first tho naturally submissive I was reluctant to try FLR/ and to be feminized, become my fiancé s sissy as I vet stated before. I looked at it at first as a sex game I admit but the more Iread, studied Femdom etc, which was required , the more I was required to really put into practice my feminine routine and corrected many times my masculine traits began to go away. SoI was forced to a extent in the very beginning but I came to realize this is who I am, what I was ment for. And as I’ve said no hormones for me,her decision. However I’m pretty much the submissive, feminine, sissy my Mistress/fiancé has trained me to be just 3 weeks shy now of 2 yrs since she started me down this path. As I’ve said before I’ve also found the chastity, or as Mistress K calls it my clitty cage to have really made me even more obedient, wanting to please her even more. And yes as you stated above always refer to your subs parts as clitty, pussy. Stephie
Lady Alexa says
Nice comment Stephie. It would be interesting to hear your mistress’s point of view?
william brown says
why no estrogen to grow his breast and shrink his penis
Lady Alexa says
read my other posts to get the answer
Jan says
Lady Alexa speaking as a submissive male who has been submissive for as long as I can remember this slave has no wish to be feminine in any way my Mistress loves that she has a male that she controls in every way Mistresses slave has no say her slave does what hes told and as a submissive male to a beautiful African Mistress who is very dominant and knows how to get the best out of a male slave but this is the point her slave is male if any of you have ever been to Africa it is what looks like men run the show but look a little deeper and you will see this is not true in many cases to go back to my point this slave submissive male what ever you want to call him he serves his Mistress her needs come first at all times we are not married so outward sign that this slave belongs to any one but as Mistress said she has a metal ring and cage in a more important place
Missi says
Amazing post, ma’am. my feminTion started with Her having authority over me and all decisions. Miss Emily took her time before I was in panties and then aprons. By the time she started on my appearance I was more female than male. as I mentioned I am Joe Her maid full time.
Curtsy
Lady Alexa says
And so you should be- a feminised maid
Daisy says
Good post. I like your comparison of how a woman should want her husband feminized. You can’t just aim for him to be a man in a dress. You have to aim for him to be a girl.
Roberta says
Compression panties for disappearing penis and eliminating scrotum “show” also contribute towards happy feminization of my bra-wearing femhusband.
Tricia says
May I suggest feminine hobbies and a banning of old male hobbies? My mistress loves to see me performing cross stitching. I make things for her friends and it occupies the last two hours of my day. I sit facing my Mistress as she talks or watches tv on the couch. She also had me learn sewing and I have made a maid’s uniform and a lolita dress.
Lady Alexa says
I’m not keen on banning hobbies my sissy husband enjoys or forcing her to do stuff she finds boring. I allow her to watch sport on tv for example as long as she is in a skirt. I am able to keep her submissive anyway.
male believer says
My situation is that I’m only able to totally wear female garments when I sleep. I do wear panties and hosiery under my pants during the day. Unfortunately I don’t have a lady to rule over me (not easy to find). I do enjoy wearing a underwire bra at night. I dream of the day when women rule completely over males. Males and boys proudly use miss and mrs. before their names, men are wives and they take the women’s entire name (first and last) as their own! Lady Alexa I curtsy to you.