I would hope to have answered the question in the title from my own perspective by now. That said, I have one type of FLR and there are many other types. It’s a spectrum with a vanilla marriage with the wife in charge all the way through to a BDSM / slave type relationship
My own FLR is some way along the FLR spectrum. It’s certainly not vanilla as I expect my husband to be feminised and I practice some minor physical punishment. But I would certainly categorise it as a loving FLR on both sides.
Recently I’ve been in correspondence with Mistress Sidonia from the English Mansion. Mistress Sidonia is a bit further along the FLR spectrum and has written a good article on the topic of FLRs in which she has kindly referenced me.
I suggest you have a look and at her videos on the topic by clicking through to her post here