The dilemma of living in a relationship with a feminized husband is something that must face many women in a female-led marriage. It’s certainly a bit of a conundrum for me. How so you might ask?
My quandary is this: I want my feminized husband to be as female looking as possible, but also to remain biologically male underneath. For this post I’m going to look at why I want him to remain male, why I want him even more feminised than he is now and then how I think I can square this circle.
A FEMINIZED FLR IS OUR GOAL
I know from my correspondence with other ladies in FLRs with feminized husbands, that they have various methods to satisfy the dilemma. Most, if not all, women I speak to in FLRs are not pushing for their husbands to undergo a surgical sex change. It’s more about feminising their husbands as part of the FLR process.
For example, a regular contributor to my blog is Cathy. We also communicate privately. She has a slightly different approach to me, and she is also a loving female authority, but for her male performance isn’t so important as it is for me.
So let’s look at my specific dilemma; the dilemma of wanting apparently mutually exclusive objectives. I want a fully feminized husband with the attributes of a girl in all ways but one: her clitty must function as a male’s in bed.
THE BENEFITS OF A FEMINIZED FLR
I have gone into the advantages for women in feminising their husband’s many times. The change in their behaviour, attitudes, manners and care make the investment worth every bit of effort.
Men themselves will find the changes, brought about by their feminisation, are to their benefit too. They become calmer, less aggressive and confrontational. They find the need to be competitive and macho slips away. Taking orders from a loving female authority releases them from stress and responsibility.
Another important benefit for those of us in an FLR with a feminized husband, is the erotic tension it brings to our sex lives. Simply put, it’s highly stimulating for both parties. So much so for men, that it can be used by us as a powerful relationship-control mechanism. I know from my correspondence with other women like me, we all use this.
And this is what causes my dilemma. We find our feminized husbands more sexually exciting. To me, it’s a mix of my husband’s feminine appearance and the power I get from having moulded him into a girl.
I can therefore, control my husband through the intense sexual tension and excitement he gets from being feminised. I get the satisfaction in bed from my own excitement at his feminisation.
The issue therefore, is how to turn him into a girl in appear, behaviour and body, without the use of hormones and drugs which would affect one of the most important reasons for feminising him in the first place.
A dilemma indeed.
A HUSBAND SHOULD BE A GIRL
I’ve feminised my husband, to a point. As regular readers will know, she is fully feminised at home and in female underwear outside. There is much further to go still.
I’m working on my husband having breasts. I don’t think I can get to where Cathy’s husband’s breasts are, but towards an A cup maybe.
Exercise and the breast pump have not given Alice anything like a female breast. She has some muscle there which, under a tee shirt, looks vaguely pronounced. I have had some suggestions for herbal solutions and I may have to try these.
Anyway, I found padded bras which Alice now wears. Under her clothing they look good. She even wears them under her male clothing when out. Not too big to attract stares, but visible.
The biggest dilemma now is the male clitty. On the one hand, it’s needed for control purposes and for bedroom activities. On the other hand, it looks so damn male.
I do enjoy feminising it, humiliating it and so on. I’ve renamed it the little princess, which makes Alice squirm. I also use a female pronoun to talk about it: she’s very pretty tonight, she’s a cute little clitty, and so on.
The problem is, under panties and even through a tight skirt, the lump shows up. I only want to see Alice’s lump at certain times. All other times, I want a flat crotch look, hopefully with little vagina lips.
It’s the the feminized husband dilemma.
SQUARING THE CIRCLE WITH A FEMINIZED HUSBAND
The penny dropped when I got a message on Fetlife. It was from a submissive man who only identified himself as 305FLR. He sent me a link to a US website called koalaswim.com. We don’t have anything like this in England, not that I know about anyway.
The website sells various items of clothing, or what they call transformation design. I’ve already chosen some panties for Alice called Sex Doll and Clever Girl Thong. Maybe Pink Girl and Lady Gear Shorts too.
What they do is tuck a man’s clitty flat whilst spreading their pussy balls into a vagina lips shape. Fantastic. I’ve written to koalaswim and they will deliver to the UK, although the delivery charges are a bit much, coming from the USA of course.
Never mind, it should go some way to solving my dilemma for Alice. It’s a price worth paying.
Have a look here. There’s no affiliate marketing, I just love the look for Alice.
IT’S A COMPROMISE WITH A FEMINIZED HUSBAND
The solution then, is around body shaping your husband in the gym, managing his diet and finding him clothing that shapes him into the female form you want.
The vagina shaping panties are now on my Christmas present list for Alice. She’s a little worried about her cute little clitty being squashed flat in tight panties. It’s price she’ll have to learn to pay.
Since I got the idea from an email out of the blue, I’m sure there are many of you who know of other types of body-shaping clothing I can use on Alice. I’d be really keen if you know of anything in the UK?
Do comment and let me know.
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