I hear from many people who are in a real world FLR and others who would like to be. Often an FLR goes hand in hand with forced feminisation of the husband or male partner.
However, many of the males who write to me dreaming of a forced-feminisation FLR don’t realise that it works both ways. What exactly is in it for the female partner? I can only say to these dreamers; be careful what you wish for….
One of my regular readers, Sheila, has solved this dilemma very nicely, turning her husband’s desires into a benefit for her too.
Her husband dared to wish. The outcome was that if he wanted to be feminised then he would have to do it her way. Or there was no way.
Sheila’s FLR relationship is very similar to my own, with the difference that it was her husband who wanted to be feminised. Whereas I really do prefer men to look feminine, so had to I push my hubby into it.
It’s a fascinating post; get a coffee or a nice large glass of wine, sit back, relax and enjoy Sheila’s very special story of her own real world FLR.
HOW OUR FLR STARTED
I have a husband who thinks he prefers to wear women’s clothes. This desire started many years ago before we met. We have been working to find middle ground in our relationship on this subject for the past 4-5 years.
When we met about 10 years ago, he was already wearing women’s panties, stockings, slip dresses and a few other minor items. I was not excited about it, but we kept the panties and I tried to get rid of the rest. This was our first middle round solution.
He says he started his need to wear female clothing began when his previous wife was into being a nudist. He chose to wear women’s clothing and lingerie instead of being nude. This was either around home, when socializing with nudists or even when she was nude in semi-public places.
I am still not sure if she pushed him in that direction as an ultimatum to being nude with her or if he found it on his own.
THE EARLY DAYS OF OUR MARRIAGE
For the first few years of our relationship, he continued to wear panties under his male clothes. Otherwise, not much was said about it. I tolerated it without enthusiasm.
About 4-5 years ago, he started suggesting he could wear stockings, women’s pants/trousers, shorts, some tops and even skirts and heels. I was somewhat sad to hear this and I also felt less feminine myself with a husband who wanted to dress like me.
I also felt I would be embarrassed to be with him in public while he was dressed in what were obviously women’s clothes. I was not sure where this was going or what my response should be.
I remember that time in my life; I thought a lot about this. How I should deal with having a husband who wanted to wear female clothing. It had always been a challenge to shop with him in men’s clothing stores. It was just buy something and leave.
Shopping in women’s clothing stores with him has been a much more relaxing and enjoyable experience. We were always looking at different things and I was trying things on and talking about them. He had been living his interest in women’s clothes through me.
I saw there was a difference in how he felt about this somewhat sensitive subject. I realised it was time to work out a way to find a mutual understanding. To find a mutual benefit.
HOW I DEALT WITH MY HUSBAND WANTING TO BE FEMALE
I was not that excited about the idea of my husband wearing women’s clothes, especially if he were to look like a woman. I decided therefore, if this was going to happen, he should also experience the difficulty that we endure in the name of being feminine.
If anyone were to feel embarrassed, it should be him.
I explained to him that I would agree to him being feminised but the catch was that he does it my way. That means he does it the whole way or not at all. He becomes feminised. No half-way house; no prancing around in a pretty little skirt for a few hours at home for his own personal enjoyment.
There would have to be something in it for me. That something would be my amusement at his discomfort, full control over his dressing. And as I found out, the beginnings of our real world FLR.
If he decided he wanted to continue, I was going to control what he wore and I would find ways to embarrass him and make him do things he would find uncomfortable.
This discomfort would include not only normal female clothing like skirts, but also makeup, female hairstyle, nails and some of the things he would find less enjoyable such as tight sports bras and spandex shorts in the gym, taking yoga classes in women’s yoga clothes with makeup on, watching chick-flick movies, reading magazines such as Allure, Women’s Health, Vogue, etc.
There were also, to be changes in our sex life. Without more details, he had to agree or not. My way or no way. Probably without consideration to what was in his future, he agreed to my way. Then I explained more details so he knew what I had decided.
I explained sex was going to change. He knew I never enjoyed oral sex so the only thing I suck would be his nipples. Also, since he enjoyed seeing me with cum on my lips, face and nipples, I would be doing that to him. He was also expected to swallow his cum, not me. If he cums while I suck his nipples, I take it in my mouth and then kiss him to put it in his mouth and he swallows.
If we have sex, I sit over or on his mouth and make him take it with his tongue and swallow or I drip and rub it onto his face and nipples. He squirmed a lot at the thought of some of this but the agreement had to be all (as I had decided) or nothing.
Also, the clothing and feminine training would be the same as for any real girl learning to be a woman. I would work to make him be a better girl.
He chose to go with it and agreed to my terms.
THE FIRST YEARS OF OUR REAL WORLD FLR
For the first couple of years I really pushed female training on him. This included watching YouTube videos on makeup, fashion, nail care and nail painting, face cleaning, moisturising and so on.
I made sure he took care of all his feminine details every morning, if he was not going to work.
I think this had something to do with retiring early, since people were starting to see him out on weekends with makeup, painted nails, women’s shorts or capris, etc.
At this time, I seldom put him in skirts and heels except at home. We did not include bras at this point.
After we retired and moved, I decided to change his wardrobe. He no longer needed much male clothing. We picked a few of the better things he had for those times that he needed to be ‘normal’ and threw out the rest.
As time went on, it had brought us around to finding a comfortable level of feminisation and I have accepted that I live with someone who is not the man I thought I would have.
In place of that, I have taken the challenge to keep him on his toes with the details and work it takes to be a woman. I push a little at times to make his dress more feminine than he ever wanted, including in public.
He knows to get up each morning, shower and shave. Everything. He has to do at least minimal makeup, usually pulls his hair up in a pink scrunchy, wears lace panties and usually a bra, short girl shorts, women’s jeans, flowery capris or a skirt with women’s tops and sandals (1 ½” heel) around the house.
He must keep his nails filed and painted always. The only difference going outside the house is that he has to do more makeup; I insist on details. He wears 2″ heel ankle boots in the winter but almost never wears a skirt.
He must keep his body smooth, with occasional waxing and shaving in between. I take him to hair salons and explain to the lady to cut his hair as if he were a girl. I ensure it stays shoulder length with bangs / fringe. With his nails painted and wearing women’s clothes, it is obvious to them what he is.
HOW I WANT MY HUSBAND TO BE IN OUR REAL WORLD FLR
I am not trying to make my husband be a real girl, just to be a feminised male. As such, I insist he wear women’s clothes and experience the challenges that women deal with and the social expectations to look good.
He has to do it in public as well as in private with the associated learning to deal with embarrassment for wanting to wear women’s clothes.
Neither of us is interested in the sissy or over-the-top dressing, just a feminine look for a 40-50 year old woman. I do this to be sure he has to deal with more than the fun he wanted to have in private by dressing in a panties, skirt, heels or lace blouse.
Especially now that we do not have the responsibility of work, I have done things over the last couple years to intentionally push him further.
The daily wear for shopping and running around in our neighbourhood is panties and sometimes a bra, women’s sandals with a short heel, short women’s shorts or pants/capris (weather dependent). Added to this, a top that might be uni-sexual, painted nails and makeup.
VENTURING OUT AS A FEMINIZED MAN
Over the last couple years, he has had to sew his own string bikini and wear it at resort pools or beaches on vacations with others there. Even without a bikini top on, he has tan lines that look like he had tanned with the top on so having his shirt off in public is an obvious embarrassment.
Before we go on car trips, I tell him a couple days ahead what I want him to pack and to wear. This gives him time to worry and be stressed a little because I have sometimes made him wear skirt and heels with a bra that may show on trips in the car.
It sounds easy but this means him having to use public restrooms & highway rest areas, fill the car with gas/petrol and go into restaurants & hotels, etc.
One day when we were on a short hike, I convinced him he needed to wear a skirt and a very feminine sheer top. I gave him an option to not wear the skirt and just the top and panties. He chose the skirt to cover the panties.
Yes, he has been embarrassed many times.
I have recently started calling him Sarah and expect him to use that name in magazine subscriptions, frequent buyer programs at stores, when meeting people on vacations, etc.
WHY DO I DO IT?
My reason for occasionally insisting on bras, skirts & heels and him using a female name all in public is two-fold.
- First, because he thought he wanted it so I gave it to him. This has to come with a little embarrassment. Be careful what you ask for in life.
- Secondly, I push his boundaries to keep my control over his dressing. I keep him on the edge of suspense not knowing what to expect.
I do not get sexually excited seeing him dressed feminine, quite the opposite. I do feel like it is something in our relationship I can manage and have a specific say in. Because of this, it works.
Maybe women feel like they do not get that in relationships but it is my little piece of control. I can ask for many things this way, such as spending more on clothing, shoes, makeup, new nail polish colours, etc.,
He is also getting to share the female shopping experience so we both benefit. We enjoy mutual discussions about fashion, colours, style, nail care. He does my nails and we both have facials and makeup in department stores, etc.
But, there is a bigger picture. While I can ask his opinion on many things in our life, I can expect to make the decision in the end if we do not agree. This is the key to to how it works.It’s a female-led relations. I’m in charge. I get something out of it. A lot.
This is something that makes me more secure in our relationship and ensures mutual benefit, not just my reluctant acceptance of my husband’s desires.
MY MOTHER ENTERS THE FLR AND FEMINIZATION FRAY
We recently visited my Mother’s house. She lives some distance away so we always stay for a while. As I occasionally do, I decided that when we leave town, My husband, now named Sarah, should wear a feminine top, bra, short skirt and sandals with a heel while travelling.
However, I told him he could change in the car before we arrived at my mother’s into shorts, sandals with a small heel and take off the bra. I had no wish to shock my mother!
My Mother Buys in
While there, and dressed in normal male shorts and shirt, he made the mistake of bending over in front of my mother to tie a shoe lace. His pink lace thong panties showed in the back below his trouser waistline.
Although she said nothing at the time, she later asked me why he was wearing my panties. I ended up explaining that they were his. I was not sure how she would take it, but surprisingly, she had a good laugh and decided that we needed to go shopping.
A Shopping Trip with the Mother-In-Law
She always enjoys buying me clothes when we visit but this time she invited my hubby along too. he didn’t know at first that she had seen his thong. He soon did once we arrived at the shopping centre when she started to harass him over his panties and suggested he might prefer a skirt or dress. Little did she know.
His embarrassment knew no bounds, but he was trapped with us, but I thought it best not to admit to all the other women’s clothes he had.
We had a couple different days of visiting dress shops, department stores, etc. and, each time, insisted he join us. My mother kept poking at him about what he wanted to try on. She kept picking things off the racks to hold up to see how he looked, laughing and enjoying herself.
She even embarrassed me in front of other shoppers and store clerks. Not at much as him though.
She ended up buying him a cute pair of polka dot girl pyjamas with little bows on the front, a nice knee-length skirt, women’s trousers/pants and a pair of female shorts.
She bought me clothes also, but thought she was being really funny with my husband. I think in truth, he really enjoyed most of it, except the embarrassing moments, but tried to act like this was all new to him when we were with my mother.
My Mother Enjoys Having a Feminized Son-in-Law
She expected him to be in the girl pyjamas the next morning for breakfast and in the evenings and to wear the skirt around the house. Although when he’s there at my mother’s, he always helps, she kept insisting he do the dishes and help clean. All the time wearing the skirt and sandals, which he did.
When we left her house to drive home, I told him to wear the skirt and walk out to the car just like it was normal. I think that surprised my mother. After we got home I called to let her know we were home safe and thanked her for the clothes she bought us.
I told her I decided the skirt was a good idea and I would expect him to do more of the same in the future. She kind of agreed but I wonder what she really thought? Maybe I feel better having had this experience with my mother and can be more open about our lifestyle; we will see how things progress.
WHERE TO NEXT FOR MY HUSBAND’S FEMINIZATION?
Our life has become quite consistent in out real world FLR in that I always do a few new feminisation things every so often, but over the last year has become less surprising to him.
A few months ago, I found Lady Alexa’s website and I learned more about the FLR concept. I have thought about new ideas and have pushed a little when the chance presented itself in this area too.
I still do not want the neighbours to see more than the ‘unisex’ women’s clothes: pants/trousers, shorts, capris, low heel sandals, etc. Sarah does have painted nails and makeup on so they are undoubtedly aware of something.
However, I have been more excited about taking more control of our relationship and seeing better benefits. While he helps with housework and cooking, he could do more.
While he often helps with shopping, he could run many more errands on his own while I lay in the sun, take a nap or pursue my own hobbies. I can expect more morning massages, foot rubs while watching TV or reading.
I am also going to push more feminine clothes on him, things that are more girly. I’ll increase this for when we’re not in the neighborhood, when we’re shopping and especially when we leave town.
I wonder what my mother would think of seeing him in little pleated skirts and short summer dresses?
I sometimes am curious about how much of this he will accept without complaint? All these things are opportunities. Time will tell, but I have an idea I’m going to get exactly what I want. He will too.
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Hi Shelia and Sarah! I can understand how anything no matter how naughty or exciting can get ho-hum after a while. I enjoy reading your posts because they seem real and not over the top made up. You are like a real couple I might meet at the beach. Pushing the edges and past of conformity and enjoying being seen nude or pantied. The cum eating part was interesting because if you long to be more feminine, you realize you must do what attractive women sometimes do. I have tasted my own and managed to swallow an entire load on a couple occasions. Not very much fun after you actually get there but not beyond doing it if encouraged either. The breaking the acceptable rules part and rebelling against sexual taboo was fun. Sarah seems to be much more open to revealing herself openly to others than I can be at this time. That said, while I don’t venture out in a mini skirt and heels, I do risk exposure by taking Pueraria Mirifica which is very slowly developing my breasts, nipples, are Olga’s and butt. A snug shirt now reveals two small mounds with swollen nipples. I sometimes will quietly show them off in a more feminine cut tee shirt that fits snugly to emphasize their shape at a convenience store etc. I also got caught shirtless last year by a female postal worker while I was painting on a ladder. She had driven up our drive to deliver a package larger than the box. No way to run from a ladder top! I climbed down and accepted the package. She stared at my little puffy boobies for a moment and then looked up at me with a knowing smile. She knew exactly what I was doing. I loved it and felt like crawling under a rock at the same time! I imagine the excitement of you being casually nude in front of others gives the same thrill. It probably is not a comfort thing. Do you like to shock others? Do you like to show off your body nude for men and or women? There seems like there would be some charge to it or that too would get old. You mentioned you still enjoy playing and sucking Sarah’s nipples. Can you imagine doing that while nude in a group? Do other people ever join you sans clothes after a bit? Does it ever go further into swapping or cuckolding or does it stop with other people freely looking at your breast’s and labia? Does Sarah show off her shaved feminized body sometimes too? How do your guests react? Thanks for humoring me while I fantasize about yourFLR and what that would be like. Giving up all control to someone else would be difficult but sounds like fun! Lady Alexa’s comment above about pushing Alice with Femdom and exposure sound exciting to me. It will be interesting to hear how she encourages or demands it.
I hope that Alice appreciates the encouragement to be naked. The feeling of being exposed is exciting in itself but leaving yourself available to be touched and felt and played with is extra special. I would assume you play with Alice more if she is naked than if you have to get past panties or pants.
I am not naive about the feelings people have seeing a naked woman and I know Sarah feels a little embarrassed when I am standing around other people and I am the only one not dressed so after a few drinks I offer to let others feel my breasts while she watches. Most of the friends we have who welcome us as we are understand they can tease me and touch me without consequences so it is all in fun. Hope you can have that relationship letting others do the same to Alice and I hope she enjoys it.
Sheila
Yes I play more when she’s exposed and her clitty is on dsiplay. I would very much like others to do that to Alice.
It has been a long time since I last wrote here and I know a couple of you have been trying to stay in touch so I thought I would share our current thoughts on feminization and lifestyle. Life goes on with Sarah dressing mostly on her own. After the years have gone by and the newness wears off, not so much for me to do as she frequently chooses to wear short shorts, bras, skirts and dresses without my encouragement. We continue to not be totally obvious in front of the neighbors but they know. They do occasionally knock on the door and someone has to answer it. We are also seen in the car as we drive in and out.
If I embarrass her, it is more due to how I dress around others. Last spring I decided to revert to my core interests of being nude. We talked about how she could support me. We spent the summer trying to maintain a lifestyle and build a wider circle of friends who accepted me without clothes and Sarah wearing women’s clothes by her having to have a talk with friends if we could socialize with them, dressed as such. We also invited others to our home where we were dressed as such. I explained to Sarah I would always plan to be nude unless she either set clothes out for me or to bring clothes with us and dressed me (usually just sliding a slip dress over my head and arms) before going into stores or homes. We sort of switched roles in that respect, expecting her to decide if I were to dress or not. She neglected to dress me a few times, challenging me to go nude around many people but not in places where I might get arrested for indecent exposure. Sometimes wearing the bare minimum. It has gone well for both of us. We are an odd couple with a male in women’s clothes and a woman without them. Now it is cold and I have to dress somewhat to stay warm!!
We both are still into breasts but we have to pretend Sarah has them. She still thinks about implants but not doing anything towards it. I still play with hers and suck them. Cindy asked about the cum eating; not as much these days as it is not really as interesting as it used to be as I am more focused on being nude as a lifestyle.
Sheila & Sarah
A fascinating relationship S&S. You make a great point about the excitment and newness of a male dressing as a female starts to wear off. It’s why I like to change things around to keep the excitement fresh and why I’m currently pushing more on Femdom and Alice’s exposure/nakedness.
Hello Shelia and Sarah. Hope you are well. I was wondering what is happening in your FLR now? Have you added anything new to keep things fresh? Do you tease Sarah or humiliate her? Do you encourage or push her to reveal her feminine side publicly? Does she like that or being shown off as a feminized male to other dominant females?
I have continued to feminize myself in subtle ways. I sit to pee. I stimulate my nipples several times a day. Sometimes they are so sensitive and it feels so good. I sometimes put small rubber bands on my nipples to make them sensitive and hard. The tips show through my shirts at work when I do that. I would love to stimulate them enough to have milk. To drip and spray from my nipples would be so exciting! I like to lay out in the sun and wear cheeky panties to have a slight tan line on my butt. Sexually I please myself as a girl would with one finger only diddling the underneath side of my clitty . Small circles and taps and then pushing deep against the area in front of my anus as hard as I can to feel the pressure inside on my prostate. I try to go slow and stop and start many times to try to stay soft and limp. Sometimes I do not let myself finish as women do not always orgasm. The ache and need afterward are delicious. To orgasm without touching my clitty at all is a goal. Do you still require Sarah to eat every drop? I think being force fed cum from nipples, fingers or vagina would be so hot. How does controlling Sarah to that degree make you feel? Can you describe how arrousing it is to you and what your other favorite parts of your FLR are? What could Sarah do or not do to please or pleasure you more? What would be something more that would excite or stimulate your body or mind as the controlling dominant partner? Not necessarily sexually. Any fantasies on your part? Sarah, on your part?
Thanks,
Cindy
Hi Sheila and Sarah Sorry for the delay but life got in the way.
My body adores the hormones and I’ve had zero negative side effects, quite the opposite. Don’t be too jealous Sarah once you start you will rapidly feel a lot better, my only regret was waiting as long as I did. Guilty as charged as they’ve grown my tops have got tighter and yes I go topless to enjoy the feel of them but only indoors.
The other benefit is that it’s really ramped up my motivation to get rid of my remaining excess weight. Even when they ache more (like right now) I adore them, as for playing with them then well, I have two more erotic centres.
Thank You for the kind words, and the very best for you both.
Hi Natasha,
We think it is great that your body has been able to develop breasts. Hoping that the side affects are not becoming a problem for you. Sarah is jealous of your breast development but not ready to go through the treatment. I do not have implants but I appreciate the feeling of my body more than the thought of having an implant. I think I would lose some of the sensitivity of having my breasts rubbed and sucked on and that is one reason I enjoy being topless. As your breasts grow, do you enjoy being topless or wearing revealing tops in public?
I think it is interesting that most of us humans feel breasts are so important and are a sign of femininity. Men want to see a woman’s breast and a lot (not all) of women feel better about themselves with adequate size and shaped breasts. I am not an advocate for ‘bigger is better’ in this case but I do believe that breasts can be a source of enjoyment and for us who like our breasts shown off a little and to be played with. I frequently play with Sarah’s nipples and ‘breast’ and encourage her to play with them instead of other body parts for sexual satisfaction.
Good luck and I hope your overall body health is not affected as you manipulate the hormones.
Sheila
Natasha,
I have been wondering about your surgery. Have you had your implants put in? How did the surgery go this time? Are you happy with the results, even though it will be months before you know?
Sheila
Hi Sheila
Sadly I’m still implant free but that’s because the hormones are working their magic again, so much for the clinic’s estimates of development!
I’m now a pretty full C-cup and the growth is evening the girls out this time round. I’ve another appointment pencilled in for August and I really want them deeply now. Any excuse to go lingerie shopping.
Probably to late now but as I wrote earlier, we went to the doctor and told the truth. Feminization was the question we were there to discuss. Be upfront and you may have a better experience. Our doctor was amazingly understanding.
Sheila
Dear Lady Alexa and other Alpha Ladies,
In two days I go to the Dr. for a routine blood work and check up. For the first time my breast development may be enough to attract the Physicians notice. I may have to admit that I have feminized myself with estrogen and phyto estrogens. Puffy nipples and a little breast tissue may give away my secret! I am anxious about this even though I wanted to be more feminine. I am nearing that tipping point where everyone may notice whether or not I am ready for that. It is both exciting and terrifying!
A month ago I shaved my pubic hair into a feminine landing strip. I have let it grow but it is still noticeably feminine. That along with minor gynecomastia may expose me in my medical records forever. I also trimmed all body hair on my legs and stomachat that time. Even though it is not freshly done it still may be apparent to the Dr. what I am doing. How can something be so desirable to do and yet so scary. It’s like I want to be outed but can’t get the nerve to go through with it. Does anyone else feel this? Is anyone else near this point?
This is where a sensitive dominant female could take control and encourage/ push me over the edge toward
obvious feminization. The things we long for but are frightened of.
What is your recommendation? Should I hope to slip through unnoticed or should I make it obvious enough I am forced to own it? How would you approach this with Alice? Shelia, what would you tell Sarah to do?
Thanks,
Cindy
Sheila and Sarah
I’m glad you both had a great holiday and time to chat and think things through thoroughly. I know you must be disappointed Sarah but I think you have taken the best path. I love my boobettes but we’re dead long enough without taking ill-advised risks. Because of various reasons I went ahead and was fortunate – TBH I was in such a dark place that hormones were the safest option.
If you really want to go for implants and Sheila is agreeable then may I suggest something?
When I abandoned my ‘pretending to be a man’ charade the ex- made a deal – I could have implants if I raised the money for them. By clearing out all the props I’d gathered to support the man-lie I made it with some to spare.
Due to a reaction to the anaesthetic I didn’t get my implants but have a credit for them as soon as I get the excess weight off. I was distraught as you can imagine and this led to the last breakdown I endured. As I type I feel much, much, happier than I ever remember being so it’s all come good in the end – I’m sure you’ll have a similar experience.
Hello Natasha, Cindy and anyone else who may follow this,
We spend a month in Europe so did not take much time to write but while in Copenhagen we did get to join the crowd at the first stage of Tour de France!! I like Denmark in the summer for several reasons, including bakery goods but society is much more relaxed about nudity so being on a beach with a pair of thong panties is accepted. That was our standard beach wear. I encouraged Sarah to sit on the beach and swim in the ocean wearing an old pair of lace panties that were obviously women’s and either a bikini top or usually sunscreen to keep the tan lines that show like white breasts.
Anyway, to address the subject of using HRT, we have been talking about it while on vacation. I would really like to tell you we are all excited about him developing breasts and some other feminine features but we both (admittedly more me) decided to back out. Considering organ risk (bad), muscle and genital shrinkage (could be acceptable), lack of erection (bad), etc…. Some of the side effects are more temporary some are not. It seems that if breasts are the main goal, the doctor suggested implants. We were told that once breasts do start to develop (might or might not given age), there was no way to know how much or how evenly they might develop in which case implants would be still be needed to even them up. Also, if he were to stop taking hormones, some of the breast tissue might go away (we thought that was permanent). OK, so lots of thought went into it but unless some change in priorities happen, no hormones for now. Surgery could be considered later. Sarah is disappointed since he was looking forward to the shape and feel of real breasts. Some things are not so easily done. I will find other ways to make him more feminine.
Sheila
Hi Sheila and Sarah!
A month on a beach in Europe sounds fun! Being encouraged and shown off in panties and other feminine items while there sounds divine! I am sure you both had lots of looks and attention!
I can picture myself there in a jade green bikini bottom with gold chain sides, Shaved smooth except for a landing strip bikini patch, nails done and a gold anklet. Just tanning and getting drinks for my lady. My little puffy nipples on display. Obviously feminized and submissive to her.
I understand your reasons for not persuing HRT. There are definitely some risks and the outcome is a roll of the dice. I am sure you are both disappointed. With decreased testosterone at her age, Sarah could benefit with a daily double dose of flax seed oil and other phyto estrogenic food supplements. These only add a minor amount of body feminization to breast and hips but they also charge your brain chemically over time. A strong keto diet plan can help create a waist for a more fem shape. This is a nice feeling. Realistic safe usage of herbals can give a taste of what she wanted. Then if breast implants are considered there is more breast material to work with and more nipple sensitivity before the augmentation.
I am sure you will find the best path for both of you. Your adventures seem delightful and I am jealous on multiple levels! Please keep sharing updates. We love it!
Cindy
Sorry for the delay in responding. I promise to write more in a couple weeks as we are traveling on vacation. Short answer is the doctor was very understanding but said we need to go to a specialist in hormone treatment. She could not do what we suggested. She (doctor) did explain many of the risks and what results he could expect. We have not yet made plans for the next doctor but are still talking about it. I can write more later….
Sheila & Sarah
Eagerly waiting!
Cindy
Hello,
The appointment will be next week with our general physician. I am sure it will be an interesting discussion, but mostly hope we will both learn something before jumping into this.
Natasha, it sounds as though your ex did a breast reduction. I can understand that as large breasts seem like a problem. It makes me wonder why you would consider DD cup breast implants? Please consider your body size and staying proportional. I am quite happy with C cup breasts, except for the gravity problem since I don’t wear a bra very often. They show nicely under a top, are happy to be played with and I can still be active without them being a problem. I know some women have large, porn star type implants but neither Sarah nor myself find that attractive since they look artificial and too obscene. Just trying to share thoughts about being sexy and staying proportional with your body size. Either way, be happy with your choice!!
Sheila
Hi Shiela.
No she went from a AA to a C cup which was about as large as the surgeon suggested on her frame. The important part was having rounded inserts to bulk out the upper part of her chest.
I was quite a bit slimmer when I was going to have mine done and with my upper chest shape a D or DD worked depending on the band size. As my revised target is about 30 pounds below what I weighed then I’ll need to think it through very carefully. I will certainly heed your advice when the time comes. Jo has convinced me to make them obvious rather than easily concealed based on her experiences. Based on family history hormones may get me a D cup alone although I will have inserts to even them up as most of my relatives have had done.
I hope the appointment goes well, once started on hormones I think Sarah will be happy to stay with them, the mental changes I experienced are wonderful and I wouldn’t want to go back under any circumstances. I felt calmer, much less stress, no anger outbursts, and found myself listening more. Then my skin started to improve after about a month even without increasing my skin care routine. Boobs and the start of a waist is just icing on the cake.
Natasha and Cindy, thank you for sharing your experiences. We are talking about doing something, perhaps some HRT before considering surgery. We decided to take a first step and have a doctor appointment in two week to discuss the use of feminizing drugs. Not sure how that will go but if she (the doctor) makes it seem easy, Sarah is willing to do it for awhile.
Natasha, I take that you are going to have implants soon? Is your 2 year period coming up? If so, I sincerely hope you have a better experience with the anesthesia. What cup size are you planning for? I assume you are not concerned with trying to go back and forth from female to male. It sounds like your ex was happy to have her breasts “perked up” a bit? Does she also like showing them, being topless or wearing thin tops? I can understand the surgery would be less health risk than HRT drugs, in addition to the loss (even if temporary) of sexual pleasure for me from the side effects, but that decision needs to wait until we both agree that he would look permanently like a woman. Firm breasts (like those of an implant) are difficult to hide.
Cindy, I would hope you could feel confident with a slow breast growth. Most people would not notice the change it if you can keep your shirt on. It kind of stops you from going to a pool party or the beach with others!! If Sarah does try the HRT, I will let you know how it goes. We do not have much problem with family but we do go to a public pool and sometimes to a beach. Since Sarah already has bikini tan lines, guess small breast growth might not be too much more embarrassing.
Regarding me walking nude in a hotel hallway, it is not really bold. Since I was a teenager I have felt better nude. My parents finally agreed to me being topless at home so I grew up with siblings and friends that way. I have belonged to nudist clubs and usually entertain in my home nude. Anyway, not the subject of this forum!!
Sheila
A Dr. appointment in 2 weeks!!
How exciting for both of you! I am sure Sarah will love having estrogen in her body if you decide that is the next step in her feminization Lady Shelia. Just going to the Dr. and admitting out loud that you are interested in feminizing drugs will be a rush. It is a big and irrevocable. step. Once breast buds appear along with increased nipple sensitivity Sarah will be hooked. She will desire to go as far as she can to make this her reality. Sarah, feeling them jiggle as you go up steps and the roundness you feel while cupping them with your hands will be a great experience. One that I think you will like. The point where you can not hide them is also tantalizing Sarah
Dying to know the Dr. appointment and decision details……
You’re not the only one! Be good to compare notes and it may help our lovely Hostess too.
Hi Sheila, I’m glad my post was of interest. To answer your questions yes, the implants will be soon, at the moment the HRT is giving me steady growth which will taper off – at that point I’ll get them to get a ‘D’ or maybe ‘DD’ cup. The anaesthetic reaction was down to the clinic missing my notes (and verbal confirmation) about previous issues. They were intending to do my ex- first which didn’t help. No harm done but I knew something had happened when I woke up with a familiar headache and taste in my throat. I haven’t presented as male for over a year now so no switching here. I am using the gel hormones due to my general health with no issues whatsoever. Most of the risk is down to oral medication stressing the liver. Start hormones before T-blockers to get the best results, that way the implants will have a much better chance of looking good.
As to the ex-, she is very happy with them. She used to walk hunched forward to hide her boob size with baggy tops, multiple layers, and the rest. Now her posture is much better and tight tops feature a lot more. She is a much happier person now which is what it’s all about really.
It is possible to hide them to some degree but it’s very hard work. I presented male for the last time for a funeral a couple of months back, I felt fake and know that some noticed. I changed in a supermarket toilet on the way home and immediately felt better. The turning point for me was when boob growth and weight loss meant the first thing that arrived were my boobs. I went swimming and was told to put a top on quite firmly despite having beard stubble and no make-up….
Hi Lady Sheila and Sarah.
That is a pretty cool story. I’m not sure which of you is bolder….Sarah for modeling her bikini top tan lines or you for going to the ice machine nude and remaining that way!
Yes I have experimented for years with HRT. I initially used soy tablets when I first tried feminization. It was not long before I added saw palmetto and black cohash. These combined caused a very small change in my nipple and breast tissue. It was exciting though and after a few months I did have a more sensitive and feminine nipple although my areolas did not change.
Later I tried two 90 day rounds of 2mg Estrofem estradiol from on line. The effect was immediate and I had hot flashes. My nipples began to get puffy and show through my shirts. It scared me a little and I stopped but resumed using herbals for years off and on. I now have size A cup breasts, slightly more than 1 inch bigger at the nipple than my band size. I pretty much have permanent pokies. My nipples have became longer and a little thicker. Still no major changes to my areolas which are about quarter dollar sized. They are very sensitive at times and I enjoy playing with them. I have tried to stimulate enough to cause lactation and have had a few tiny drops before when I had stopped the herbals for a while. I was also taking Domperidone at that time . I think the decrease in estrogen may have caused that. I am not able to do that at this moment. I am presently on fenugreek, flax and saw palmetto. All obtainable at Walmart.
I do stay tired a good deal and have lost some muscle mass and strength. On the bright side I have sensitive puffy nipples and a butt that has rounded enough that I can shake it a little! This is fun because I had a flat butt before. I see no real difference in face or body hair though I do have less hair on my lower legs. I am more emotional and have to discreetly wipe away tears during a sad movie! I no longer get “morning wood”. I can still get erect but it takes some stimulation. I prefer to masturbate with one finger diddling myself and teasing in a more feminine way while pleasuring my nipples. My non erect penis is shorter and thinner. My favorite playtime thing now is to diddle the underneath sensitive part of my clitty and stop when I start to get excited. Sometimes I stop just to deny myself but most of the time I attempt to orgasm while my clit is soft and limp. I can now start to cum and still be limp until my pelvic muscles contract. My goal is to learn to remain flaccid completely throughout the entire orgasm and perhaps even learn to have a dry orgasm with no semen coming out at all just as Lady Alexa is working with Alice.
I really do not want my breasts to get much larger as I still am not ready to become a full time girl. It would be fun but career, family and friends make that unpractical. I would love my nipples to thicken and especially my areolas to enlarge up to maybe half dollar size. Big enough that they are obviously intentionally feminized would be nice.
An FLR like yours would be a fun situation. I can imagine giving up all control and doing everything needed to be a submissive feminized male serving a dominant female. I would love to hear from Sarah and how it is from her side of things in your relationship. I am encouraging her to try feminization with HRT or herbals. I am sure you would both enjoy it! Go slow and give it a try!
Cindy,
It sounds like you have tried some HRT. If so, could you share the experience? How did you feel (tired, sick, etc)? How long does it take to notice changes (less body hair, nipple or breast development)? Did you lose much muscle tone? I am sure many would be curious about your HRT experience.
Sarah thought it was a shock to find her photos on the internet but I made a point that her feminization is at my control. That was a feeble excuse and I admit it was certainly not nice and probably illegal.
Wearing women’s shorts with open toe sandals or flip-flops is common for Sarah as they are the only shorts she has. Some are longer and some are shorter. Sone have the zipper on the other side (left-hand) so they are obvious to anyone who recognizes that. But then the painted toe-nails are also a give-away.
Yes, she has been shown off in our home and in others, mostly to a couple girlfriends. This reminded us of a story in a hotel last summer while we were on a beach vacation.
We got back into the room after having been out for dinner and I decided we wanted ice for a drink. I had already undressed and was going to send Sarah down the hall but he thought I wanted an excuse to walk down the hallway naked so he offered to keep an eye out from the door.
I took the ice bucket and headed down the hall, into the little vending room with the ice machine. As I was filling the ice bucket, I heard the sound of the elevator stopping on our floor and several women walking in the hallway. I admit I wished it were men but I still stepped into the hallway and walked toward our room, past them, wearing just my heels. Of all things, they insisted on talking to me. They explained they were a group of women in town for a small convention so were getting together for a party and invited me.
I asked that since I was standing there naked I assumed I could come as I was? Then I told them I also had my boyfriend there, so is he invited too? I could see Sarah watching this from the other end of the hall so I waved him to come out, still dressed in a skirt, black top and heels. They turned around to see him from the distance, a bit confused.
I told them that was him, if they didn’t mind the way I dressed him? The first thing they said was “You like to dress your boyfriend like a woman? Is he OK with that?” They were obviously surprised.
I told them yes, and obviously I preferred to not wear clothes so I guess we are a bit weird. I noticed my ice bucket was cold in my hands and my nipples were very stiff. I told Sarah we were invited to their room for a party and asked him to hold the bucket. One of them said something like – Since it was all women getting together, I suppose he fits in since he probably wears nicer panties than I do. I could not pass up this opportunity so I asked her what panties she had on? As I slid my hand under Sarah’s skirt and lifted the back for them to see he had a very nice pair of black lace thong panties with lace trim along his rear. She agreed his were nicer.
They also noticed the nice red glow on his ass and asked if we were on the beach. I told them those were not his only tan lines, and asked if they wanted to see the top half. We all agreed to go to the room of one of the women before he undressed anymore. After we were I the room, I asked Sarah to pull off his top and then I unfastened his bra. They were all amused by his bright red skin with the obvious markings of having tanned on the beach with a bikini top.
He then slipped back into his bra and blouse. He had only finished buttoning his top back up when 2 other women came in the room and we had to explain why I was nude and there was a guy dressed in women’s clothes. The other women told the story about his panties and swimsuit top so he had to undress again to satisfy their curiosity. After a few drinks they kept sending me back to the ice machine and watching me walking naked from the door. We had a good time with them and I enjoyed being able to party nude with Sarah dressed very feminine.
Cindy,
Thanks for writing as it is good to know someone still reads my story!!
First, I am confused with your bra band size question. Guess you are going to stores to try them on but if you measure 37”, a 34 band size is too small. You might get a 36 band to fit snugly but try both 36 and 38 to see what works best. When you refer to the bra sizing chart, are you confusing common cup sizes? For instance, 36A is the same size cup as 34B but the band is smaller on the 34. As the A cup bras are hard to find without ordering, try a 36 or 38 B cup. Since males do not generally have protruding breasts, the difference in size from the band size does not mean a B cup will fill out. It just has to stretch across your ‘breast’. Here is a little trick Sarah uses to fix the floppy cup problem. With a needle and thread, she can fold over the extra fabric (overlapping) in the cup and sew it into the diagonal seam from the padding. Just ¼” or less can make the bra fit snugly across your small breasts. Hope that makes sense?
For the audience at large, a short update on things here (I use he/him interchangeable with she/her). It is hard to believe that was over 2 years ago that I wrote that story. In general, not much has changed, just events that affected life. After posting the story, did get more aggressive with her dressing in public for awhile, partly due to having been motivated from the responses. I also made her model for a few friends, including lifting skirts and showing bikini top tan lines. Last year we had a situation where Sarah found out that I had posted the story about our feminization life on Alexa’s site. As I had neglected to get his approval, he was a bit shocked and unhappy about several things. By the way, for others considering posting something in a public website, I don’t recommend doing it without both of you agreeing. He (she) now reads the website and I share what I write. In the story, I had made it out that I was a bit too innocent in feminizing him and blamed his choice over being a nudist on his previous life. I am the one guilty for not keeping my clothes on and allowing him the choice to wear more women’s clothes over being a nudist.
A few things I have done over the last two years:
I went through a period where I bribed her to eat her cum on all kinds of food, just for my amusement. In return I bought her a new dress. That got old so I seldom ask her to do that now. During COVID and take-out food delivered to the curb, she did wear that dress and other similar things to pick up dinner several times. For my fun, when we travel on freeways in the car, I have her in panties and bra, sitting in the passenger seat and I slow down as we pass trucks, letting them see her. Sometimes they honk. Same thing going through drive-thru. Cheap fun. My mother got over the newness of Sarah being dressed at her house so mostly, he wears more unisex women’s shorts, pants, etc but not skirts or dresses. My mother thought it was a bit embarrassing when her neighbors saw him and I understood.
We have had numerous discussions about breasts. It seems almost everyone loves breasts, either someone else’s or their own (although I think many woman get tired of theirs). I happen to enjoy mine, seldom wear a bra (Sarah wears the bra in the family) and I often go topless or nude (weather allowing). I love to tease Sarah about having such small breasts. I also enjoy sucking her nipples and telling her I would like to have milk or maybe wine for me to get while sucking (all in fun). A couple years ago, I suggested I might get implants to freshen up my 50 something breasts so I can enjoy them more. Then she thought she should also do it with something small to fill a bra. I really am not in favor of his permanent look of being a woman but told him if he did it, he was going to get something sizable (C/D cup) and was going to be a permanent woman. It would be impossible to hide breasts and dress in male clothes to be a guy. So far, neither of us has done anything but occasionally the subject still comes up, maybe more as a fantasy.
Reality is that once you feminize your husband/boyfriend to a certain point you hit a status quo and there is not a lot more you can or probably want to do. I admit that I do still enjoy pushing her limits sometimes for my own enjoyment but she is OK with that since I find a way to reward her. She still wears makeup, nail polish and women’s clothes almost exclusively but the obvious dresses and skirts are for in the house, out of town or at least at night in other parts of town. I want to emphasis though, feminizing is not all about clothes. That is the easy part. No matter what she does, she will be a man in women’s clothes so has to work harder to keep up the appearance and mental attitude. Mannerisms, habits, choice of topics for discussion, choice of hobbies, learning more about sewing, cooking, cleaning, fabric care (laundry), etc. Even then, she will not be a woman. Not as exciting as you may have wanted but that is how it is. Thanks again for asking.
Sheila
Lady Sheila,
Thank you so much for such an honest and sincere post! An exciting story is fun but to learn so much more about your and Sarah’s real life FLR and how it has worked on a long term every day normal basis is fantastic! I can see where once you reach a certain point that some of the novelty might wear off. Perhaps if you encouraged Sarah to try herbals or actual HRT for a while…..maybe just enough to start her budding and then stop if “you” chose or continue to complete all possible growth. Sarah would have the excitement of turning a corner just as genetic girls do when their breasts get full enough to jiggle or protrude enough that her nipples are somewhat noticeable in a snug, thin top. It is irrevocable and makes you feel a little vulnerable. Exactly how a submissive male likes to feel. She would be embarrassed by any attention while actually craving it at the same time. You would both love the increased sensitivity and pleasure that swollen puffy nipples provide. I love to stimulate mine. I get little twinges of pleasure in them sometimes. Almost like an electrical tingle. On rare occasions I have actually orgasmed that way. A long time fantasy of mine is to actually stimulate enough to lactate. I can’t think of anything more ultimately feminine.
With your encouragement and increased suckling Sarah might be able to accomplish that. Imagine taking hormones Sarah until you have some development! You could both later do the implants if Sheila required it! I speak directly to Sarah now that I know she is reading this and any replies. That is exciting too and I encourage her to share her story and fantasy. I know I’m dying to hear it! The good and bad.
I can imagine your discomfort Sarah when you discovered your feminized story and pics on this site. I also think it would be an incredible rush to discover that my Dominant Lady had made that decision and exposed me. To be teased and tortured with firm unyielding demands by her in order to get what you want sounds like a dream come true. I have always fantasized to be publicly exposed by my wife maybe to her friends or acquaintances. Maybe ordered to strip down to panties to let them see and tease me.
Thanks Lady Sheila with the bra help. As I said I am about a 37 band and my breasts are about 38 and 1/2 across the fullest part of the nipple. You are right about not finding a 36 A cup so that is why I thought perhaps a 34 B. I really want to fill the cup rather than have it stretched across my chest though. I may try the sewing tip you mentioned but to be honest, I really am more interested in a snug shape revealing tee or tank top with some ladies shorts. I looked at a Khaki pair of super cute shorts tonight that are much shorter than mens. Paired in these with some cute panties and some flip flop sandals that are kind of fem….that would be so much fun to try to get nerve to wear out and walk in a mall or read in a park. Nothing outrageous…just fem and cute.
I hope you both decide to reply. Being able to talk to others who get this is pretty wild. Perhaps we will encourage ourselves and others reading this to push the envelope even more!
I hope Lady Alexa does not mind these long posts but I am sure others will read these and perhaps spark more interest in her wonderful site and books.
Thanks again!
Cindy
“We have had numerous discussions about breasts. It seems almost everyone loves breasts, either someone else’s or their own (although I think many woman get tired of theirs). I happen to enjoy mine, seldom wear a bra (Sarah wears the bra in the family) and I often go topless or nude (weather allowing). I love to tease Sarah about having such small breasts. I also enjoy sucking her nipples and telling her I would like to have milk or maybe wine for me to get while sucking (all in fun). A couple years ago, I suggested I might get implants to freshen up my 50 something breasts so I can enjoy them more. Then she thought she should also do it with something small to fill a bra. I really am not in favor of his permanent look of being a woman but told him if he did it, he was going to get something sizable (C/D cup) and was going to be a permanent woman. It would be impossible to hide breasts and dress in male clothes to be a guy. So far, neither of us has done anything but occasionally the subject still comes up, maybe more as a fantasy. ”
That sounds very familiar indeed. If the conversation keeps ‘coming up’ then I think he’s very interested. I know I was. Based on our experience and that my ex- is a senior nurse I’d suggest the following, note that I fill a B cup but it’s all but invisible even when I try to make them show;
Do some research and find a clinic you’re happy with and will do trans surgery. Be honest from the start as surgeons don’t like surprises. If you suspect he may attempt to sabotage proceedings then take a tip from my ex-; she booked the first appointment with her second choice surgeon and told me about it. Then secretly booked her first choice later the same day.
I was told to dress nice and obviously femme with full make-up.
Both clinics were happy to operate on us both and offered a good discount. I was scheduled to go first but reacted badly to the anaesthetic so was wheeled out in tears and she went in.
It took me sometime to get over the disappointment and then I had my last breakdown, the clinic kept the money at her request and will honour the quote for another two years so I’m good.
Once he has the boobs he likely desires then the rest will be much easier. It also transformed my ex-‘s outlook beyond all belief. I hope this helps
Hi Lady Sheila,
I have looked and not been able to find aBali 6543 in my size. My measurements are 37 band and 38.5 cup so ….37A? Bra sizing charts say a sister size 34B should also fit but the last B cup bra I tried was very loose/saggy in the cup. I just did not fill it out. Herbals are very slow to feminize and my nipples and breasts while tenting a little in snug shirts are still like a 12 year olds. I will keep looking though. I want to make the purchase face to face with a clerk and not order it so I feel my face flush as I admit it’s for me.
I was wondering if you would care to update on your and Sarah’s FLR. Are you finding it more fun now? Controlling her and embarrassing her. I would love to hear more about the teasing and embarrassment you force her to feel. I would also love to hear from Sarah on her perspective on what it is like to be controlled by her dominant wife In everything from what panties to wear to what she orders for dinner, to licking her cum from your body to showing her bra or panties in public. What is it like to go to the Dr. with painted nails, bracelet, a feminine shaved body and landing strip in her panties. What is it like for her to give you all power and submit to all you require even when embarrassing? Would she take HRT if you required it? Does she want to be feminized that irrevocably? Does she desire feminine breasts, nipples and hips? Would you allow it?
Thanks so much for sharing your adventure so far! I love to read about it!
Cindy
Hi Cindy,
I hope you are more comfortable with yourself for moving ahead with a modest feminine approach to life. You mentioned your nipples are developing, so I assume you are also trying Hormone therapy. We have considered that also but for now, not doing it. Try a light bra such as the Bali 6543 and maybe a cami top over it to smooth the lace underneath.
Sheila
Hello Cindy,
I noted your reply on this post (and on Helens) and finally decided to respond. You obviously love the fantasy of feminization but I think you missed the point of having to comply with the woman who is dealing with it on your behalf. You may get lucky someday and find a woman who wants to do it your way, but I think it is not such a fantasy when you comprehend the reality of daily expectations of dressing as a modest woman while obviously being male. I am pretty sure my husband would agree it is 80% daily effort and routine, 10% personal satisfaction (for him) and 10% embarrassment.
I recommend you stop fantasizing about a woman making you do this and just dress modestly feminine and enjoy reality.
Sheila
Good advice Sheila
Thank you Lady Shelia.
I have taken your advice and made some mild clothing and hair changes for a softer more feminine look. Snug tee shirts and more fitted shorter shorts, flip flop sandals in a softer color along with a more feminine pixieish hairstyle have been fun small changes along with closely trimming but not shaving all body hair. The snug top shows my slight breast development and puffy nipples. Two girls at a market were giggling and pointing at me recently. It was embarrassing and exciting at the same time. I still wish there was a take charge female to encourage, push me further and demand more than I am comfortable doing alone. Without that element I am just doing what I want to anyway. Your all or nothing ultimatum with Sarah is what really sounded so exciting.
Thank you .
Cindy
Be careful what you wish for……
I have longed to become a cute, petite, dark haired girl with a sexy body for years. I want to make myself beautiful with long baths, lotion, shaving, plucking, buying cute swim suits and skirts, panties and bras. Coyly showing off my fem body innocent of the effect I am causing when my hard nipples poke through my top. Doing fun girly things with other women.
I would love my wife to sit me down as Sheila did in this FLR and as Helen did in another and explain to me that we could do this and feminize me….but only on her terms. It would be so exciting and frightening! What if her ideas and mine were different. That is the exciting part! The unknown. The anxiety of what might be required. No longer having any control. Becoming a soft and feminine possession that Mistress owns and can tease, humiliate, ignore or encourage to accept her will and take step after step further into more feminine changes and submissiveness. Being forced to do so when I get embarrassed or frightened and continuing with her firm control but loving guidance. Knowing that she loves and accepts me and she will help me break down all barriers to realize my fantasy and dreams.
What is in it for her? Control, power exchange, encouraging or forcing her will on me. Having a male wife to cook and clean while she is dressed but I am either nude or in lingerie. Clothed female, nude male foot and back rubs. All for her pleasure and none for me. Showing off her power over me to other women forcing me to serve them naked. Allowing them to touch, fondle or finger me. Requiring me to take more and more estrogen and androgens to feminize my body and not allowing me to stop when it becomes noticeable. Forcing me to show off these changes. To celebrate them and not hide them. Finding new and fun ways to tease and humiliate me. Forcing me as Sheila did to eat and swallow my cum from her fingers, nipples, mouth or vagina. Teaching me to play with my small, limp clitty with only 1 or 2 fingers the way she pleasures herself. Penetrating me with a plug or strap on. Teaching me to orgasm like a girl with only penetration as she slowly and deeply takes me again and again. Stealing my orgasm by milking my prostate until I dribble slowly and softly and my tiny cockette is limp and I am completely empty but unsatisfied and still craving sexual release. Then locking me up in a chastity device to keep me horny, weak and submissive. All of these things make a great fantasy. But what if they become reality? Delicious and terrifying! I would accept these and any other conditions she requires.
Sarah and And her Head of house should stay with Mother In Law and let mother fully feminize Sarah. The mother and daughter should legally change his name to Sarah. Make him/her live as a woman full time all the time in dresses.
What remarkable story of how Women might use the sexual fantasy of the weaker male sex by exploiting such and expanding them into scenarios They never imagined before entering into the reality of Female Supremacist relationship. Exactly that seems capsulized in these two important passages from Sheila…
“There would have to be something in it for me. That something would be my amusement at his discomfort, full control over his dressing. And as I found out, the beginnings of our real world FLR.”
“I have been more excited about taking more control of our relationship and seeing better benefits. While he helps with housework and cooking, he could do more….
:
While he often helps with shopping, he could run many more errands on his own while I lay in the sun, take a nap or pursue my own hobbies. I can expect more morning massages, foot rubs while watching TV or reading. ”
This portends more and more Females in the future shall likely rise to see the importance of reversing all the false past notions of power males once held and enter in a swift exchange of what once was scene as ‘masculinity’ and the power the crumbling male sex once held.
Sheila may have been surprised… as may many Women who shall follow, but eventually it shall be the male who learns ‘she’ may be the one who has to follow Woman and accept the concomitant ‘feminization’ it embodies.
Sheila and Alexa… thank You Both for Your important work ushering in this new and final Era of Female Primacy!
Early days for female supremacy everywhere, but you never know
Wow. What a story.
I thought I would write a short update on my Mother’s reaction to how my hubby dressed while there. Since we returned from the trip to see my mother I have talked with her twice. I waited about a week after we home and called just to chat. No specific plan on my part to bring up my hubby’s dressing. Most of the talk was just stuff but after awhile she just had to ask if he was still wearing the skirt. I tried to minimize the issue by talking to the shorts, pants and pajamas she bought but she kept coming back to why he was wearing a skirt and what was really going on. We talked to the movement in transgender people but clarified he was not one and that he was not going to be changing sex. We talked to the things we see in Hollywood and in cities with more feminine looking men. After I convinced myself that she was still open minded and maybe curious I explained that he recently has shown interest in the feminine arts such as makeup, nails, etc. (I started slow) and that I decided to teach him a few things. Then the skirt came up and I thanked her for buying it and explained that when I decided he should continue to wear it around home he was happy to do it and that I was planning to buy him another one. She wondered why and asked where else would he wear it, other than at home and what if someone comes to the door and what if someone sees him, and did he really wear it in the car all the way home that day, etc. All perfectly good concerns that I tried to talk to without giving up the total truth. I asked what she thought I should do about it and if I should push more or back off him and not make him do anything embarrassing. Yes, I had to play this out with her on the phone. She thought about it but did not have much more to say. So ended that subject, for a couple days.
Then I had a call from her about 3 days later. This time she had spent time reading about feminized men, gender issues and associated topics on the internet and was laughing a little less and had harder questions. She asked if this was what he was? I opened up a little more and tried to tell her it was mostly about the feminine things; clothes, makeup, nails, etc.
(Shortened version of our talk) So she asked what I thought about this and how did I deal with it? I asked if she still thought this was entertaining, she said sort of (she admitted to having had fun with him while we were there) but wanted to know if I was happy about it (a mothers big concern). I explained that he let me control what women’s clothes he wore and that yes we had found common ground on how, what and where he was dressed more feminine. I told her he wanted this and made it worth it to me and so yes, I was happy. Sure, I left out a lot of details for now. How much I have taken him out in public and that I have daily expectations as it is a lifestyle is for another day. Her bottom line comment was if it was good for me and it kept my hubby (did not share his new name) happy, she would accept our lifestyle. I invited her to make suggestions on what I should expect him to wear and if and where I should take him into public. She will probably offer more comments on this later, I am sure!! I just wanted to leave the door open for further discussions on the topic. That is about all on the subject for now.
Sheila
My own mother wouldn’t be quite so accommodating I’m sure. But good, she must be a very understanding and accepting lady
Hello Alexa and all those following this blog,
I thought I would follow up with a few lines on each of the photos that Alexa used above. The first one is what it is. Sarah is getting dressed as I caught him with a quick photo.
The second one is one day when we were on vacation and going out in a beach type town shopping strip. I decided he could wear a short skirt for the day’s shopping. We both tried on bikinis and coverups. The girls working there kept an eye on us and we eventually left. We were in other stores and stopped for lunch but no other real good stories, just a lot of second-glance looks as we walked around.
The next two were different times I caught a decent photo of him out running/walking with me. We go out early in the mornings but there are a few people out who all stare a little. Used the photos to show that he is required to wear a sports bra and often I take his shirt and let him show he is wearing the bra.
The next photo is Sarah dressed up to go out for dinner while we were staying at a hotel. I often expect him in a more casual skirt and top when travelling but not usually dressed up. This was one of those dinners we went in to a nice restaurant and sat down to eat. The waitress was shocked at first as she greeted us as “hello ladies” and then realized the situation. We noticed many of the other waiters and waitresses kept walking by and peeking around the corner to see us. After awhile it settled down and not much more was noticed.
The Maroon Slip dress photo is one from a weekend trip I may have written in another place on Alexa’s site. This was early in my making a point about dressing as I wanted him to and told him I would pack his clothes for him. We were out on a driving trip for a Sat-Sunday trip and all I took for him was his makeup, razor, toothbrush and an extra pair of panties. He had to wear this slip dress for the entire weekend, washing it at night in the sink and letting it dry overnight. To be sure he did not cheat and try to wear my clothes, I just had an extra skirt and no shorts or pants. We were in the car mostly but he had to venture out to get gas, mostly used fast food restaurants, use public restrooms, in and out of the hotels and walking around at a few attractions we stopped to see. A lot of people avoided being too close to us and maybe I was even embarrassed. He certainly was.
The last photo of him with breasts was an idea I had from one of Alexa’s blogs on giving him an assignment. I asked him to do some photoshop and hang the photo at his desk next to one he has of me. Hah…I love teasing him about it and asking if he likes his future look!! Reality is though, no plans for anything that permanent.
Hope this fills in a few details on the photos.
Sheila
The thing I noticed about Sheila’s story is that she constantly gave her sissy husband positive reinforcement of his transitioning process. While Jen just went with the flow and it really didn’t sound like much Positive reinforcement was used. The simple fact is that Positive Reinforcement is one of the most powerful things a Mistress/Dominant can use on a submissive. They yearn for approval and the more they get the more they want, they begin to associate submissiveness with approval, and will become more submissive for more approval.
As his submissiveness increases, so does Mistress’s Dominance, Nature abhors imbalance, so Mistress see’s her Dominance as a form of Positive Reinforcement and again works for more.
Positive reinforcement is important as a feminised male is fighting against his internal programming. They need to know they can be feminised and it’s a good thing
oh my…as you say…. “careful what you wish for!”
i suspect i am in the ‘wishing i was accepted in female attire’ by my wife category…but not ready for such a jump! i felt myself beginning to squirm a bit for Sarah the more i read…but in truth…i was also very excited and intrigued!
For, what seems too many years, i have tried to get my wife to accept my femme side and let me express myself a bit more in front of her… but sadly to no avail and i, like many i suspect, steal magic moments whenever i can …and dip in and out of the world of crossdressing/sissification and FLR fantasies. i love challenges and can cope with humiliation but i hate failure …and it seems like that to me at the moment. i would far rather have her part of this world rather than hiding it from her so as not to be ashamed of me. At least she accepts that i dress which is a start i guess that many would be jealous of!
Its been a while since i’ve been back to Lady Alexa’s blog and i realise how much i ‘ve missed it by reading a few recent entries.. do keep it up please.. i may be jealous of those in this real relationship…but also get pleasure from others happiness. Thank you for a great blog.
jane x
My pleasure
First off, thank you (as always) Lady Alexa for helping to broaden the community with your support and the experiences you share. What you said about “he would have to do it her way or there was no way” rings so true. Once a man accepts that Her way is the only way, a FLR runs much more smoothly.
To you, Miss Sheila, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experiences with us all. It is good to be reminded that there is no one way to manage an FLR and no one way to deal with feminization. Two things you said toward the end of your story really struck me.
“I am not trying to make my husband be a real girl, just to be a feminised male.”
This is a conversation my Wife and I have had on many occasions, and it really does encapsulate the feminization experience. I have great admiration and respect for transsexual women. To me, a woman made is no different than a woman born when it comes to respect, admiration, and female superiority. That said, husbands like myself are not transsexual women – we are feminized males, and that is an important distinction. Whether we do it for ourselves, for Her, or for a combination of the two, that identity of a feminized male is never far from our thoughts, and the way you’ve reinforced that is, if I may say so, diabolical in its genius.
“I do not get sexually excited seeing him dressed feminine, quite the opposite. I do feel like it is something in our relationship I can manage and have a specific say in. Because of this, it works.”
For any Wives reading this, or for any hubbies discussing your story with them, I think that statement is vitally important. It demonstrates that there can be a middle ground between his desires and Hers, and it illustrates how She can make it work for Her. So often we hear feminization discussed as something erotic within the bounds of female domination, but we rarely see it approached so rationally and reasonably within FLR (which is a lifestyle, not merely a fetish). I suspect that statement will trigger more than a few ‘ah-ha’ lightbulb moments.
It is a difficult way of life for those of us boys who enjoy women’s clothes and the Women in our lives. Very difficult to bury the urge and cravings, especially for panties, for me.
And I can attest that many of the feelings shared by the Women in these recountings is absolutely true to my wife’s over the years. It takes a lot of understanding, communication, and love I believe for both parties to accept and enjoy each other in this way.
For years I wished with all my heart that I didn’t have this part of me….and it has taken a lifetime for my wife to totally accept that this is just one part of the person I am. I am one lucky “gurl” and have had to endure little embarrassment, except with my wife….after so many years, I am still red faced each time when I first appear to her in feminine attire, because real men are not supposed to be like this. Perhaps that is part of the attraction.
Communication is important. To understand her position and what she will get out of it
OMG Sheila’s story was so much like what happened with my boyfriend. He introduced cross dressing to me one weekend while we were shopping for some for me. I took a second look as it sounded like he wanted the same bra. Anyways he didn’t get one until we talked about what the heck was going on. I will give Tim credit for the honesty part only. It was something Tim had done before with a previous girlfriend and his late mother. I guess Tim thought others allowed it so why wouldn’t I. Tim was a really nice guy who I loved very much so it was hard to refuse him on something that he wanted to only do at home. Over the next few weeks we shopped together only those times I allowed Tim to buy what he wanted. He surprised me knowing his size and pretty well everything about lingerie. When we got home before Tim was allowed to try anything on a conversation was necessary. I had to be honest in not wanting to see Tim in women’s clothing or no he had panties under his male clothes. Alright that was my issue to deal with probably like most other women. Tim agreed to only wear women’s clothing when I was at work or out of town. That sounded like it would work but really it bothered me at work to know my Tim was prancing around the house in women’s clothing. Since I was with him at the time of purchase it bothered me more knowing exactly what he had on. The whole thing began to bother me so something had to be done. One Friday night I asked Tim to show me one of his outfits on him. He asked if I was sure so I replied sure Tim show me please. Needless to say the picture I had in my mind at work was not the same as the real thing. It was hard for me to look at Tim however he was worth keeping in my life. Tim didn’t smoke, drink or spend weekends with the guys. All he wanted was to share this dressing thing with me. I like Sheila had to figure out a way to deal with it and find out what was in it for me. It was a few weeks later when FLR came to rescue me while looking at the internet. One of the stories was very similar to us as it outlines steps the wife took with her husband. I decided to take control of Tim in a way he may not have liked. First Tim had to let me know all about his past dressing from mom to girlfriend. Once I learned that Tim’s weakness were revealed. I learned Tim wanted to be a housewife someday. He was prepared to do anything if I would allow him to live that way. Like most men Tim had no real idea what the meant other than to wear pretty clothes. The only way I would allow Tim to be a housewife was if he followed my rules. He was like a dog with a new bone. I told Tim Monday to Friday he had to wear a chastity device for me as I had to control his penis first. Reluctantly Tim agreed. Once it was locked on his penis we began training Tim to be that housewife he so wanted to be. Yes I bought him all the clothes he needed without him there. It was my decision to what Tim wore. Tim wanted to be a housewife so he also was introduced to makeup, laser treatments and the salon. He was shocked when I told him about getting his hair done. Silly boy thought it was to happen at home, no way. Tim thought as a housewife all his dressing was only at home, no way again. Tim wanted to be feminine so I feminized Tim the way I thought best.
We stayed together for two years until one day Tim just couldn’t handle it anymore. He was embarrassed to have my mother and sisters tease him. Tim never thought about all the things couples do together outside the home. Tim thought he would bounce from Tim to Tammy anything he wanted. He also thought when we went to a movie or out for dinner he would be Tim not Tammy. I had news for him. Anyways Tim wanted out of the relationship and to be honest I was getting tired of it too. It wasn’t easy for me however I made the best of it with Tim. Would I do it again with my current boyfriend? Maybe because there were positives living an FLR. If I do tr y it again boy will I be prepared this time. For those women who have thought about FLR I say go for it since you will have all the control.
Yes, we not here to satisfy a one sided fantasy. Has to be for both
“Be careful what you wish for” is absolutely right. I enjoyed reading this immensely. By insisting her husband be feminized “my way” and “the whole way,” essentially testing his commitment to being feminized, and his commitment to giving up control to his wife. Her demand that he must endure the difficulties women endure trying to be feminine was perfect; it’s not all fun and dress-up games, as a man who wants to be feminized wants to believe. Sheila takes control and begins the FLR relationship. Her gradual acceleration of this relationship takes advantage of Sarah’s need to be led by his wife, pushing him further and further into feminization – probably further than he thought he wanted. I liked that Shiela admits that this is not necessarily what SHE wanted, but that, if she was going to enter into this type of relationship with her husband, then SHE was definitely going to get something out of it. This seems commonplace: men who want to be feminized often don’t think (or care about) of how their wives feel about it; they just want to fulfill their own desires. I think this aspect is the driving force in her life story: Sheila exerts her control by making sure that for every bit of enjoyment Sarah gets out of dressing like a woman, Sheila gets even more enjoyment: whether it be amusement at her husband’s discomfort and occasional public embarrassment, receiving plenty of morning massages and foot rubs, or (since they are both retired), eventually having him not just help with the housework, but do all of it (while “I lay in the sun”). At the end, Sheila wonders “how much he will accept without complaint?” Sheila has done such a great job of taking control, that the answer seems obvious: Anything she gives him.
Thank you, Sheila for sharing your FLR experience.
PS: I also LOVED the pictures.
I would wear male panties if I had a girlfriend or wife who wanted me to, but they still would have to look good on me.
I’d wear a dress, but only for role play. If it was wearing a dress I’d expect to at least get pegged.
I think in the future women are going to expect their men to be submissive in bed so much so that the submissive house husband will become the norm. That means pretty much letting their wives do whatever they want with them.
I like to think of them as reparations for all the misdeeds men have laid on women.
Except a real FLR, one that really works, is not about role playing. It is about a brand new lifestyle where the Lady is the person in charge, period. It would be extremely inappropriate for me to expect anything out of my Lady. She expects plenty out of me as it is Her role in society. I address Her at all times as Lady. She expects me to be impeccably dressed and completely put together without as much as a hair out of place, a speck of lint on my perfect looking skirt suits, or a scuff on my coordinated heels. Everything in my outfit has to be on, and it all must be color coordinated, as those are the expectations which have been on Women for centuries. A little hot? Ha! My jacket is to remain on and buttoned and my makeup can’t be simply removed. It must be touched up. It’s all in Her court what I look like. I have absolutely no judgement in the matter.
Any judgement I had has been gradually taken away over the years and it was symbolically removed in its entirety from me on a Sunday this June when I recited vows to Her in a beautiful pink floral dress. As my mind has been completely reprogrammed with Her love, I delighted in having my makeup applied and a very expensive designer wig placed on my head that morning. It was memorialized as a professional photographer took numerous shots of my kneeling before Her and kissing Her shoe. It was witnessed by Her Mother, and numerous Aunts, and My Mother.
I always capitalize all references to any Woman. She will be superior in every way to me until the day I pass. I could say “Be careful what you wish for,” but as I no longer really identify that way and over years have had my mind completely reprogrammed, I honestly take delight in serving Her every wish.
Her obedient servant always,
Stephanie
Exactly Stephanie
Lady Alexa,
My Lady makes sure I know my place. It’s usually in subtle ways as my transformation unfolded.
On the big day, after kissing Her shoe, She gestured to where all Her Female relatives and My Mother were seated along an obviously planned row of seats. They all extended their right shoe forward as My Lady had moments earlier.
To each I had to look in the eye and say “My obedience is eternal,” after addressing them by their formal name, before kneeling down and kissing each shoe. The last one, “My Mother, Lady (Last name), my obedience is eternal,” and I kissed My Mother’s extended shoe.
The old me would’ve considered it the ultimate humiliation. The new me considers it a beautiful symbol of obedience and love.
Stephanie
Very good but I wouldn’t exactly call these subtle ways
I adore Lady Alexa. I am her #1 fan.
Make Sarah take pueraria mirifica, obtainable from Misolima, Ltd. 6 capsules per day should do the trick. The Ladyboys of Thailand have taken them for years with good results.