I have an FLR marriage and lifestyle, and it’s becoming more alternative by the month. It’s a relationship where I can do whatever I want; within reason of course. My husband trusts me entirely and puts himself in my hands. This means we live a lifestyle unlike most couples, but how many would love to live.
I understand that not everyone gets it, and I occasionally get comments here on my blog telling me what a horrible woman I am. I delete them as they are merely the rantings of a person with an inflexible mind. Don’t they see that we live in a wife-led relationship because that’s what we both want?
Let’s look at some of our alternative FLR lifestyle as a recap of where we are.
A wife-led marriage
We decided some years ago, that I would take the lead. I love being in charge and my husband, Girl, loves to be my submissive. Once you add in the fetish kick we both have, it’s a damn fun marriage.
Feminisation
I feminised my husband many years ago too. By feminised, I mean in private or with those in the scene. So I have renamed him Girl and he has to wear skirts or dresses at home.
CFNM
I really enjoy the power kick of keeping my husband Girl naked at home, when I don’t insist on her wearing a skirt. Which is quite often. The power imbalance is exquisite.
Chastity
I’ve increasingly controlled his clitty. I now cage it when I’m not around to prevent him touching or thinking about masturbating. One reason for locking her in a chastity device more often is that I deny her an orgasm.
Orgasm denial
I stopped Girl having orgasms a couple of years ago. I found her submissiveness dropped off after cumming, plus I really don’t like the smell and the mess of male cum. We continued having sex, but she had to stop before her big moment. I milk her monthly for health reasons, but ruin her orgasm.
More recently, I’ve been not allowing her to have sex with me either. I still enjoy teasing her by playing with her little clitty by hand but never allowing her to get to the point. This is so funny.
Sissy sex
A year or so ago, I introduced Girl to sissy sex. This has included blowjobs and mouth to mouth kissing with another sissy. I’d been thinking about this for a long time, but Girl was never keen. Eventually, I got her there and she’s done this with two different sissies. I’m looking for a more regular ‘sissy girlfriend´ for her. I always supervise and it’s such fun to make them do all manner of naughty things.
I still don’t allow Girl to orgasm with another sissy. I’ve often thought I’d allow her to orgasm to make her more keen on sissy sex but it hasn’t been necessary. My orders have been sufficient and besides, I love not letting her orgasm.
Cuckolding
I’d never considered this until I met another Mistress last year I became friends with. She introduced me to the idea of cuckolding as she did it to her boyfriend and explained what fun it was. In recent weeks, things have started to kick off and we’re going out and meeting men as a double act.
It’s fun to be able to have sex with whoever you fancy, and I also get off on the power kick of being able to do so. The power kick extends to either telling Girl in detail exactly what I’ve done with a lover.
I’d dithered for ages on cuckolding because I don’t like male cum, but condoms, which are necessary for other reasons, fix that problem.
An FLR marriage is the best marriage
There’s nothing I do that I’ve not agreed with my husband and I do nothing in secret. I have a wide remit, which we have pre-agreed. My husband Girl often takes some time to come around to my latest ideas, but she gets there i the end most times.
We’d discussed sissy sex for a long time, cuckolding too, before I took real action. She was excited at the idea of the humiliation of sissy sex and cuckolding, but less so on making it a reality.
I trod carefully, taking small steps to ease Girl into the idea of cuckolding over the past three months. I didn’t lie, I told her everything. My first date was merely kissing and petting.
I explained when I got home what I’d did and discussed how she felt. I told her how I’d grabbed this man’s penis through his trousers and it felt wonderful as it was so big. I told Girl how I’d suffered over the years with having to put up with her small clitty. As a dominant lady, I needed and deserved more. It was just about sex.
It was tough for her, but it wasn’t then end of the world, so I moved things up a stage. The next couple of dates I moved up to oral sex with other men, and we discussed these too and how much I enjoyed a real penis and a man with a good tongue.
I explained how younger more virile men with bigger penises were sexually more satisfying for me, but reiterated that it was just about sex.
I’ve thought of various ideas around cuckolding. One idea would be to bring one of my lovers home and go to the bedroom while Girl had to wait downstairs. After a while, I can call her up later and give her the full condom to dispose of. But this is the stuff of fantasies so, let’s see.
Whatever we do, we have agreed that no boyfriends’ can stay overnight and I won’t stay overnight woth them. Again, that may change.
In the meantime, I need to find a sissy girlfriend for Alice as I’ve been neglecting this side of things. It’s only fair, don’t you think? Maybe we could go out as a foursome?
It took me three years to implement a FLR into our marriage. My darling hubby Todd let his guard down by letting me discover 1. He has a strong foot fetish. 2. He’s helpless and becomes wildly turned on when I tickle him
Poor baby! After long periods denying him orgasm, making him smell my “10 hours in sneakers” feet, and tickle torturing him, I finally made a demand that if I allow him orgasm, you will lick up all the semen
Next came role play. Imagine it’s another man’s cum Todd, lick clean your wife’s messy dirty unfaithful crotch. We did a few “dry”runs when I was out with gal pals but called Todd and told him I was with a man. He was trembling excitedly when I finally came home
After months of pretending I did the ultimate, came home tipsy and horny and filled with a bulls seed. I reeked of sex and cum, I was sweaty and sticky, I described the man in great detail as my newly submissive bitch thoroughly licked up the mess
Now he looks forward to my date nights
My foot odor issue has been a source of embarrassment since my days as a cheerleader. Imagine my delight discovering Todd cannot resist my feet! I know they smell like cheesy nachos as Todd rubs my feet, so I tease him. “I tended bar all night in black sneakers. Do you wanna smell my feet tonight Todd”? He goes wild
Todd has become my cum eating husband. I’m trying to decide if I’d like to take the final step of seeing Todd perform fellatio on my bull . Has anyone gone this far?
Most exalted Lady Alexa,
It seems as if your relationship has moved on substantially with Girl/Alice reaching a level of acceptance that her role in your relationship is to be your sissy cuckold. Your taking of lovers is an increased level of humiliation for her.
At the moment I get the impression from your writings that this is reluctant acceptance from Girl. Moving this to another level, i.e. one of positive desire for you to be satisfied and pleasured fully is perhaps a another significant challenge.
Does she help bathe and dress you in your sexy lingerie ahead of you visiting your lovers, if not is this something you will get her to do. Do you share all the intimate details with her on your return or after your lover has left so she gets to understand how much pleasure you receive.
Is the intention to every force her to watch you and one of your lovers. This is a highly erotic and very humiliating act, but if handled right Girl will realise just how much pleasure your need, recognise she is unable to provide that pleasure and through the love she has for you actively want you to be satisfied frequently. It is an exquisite level of humiliation for a sissy to move from reluctant acceptance of being a cuckold to actively being desirous of the role. It is a recognition that as a sissy you are wholly inadequate and as you love your Mistress you want to to enjoy her pleasures to the fullest.
I look forward to further insights into your developing FLR. Girl/Alice is extremely lucky and I imagine most of us are very envious of her.
Your obedient servant
Suzii xx
Yes, our FLR continues to move on. I’ve decided not to bring my lovers to my home now for various reasons. I have no plan for my husband to watch me make love with my lovers. Other men do not want to be watcthed like this, I’d feel conscious and I want to be free to enjoy, and it’s too cruel to make Girl watch. I tell her everything when I get home.
I understand your concerns Lady Alexa and ultimately it is about your fulfillment and that should not be compromised.
Do you enjoy relating your evening’s pleasures with your lovers to Gurl and does she feel both humiliated and elated that her Mistress is being satisfied fully in ways she is incapable of?
I think that sharing your experiences with your lovers in this way will strengthen the love between you and Gurl. Gurl will receive the humiliation she clearly craves and knows that you Lady Alexa are receiving the sexual satisfaction you deserve and she can’t provide. Gurl even if she feels anxious when you are with your lovers knows this is part of the love you both share.
This is a new level to your relationship one I think will further solidify the love you have for each other. I look forward to further instalments in your continuing developing lifestyle.
Your obedient servant
Suzii xx
I do indeed relate my cuckold evenings in detail to my Girl. As you say, she’s full of jealousy and humiliation, but also so happy I’m being fulfilled.
God I wish my wife met you.
How much your relationship has changed over these dozen or so years!
I really like the idea of a double date.
His perspective: his beautiful wife sits at the table with her lover,
and he, as dress a sissy, sits with his girl, also a sissy.
Isn’t there a greater humiliation for a heterosexual man?
I think it might work. And yes, there’s been an enormous change over the past couple of years. There have been some things that have influenced these changes. I may write about them at some stage. There are people who read my blogs we know, so I balance what very personal info I let out.
Dearest Lady Alexa, this is absolutely deliciously feminine. Girl is so lucky to be in an FLR with you. She should be on her knees passionately tasting your silken toes and pleasuring you into orgasmic delight at all times. I truly believe what you have is darling and I would absolutely love ❤️ to be in the same place as Girl. Can’t wait to hear more, and would love to chat if you have time. Femforever, Michelle. Praise be to Womyn and Gynarchy 💋
I would humbly suggest that you develop girl’s relationship with another sissy, not only on a sexual level, but also on a romantic one. Have them share hopes and frustrations, buy each other presents, help each other out, make them fall for each other…
When I was owned and in sissy training, I did have a relationship like you described. It was nice to share our feelings and frustrations. We were also the same size basically and shared skirts and dresses and high heels, borrowed a pair of pantyhose/tights when needed. I’m unsure how willing most sissies would be to have this type of relationship? I know it took time for me to accept.
It’s taken a long time to train my husband but I get there
Yes, it is a path that cannot be rushed. For me, the fear of punishment is what led me to acceptance of being her sissy. Her one specific punishment for laddering my pantyhose/tights was immensely humiliating and difficult to say the least. Do you still find the need to discipline/punish your sissy girl?
I enjoy punishing my sissy but it’s not really necessary these days. I just like doing it.
Very well said Ms. Alexa. Which is why my former owner punished me with maintenance bondage for long periods of time, because she liked it! As her sissy, I got used to handing her the cuffs and chains daily as part of that maintenance .
Dearest Lady Alexa, this is absolutely deliciously feminine. Girl is so lucky to be in an FLR with you. She should be on her knees passionately tasting your silken toes and pleasuring you into orgasmic delight at all times. I truly believe what you have is darling and I would absolutely love ❤️ to be in the same place as Girl. Can’t wait to hear more, and would love to chat if you have time. Femforever, Michelle. Praise be to Womyn and Gynarchy 💋
She is very lucky
Yes I think I do need to develop this.
I absolutely love this idea! My sissy husband only has access to my womanhood after my bull has filled me with alpha male seed. I thought the ultimate was experiencing my husband clean up the sexual gooey mess orally
But your idea is better, keep Todd sexually frustrated and not allow him orgasm so he can focus on a sexual and romantic relationship with a fellow sissy husband in a FLR relationship!
Not only will Todd orally pleasure his lover, but more humiliating yet they will hold hands, kiss, neck, tickle, and Todd can rub his feet as he does mine!
Thank you for posting here, and I hope you’ll continue posting here, perhaps weekly or monthly. I wish I had a Mistress like you. The girl who serves you is lucky to have you. I remember you wrote before about how you used to force your maid to wear feminine clothes and take her out at night for walks so she’d get used to wearing clothes outside the house. Could you continue that? Tell us what’s happened so far. Is the girl ready to go out in feminine clothes? And I remind you, Mistress, you also wrote that the girl had to choose something feminine to do every week, like piercing her ears or wearing a headband, etc. Is this still happening, or have you stopped making her choose? How are her breasts? Are they getting bigger, or haven’t you achieved your dream of that yet? You used to refuse hormones because they would shrink the girl’s vagina, and you used to like using them. What about now? Is the idea of hormones a good one? Using condoms is a good idea, but what? Do you throw them in the trash, or do you let her taste the man you slept with so she gets used to the taste and accepts it more in the future? And when Milking her tells her that she should taste or eat her own semen.
It’s so sad that you need to delete some comments. You are writing about what works for one man and one woman, but having found an FLR works for the two of you has implications for society in general. Society tells us that male lead relationships are what is really happening around us and that is natural and good. I’m sure that the idea that they or their spouse could accept or even desire and enjoy the reverse is very threatening for some people. I certainly keep the domme/sub of my marriage a secret out of fear of how it would change how friends and family regard us.
I would describe my marriage as old fashioned with the exception that I am the one providing discipline. I really enjoy reading your blog because you are going much further than a simple mirror image of a happy modern or traditional marriage. You are going beyond the accepted head of the household role to behaviour society and wives accepted for centuries, but now consider abuse. I find it really erotic to read about and contemplate how much further I and many wives will take this.
Hello Karen. My FLR has developed as I’ve seen that many boundaries are artificial. Why can I not have sex with younger and fitter men for physical enjoyment only, but remain in a loving relationship, for example. And why not enforce orgasm denial on my husband and humiliate him when it gives me such a wonderful feeling and keeps his behaviour in line with how I want him to behave?? We both enjoy this way of living that may be considered wrong by others, but works for us. Like you, we keep things secret since others do not share our ability to have a more open mind to different ways of living.
Thank you for posting here, and I hope you’ll continue posting here, perhaps weekly or monthly. I wish I had a Mistress like you. The girl we serve is lucky to have you. I remember you wrote before about how you used to dress your maid in feminine clothes, taking her out at night for walks to get her used to wearing clothes outside the house. Could you continue this? Tell us what’s happened so far. Is the girl ready to go out in feminine clothes? And I remind you, Mistress, you also wrote that the girl should choose something feminine to do each week, like piercing her ears or wearing a headband. Is this still happening, or have you stopped making her choose? How are her breasts? Are they growing, or haven’t you achieved your dream yet? You used to reject hormones because they would shrink the girl’s vagina, and you liked using them. What about now? Is the idea of hormones a good one? Using condoms is a good idea, but what? Do you throw them in the trash, or do you let her taste the man you slept with so she gets used to the taste and accepts it more in the future? And when Milking her tells her that she should taste or eat her own semen.
My ideas tend to develop based on what happens. The Cuckold develoment was really just an oportunity that grew out of my Mistress friend for example. So Cuckolding is now an important part of our FLR. As is orgasm denial. You’ll have read my more recent posts which state that my FLR has developed into more of a femdom relationship.
Thank you for the quick reply – I understand and will hurry up and wait – lol
Girl is so lucky to have you. I’m sure she will enjoy watching you have sex with other men. Why wouldn’t she? I know how much she wants you to be happy and feel good. Have you considered the idea of having her be part of it as well? Perhaps helping you with giving a blowjob? It could be a lot of fun for both of you. Girl could help in other ways too. I know that for me, if it were to happen, it would be my desire to hold my wife and express my love for her while another man fucks her. Not always of course. But she may benefit from being involved in some ways
YOu’ve got it. My husband just wants me to be happy and enjoy life, especially with younger, fitter men. Girl realises she can’t keep up with me or satisfy me as much with her little clitty
I love your stories and love to listen while traveling – driving! you just dont have much of anything on Audible 🙁 do you have any plans to put them their? It takes me some much time to copy your storys on kindle
Hello Dennis. I currently have 8 books on Audible and two in progress. Ill be putting them all up in time. However, it’s a very slow process. It can take a couple of months for the narrator to complete her work, I have to check it, and then it takes Audible another month to approve. So it’s slow progress but I’ll eventually have them all there.