Anyone who’s a regular reader here will know I have a love-hate relationship with putting sissies in chastity cages.
I love controlling my sissy husband’s little clitty. I used to use a cage on her from time to time, usually when I’m not at home to keep an eye on things.
On the other side of the coin, I know how much sissies adore chastity cages. So much so, they often put themselves into chastity. Er? How does that work? That’s wearing a cage and then removing it whenever that want to masturbate.
My sissy husband, Girl, is not a big fan of chastity cages, so I don’t have the problem of having a sissy prancing about pretending be be in chastity in order to get excited and have a major orgasm over it later.
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I know sissies who have no Mistress who lock themselves into cages. OK, but hardly chastity, just a cage temporarily around your clitty.
I know of a couple of sissies in FLRs who also lock themselves into chastity. This is despite the Mistress having no interest. One of my Mistress friends just shrugs her shoulders and looks at the ceiling. “Whatever,” she says to me.
The on-off chastity cage decision
As I write this in a cold London January with the heating on full blast, I have my sissy husband naked except for a small pink chastity cage.
I’ve tended in the past to only lock her little clitty away whenever I’m going to be out of the home. If I go to the gym, for example, or I’m out for the evening with my friends. I obviously have a no-masturbating rule for her and a no orgasm rule, which is kind of the same thing I suppose.
She’s a good sissy, but she’s male at the end of the day, and can’t be trusted to be left alone with her clitty whatever she might promise.
I also loved to see her exposed and erect and I loved to play with it. It’s fun to tease her by playing with it and stopping before she cums, especially after so long without an orgasm.
However, I’ve thought for the new year I would lock her away for longer periods — a kind of New Year’s resolution. This is because she’s not overly keen, so that’s a great reason. But also, because I want to change things around and increase the one-sided nature of our sex life. Keeping her locked for long periods removes her from getting erect and having sex entirely.
In conjunction with putting her in a cage for weeks rather than hours, I’m no longer going to allow her little clitty to touch me. What I mean by this is that previously, I would make her pull out to avoid her orgasming. This can be frustrating for me too at times.
In addition to the new chastity cage, I’ve bought her a large hollow dildo. I remove her cage and put this dildo over her clitty and strap it to her. She then can have sex with me (sort of) but feels nothing, of course. I get something more suitable in size, albeit silicone not flesh. I’ll get to that niggle in time, but for now, this seems a great alternative.
After I’m satisfied, I lock her away again. She’s often hard inside the dildo when I remove it, so I use a wine cooler jacket to get it back down to size so I can lock it away. Funny.
Back to her cage. It’s a small one, but not the micro I tried previously. That one caused problems with her going to the toilet where it splashed about and inside the cage. This one works well. She’s been caged since the 2nd January without problems. It’s the 14th Jan at the time of writing, so she’s gone nearly two weeks of being caged and I’ve only removed it to fit the dildo. It then goes back on.
Chastity love-hate
I like to change our FLR about and currently, I’m in an on phase with Girl’s chastity. I’m also in a CFNM phase so, despite the London winter cold outside, our house is nice and toasty. Girl is completely naked all day except for bedtime, when I put her in a pink baby doll nightie.
So, for now, Girl remains caged. She’s not so big down below, so not much use now. I have the large hollow dildo to put on her, and later on, a few lovers. The cuckold phase is proving difficult to satisfy as I insist on someone being more than eight inches and they’re not allowed to cum.
If they really need to cum after I’ve finished with them, their only option will be a handjob by Girl.
Potential ‘lovers’ will be no more than my real-life dildos. No alpha, ‘bulls’ of course, just submissive males with huge cocks who will do what I tell them.
For now, the large hollow dildo is proving to be the answer, but let me know in the comments if you have any ideas around Girl’s chastity and my ‘needs’.
I am in a FLR marriage and may cage wearing started after my wife told me that PIV sex was a thing of the past. I am her feminised housewife and we hadn’t had sex for about 6 weeks. Pre-cum was oozing into my panties. I had enough and decided I had to have a wank. I was sprung by her and was appropriately punished. Now I am in chastity full time and am permitted to masturbate anally when I ask and am allowed a hand wank under certain conditions.
I am a bisexual male and I have only recently thought about the feminization process. I have read several of your books including your husband’s story. And although some of the things you said you had him do I would also do. Other things I would find very hard to do. For I stance I am a construction worker and I find this sort of thing very arousing, but I could never see myself in a cage. I wouldn’t say I am an alpha necessarily but a very strong beta for sure. As for your dilemma I agree with the finding 2 to 3 beta males to switch out and having Alice join in the festivities too. All while being in the cage. Logically it’s the only alternative that seems viable.
I’m going to make my boyfriends use a condom and let them orgasm into it. I want myhusband to watch me and them cum together really.
I believe that you are on the right track with using the strap on for your pleasure. Alice receives no release but has the muscle memory to give you the pleasure that you desire with no mess. Seems like a win win situation. All the best to you Lady Alexa; may your needs be fulfilled.
Kind Lady Alexa,
It has been my observation that the idea of “permanent chastity” is the thrill for the sissy. I have seen that denial, and subsequint teasing is what strokes the sissy libito. I feel a pang of sadness for the sissy whoes mistress is so indifferent, because the seething fire in her eyes as she coerces her sissy into the cage is what the sissy craves most. I have also noted other mistresses who use chastity (and hormones in some cases, castration in others) -all ficton althogh I’m sure somewhere couples have done it; to shrink the clitty further. Another layer of control and feminization.
Since none of that is your aim. I completly understand your postion. I must remember that good girls dont cum. They please others. Their Misstress’ desires are what’s most important of all! In the future I will constantly be reminding myself of that. Thank you Lady Alexa!
My point was that cages are largely for sissies as you proved by stating that it is a thrill for the sissy stoke a sissy’s libido. Most Mistress’s like me don’t care a jot about a sissy having a thrill or a sissy’s libido
Of course.
Dearest Lady Alexa,
You’re one of my heroes. I don’t think that you should have to much difficulty finding the Beta submissive that you are looking for, certainly a number of them. I think the difficulty will be finding one that can actually hold his cum like you want. If you want to have meaningful and lengthy encounters at least. You know that you can’t just believe if a man tells you that he won’t c*m. Your only option may be to have him/them wear condoms. At least until he can prove he actually has the ability to control it. I don’t think anyone likes condoms. I know from my readings of yours that you really don’t like the mess. Training Alice to be the very best at cleanup might be an option. I doubt you’ll go for that but I just wanted to make sure it’s put out there. It does have it’s upsides. More humiliation for Alice, it gets her more and more used to eating it. It gives her a little more of you without getting all. And you could get another orgasm or 2 in the process. A man can tell you that he can control his orgasms. But in the heat of it, it will be different
Yes the problem is a man controlling it. My Girl can as she’s been trained
Yes. Your Girl is so lucky to have been trained so well by you. I’m so envious of her. But, aside from a seasoned porn star, we men are not capable of refraining from cumming no matter what we say. Especially in the heat of of passion with such an amazing woman as you. It is my belief that an experienced porn star can cum or not pretty much at will. But, then you have the arrogance to deal with. I would think. But the average man being able to satisfy you and hold back from cumming himself? I doubt one exists. You deserve long slow wonderful sex until you are satisfied completely. Your best option is 2 or 3 men that can tag team and give you what you need. Tagging out when they are getting too close. And tagging back in when they have got control.
You’re right, It’s going to be a problem
Kind Lady Alexa,
I am an unclaimed sissy male. I really appreciated your husband’s story. As i am unclaimed my mistress is fictious. So most of my experiance has been with sissy/bimbo hypnosis audio. I just wanted to thank you for you insight and descriptions of how you pressed your husband forward. It helps solidify the imaginary mistress in my mind. Her personality and rules. I was thrilled to hear that you had ‘no use’ for your husband’s cock any more
It gave me chills as you had spoken of his bits with enjoyment before. I wonder if your bulls, being a bit more masculine and virral will get your bell rining for cream pies and clean up duties. Religating your husband to continually yearn for release that will never come. And be forced to watch as his beloved misstress’ affections begin to gush over other better endowed lovers. I look forward to hearing the tale.
Alpha males are out of the question. Beta males with big cocks who do what I tell them. I only want one thing from them, my husband gives me everything else.
I understand completely. Please forgive my unsolicited remarks about the bull. Thank you for taking time to respond to my comments. You truly are a wise and thoughtful Mistress.
It goes without saying, that she would be in a chastity cage the entire time you’re with the bull.
As a side note, I will say:
None of the things I recommend for her would be things I would be unwilling to do myself.
I’ve been experimenting with how long I can go without coming. Today is day 404. I am not caged constantly, but somewhere between 75 to 95% of the time. Yes, I’m self-caging, but I prefer the feel of the ring around my sack and the compression on the penis. The penis has become very compliant over the last 5 years of increased caging.
No bulls.
Sounds like it working well.
It seems the next phase for Girl is to be watching you having sex with another man and having to clean up and swallow the c**.
It will be difficult to find a bull to move forward with Cuckolding if he’s not allowed to cum. I remember that you don’t like the mess of c**. It seems the perfect compromise would be to have the bull and allow him to cum, even if it’s not inside you, and then have girl eat the mess.
Option B would be to allow the bull to cum, but while wearing a condom. This eliminates the mess and still allows Girl to eat the c**.
I agree with your point Dave. A bull is going to want to cum. When I was owned, with our without a bull I was required to eat my sissy seed. Or into an icetray for cumsicles at a later date. When my owner had one of her bulls over and I was watching in the corner restrained, it was always interesting to me what my owner would choose. Most of the time the bulls would shoot it right into my mouth. There are many ways to eat cum as a sissy cuckold, the main point is the bull has to want to cum.
No bulls. I repeat, there will be no bulls. I reckon that’s my sissy readers’ fantasy, it’s certainly not mine
Not fantasy. It’s reality.
A Domme I know in Germany has sex with her subs. However, she only rides them as she wants to stay in complete control.
They are not bulls. They are beta.
However, they cum, unless they take too long.
Finding a betta, with a big dick, who’s willing to have sex and not cum is not likely.
Not sure where all this ‘bull’ chat came from. I don’t like ‘bulls’ so I’m not looking for one. I’d rather continue as I am. All I want is a beta submissive with a big dick who does what he’s told and that includes not cumming.
Is that so difficult? Seems it is.
Lady Alexa, very well said and now I have a clear understanding of what you seek. Just curious if you would want the beta submissive feminized? Would You want him naked or in some type of lingerie? Or would that be determined as the festivities progressed?
The not cumming part is definitely going to be difficult. I should think that big dicked submissives would be relatively easy for an amazing woman like you to find. I can only dream of being that for a woman like you. But perhaps my idea of having 2 or 3 to tag team so you can be satisfied without them cumming, will be your best option. They can take turns, staying aroused and switching out before the point of no return and switching back in when needed. Then perhaps Alice can finish them orally. Would be a wonderful way for her to be able to take part and be involved. You would be satisfied, your betas would be satisfied. And, I know if I was Alice I’d certainly be satisfied knowing I’ve played an important part in you getting what you need. It’s a win win, win, win. I’m sure there are hundreds of beta men that would jump at the opportunity.
I’ve realised I’ll need to make my boyfriends use a condom for reasns other than not wanting their cum so that solves the problem really.