When you’re leading an FLR Lifestyle with your very own feminized husband, you sometimes just need to sit back and relax. It’s not always about the next stage of development, but about enjoying what you have.
A female-led relationship and a feminized husband is a truly wonderful lifestyle, but here in the real world it’s the foundation rather than a single focus. I’m not sure everyone understands this point. You have to get on with real life too.
My Feminized Husband & Sissy Housewife
I have several ideas for Alice’s improvement in my head. That said, I haven’t increased her feminization recently. I have returned to her wearing a wig at times. I can’t decide whether I prefer it or not, but there are occasions when I want her looking like a proper girl.
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I wish she had real hair, but male pattern baldness has intervened. Still, I think she’s looking pretty passable these days in a wig. Without it, she’s not so feminine.
I insist on miniskirts of course, it’s important for her to expose her legs. I bought her a set of padded bras which give her a nice B cup size. I think they look pretty good and give her the more natural feminine look I’m after for her.
This is a normal look for Alice at home these days on the book cover above, as is the following picture.
This is is Alice in her housewife look. Nothing too sissy or OTT, just a pretty dress. In this one she has a C-cup bra on with inserts. Sometimes I like the bigger tit look. It’s nice when you can choose.
I think low heels or no heels or more practical for housework. I like her in high heels if I want to play, but really I want a nice clean home and my dinner ready. What girl spends all day working at home in high heels? No one, so why should my girl be any different?
Sometimes I allow her to sit on the chairs but other times I think it’s appropriate she sits on the floor. I can’t explain why I choose one or the other, it seems to be about what mood I’m in.
My Feminized Husband – My Secretary
As many of you know, Alice works from home for her company. That is very useful as it means she is feminized more often. She has another role beyond earning income for my household: my personal secretary.
This means she does all the technical and support work for this blog and for my books. She designs all the book covers, web site design and layout, the blog photos and editing and she proof reads my work. Not that she’s so good at proof reading sometimes as I keep spotting mistakes.
Here she is in secretary mode when she was working on this post for me.
No he doesn’t wear sunglasses at home, they were purely for disguise, as was the folder.
More FLR, More Feminization?
The answer to this one is yes, but when I have some time to devote to it. It’s not all about changing and increasing my husband’s feminization, but about enjoying what you have.
So where do I want to go with my FLR lifestyle and a feminized husband? I’m not sure there’s so much more to do with regard to the FLR, we both accept it’s the best type of relationship for us. Where do we go with Alice’s feminization? That’s another story.
- I thought the introduction of another feminized male to the dynamic last year worked well – for me anyway. I think the occasional submissive feminised male is a very nice addition to things.
I am nervous about this in some ways; the other feminized male has to be passable as a female, well-known to us both and genuinely submissive. Then I want to play and push Alice’s male boundaries even further.
- I’ve always wanted to be able to invite a female friend to the house to enjoy Alice as Alice. Apart from those couples I know, I’ve been reluctant to let any friends know how we live behind closed doors.
- Alice’s lack of real tits bothers me, I want her with real ones. Size A cup would be fine. I’m still not sure on the best way forward despite all the great suggestions. Frustrating.
- I’m warming to the idea of some kind of permanent hair removal around her clitty. A permanent feminine triangle would be wonderful. Laser maybe, some kind of electrolysis? I think permanence is important here. No going back.
- Her body shape still perturbs me too. It’s better than it was, but she needs a smaller feminine waist. I’ve been too soft.
- I think this is the year that I’ll get her outside in a dress or skirt. We’ll start somewhere secluded first. I’ve been putting this off for too long too.
Anyway, that’s all for the future. It would be great to get some ideas about what else I might be able to do to increase Alice’s femininity – leave me a comment.
You say, you would like your husband to have bigger boobs.
How often do you play with his current boobs? play with your hands, your mouth on them every day. Make him laugh and enjoy.
After 1-2 years he will be willing to increase their size maybe to a c cup(this is usually the bigger size a man can bear as “manboobs”)
I would like them more to look at than play with
Hi, Interesting read. My wife asked me to look at submissive male web pages and blogs and post appropriately about us. She does not want me to be feminine. It’s not that dressing in women’s clothes is not required. Primarily she wants me to be a man to the degree of physically strong. The next thing is obedience. If she instructs then I obey without question. Her comment is we are both adults and my choice is to submit. She does whip me and although at the time it is happening, I am wishing it to stop, I do appreciate it because it does make me feel submissive and it emphasizes the roles and makes me feel respect for her. Hope that makes sense. If I disappoint I do actually like her to take action. Whipping, washing my mouth with soap, extended denial of release, restriction of food although it’s really a way of clearing the air. Sort of different to punishing a child.
It’s always an agreement for this type of relationship
Julie Anne,
It sounds as though you have the basics covered so now you are either looking to add additional feminization or fantasy and excitement. Without knowing how much you already dress in public, I can only suggest things. Some of the things I have done have been described in my other posts but a short summary of those I have pushed him on for my own purposes would include;
When leaving the house for anything other than work, always keep nails filed and painted. In the summer, always wear open toe sandals with a small heel. Modest makeup and long (shoulder length), styled (with a curling iron) hair.
Wearing a skirt and open toe sandals (3” heels) is something I reserve for out of town and usually in the car, with exceptions. If we are going shopping to a woman’s store such as ULTA, Sephora, Sallys, etc, I have told him to dress as such a couple of times. I am not a fan of being so open about it around the neighbors or where we might see neighbors but occasionally take the risk. Assuming you do not normally go out in public dressed that way, she should expect you to dress as such when you travel, occasionally as she feels for it when shopping or going to dinner in your own town may add a little control for her to keep you uncomfortable.
Wearing a nice lace bra is a given but before going out in public, she could occasionally choose your top to be sure it is shear and contrasts with the bra. Such as a black lace bra under a thin white top. While my Sarah has been wearing unlined bras, I recently gave him a black lace padded one with C cups. Combined with a snug, light sweater or, now that it is very warm out, a thin cami top it is quite noticeable. The increase in visibility from an unlined B to a padded C bra is comparatively huge but as he becomes accustomed, I may someday make him try a (stuffed) bra with D cups. In the meantime I have something to threaten with knowing it would be embarrassing to be seen that way.
Assuming your girlfriend has other close friends, she could invite them over, expect you to be properly dressed, obviously be prompt to serve snacks and drinks, offer to do foot massages, etc. If it does not offend her friends, she can either tell you to lift your skirt or she can do it to show off your panties. They better be very nice, lace thong panties or similar. I have done this a few times with close girlfriends. Sounds exciting but usually results in embarrassment to be treated that way.
However you chose to have sex, if you insist on being a girl, remember it is the girl’s job to eat the cum. It should be your g’fs rule to expect this from you always. I could explain more, but I think you can figure it out. I consider nipple sucking to be important. I spend time sucking his nipples, not other things. When tender or sensitive, remember it is something women deal with.
Not trying to write a book, but hope these things help.
Sheila
Dear Ms Sheila
Thank You for Your comments and observations.
The reason for discussion in the forum is we are both open to new suggestions. We both find comments about FLR by other members and Lady Alexa both interesting and rewarding. i regularly review posts with my Gf and discuss them openly.
i wear female attire at home and have now reached the stage where my female wardrobe exceeds my male wardrobe.
She enjoys giving me emasculating tasks and putting me in emasculating situations.
As You rightly suggest it gives both Her and i pleasure to ‘push’ things a little, although i now understand from reading Lady Alexa, that it’s Her pleasure that is paramount in a successful FLR.
Yours pantifully
julie x
Julie,
I noticed you post requesting ideas that would further feminize you, probably in a way that would create stress or embarrass you? I do not really understand why you would ask the forum for ideas when you could just ask the woman who should be advising you of your role in her life and your dress that pleases her.
However, as Alexa noted, wearing a skirt at home is a given, along with the basics of panties, bras, properly filed and painted nails, hair style, etc. My thoughts are that since she refers to you as a woman including when with friends, she must prefer you dress that way outside the home? If not already done, you should have the conversation with her and dress accordingly. If that is not emasculating enough, then consider suggesting additional feminizing tasks to her for her consideration. Does she prefer you put effort towards being a woman or is this about the fantasy of embarrassing you? And yes I have occasionally done that to my husband and she may also get some pleasure from pushing you?
With just a slightly feminine outfit and this you could show off Alice only when you considered it appropriate: https://www.brit.co/remote-control-bra/
That’s very amusing
Hello to Alexa and all,
Spring is finally coming and we can look forward to a change in attire!! Sarah (my hubby) put away the ankle boots an started wearing sandals and short, shorts. All the more reason to keep his toenails painted nicely and legs shaved smooth. I am continuing the sunscreen lines and bikini top thing I started last fall to be sure he has white breasts and tan lines that can not be hidden when he takes off his shirt in public.
Note to Katrina, I was interested in how the visit went with your cousin? How did you keep Selina dressed? Panties, bra and heels or with skirt or shorts and a top? How did your cousin and her friend relate to Selina? Are implants still happening this month?
Thanks,
Sheila
Dear Lady Alexa
Found Your post very interesting read from start to finish.
i was ‘veeted’ by GF first day we met, She wanted total body hair removal.
i would have preferred ‘permanent feminine triangle’ as You suggested. But i didn’t have any say in the matter.
sissy julie
Dear Lady Alexa
Always find Your posts interesting and a little inspiring.
my own FLR is progressing well as my Female partner is increasing the number of emasculating activities and tasks.
i have posted before about meeting Her and Her friends in costa for a nice daytime chat.
Now i have started to take care of Her dry cleaning.
i take my work shirts to dry cleaners every two weeks, but now i take Her skirts and dresses to the cleaners as part of my routine.
The local dry cleaners is run by two Mature Ladies that seem only too pleased for me too bring skirts and dresses to them.
Would like to know if You have more suggestions for household emasculating tasks to enhance our FLR.
julie x
Are you in a skirt at home? You need to be
Thank You for Your reply. Wearing skirts at home? Of course, i now own more female clothing than male clothing. i have so many female clothes, it would be impossible to put them all away if i had a visitor. Recent purchases, all supervised of course, and authorised by my Gf, include skirted leggings, summer shorts, bikini, bras and panties (mostly brazilian style).
Also purchased were breast and nipple pumps, which complimented by my feminisers, is seeing my little breasts develop nicely. My Gf would like a nice c cup in my bras, which will happen with daily usage of the pumps.
i am also benefitting from increased public wearing of my bras. Including trips to the dry cleaners. Eventually i will wear a bra to work (unwired).
Yours pantifully
julie x
Hello Katrina!
Thank you so much for the update on your husband and the great progress you have made. It is nice to know that intelligent Women are actively feminizing the males in their lives.
It will be so exciting to hear about Rachel and Erica’s reaction to seeing Selina so pretty, feminine and submissive, especially since he was such an irritant giving her a hard time and saying nasty things. Just wondering, is Rachel or Erica a “Mannish” Woman? Would be so Delightful to have Selina in an Ultra Feminine dress and heels while all the Women are wearing the pants and in Total Control!
So Happy to hear about the progress that Jackie is making with her husband. Was he in a dress when she took him out in public, or just feminine slacks? It also sounds like Donna is a Quick Accomplisher….I bet she is very Proud of her prissy boyfriend!
Hopefully, by the time of your next post your friend at work will have begun the process of Feminizing her husband! Feminine men make the best husbands!
Female Control with Feminized male Helpers is the Future!
Thank you for the update and ALL the Great Progress you are making for Womankind!
Patti
Hi Patti. I’m a new wanna be feminized husband. What a wonderful visual you encourage. I can just picture Selina as you describe her being dressed more femininely than the genetic females . I can also envision a bit of pay back for the rudeness he expressed in his pre awakened days before he was able to tame his masculine tendencies with a bra and panties and perhaps an occasional trip over his new head of household’s knees. Can’t wait to hear the story.
Please allow me to say thank you again Lady Alexa for such a wonderful blog. Also, congratulations to Ms. Katrina for not only taking her rightful place as their head of her household but also for inspiring other women to take ownership over their males. i am now locked and pantied 24×7, my wife demands it. She still feels bad having me do chores and i often find her doing laundry or cleaning while i’m at work, but she has become more dominant demanding that i remain locked and pantied all the time. What struck me recently was we were watching a TV show in the US called Dr Pimple Popper, a female dermatologist, and a male patient was interviewed and during the interview he said ‘i know my wife wants me to become a better housekeeper’ – he said this on national TV. Another patient was a woman who taught first grade and the Doctor joked how honest small children can be and joked about a kid saying his father wears lady’s underwear at which point my wife bursted out laughing as i sat there is pink panties and a chastity device rubbing her feet. FLR is clearly becoming mainstream. males like us have no chance. i am hopeful, but scared, that my wife will grow in her dominance and control.
Hi Lady Alexa! It’s been quite awhile since I commented on your blog…life has been hectic since I returned to work in October after my accident and recovery. Although I haven’t increased Selina’s feminization much since then, we are firmly entrenched in our FLR lifestyle and Selina continues to live fulltime as a feminized male. It’s been 10 months since we started this journey and it’s been wonderful having an obedient, submissive husband! Two things that really helped in feminizing Selina were the voice lessons I had her take and waist training with a corset. Although she doesn’t pass completely these two things help her blend really well. The next step, and something I have thought long and hard about is implants. She will be getting them in April and they will be proportionate to her body.
I have found at times that Selina’s male ego will sneak back and try to assert itself, but I have been able to put a stop to it. As you have stated many times Lady A, once you make progress or reach a new level with your feminized hubby, never regress back! A dose of public humiliation or exposure to women always helps to keep that nasty male ego in check.
I do have a surprise in store for Selina in a few weeks. My cousin who we haven’t seen in over 12 years will be on a business trip near us. She is a lesbian and Selina used to give her a hard time and say nasty things to her. Rachel and her partner Erica are going to spend a couple nights at our house and Selina will be on full display for them! I will fill you in on how it goes.
My friend Jackie is making slow but steady progress in feminizing her husband. She has taken him out in public dressed a few times when they’ve been out of town. I am proud of her for all the progress she’s made. My friend Donna, who is divorced, has had a boyfriend for a few months and has quickly feminized him. Donna is really into sissification and has really gone all in on making him ultra feminine. The three of us are planning an overnight with our feminized men which will be fun!
One of the women I work with has shown great interest in our FLR, so I told her the details of our marriage and she wants to take charge in her marriage and feminize her husband. I will be helping her and she has started reading your blog and other FLR materials. It’s exciting knowing I’m helping to change how some women approach their marriage!
Thanks Lady A for your blog and all you’ve done to help me change my marriage for the better! Life with a feminized, submissive, obedient husband is wonderful!
It certainly is, I’m pleased my blog helped a little
Hi Katrina!
It is so Wonderful what you have done with your husband, and what the your Friends have done with their husbands and boyfriends. FLR are the Future WITH Feminized men at their beck and call! It would be so Awesome if you and your Friends could visit my Blog sometime and Forum, and give some Advice to the other Women that are looking to Feminize their males.
Lady Alexa is such a Great Role Model and Inspiration to all of us that are trying to Create The New Age Lifestyle of Female Empowerment and Control, with Feminized males as the Helpers of the Superior Women and Girls!
The blog is called “The New Age Lifestyle” and it is here on WordPress. I do Feature some Posts from Lady Alexa as Inspiration, but it would be so Delightful to have the Voices of other Dominant Women on the Forum! The Link to the Forum can be found on the blog.
Would Love to have your Guidance available for Women that are “on the fence” about male Feminization!
Patti
Hello Alexa and others,
I continue to look for new ideas but agree that this is a slow process once we agree to the basics. He accepts that I will occasionally dress him more or less feminine depending on my mood and that is OK. I wanted to comment that I have enjoyed following these blogs and thinking of new paths. One that I had not tried before was to decide to rename him with a feminine name. I sometimes use pet names anyway, so after reading that so many are giving their husband a feminine name, I decided to do it. Hi middle initial is ‘S’ and I have always liked the name Sarah so it was an easy choice for me. Getting him used to it, may take a little more time but I decided to do it so in time, all good things will come.
I am now calling him Sarah, including in public. Exceptions are around family and some friends. As many of you know, I expect to slip up sometimes and use his female name when might not have planned. Guess it will happen and we will deal with it then. I also intend to have him start using Sarah on magazine subscriptions, most mail that is not of legal nature, etc. Then my plan is to look into legally changing his middle name. This is to be a bit more time consuming since it involves drivers license, passport, etc. As I said, all good things will come.
Thanks for the idea.
Sheila
Hi Sheila
My FLR partner also wanted a name change.
In the end She chose to make me adopt Her middle name ‘Anne’.
Not only do i now have a nice Female name, but it’s a direct link to the Superior in the relationship.
She likes it, and of course a formalised name change is on the cards.
julie ‘anne’
Anne, I have my legally changedy name to the name she gave plus her maiden name
Katie Lynn Lyndsey.
How it should be
Lady Alexa my husband Renee gave me a gift. I don’t have a heavy facial hair, but O need to do have to shave every be day. It’s a ladies shaver. No blades removes hair electrically. I leave in the bathroom. Every time I go in. I take the razor and run in on my face. One week later no 5 o’clock shadow. Day no hair growth over night. Morning you feel a few rough spots by touch. Day 10. Wal Mart $20
Really – do tell me more. Alice has a lady shaver but it’s really a lighter version of a male razor and also has an option that tugs the hair out which is a bit drastic. We don’t have Wal Mart in England (although we do have a subsidiary called Asda) so I’d need to know the model of the shaver.
Dear Katie
i do like the idea of the legally changed name. Formalises the relationship and is so permanent x
i will suggest it to my Female partner.
julie anne
Lady Alexa the razor is Flawless. I brought it up on my internet. It gave me all six different razors. You can order by internet at least here. It does have blades. Don’t do up and down., Or side to side. Circular motion no pull.
Thanks, I’m sure I’ll find it online somewhere here
Very nice to hear. And what does your mistress get out of your feminisation?
Hi Lady Alexa
Have you ever considered the ultimate weapon ??? Tears!!!
As a functioning male although enroute to becoming a better girl Alice may still be susceptible to your tears. You could consider tearfully complaining about how much you would like Alice to get a boob job for C cup breasts. It will make you so happy and proud. Reassure her that most people won’t even notice and for the few that do she can pass it of as age related moons.
I am sure a few occasions will be sufficient for her to agree and volunteer for a boob job!
Best of luck.
Love
Natasha
Nice idea except Alice sees this blog as she does all the technical stuff and so on. Therefore she’s seen the suggestion so will know I’m putting it on
All Renee has to do slow sentimental speech and it’s over.
Lady Alexa…. on breasts. There may be various ways via more mild hormone treatment that do not effect the “maleness” You wish Alice to diminish while still giving her more pleasing breasts for you. Look up tea tree oil and other less drastic male hormone controllers as natural feminizers.
Someone mentioned electrolysis. Perhaps it would be a nice start to slowly SHAPE Alice’s eyebrows slowly increasingly over time into a more girlish attribute as well as her acquiescence to Your desires. The advantage there is she could never go back ever again to a more masculine earlier state. (This also might be used on pubic area to design permanently say an amusing ladylike “heart-shape” of femininely thinned out hair in her intimate regions.)
REMEMBER to continually reward her for each new girlish milestone… and as firmly as possible punish or reprimand her (without being overly brutal) for feminine failure.
May she day by day become the more perfect ideal of the perfect male girl wife You desire…. and one that eventually You shall preent to the world as she and someday all future males should accept being.
Make her practice the feminine voice modification and feminized mannerisms so often that she might increasingly forget and fall into feminine mode with out thinking.
Would repetitive pre- and during sleep recordings be amenable to You for possible hypnotic suggestibility feminine training?
I know you’re frustrated that Alice doesn’t have bigger tits, I know you don’t want her to take anything that affects her talents in bed, and I know you are concerned about friends and family recognizing her. But I have a suggestion, that although initially sounds extreme, in fact is safe, makes her bigger, doesn’t impact her libido and can be hidden from those you want to hide it from. You could get her a boob job! Then when you wanted you could have her hide it with compression underwear or some type of binding. This is not always comfortable, but that might be a desirable side effect, meaning she’ll be more often with boobs than without. You could have her augmented to a C cup and that could be easily hidden. And you could probably have her go much bigger. With breast augmentation you also get to choose the profile, with high profile “sticking out” and low profile more “flat”. You also get to choose the implant volume. I would suggest that a low profile implant, perhaps with the maximum volume would combine to give Alice large “droopy” breasts. As you mention, she’s “no spring chicken” and these would be age appropriate, easier to hide when necessary, but of a very significant size and weight that it would be difficult for Alice to ignore. Her bras would no longer be just for appearance, but a necessity.
Just some food for thought…
I’m not sure I’d describe Alice as being talented in bed but she has her purposes and generally delivers as I require. A boob job is something I’d love Alice to have tomorrow, C cup would be great. My approach is to prefer that Alice agrees to something and wants it and currently she’s very worried about something so permanent. We are a married couple and I’m not a slave owner but a believer in loving and caring FLR. I truly believe that feminisation benefits my husband (as well as for me). For her it’s difficult to break down her social conditioning but little by little we get there. First of all she’s now happy to use breast suction and exercise to get a raised chest. Once she’s used to that we’ll see what we can do next
Here is a good resource for you and Alice. It’s a great blog website filled with valuable information for crossdressers. Everything about feminization you could want to know is here.
https://feminizationsecrets.com/
Thank you Bella very interesting
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I hope so
To Mark G. I to lost a FLR partner in 15. Two years later I found another. Hang in the we are here as friends if you need to talk.
I have a yellow rose on my right ankle. For Christmas I was given an assortment of bracelets and necklaces. Tomorrow I will send a picture of them. Two them are wide they are my ankle bracelets. The two necklaces are short enough for collars. The one with white stones is my collar. The necklaces will be left. Then the ankles. Then the wrists. I was told when I leave the house now I will have two wrists, a collar necklace and ankle.
Since we moved in Nov. there is only one Dominant female and submissive male we associate on regular basis. Mistress Marilyn and Martina. Your suggestion my Mistress is now Renee middle name originally. I think I have that E Mail address to send the picture tomorrow.
My late wife and I had an FLR marriage. I so enjoy reading about you and Alice…brings back memories. Like Alice, I need to maintain a male exterior, but under these shirts and slacks are panties, bras, and camisoles. I keep myself clean-shaven down there, but in your books and here, you speak of a “feminine triangle.” Which do you think is more feminine?
Thank you for your wonderful blog…and books. Thanks to Alice for doing such a good job…good girl, Alice!
I personally think a pubic triangle is more feminine. But that’s just me, I know other mistresses who prefer fully shaved or a landing strip. I know two sissies well who are fully shaved and that’s perfectly good too. Alice says hello
Hi Lady Alexa
A few suggestions for Alice. Like most girls she needs a finishing school to become a better and more attractive wife. Since there may be difficulties sending her to school, maybe you can consider home schooling! Hire a trainer for her to work on the following improvements.
1 corset training to reduce her waist line
2 voice training to speak permanently with a high pitch feminine sound
3 teach her to roll her hips whilst walking and also flutter her hands like a girl
4 electrolysis for permanent hair removal on face, hands and armpits. Perhaps her groin also to leave a permanent triangle of hair like a landing strip or total removal of hair to leave her with a bald pussy. She can then be encouraged to always wear sleeveless or even spaghetti tops.
your blog is truly inspirational
Love
Carol
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Hello Carol and what a delicious idea- a finishing school for Alice. I would love to find such a teacher for her as alas I think that being her wife makes me too soft on her. Unfortunately I suspect such a teacher exists only in our dreams. Unless anyone knows better? London region?
Hello Alexa,
I am a believer of tattoos and piercings only in those places that are feminine. I do not believe genital or nipple piercings help much in that area but my husband does have a navel piercing, same as women do. I give him small charms to hang from a solid gold ring through his navel. He also has a rose tattoo on his ankle, obvious all summer since we wear sandals. These are things I have not seen on men, just women. These are permanent reminders that he is feminine.
Sheila
I hadn’t thought of the belly piercing, that could work
Hi Sheila!
I like the way you think. Reminding him that he is feminine with a flower tattoo that can easily be seen. Feminine men need to become more mainstream. Women will be much better off when a significant number of men and boys are embracing their Femininity!
Thank you for sharing!
I bet your husband us quite pretty . Keep up the great work with him!
Patti
Hello Lady Alexa,
I’d suggest the following four ideas:
1 A holiday in a secluded cottage where she is dressed in a feminine manner shortly after arriving in country and staying feminine until you leave, South of France or somewhere with a more liberal outlook, Amsterdam, or perhaps this http://www.divadestinations.co.uk/transgender-holiday.html
2 A very low calorie diet and/or liposuction on her tummy to help trim her waist.
3. A trip to the tanning saloon to work on her bikini tan
4. A night out here http://www.thewayoutclub.com/
PS an A cup seems modest http://www.sculptmydream.com/sculptor
Regards
Roberta
PS I love your blog and it would be great to here from Alice.
Hello Roberta, some nice ideas. We’ve looked for holidays for FLR couples many times and have been unable to find anything suitable or not too costly. It seems that the holidays you linked to are more for transgender community rather than the FLR/feminisation/crossdresser community.
Have you been to the Wayout Club? I do know about it – it’s near Aldgate isn’t it? We know people who have gone. We have never gone as it appeared from the feedback from friends to be a little too focussed on male crossdressers wanting to have the opportunity to dress en femme freely (which is wonderful for them) as opposed to a female domination/FLR and male feminisation environment (which is what I want). I may be wrong. Please let me know if so.
I love the breast simulator. My goal for an A cup for Alice is a starter based on a possible outcome without surgery or hormones. That said, when I look at the simulation of B or even C cup then I really want that for Alice. But being practical….
As for hearing from Alice, if you join the newsletter, there are around four pieces from her on her feminisation. However, I asked her to write down all her thoughts about her feminisation including the newsletter insights. I’m collating them into a new book as we speak called Feminized by my Wife. I’m about halfway through turning her ramblings into a coherent structure suitable for publishing
Hello Lady Alexa,
I look forward to the new book, I like looking at it from a male perspective as I can visualise it easier.
I work in Central London but I’ve not been to The Wayout Club, I remember reading an article about it sometime ago. Whilst it may not be an ideal place to go, I’d suggest it’s a stop on a journey. In this case Alice being around feminine males she doesn’t know, as it’ll push her boundaries gently to accommodate moving to the place you’d ideally like to get to.
Re Alice going out in a dress, I work for a construction engineering firm we’ve a lot of middle aged men, there are at least three transgender staff and no one is bothered and it’s not even the topic of office gossip. The only time I saw a reaction was when one was in the canteen and bent over slightly to look at something in food display, in doing so she revealed her stockings and suspenders, I exchanged a smile with a female colleague and that was it. Hence I’d encourage Alice out of the house more. Perhaps tonight when it gets dark you can get in the car and drive to some little town outside the M25 and walk around the darkened town together. You’ll hardly see anyone and it’ll get Alice out and practicing her feminine walk. If you fancy somewhere further a field, Oxford is very liberal and if you stepped in one of the many independent coffee shops in the evening no one would bat an eyelid.
Good luck on the journey.
Regards
Roberta
I wouldn’t categorise Alice as transgender. More a male I’ve improved by feminisation and the development of an FLR. I’m not sure a transgender club is useful. A femdom club would be a more useful environment
Hello Lady Alexa!
A simpler and safer way to get Alice out in public may be to try an automobile ride/drive. This was one of my ways to get out. What may seem as nothing to many could be very exciting for Alice(and you) as she is gently “exposed” but protected in the car. I started doing early in the morning and more in the evening with the cover of darkness. It may seem trivial but the first few times out with light makeup and hair curled or pulled up in a banana clip with a simple blouse and feminine slacks was exhilarating. I was once followed by a man on a motorcycle who constantly tried to get my attention as he waved and showed off for me! Small things for you could be huge for Alice but I am sure you are aware of this. 🙂
As always, i love your posts!
Sincerely,
Xx Carla
Good idea I like this. Alice does pick me up from the station in the car wearing a skirt when it’s darker but I think a longer drive is a good idea
If Alice was taken outside by you, what would she do if she needed the toilet? Would she have to use the ladies?
Maybe you could take her to the pub in the summer and have a few drinks with her, but she’ll have to be careful she doesn’t have too much or she’ll need the loo.
Making her go without knickers, wearing a short skirt and a pink ribbon tied round her thing would add to the excitement
I was thinking of something more secluded
I think the housewife look is great as it’s more “everyday” and that is a more usual look for the majority of woman. The C cups are great for around the house if not yet for outside. I’m glad you’re planning a trip outside in a dress or a skirt, and understand the difficulties. I’d start Alice of more gently, with a pair of slacks, a plain blouse, and maybe that lovely pink cardie she’s wearing.
I found that the first public outing went quite well when she was dressed in girly jeans, a soft chiffon blouse and low heels. Make up and hair are very important in this….she will feel so conflicted….she knows that she has to look as girly and fem as possible in order not to feel humiliated at being “read”…..but there’s a part of her that wants to run away and hide. The contradiction usually resolves itself when time is taken to make sure she looks as fem as possible….without overstating it. When nobody notices it will be such a huge relief…and make far easier the next time.
Alice’s lack of real tits bothers us too. Like you, we want her with real ones. A cups will be fine… for the first set of implants. Then there will be the need to deepen her feminization and submission to you. And what better way to demonstrate this to the outside world and to you Lady Alexa than getting bigger and bigger implants. We want to see Alice with really big ones and we suspect you do too.
It’s a balance due to our somewhat double lifestyle. I’ve recently seen some info on saline injections which provide instant busts. I’m looking into this as it may just be the answer
I love your thoughtful reflection, Alexa, on how we women think about and approach our own style-touches on the FLR that fits us and our spouse best. For me, coming up on 7 years (next month) of our empty-nest FLR privacy and freedom, I really enjoy having this very feminine, relaxed, kind, quiet, demure, and passive-submissive husband who’s image to me is entirely female in every way. Mikey/Mary works for his longtime employer 20 hours a week remotely from our home – and wouldn’t the firm be surprised to know that all those contracts and research reports are completed by a very feminine businesswoman?! who fills the rest of her/his week doing laundry, cleaning our home, gardening, and making most of my meals. And “passing” has become so good the last 3-4 years that we go out a LOT each week as two gal-friends. I would like to attach a photo of my dear sweetie shopping at Macy’s – is there a way to add a photo to my comment, Alexa? Can Alice add that feature? FLR is simply the best way to live these middle-age years on our own.
Multiple piercings would be interesting. Ears for one, along with nipples, Belly ring, Nose Ring (septum) and how about a prince albert to lock on a chastity device. Just a thought. Steve
well done. Looking forward to your future ideas on how make Alice more feminine.
Dear Lady Alexa
Beautifully balanced i would say. As for Your other 4 list items all i could think of would be Your long held wish of pierced ears.
Does Your Alice have a feminine voice yet?
Truly inspired as always by the love and dedication You have for each other x
Yours
Holly x x
Oh yes the pierced ears. They got parked as Alice found clip on earrings online with the spring hidden inside the loop. They look just like pierced earrings. That said, it’s more about the ritual and having piercings that the look. I haven’t worked on her voice as I am more focussed on the look but it’s a good point.
lucky Alice
looking forward to reading more
thank you for sharing
I think she’s lucky too. She doesn’t always agree but that’s life.
So, I suppose the main question is what changes interest you? You have made it very clear that Alice’s clitty still needs to work so that rules out piercings in that region or hormones.
But, what about nipple rings? Might give you something interesting to grab and twist.. 🙂 Do any kind of markings/tattoos interest you? After you get rid of the hair you might be able to replace that with some kind of private artwork to be enjoyed by you and Alice.. or perhaps on those bum cheeks..
For the waist issue I highly recommend getting her fitted for a custom corset. A corset does need to be custom made to fit correctly and not do damage. Buy quality – and go slowly is the best method. How are you proceeding with use of the butt plugs? Any progress?
Some nice ideas there Andrea. The idea of a clitty piercing isn’t a bad one. I could remove it before ‘activities’? Or maybe a pussy ball piercing? I’ll look into that as I like her little princess to look pretty and decorated. Nipple rings I hadn’t thought of, something else to ponder. I’m not much into tattoos tbh. As for the butt plug, I had to suspend that for a short time due to some Alice health reasons but I will get back to it. Good reminder.
Lady Alexa, as i understand things the two most common piercings associated with feminisation are the Prince Albert in the head of the clitty to allow a ring to be fitted and the guiche piercing which goes behind the scrotum. The clitty can then be secured to the guiche piercing forcing it back giving a more feminine profile plus forcing the subject to sit to pee. It is also an effective chastity method in its own right.
The Prince Albert can also be combined with physical chastity devices to prevent removal. The guiche piercing can take a significant time to heal and obviously needs to be cleaned regularly because of the location. It would be good to combine skirts without panties at that time. 🙂
As for the tattoos, I was thinking of something very girly like a rose or something similar. It would be very hard for Alice to explain it away… 🙂
I don’t practice chastity on Alice – quite the reverse. I wouldn’t expect Alice to have the Prince Albert piercing through the head of the clitty, it seems that it would be extremely painful and a lot of work needed to care for it after. Alice doesn’t like the idea one bit. I can’t blame her. I was thinking more of a piercing in the scrotum and another one through the skin of the clitty, maybe the foreskin or underneath. I wanted something I could attach a lead to. Getting a leash for Alice is something I’ve toyed with for a while, for her neck but also to attach to her pussy area. I like the idea of it for femdom events and when we meet other couples at home.
Dear Lady Alexa
I have a frenum piercing which my mistress uses to attach a lead to and also to tether me to a particular place that she doesn’t want me to move from, e.g. kitchen sink, ironing board, etc. She only does this when I’ve upset her for some reason though, as part of my punishment humiliation.
She can, and does, also use it to lock a chastity tube on my clitty, when she isn’t there.
Respectfully yours
Janet
A PA piercing is surprisingly not painful, much less so than the ears. It is behind the head and heals quickly with little after care other than cleaning with anti-microbial soap. I have had one for 12+ years and it is fun for both my semi-flr wife and myself during intercourse and when she attaches a leash to it for training. It is also sometimea used in conjunction with a few of my CD”s, but totally fun on its own.
What’s a PA piercing?