Here’s a great idea: setting your feminized sissy husband a written feminization assignment about what they love about being feminized.
The idea works on so many levels. It gets your husband or boyfriend to really think about what’s great for them about being feminised and to admit they accept and enjoy it.
This article is the distilled contents of an email exchange I had with another mistress called Jenny who leads an FLR with her sissy husband.
THE FEMINIZED HUSBAND
Jenny’s husband, Mary (formally Mike), has been feminised for some time. His breasts have been developing for around 6 years.
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Jenny is now overseeing his hair growth, his weight reduction programme and putting him through a range of regular female beauty treatments such as facials, hair salon, nails, make up and bra fitting appointments.
I have to confess, I’m more than a little jealous of what she’s done to her husband in their loving FLR. One idea she has used, which I have also employed, is to ask our husbands what they enjoy about being feminised. It forces them to explain themselves that it is much better for them to be girls.
However, what Jenny did was to give the questions to her feminized husband as a written exercise. What a great idea this is as it documents their new-found feminine feelings. She gave Mary (Mikey) a list of ten questions so that he could put into written words how he felt about being a feminized male in a loving FLR.
In her assignment,she asks Mary/Mikey how he feels about certain aspects of his feminization. Here are the questions and Mary’s replies to his wife’s feminization writing assignment.
Q1. FEMALE CLOTHES IN YOUR DRESSER AND CLOSET
Mary: I’m completely used to it now. It is the new normality for me. It’s fun to have lots of panties and bras, camisoles, nighties, PJs, slips, sports-bras, stockings, pantyhose, thigh-highs, tights, leggings, garter belts.
They feel so much nicer than male clothing such as heavy boxer shorts and denim. Female clothes are so much more atractive.
Our closet has all my slacks, skinny jeans, sweaters, dresses, blazer, tops and blouses and skirts. My shoes and boots and sandals are underneath. It makes me feel utterly female. It’s changed my mindset from male to feeling female.
Q2. WAKING UP EACH DAY FEMINIZED
Mary: When I wake up, in a nightie or baby-doll, I feel nice knowing I will be feminine at home with you all day. My nails have polish and my fingers have rings on all the time. It’s been a wonderful experience to grow out my hair which helps me to feel feminine every morning.
I do like knowing there’s a tampon inside me each morning, even though I can’t feel them so much up inside me any more. I’m very used to always sitting on the toilet, pulling that little string, and then switching in a maxi-pad to my panties when I first get up.
I quickly shave my face super smooth right away and use some Olay lotion, so I can begin my day with my face feeling feminine. Waking up feminised means being a girl.
Q3. WEARING NAIL POLISH
Mary: My fingers look feminine and pretty 24/7. When I shower, as I dress, when I’m out all day – all the time. Using nail varnish has made my nails stronger and they grow faster.
The breast herbs have also added to my nail shine and fast growth. They are longer, tidier and prettier. This means my hand and finger movements are naturally more gentle and more feminine. All FLR wives like that in their husbands, I’m sure.
Q4. BODY SHAPE CHANGES
Mary: I love my body’s new shape a lot. I’m so much thinner and look more delicate in my frame. I’ve lost all my former male paunch. Instead I have real breasts, and bigger nipples. My collarbone and shoulders look feminine as I’ve lost muscle mass and fat.
I have bony hips and a flat tummy, who wouldn’t like like? I have a flat v-shape in the front of my panties as my tiny clitty is flattened and tucked under.
My hairless and soft skin feels sexy and delicate; all my masculine roughness has been smoothed away. Such a difference from before, but this is, of course, now what I really now prefer – by far.
Q5. LONGER HAIR
Mary: I love having longer hair and putting it up with a clip or pulled up in a scrunchy. The weight feels so lovely. When it’s down it curls around my smooth face and neck, it’s quite sensual.
It’s been such fun to have my own hair to style and I’m glad I’m not wearing wigs. They didn’t feel natural or real, a bit like I was a pretend girl. Now it’s real it makes me feel like a proper girl. Clip-in hair extensions are fun to do also.
I used to wash my hair once a week, but now it’s longer, I wash and condition each day. I then blow dry it and use a flat iron. The effect of a flat iron is to give my hair a very feminine appearance. I use a little hairspray when done.
I can do a half-up with a scrunchy or a full ponytail worn up high with a fancy scrunchy or a ribbon. And you sometimes do a French braid for me which looks wonderful.
When I do morning power walk/work-out and have that with a headband or pull it through the back of my cap or visor it looks and feels incredible.
Q6. SHOPPING FOR LINGERIE
Mary: I love being able to walk into female clothing shops and department stores and be just like any other woman. I can spend lots of time looking through all the racks and piles of panties and bras.
I do buy a lot of panties and I love pretty bras that are lacy with bows, especially push-up styles.
At the nicer stores, it’s good to have a sales girl come over and offer to help. That’s because I always say, “yes please,” and feel so good talking with another woman about the styles and fabrics I like.
I also enjoy talking with them about what we both like to wear, what we’re wearing right then under our clothes: bikini, boy-shorts, cheekster, high-waisted, thong, lace, nylon satin or cotton – this would of course never happen if I shopped as Mike.
But as Mary they just are so friendly and helpful and fun to talk with. It’s like we’re two women speaking together normally.
I’m not altogether sure if they sometimes realise that underneath everything I’m a male. I guess that’s part of the fun and the ‘danger’ of it.
Q7. DAILY MAKE-UP
Make-up has become a regular part of my daily routine. I now just do it and I like doing it, and I’m getting better. I’m even now thinking in my mind that my normal face I see in the mirror is the one that’s wearing make-up.
It’s extremely nice to be silky smooth all over my face, then pull my bangs (fringe) back and dot on some liquid foundation and blend it with my fingers. Then I do a very light brush up with bronzer-toner.
I have fun with blending two or three shades of eye shadow, then doing eye liner above and lower, then brushing up lots of mascara. I have lots of practice now doing all the tricks you showed me.
I also like wearing lipstick and use your trick to put just a little line of lipstick on my cheekbone and blend that in with my finger, so it’s an exact match to my lips. I also enjoy a few sprays of perfume and feel so amazing when I see myself in the mirror. Make-up is now fundamental to my feminine facial appearance.
Q8. MAXI-PADS AND TAMPONS
This started out as just trying to explore what it felt like. Now I wear a pad everyday, sometimes a thin panty-liner. I have a tampon in each night before I go to bed. All during the day I forget a lot that I have a pad or a liner in my panties.
I can’t really feel tampons inside me any more, so I guess they really are comfortable for women, right? I’m used to pulling that little string-knot each morning and flushing it, then using a pad for the day. I have pads and tampons and liners in my purse.
You have had me ask in the ladies room at movies or restaurants if another girl has a pad or a tampon I can borrow. And then that one time I was asked by another woman if I had a tampon or pad for her and I did have some in my purse and gave her one. It’s a sign of my femininity, taking part in such a female ritual.
Q 9. CLOTHES SHOPPING/FITTING ROOMS
I love being able to go through the clothing stores and relax while I look at different clothes. No one bothers me or looks at me strangely while I spend all my time in the female sections.
I like to just walk right up to the ladies’ fitting rooms and smile and chat with the girl there, get a number for my number of items, then stroll in, find my stall, try on dresses and other clothes.
Sometimes when I’m with you I come out into the main walkway to look in the bigger mirrors and other women see me. You have also told me to ask other women to either help zip me up or unzip me in back if a woman is right there in the main hallway.
Q10. WEARING JEWELLERY
I really like wearing matching jewellery every day, either gold or silver or the casual ensemble. Earrings, necklace then bracelets/bangles and thin watch and all my rings. It’s like a wonderful extra layer of feminine feeling, very girly.
Added to my make-up, that makes me feel even more like you, and more relaxed.
ENCOURAGED FEMINISATION IMPROVES A MAN’S LIFE
It’s clear from Jenny’s husband’s responses, that his entire life has been transformed by her encouragement of his feminisation and loving FLR. Female leadership, matched with a husband’s feminisation, provides a new symbiotic relationship.
The husband is able to relax in his new femininity, to throw off the chains of society’s forced masculinity and to follow a caring woman’s rules.
His female clothing helps to give him a whole new range of sensual and beautiful sensations. Released from false masculinity, introduces unknown pleasures from following female leadership. For us females, it means our men are more loving, caring and pliant. And more attractive.
Let me know what assignments you set your feminized husband or what you were set or made to do by your wife to show just how feminine you had become.
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Hi everyone, since I was 9 years old I put on panties and pantyhose. I would wear them to bed sleep in them, it was on and off thing, right before I got married my wife knew I wore pantyhose she didn’t seem to care, but after a year I found I wanted to wear panties and bra skirt even bought silicone breast, even a nightie. It went on for about two years and one evening she said I married a man not a woman right then that hurt me really bad, after that I stopped wearing them and the sex had come to a stop no kissing no sex nothing it ruined my life. I have gone 27 years now without sex never cheated on her but it ruined the marriage 32 years later, heck with this I started wearing panties and pantyhose. We don’t sleep in the same bedroom anymore, really i have been faithful 27 years now no sex life all I do is work clean do dishes by hand wash clothes fold the laundry. I guess it’s time to start thinking about moving, she doesn’t appreciate anything i do. I am a very nice guy well behaved just because i enjoy wearing women’s clothes. So guy’s have it lucky me I don’t.😞 I met this mistress online she likes me she’s trying to help me out but she doesn’t live close to me. Anyway to the women out there personally I don’t see anything wrong with a guy that enjoys wearing women’s pantyhose and panties bras whatever else he likes. Even if it just inside the house what’s it hurting him. It can ruin a marriage 32 years now I’m not happy with it specially when I don’t drink or do drugs, I don’t have anyone else to talk to about my life I keep it to myself. The women that are ok with there guy wearing feminine nothing wrong with that. It’s better than being a guy who treats women like trash or doesn’t appreciate women. Well that’s the story of my life. 😞
Keep the faith Steve
Another Steve here following up on that comment. Mistress Alexa, if I would have been given this written sissy assignment I would say this. Prior to be owned, I never had a desire to crossdress or be feminine. After becoming owned and my sissy training being started, l learned a lot! What I would write about is how pleasurable it feels to pull on my pantyhose over freshly shaved legs daily. Adding my 5 inch heels after putting on my pantyhose added to my excitement. Knowing I would be training in my tall heels for 12 hours. The feeling of pulling on my hosiery and heels daily, gave me more feelings of being a sissy owned bitch.
Based on my experience I think that’s very unlikely Ola. My ex-partner nudged me down the feminisation route before we parted and it didn’t take long before I was continuing the journey alone. Eventually I was confirmed as a Transgender person and have been much, much happier than I can remember.
I seriously doubt that many, if any, would want to go back to a way of life they see as less attractive.
If a return to a male male life is desired I would think that a separation was inevitable, I just can’t see either side being able to move past it. That is just my opinion and, as Lady Alexa often points out, the blog isn’t aimed at TG people. I could be completely wrong in which case I apologise for wasting your time
TG people are very welcome here and I hope get some enjoyment and information although you’re quite right. My target audience is couples like me and Alice living a forced feminisation FLR. I’ve gained lots of experience in this area but I’m unqualified on the subject of TG people’s lives and problems
Hi!
I know that it isn’t forced per say but what if after all those years the now feminized male says that he doesn’t want it anymore? That he now wants to be male male.
What happens with the relationship after that? Would it just end? Continue ? Or will it actually be a FORCED feminization relationship?
Just curious since many that reads your blog, and you obviously, is very serious about feminizing your partners.
Yours truly, Ola
We’ll cross that bridge if we get to it but I doubt we will
My first real experience being submissive to a female was when I was 14. My mother raised me as a girl until I started school but I never got over that “feminine” feeling and was caught often “borrowing her or my sisters things. As a 14 year old I was approached by a girl after school one day who said I looked just like her girlfriend but I acted macho and rejected her. After several more times and her repeatedly asking me to walk home with her, I started getting to know her. She told me her best friend had moved away and how much she missed her and even though I was a boy, I looked exactly like her. She wanted me to come to her house and see the pictures of her friend which eventually I did, and was surprised how close we were in looks. She kept teasing me that she wanted to dress me up like her friend so I could see I was just like her. I was as curious as she was and one day agreed. She put me in a dress, combed out my rather longish hair, and did my make-up. When she finished and I looked in the mirror, I couldn’t believe how feminine I looked. We sat and talked about it and she turned and kissed me! I felt my body flush and kissed her back and then I changed back and washed off the make-up because I had to get home. After that first time, at least once a week I would become her “girlfriend”, now completing the image by wearing panties, a bra, and a pair of her shoes. Now we were actually kissing all the time and she was always rubbing my bra through my top. We were so engrossed one day that her mother came home from work while I was still there. Jan didn’t think anything about it but I was scared so bad I was shaking. When her mom came in she hugged and kissed her and asked who I was. Jan told her I was Tara and asked her mom if she could tell how much I looked like Eva. Her mom stared hard making me even more nervous, but then she smiled and said yes, exactly. Several weeks later I was asked to spend the weekend with them which opened my eyes and mind to being in a female dominating relationship, it was the best weekend and most exciting I ever had. Just two girls playing together, interacting with her mom, and sleeping together. I would wear one of her nighties and a pair of panties and we would kiss and fondle each other for hours. My first orgasm came when she started sucking my nipples and rubbing my little penis. I sucked hers and rubbed her also, just like two girls. I didn’t understand back then that she was a lesbian and Eva was her lover, but it changed my world. I married a strong woman who is in control and has mildly feminized me. I keep my body shaved and wear panties always. I am thin and slightly built so I look pretty feminine without much work. We have a 15 year old daughter who is strong like her mother and seems to accept that my place is being submissive to them both. I do most of the housework and cooking, and spend time with my daughter by helping with her homework and taking her to school and shopping. She gets pretty bossy when we meet her friends while out and they seem amused by it, but I accept it fully. She still likes to “style” my hair which started at around 8 or 9. She would curl it and put barrettes in it and then tell mom I looked like a girl. A few times she even put mascara and eyeliner on me, including lipstick. She told me I should have been born a girl. I get very excited when she does this, but the most exciting thing for me was when she suggested that her and mom were going to have to dress me like a woman one of these days. I cant wait!!
having been a submissive male from childhood and have a female side to me this sub wears panties and bras as normal Mistress has her sub only part feminized my breast are a size b cup have not taken any hormones at all just Fenugreek and Saw palmetto the Saw Palmetto takes the harm full part out of the male testosterone but leaves the male so he can be used as a male witch lets the breasts grow this sub is lucky as his Mistress loves the male side of her sub as much as the female side and gives Mistress more to play with
Thank you Awuor, that’s my point, a working male clitty on Alice gives me sooooooo much more to play with. So the Saw Palmetto had no effect on your performance as a male?
Lady Alexa my male parts work as normal no problems if Mistress lets her sub ejeculate their will be semen just not as much some times but the good part it will keep Alice,s male parts working for longer as it takes the harmful part out of the male testosterone hope this is of some help to you
Do you think it’s possible to be hypnotised so that you could only get an erection if you’re wearing knickers?
The thought of it is really turning me on, but I think most hypnotists would have ethical objections and am reticent to approach one
Edit : found some decent online material that should have same effect.
No idea but I think the Pavlov dog thing might work – only allowing erections when in knickers?
Have stayed watching hypnosis videos online and an now finding it very hard to stop
Dear Natasha,
Please remember that Lady Alexa is sharing (kindly) details of her life-her FLR life. As she has stated its one based in reality which is why it is so special and why many of us long term readers anticipate her next posts. It isn’t a 24 hour porn channel 🙂
Xxoo
Carla
You’re quite correct Carla. I also like to write about wider the implications and ideas of FLR and forced feminisation and to include guest postings from others, such as Cathy. In recent weeks I haven’t made any new changes to Alice as I’m dealing with other stuff and I’m afraid in the real world this is what happens. I have some ideas for the very near future which will take Alice a bit further still into territory she will find uncomfortable – at first. In fact this has all given me an idea for my next post, thanks for the prompt Carla.
Dear Lady Alexa
In reality the assignment ought to be for YOU! Recently your feminization of Alice seems to have reached a dead end. Either she is successfully stonewalling you or you are too inhibited to push the envelope any more.
Your postings are more of a general nature or contributions by others.
Please do share with your long term readers if you really intend to take Alice any further on her path of feminization.
Yours truly
Natasha
Or maybe there are other things going on in my life that mean at present I’m occupied. Alice is nicely feminised, there’s more to do but my life is full of many other things too
Hello to Alexa and to Cathy,
I am still relatively new to this site and continue to find new ideas. My husband has preferences for wearing women’s clothing and, as I have explained in another post, I decided to tolerate the situation on the condition that I would have control over the dressing and sexual part of our life. Over the last few years, I have been able to find some enjoyment in feminizing him a little more when the feeling strikes me.
I have been using Cathy’s and Mary’s Q&A’s to talk about with him. We find much similarity in thoughts.
I liked the idea of giving him an assignment to make him focus on being feminine so I came up with my version. I will explain that like Alexa, I have no intentions of doing hormone changes. I know he thinks it would be nice to have a little something in his bra and sometimes, when sucking his nipples I do think it would be nice if there was a bit more flesh there, but it is unlikely in this life. However, to continue his fantasy and maybe open the idea of implants, I assigned him a project to play with Photoshop. He is not great at it, but he is taking photos of himself and using women’s photos from the internet, pasting on photos of women’s breasts over his chest. With some blending and color corrections, he is making them look OK. The idea was to get him (and maybe myself) used to seeing photos of him with breasts. I took one and hung it on his office wall to stare at. Just another idea in the adventure of life with a feminine husband!!
Sheila
Unfortunately, like Lady Alexa’s hubby, I need to maintain an outwardly male appearance, so can’t do all I’d like to be feminized. My late wife was very helpful in reminding me of my place as a feminized husband…I wasn’t aloud to stand to urinate, for example. Though she’s been gone a few years, I’m still feminized….and gladly so! So, here are answers to the few questions I can answer…thanks so much!
Q1. FEMALE CLOTHES IN YOUR DRESSER AND CLOSET
I have very few female clothes in the closet, but I love opening my dresser drawers full of pretty panties, lovely camisoles, and a variety of bras.
Q2. WAKING UP EACH DAY FEMINIZED
When I wake up in my nightie and panties, it’s a nice feeling. I’ve usually laid out my lingerie the night before, so I pad on down the hall to the shower and there I find my panties, bra, and maybe a camisole already there. It starts the morning off right!
Q3. WEARING NAIL POLISH
Unfortunately, like Lady Alexa’s feminized husband, I need to maintain an outwardly male appearance, so the only nail polish I can wear is on my toes….it’s fun knowing my toes, at least, look lady like!
Q6. SHOPPING FOR LINGERIE
I LOVE shopping for lingerie and have long gotten over the embarrassment. Not long ago I was buying some panties on sale and the sale clerk said, “If you get one more, the one after that will be free. Do you want to continue shopping?” I said, “well, of course. Got any favorites?” And she took me over and quickly found some gorgeous panties in my size. “Do you want to get the matching bras,” she asked. “Not right now, thanks. I’m in pretty good shape with the ones I have.”
Ah….to have a lovely lady help me select my lingerie causes me to get a VERY unlady like bulge in my panties! blush
Q8. MAXI-PADS AND TAMPONS
I wear panty liners and maxi-pads regularly, but not tampons. Not terribly healthy to put that up my bottom, though I’ve done it.
Q10. WEARING JEWELLERY
I wear ear rings around the house and often have a nice necklace under my manly clothes.
Lady Alexa, think my life has changed forever and I’m scared. I came home from work yesterday and as I walked through the door my wife said look what I bought you. It was a new vacuum cleaner. She said it was a gift for me. I was a guy for decades that would argue with my wife if she wanted me to do any household work at all. I always called it woman’s work and the one in the dress cleans the mess and I meant it. Now she has bought me a new vacuum as a gift. She said she should have put a bow on it. She also did it in front of our teenage daughter. Later last night I did show her that I was wearing her panties and she Liked it! She said i need to get more panties. She then asked what articles I’ve been reading that said men in panties are better behaved. I didn’t answer her. She asked again later and again I chickened out and didn’t answer her. I’m really scared. I know she will find it fun and rewarding to completely feminize me but I’m not ready. I don’t know what to do. Thank you, charlie
I want to thank all of you and especially Lady Alexa for helping males like me find confidence to enter a FLR. I am a 49 yr old man in the US. I have a dominant personality but my wife has a stronger more dominant personality outside the bedroom. We fought nearly everyday for the past ten years on any subject and we resented each other. In Nov I bought a chastity device to curb my own personal habits and I found myself becoming more submissive and less argumentactive. I starated doing more chores around the house and paying attention to my wife more. The things we argued about for years I was doing and doing it with a smile. It still is very strange to think a simple device could have such an emotional impact. It got to the point that my wife confronted me on my new behavior. I told her about chastity and she did not take it well at all and cried and told me i need therapy. but within 2 weeks she would tell me to go lock up if I disagreed with her even once on any subject. She loves it now. Last week the device chaffed me pretty good and I wanted to find another way to prevent me ftomorrow my bad habits and I wore a pair of her panties to work and the restrictive nature kept me from getting erect and the lace removed my male ego so I wouldn’t have any desire to masturbate. Ive been trying to find the right time to tell my wife about the panties. I am scared that she might love it and soon I will be in panties and dresses a lot. Funny thing is as a study FLR more I realized I’ve been in a FLR the whole time just didn’t know it and fought it but now I’m starting to embrace it. Thank you all again. Sincerely charlie
You make a good point that you were in an FLR but didn’t realise. In my experience that is the situation for many. I think you need to be in a skirt or dress. It would have a significantly beneficial impact on your attitude and behaviour. I wish I could speak to your wife to encourage her
Yes Ma’am. If my wife has an interest in will show her your site and ask her to contact you. For many years she has encouraged me to moisturize my hair and face and she likes “grooming” me by plucking my eye browse and hair on top of my nose. I think she may enjoy feminization quite a lot. Last week she did say panties would feel good on me. Again I am quite scared to be honest but i know the benefits for me, her and our family are great because we haven’t fought once in over a month and even my daughter told me she needs mom’s permission for something not my permission. I now make the bed every morning, do laundry and clean all dishes.
No doubt that Cathy and her husband Mary are living the ultimate FLR and it is awesome that Mary has adjusted so well in her new role. Much credit goes to Cathy for making the feminization process a permanent one where there is no desire on Mary’s part to revert to anything resembling masculinity. I know from my own feminization that once we have crossed into the female world publicly for such things as shopping for everything from lingerie and makeup to outerwear and handbags in girl mode it has us knowing that going back to being male is going to be a huge let down when our outing is over. Very few of us will end up like Mary but it goes to show that it is possible when a strong woman has her mind set on what a husband should be.
As for what assignment my wife encouraged me to show how feminine I had become was without question my first daylight outing as Jennifer to go bra shopping with her. Up until then we had several outings on quiet streets after dark where we encountered very few people who had no idea I wasn’t a woman. On most of these outings it was raining slightly and an umbrella was good cover for anyone who might suspect I was a male because in the dark our clicking heels suggested nothing more than what it sounded like. Daylight on a sunny day was totally different and it took a lot of courage.
We chose a shopping mall far from home to ensure we didn’t run into anyone we knew and I drove in an attractive floral print blouse that buttoned from the back, a navy blue knee length pleated skirt and four inch ankle strap heels. My heart pounded as we approached zero hour where I knew I was going to step out of the car in a busy parking lot and as I parked I very nearly began to tremble. I was afraid and close to terrified as I stepped out because I was not confident that I could pass as a female yet I knew my time had come to prove to myself that I was woman enough to follow through with our plan and ignore the rude comments and insults from men and women I was sure would come. And come they did and while I didn’t think anything physically abusive might happen I was none the less determined not to let it ruin what I desperately wanted to experience. I tried to keep my head high and ignore the ignorance from those who disapproved of me and I concentrated on walking lady-like and carrying my purse on my shoulder as I had been shown on earlier outings. Eventually I began to feel that I belonged and I felt a proudness that I was a girl and as we approached the lingerie shop and entered I felt very safe as there were very few customers and no one seemed to even notice me. Finally I could handle the merchandise just like any woman and I felt like I was on cloud nine.
Eventually a young sales girl approached us to ask if we needed help and it was clear from her expression that as soon as she got close enough she realized I was a man. Her cheery attitude and warm smile diminished somewhat but to her credit she was still willing to serve me and right then and there I knew that my feminization had me fully into the female world far more than it ever had been and I was not the least bit ashamed in front of her. In a sense this was my coming out and I had my wife to thank for encouraging me to reject whatever masculinity I had left
It is a right of passage for a young girl to buy her first bra all by herself and I like to think the same applies to feminized males. It means the sanctity of lingerie shops that women hold dear as places where men don’t belong are welcoming to those of us who have embraced our femininity. So to make a long story short we left with bra and panty sets that I proudly paid for and opened the eyes of a young sales girl that men can be girls too. Few of us however will end up as womanly and wonderfully endowed as Mary in his FLR but this is a great topic for those in the lifestyle to explain our feelings that following a woman’s lead softens a male and rids him of what society says he should be.
No doubt that Cathy and her husband Mary are living the ultimate FLR and it is awesome that Mary has adjusted so well in her new role. Much credit goes to Cathy for making the feminization process a permanent one where there is no desire on Mary’s part to revert to anything resembling masculinity. I know from my own feminization that once we have crossed into the female world publicly for such things as shopping for everything from lingerie and makeup to outerwear and handbags in girl mode it has us knowing that going back to being male is going to be a huge let down when our outing is over. Very few of us will end up like Mary but it goes to show that it is possible when a strong woman has her mind set on what a husband should be.
As for what assignment my wife encouraged me to show how feminine I had become was without question my first daylight outing as Jennifer to go bra shopping with her. Up until then we had several outings on quiet streets after dark where we encountered very few people who had no idea I wasn’t a woman. On most of these outings it was raining slightly and an umbrella was good cover for anyone who might suspect I was a male because in the dark our clicking heels suggested nothing more than what it sounded like. Daylight on a sunny day was totally different and it took a lot of courage.
We chose a shopping mall far from home to ensure we didn’t run into anyone we knew and I drove in an attractive floral print blouse that buttoned from the back, a navy blue knee length pleated skirt and four inch ankle strap heels. My heart pounded as we approached zero hour where I knew I was going to step out of the car in a busy parking lot and as I parked I very nearly began to tremble. I was afraid and close to terrified as I stepped out because I was not confident that I could pass as a female yet I knew my time had come to prove to myself that I was woman enough to follow through with our plan and ignore the rude comments and insults from men and women I was sure would come. And come they did and while I didn’t think anything physically abusive might happen I was none the less determined not to let it ruin what I desperately wanted to experience. I tried to keep my head high and ignore the ignorance from those who disapproved of me and I concentrated on walking lady-like and carrying my purse on my shoulder as I had been shown on earlier outings. Eventually I began to feel that I belonged and I felt a proudness that I was a girl and as we approached the lingerie shop and entered I felt very safe as there were very few customers and no one seemed to even notice me. Finally I could handle the merchandise just like any woman and I felt like I was on cloud nine.
Eventually a young sales girl approached us to ask if we needed help and it was clear from her expression that as soon as she got close enough she realized I was a man. Her cheery attitude and warm smile diminished somewhat but to her credit she was still willing to serve me and right then and there I knew that my feminization had me fully into the female world far more than it ever had been and I was not the least bit ashamed in front of her. In a sense this was my coming out and I had my wife to thank for encouraging me to reject whatever masculinity I had left
It is a right of passage for a young girl to buy her first bra all by herself and I like to think the same applies to feminized males. It means the sanctity of lingerie shops that women hold dear as places where men don’t belong are welcoming to those of us who have embraced our femininity. So to make a long story short we left with bra and panty sets that I proudly paid for and opened the eyes of a young sales girl that men can be girls too. Few of us however will end up as womanly and wonderfully endowed as Mary in his FLR but this is a great topic for those in the lifestyle to explain our feelings that following a woman’s lead softens a male and rids him of what society says he should be.
Supremely well written Jenn x x
i have to agree that making that first purchase as a fully dressed woman is surely THE rite of passage for all feminized males, particularly with your Superior in attendence – in effect validating Her approval of you as Her feminized male.
i have purchased many bras etc over the years and have been treated with courtesy at all times. i have yet to take that step out the door fully dressed and certainly not wearing a beautiful skirt as you described and then to go on to make that purchase …..that for me is the Holy Grail that i could only hope to achieve with a strong Woman by my side or not at all.
In fact with a strong Woman by my side i believe there is nothing i wouldn’t achieve …. simply to please Her.
But you captured the essence wonderfully. You are a very lucky girl Jenn. The UK (US?) is lucky to have you and your Superior. i hope She is forever pushing your limits and i look forward to hearing about it all sometime x x
Holly x x
OMG I’ve just read the article about being a feminized husband and i so want live like that, but where do i start, i am married but my wife would not go for it. So how do i do or find someone to feminize me?
The £64m question
I say sit down and talk to your wife tell her your feelings if she loves you she will understand but without talking to her and telling her your feelings you will never find out and bottling it all up will cause you lots of worry and mental strain so please talk to your wife ? . I did and luckily my wonderful Mistress and wife understood and as transformed my Life entirely I’m not overly convincing as a female but she as worked wonders on me and I feel happy and contented so for gods sake talk to your wife and Better Half and remember you get nothing if you don’t ask?❤️ Love Trisha x
Brilliant advice. With the dozens more nuances to being a female and feminine, compared to being male; the psychological reinforcement to having to express them in writing is powerful. Most males would have to be in a FLR to be able to attempt this task, yet if performed correctly, would give immense validation to the FLR.
Gendre Amore
When I’m writing Renée said I don’t need to use mistress. It just slows me down. Just verbally.
Katie Clothes in dresser panties, bras, hose, women’s socks, camisoles and two girdles. Wigs on top on stands.
Closet skirts, shorts, two skorts dresses, blouses and shoes.
Love waking up in pantiles and whatever was chosen for me to sleep. Love hearing from my husband good morning Katie or my wife, or Ms Katie or Mrs. Katie Lyndsey.
Katie polish, where we lived I had my polish all the time except for foot doctor. It was acceptable except for special occasions.
Now where we live as two widowed sister-in-laws. My are now painted pink all the color Renée picked. Red is for night outs. I had my first manicure and pedicure last week.
Katie My body has changed much.
I have lost forty five pounds. My measurements were 34b 42 36. Size 26 women’s clothes.
Now 40d 34 40. Size 18 clothes.
Renée is pleased. Many of my clothes are hers that doesn’t fit her. She is pleased that I am smaller than her.
My hair doesn’t seem to grow much. In my genes I guess. I have great wigs to wear all the time. Christmas had my first ponytail that Renée was able to pull.
I love shopping no training necessary. Renée’s training in speaking, walking, and mannerisms. I am fully confident I can interact.
Katie make-up I am in make-up except when sleeping. Pink lipstick, red when going out evening.
Katie tampons I have four day period every month. First of the month the dates are circled on the calendars. I have tampon inserted. I have extra in my purse.
Katie fitting room. Renée wanted me to tell what happening yesterday. While I was waiting my turn . Renée looked at another rack of clothes. The lady in charge said to me “I don’t care what your boyfriend look He’ll have to use the men’s fitting room. Renée was in hearing distance. I waked over to her. I said do you want to leave and put this stuff here. She said no I have been a men’s changing room. Tell here to call the men’s area and tell him I’m going there. We don’t want a scene..
I was in the fitting room and I heard men’s department line 3.
Of my six items only two didn’t fit. I got to the men’s area. Renée was still inside. Three of her items out of seven didn’t fit. Soon as we hit the parking lot Renée burst out laughing. I was more mad. Did something else happen? The jerk at the men’s area said to me, Does your girlfriend really dressing like that.
I said don’t you want to find a manager. No, I’ll probably never get another chance like that.
I said except at that store.
Katie Jewelry. I had a bad infection in my earlobe. It happened in winter 2015.
I had to remove my pierced earrings. Renée said will get them redone for Valentine’s day. We are talking about me getting my belly button pierced. I got four leather brackets wrist and ankels
Renée had a question to ask feminized males. How dou like being called by a feminine name even in public.
Katie, I really loved it. Here that’s the only I have been going. I would not have my name legally changed if it was not want I wanted. Renée said it was my choice.
Renée’s first marriage was an abusive one. My mother-in-law even calls me Katie.
Very nice Katie – maybe you’d like to do a guest post on my blog? Send your ideas to me at ladiesontop@mail.com
Hopefully this will be an encouraging post for other wives like us, looking for other ways to enforce/support pushing our husbands further “over the edge”. I will add that Mikey’s (Mary’s) first email reply back was very boring and read like one of his monotone legal disclosure docs from his job (it felt very ‘male’). So I emailed him back and said very clearly I wanted a decidedly “Mary” tone and feel in the replies. These 10 replies I forwarded to Alexa were actually the 3rd versions, and finally had that very “positive” enjoyable feel to them. And remember, we are 6+ years into this, it’s been sometimes slower progress than I’d like early on in the first 18 months, but NOW is very satisfying to have my gradual and loving approach result in moving my husband so much further along than I’d ever thought would be possible. The name of our FLR game now is “maintain this new status quo as our new normal, in the privacy and freedom of our empty nest”. It can be done gals!