A forced feminization lifestyle can mean many things to many people. Even the very term ‘forced feminization’ has implications that are often misunderstood.
How can you force a man to be feminised? It’s something I’m often asked. Well, you can’t really. Obviously. Even if you could, forcing anything on your partner is not really a good basis for a loving relationship, is it?
So what really is forced feminization within a loving relationship?
Forced feminisation in a loving relationship is, for me, about encouraging and guiding your husband or boyfriend into femininity. The overall purpose being to improve them and their life.
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I possibly add to the confused conflation of a forced feminization lifestyle and erotic fetish with my forced feminization fiction books. They are deliberately aimed at the fetish market and designed to titillate.
But they are not real life even if they contain many of my fantasies. And my sissy husband’s.
LOVING FORCED FEMINIZATION
My blog, here at ladyalexauk.com, covers my own lifestyle living in a loving Female-Led Relationship. And my belief that men can and should live in, what is considered by society, a female lifestyle.
I believe that encouraging femininity in males helps in so many ways, for both women and for men. It doesn’t mean that men have to be made into females biologically through hormones though. It’s more about making a change in their attitude, appearance and way of life.
Of course, so-called forced feminisation is not forced at all, but is a process developed though encouragement and persuasion. The internal programming of males is so strong that, in most cases, they need to be encouraged into femininity by others.
Wives and girlfriends being the best approach although family members or friends may also be appropriate.
I’m not talking here about helping those males who are genuinely transgender. I have little knowledge or experience of this subject and no expertise. I’m sure some of my ideas will help them, but it’s not something I can give professional advise on.
Instead, my point is about helping true biological males, such as my own husband, into finding their feminine personality. We do this by providing leadership and guidance to understand that femininity is a far better state and gender for them.
Just why can’t men wear pretty dresses, have beautiful long styled hair, wear make up and have long pretty nails? Why can’t they be pretty? Why can’t they be submissive to women? They can be all these things.
IMPROVING MALES
I feminised my husband Alice in the context of loving feminisation. She has taken a female name, I recognise her only as a girl and she wears female clothing.
I have enjoyed, and continue to enjoy, making my husband more feminine in appearance. This is entirely through modification of her attitude, through exercise and lifestyle and though depilation, styling and make up. And training.
Of course, there have been times when she hasn’t understood why I want her to be so feminine. Why I insist she move away from her artificially constructed manhood and masculinity. To be so girly. Eventually she understands and knows it is for the best and that I do it for her improvement. It’s loving forced feminisation.
It’s true that I dress her in a style that is often more girly with short skirts, more flesh on show, lots of pinks, yellows and whites. Or even partially naked.
It’s a necessary exaggeration as biological males react to images and appearances. It helps them to better understand their new revised submissive feminine roles. It’s a uniform of sorts.
So forced or encouraged feminisation of our male partners means engendering a role reversal in terms of society’s expectations of men and their role. But it’s a change that is long overdue.
You can leave me a comment to let me know how you have improved your man or have been improved by your wife through forced feminisation.
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Love your page agreeing with new age life style only women should wear pants but dresses and skirts to. While men should wear dresses and skirts the shorter the better I wear mine dresses and skirts at least 7 inches above the knee. Love showing off my legs and when I wear shorts in biking they are at least 9 inches above the knee to show a little bum. No board, cargo nor long shorts too butch let the women have them. Of course I prefer halter tops to T shirts and bikini or thong panties to boxers. I even swim and surf the lake in skimpy one piece swimsuits in younger years bikinis with strapless tops better then nude. No wind jams for me too butch let the women have them. Keep the message going.
Sissies need to wear short skirts and show their bodies.
The way of feminization depends on the lifestyle of the dominant woman. Sex with my husband could never meet my demands. A small penis and submissiveness are never good for great sex.
We started practicing cuckold. I love young endowed men. My husband was incredibly jealous. Then one woman I met told me that testosterone blockers and estrogen worked wonders.
It really was that way. His penis lost sexual function, and he (now she) lost his male libido. His desire to fuck became null. At the same time, his desire to give oral sex to me and to my lovers has grown greatly.
Jealousy is zero.
I always have sex with gifted men together with my husband. He prepares their penises for me, licks my clit during sex. We never meet with my lovers in our house. I have no emotional connection with lovers, it’s just sex. I love a husband, we don’t have penetrative sex but he give me great oral sex.
For a cuckold relationship, hormones are a blessing.
Everyone has their own thing and if that works for both of you then it’s great
I love pretty dresses and sexy lingerie. Sometimes I try for hours. It affects both women and men. I love when I walk on heels and run a dress around my hips …
My goals in feminization are different. His Willy isn’t working properly, so I’ll turn him into a Sissy. This will help him to concentrate even more on my pleasures in Cuckold marriage.
Yes in your case it makes sense
This is what my Wife-Mistress did to me. I had erectile problems and was not pleasing her, so she feminized me more and more, now I am a sissy cuckold. We were already in an FLR. Now she has a Bull who fucks her and I am the sissy cuckold who only gets to service her pussy with my tongue. She uses a strap -on and fucks me in my boy pussy. I suck the Bull’s dick before he fucks my Mistress and I am required to watch them having sex. The Bull is bi-sexual and is required by my Mistress to fuck me in my boy pussy as part of my training.
Does anyone have a story about carrying a purse? Seems to me that is a big step.
Hello Lady Alexa. I am new to your site, but not new to the idea of encouraging femininity, although I’m sad to say I’ve yet to experience it. I love Shirley’s story and am desirous of finding a woman who would encourage me in that way. My ideal retirement would be to live as the wife in a relationship with an understanding, and encouraging female head of household who would encourage my feminine expression to be the best wife possible for her and make her the center of my life and our family. As the leader of the family I would follow her lead and commit to honor and obey her for the rest of our lives together. My ideal lifestyle would be like a 50s relationship where she would wear the pants in the relationship , while I would be in panties, bras and skirts trying to be the best wife I could be for her. Do you think that’s actually possible ?
Yes of course it’s possible
Hello Lady Alexa:
I am a retired business executive living in the US. My wife and I recently celebrated 50 years of marriage…many of which I am ashamed to admit were not always the most pleasant for the wife…..due to the alpha piece of me that I couldn’t often leave at work, and my stubborn male upbringing that said helping with kids and around the house was a Woman’s job.
Well about 10 years ago…a few years before we both retired…our marriage was in trouble…we got some counseling help and did some real soul searching…..trying to decide if we wanted to be together till the end.
After much talk and deliberation we decided to move forward together, although this time with my wife “in charge” so to speak, so that she could be more assured of having her pleasure…her way…and better control of her own happiness rather than me guessing and not paying the proper attention.
It was fun the first few weeks…..my wife wasn’t too hard on me and I tried very hard to please her in all that I did and said…but after all I am a simple man and easily slid back into old habits.
Well for years I had harbored a fetish for Women’s panties….and while the wife frowned on my wearing them, she could tell that I was a little different person when wearing them. So with a paddle in hand one day, she took me to the “proverbial “woodshed” as they say…..she made me feel so ashamed of my breaking my promise to her again that I willingly stripped my clothes off, bend over and let her warm my deserving behind until tears were rolling down my cheeks.
Afterwards, we talked again and she assigned me a couple of household tasks or chores for every day to help out….tossed me a pair of panties and told me I would only be wearing panties while performing the chores….and 24/7 after that, if I behaved, to show her that I was truly sorry…..of course I loved wearing the panties and started to do my best to so that my wife would let me wear panties as much as possible.
Well long story short…that was 8 years ago and my wife has gradually continued to feminize me….I have a number of dresses and skirts and blouses…no trousers….and she even bought me three housekeeping uniforms for when i do housework.
These days I perform all the household chores….cleaning, laundry, dusting, ironing, cooking and cleanup, mopping and polishing the porcelain throne in my wife’s bathroom each day. I even do much of the grocery shopping.
She pretty much orchestrates our daily schedule…what we do when…and I must admit I simply ache each morning for her to awaken so that I can kneel and her feet and tell her how much I love her. My love grows deeper each day….I can’t believe I am writing this…but it is true.
I am en femme so to speak probably 10 hours a day or more…always when I am home without company. Only boys undies for Doctor visits.
The big change for me, being feminized, is that it has opened my emotional side. As a man I simply was stoic…had my defenses up…rarely laughed, never cried, and rarely saw anything except black and white. Now I have emotion…I live with emotion….life is so much more…so more colorful with emotions.
Hard to believe that a bra and panties could do this for me…but it truly has….and I am so happy that I am living the autumn of my years with such passion and trying to stay in the moment and enjoy as much as possible.
Just call me Shirley
What a wonderful story Shirley. You captured perfectly the points I try to make on my posts about awakening what is considered femininity within our male partners. Although Alice was never overly alpha or macho, her feminisation has had a wonderful effect on our relationship due to the changes it brings in her. I do believe that men’s social conditioning to be an alpha causes stress for them. Releasing them from that requirement to be an alpha macho leader under the care of a loving female authority makes for a beautiful relationship for both parties. And you mention the passion in our later years. Absolutely. There is a large element of that too in this lifestyle. It was lovely to hear from you.
Stephanie makes some excellent points about how conflicting it can be when we spend so much time as a woman at home yet have to fit in being “one of the guys” when around men. Hearing degrading comments and sexist and disgusting so called “jokes” about women are almost commonplace when men get together and is very disturbing. It makes me feel like a spy among them and my feminine side takes it personally. It’s not easy to be on both sides of the fence.
Even though a FLR is a power exchange and a lot of playfulness goes with it often the result is males connect with their new found feminine side in positive ways. We’ll never really be women but it does make some of us feel we don’t belong with men. It seems to me this is what many women like about a feminized male and as conflicting as it is it makes for a special closeness most couples never experience.
Both Alice and I would challenge anyone using sexist or degrading language in the workplace or outside it. So why don’t you or Stephanie do that? Our companies would absolutely support our stand. You won’t change anything if you just accept it. It’s nothing to do with feeling female or male, but standing up for correct and respectable behaviour.
I’m not sure where you both work or in what country, but neither of us recognise the lazy stereotypical descriptions of male working environments. We would never work in an environment such as this if we were unfortunate enough to find ourselves in one.
My blog describes a happily married couple’s relationship that takes place behind closed doors – mostly. A consensual relationship based on FLR, a small dose of femdom and a lot of feminisation It also contains a large helping of fetish and sexual excitement. My husband is neither conflicted nor is he a true woman or a woman trapped in a male body. Alice is a heterosexual biological male who has discovered, through me, an extremely pleasing and satisfying feminine side that we wish to expand much further. I use the term feminine in the socially constructed version of femininity, which is my point. It’s just a construct invented by people.
Why can’t biological males live as, what is considered by society, as a female? Challenging these gender stereotypes is also part of the raison d’etre for my blog and you’ve both fallen into the trap of thinking that these stereotypes are somehow natural. I repeat, as I do ad-nauseam, I know nothing about transgender issues, I’m unqualified and I don’t write about them. I write about a specific type type of husband/wife domestic relationship and the fact that gender stereotyping needs to be broken down and we should be free to live as we wish. Which we can’t at present in public sadly.
Lady Alexa… THANK YOU for defending those among us who in no way identify with ‘transgender issues’! All too often wonderful sites such as Yours here find themselves urged to take up ancillary political causes. Your explanation of explaining Your own take on the need for Female Empowerment in relationships without negating the very natures of the sexes is refreshingly void of much of the current political correctness.
YES — we all have agendas, but far too often some seek to highjack others’ take on approach to life decisions for causes not related in any way similar.
Always the best for You and Alice in the mode You lead her in lovingness to which ‘she’ or’ he’ accedes IN MUTUAL AGREEMENT. Of course as a Female, You ultimately should and shall eventually take precedence *sob*… or *giggle*.
(*sigh*… Lady Alexa — You certainly are one of my HEROES!)
It’s more about the fact that neither Alice or I are transgender, I don’t have any qualifications to write about transgender issues and my blog is about something else – FLR and male feminisation within this lifestyle.
“Why can’t biological males live as, what is considered by society, as a female?” That, is exactly how mine and my husband, Selina’s marriage is. Selina is a male biologically living full time as a woman. We have been living a FLR lifestyle for 13+ months with Selina having gone full time last September. I have shared much of our story in earlier posts but we had lived in a traditional male/female marriage for 20+ years before embarking on this new journey. My husband was a stereotypical male who acted as if the man should be the leader and I was brought up the same way. I knew he occasionally crossdressed and we experimented in forced feminization which was very unfulfilling to me as the end game for him was to get sexual pleasure so I ended up refusing to play his bedroom games. It wasn’t until he showed me one of your blog entries that I opened up to the idea of living a FLR lifestyle with forced/encouraged feminization that benefitted me and put my needs, wants, and desires first. I agreed to try this as a “trial”. I continued reading your blog and other online stories of this lifestyle and decided I wanted it. Unlike Cathy and her husband Mike/Michelle whose marriage I greatly admire, I knew if this was going to work things would have to progress rapidly from the start. My husband was very excited when I agreed to try this….I’m sure he had expectations as to how things would work out…and I believe he was caught off guard at how I instantly took control and established my leadership. I encouraged/established/at times forced his feminization making sure he knew in no uncertain terms how things were going to be. He quickly learned his feminization was going to be on my terms, not his. I learned that exposure to other women was a great way to punish him, make him more submissive, and insure he lived by my rules. Fast forward to today and our marriage is wonderful. I am the leader, Selina lives full time as a woman, works at a company that embraces diversity, does the household chores, engages in hobbies/activities that I enjoy, follows my lead, and everday becomes more like a woman. I have thought about, but haven’t put her on hormones. She did get implants about 6 weeks ago but has and always will have her male equipment which I refer to as her cute princess. She doesn’t pass 100% but through voice training, waist training, and continually learning female mannerisms blends very well in public. Her male ego still rears its ugly head at times but I have ways of dealing with that! We do things together like going to the salon for manis/pedis, getting out hair done, working out together in female classes where she has been accepted, going to movies, plays, craft fairs, walks through the park, concerts, shopping and more shopping, and anything I want to do. She is the perfect husband, girlfriend, companion, and submissive feminized mate! This lifestyle is wonderful and I would and have encouraged other women to strongly consider and try it. As I share this early Sunday morning while I sip on my morning coffee reading a book my Selina is doing laundry, cleaning the kitchen, and will prepare breakfast soon. She is wearing a matching pink satin bra and panty set, 4″ pink heels, a cute white apron with pink roses, pink hair ribbons. For years in our marriage she wanted, badgered, pleaded with me to wear only lingerie around the house so this is how I have her dress. Life is grand living a FLR life with a sweet, submissive, feminized husband!
Hello Katrina, and what a wonderful comment to receive. You’ve described exactly what I’ve been trying to promote ever since starting my blog. FLR and ‘forced’ feminisation has to be more than just a male sex game. It is a lifestyle that works for both. Many males don’t seem to get the point that they should be careful what they wish for. You’ve gone so much further than me. It was wonderful to read.
We don’t have the same restrictions as you Lady Alexa,, no family near us, and once I learned Selina’s place of employment embraced diversity and LGBTQ people I decided to push/encourage her to living full time. The HR staff was wonderful and helped pave the way for a smooth transition which helped immensely. There have been many changes and challenges for myself as well. I had to unlearn years of thinking that men were the leaders of relationships and women are followers and submissive to men. Your blog and most notably a series of books by a woman who lives a FLR lifestyle with her feminized husband have assisted greatly in my transformation. It has been a journey for both of us and has tremendously improved our marriage. Most of Selina’s friends as a male have drifted away which is good. One married friend accepts her for who she has become and another single friend has as well. He has actually confided in me that he is intruiged by ourown relationship and would love to find a woman who embraces a FLR lifestyle. There are more men out there than we know who would love to submit to a loving female who wants to lead the relationship. My friend Jackie is slowly feminizing her husband and changing the dynamic of their marriage. I love helping her evolve into a strong/alpha female and watch/encourage/participte in the feminization of her husband Kelsi. One huge step for Jackie was introducing Kelsi to his 23 year old daughter who is a very strong, self assured young woman. She is all for the new relationship Jackie is implementing and embraces the feminization of her dad. The world is changing and women are learning that being leaders in relationships is beneficial to them and the males they lead. I am so proud and happy for Jackie and what she has accomplished in her marriage! There is much more to my story and myself, Jackie, my good friend Donna, and a few other women are taking charge of their marriages/relationships, leading and feminizing their men, and living awesome empowered lives. I will continue sharing my journey in a FLR lifestyle with my girly husband Selina.
Very nice. You make the comment about how your husband’s feminisation and your leadership had improved your marriage. How true, it’s exactly what we found. Yes we have a number of restrictions and I envy your freedom
The one thing that allowed me to take Selina full time was her place of employment having policies encouraging and embracing diverse lifestyles. If not, our marriage would be similar to yours with having him live a false male personna at work and in public.
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Katrina,
How did the visit with your sister and her wife go?
Katrina,
Sorry, that should have been the visit from your cousin and her wife. Sorry for the confusion .
Hi Phred, the visit was absolutely wonderful. I typically don’t have Selina dress like a sissy, but felt this was the perfect opportunity to do so. My cousin almost backed out at the last minute but ended up coming after receiving several assurances that she would be treated respectfully by Selina. I didn’t tell her beforehand of the change in our marriage. She was shocked when Selina answered the door in a satin maid uniform purchased from Birch Place. Selina made amends for her past horrible behavior and waited on them hand and foot. It was a fun couple days and Selina suffered some humiliating moments to pay back for the way she harassed and humiliated my cousin in the past.
Thanks much for the reply.
Why is manhood artificial,constructed when you present womanhood as natural and normal? Why should a man be submissive to women when woman refuse point blankly to be submissive to men? Why should one sex be expected to constantly defer to another?
I agree up to a point that Alice should be thought of as a girl because she lacks the training,knowledge and experience that women her age would be fully expected to know. However you should really be leading Alice slowly but surely towards womanhood. While it seems you are perfectly content to keep her a permanent girl while unreasonably expecting her to work and earn like a man and to perform in bed like a man. Can you not see that this unhappy state of affairs must only produce tremendous cognitive dissonance? Outside and at work she must play the part of a man while playing the part of a girl at home this can only only result in mental instability and falseness with you and others. Alice should be either man or girl/woman and not both. I am a transwoman who is much too tall to ever pass as a woman. At the office I have to play the man,deny my nature constantly by talking about cars,football,beer and sex with the men,while internally signing that I cannot sit and talk with the woman as one of them. I find this so utterly draining that I try to spend as much time as possible asleep.
Hello Stephanie. You’re conflating a couple of my points. To begin with, my blog has nothing to do with transgenders although I’m sure many enjoy reading about our lifestyle. It’s more a blog about female led relationships where male feminisation is part of the FLR. Secondly, when I talk about artificially constructed manhood I’m not talking about gender or biology I’m talking about the way society pushes the concept of male leadership and masculinity being associated with strength, intelligence and bravery. My writing is about FLR and helping biological males, like my husband, to understand they can be submissive, followers and they are allowed to wear pretty clothes. At least at home with me. My husband is a biological male and will remain that way. He just may act and live more like the social stereotype of a girl.
Hello Stephanie
I think you may have projected many of your internal conflicts and hurt to Lady Alexa. I feel i can say this to you because some of the things you write strike a chord in deep within me such as faking the beer football conversation (though i do love a high quality craft ale), gritting my teeth when the conversation turns to talking about women in unflattering ways and general Neanderthal behavior. I too would love to sit with the women and be one of them, or freely pick up the cutest blouse in a store and hold it up and look in a mirror… If the internet resources were available long ago i would have transitioned by now… Like you i am often drained by hiding or holding it in. Unfortunately, my life is built in a false construct of masculinity and the idea of coming out and probably losing everyone and everything at my age terrifies me. This forum really isn’t geared towards you or me, but there are women that support a feminized male and sometimes feminization being taken further with a loving spouse. Lady Alexa has always stated she is not an expert in transgender affairs. Despite some fantasy aspects which she admits could be a result of her fictional writings, she (as far as i know) has the most reality based FLR lifestyles I’ve ever heard of. For me.. I feel no inherent inferiority of one species or gender to another and neither do i feel the need to submit to every genetic born woman. I do however adore a strong woman that would be comfortable taking the lead of the household and accepting me in a housewife role(i will maintain my career).
Please know I am in no way chastising you. I may be wrong, but i thought i sensed a great deal of hurt in your response. That is one of the great things about this blog is the sharing of ideas and conversations that I (and probably you) cannot have anywhere else. I know for me that this is some relief of the pressure of holding everything in. Please hang around and
and get a better view of what is said here.
peace ;-*
XxCarla
Hello Carla, thank you, you’re quite correct and the fact I use my femdom scene name of Lady Alexa gives a clue as the the nature of my blog. But all are welcome and I do hope that everyone enjoys the stories of our lifestyle and I love to receive comments and feedback. But as you say, comments should be cognisant of the narrow theme of the blog – FLR and ‘forced feminisation’ as a lifestyle choice for a heterosexual couple.
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Magic panties! Women everywhere will want those:)
Lady Alexa, your blog is very much a reason why my marriage is so much better. My wife and I were on the verge of divorce. We both have dominant personalities and fought a lot. She wanted me to help around r he house, help with laundry, dishes, etc. I considered that woman’s work and resented her for wanting me to do that. As i read more about the effects of feminization I started wearing her panties to see if there is any real change. Holy heck it was crazy. MG attitude changed immediately. I started doing the laundry, vacuuming, never left a single item in the sink and started rubbing her feet nightly. Instead of fighting we became intimate again. It is amazing what a simple article of clothing can do. She wants me in panties full time but I still have moments of shame and patriarchal pride which I hate but it’s so ingrained in me. In many ways I do need forced feminization to become the man I should be. Thank you and all the woman out there that are taking control and making their men better.
Hi there Alexa, from your ‘American FLR-Sister” Cathy – I certainly agree that as wives we’re not talking about some kind of true transgender matters for our hubbies, but rather exploring this new, creative, expressive, more submissive, quieter, “open” dimension to our longstanding traditional husband-wife relationship. For Mike/Michelle and I, FLR is exactly as you described: a simple proposition that says, “Why can’t my husband grow out and style his hair?” “Why can’t I help him try things like nail polish and jewelry?” “Wouldn’t it be fun to help/allow him to literally try/experience the fun things I love about being a woman?” “Who’s to say he can’t wear some fun-sexy lingerie?” “Maybe he’d really enjoy wearing a dress, or a skirt and blouse, around our house.” “It could be fun and freeing for him to experience wearing make-up and shaving himself silky smooth all over.” And what if these were linked directly to off-loading lots of his traditional ‘male’ responsibilities to ME – so I’ll manage the finances, run our weekly household schedules, plan our trips and vacations, and “female lead our relationship” – and he can relax and settle into a more calm, low-key place of simply “following my lead in our relationship”. No shame, no coercion, no humiliation, nothing against his will, his decisions. An empty nest with lots of freedom and privacy and all kinds of TIME afforded me the opportunity to slowly slide him along to MY way of FLR thinking. The upside offer to him was “hey, you can sit back, relax, take it easy, leave everything to me, and your days and weeks will have zero stress, no problems to shoulder, no pressures at work. Just get up each day, follow my lead, take care of our home, make some meals, do laundry, clean and tidy up, turn off the TV and sports and instead read some books with me, sup some tea or wine, listen to some classical music, slow down the whole pace of life – and do ALL this in an entirely new daily lifestyle where your traditional husband/male role, ‘look’, and ‘feel’ is gone and you go through your days 100% dressing and feeling like me. We started very slow, just a few things, didn’t rush the process of my personalized FLR plan, and little by little in step-by-step increments my sweet husband got comfortable with this at each stage. NO real costs in each, but LOTS of tangible benefits for him to enjoy. Being called “Michelle” slowly got more comfortable and fit with how he dressed and looked. 6 going on 7 years later, I’d NEVER go back, and he admits he also very much likes our FLR lifestyle. Life is so completely lovely now with my Mikey/Michelle and our established routines, both here at home and all kinds of different times and settings out in public together – in the right settings. Such a great way to spend married life after the boys are grown and gone with their own families.
Yes great comments Cathy. I didn’t really cover female leadership in depth in this post but, of course, this is a significant element and one of the important reasons to feminise a husband. It allows him to relax and accept our leadership
Cathy I enjoyed you post very much, FLR’s and feminized males go hand in hand for both to be successful. It is a natural combination especially when a woman is better at making important decisions concerning finances and such and leaving the male to do the mundane household chores that women hate doing. Showing that we can happily take on chores that most men feel is beneath them serves two purposes, it gives my wife lots of free time to pursue other interests making her happier and gives me more of an insight into what is generally expected of a wife. Of course for me there is a fun side in that I can do some of it in my maid’s dress but I am just as happy doing it in anything feminine.
So well said Jennifer. It is always nice that the man is properly attired in pretty feminine clothing while doing Traditional Women’s Chores. More Strong wives need to insist on this for their pretty husbands! Please make sure that you always look Pretty for her and her friends!
Wow Cathy! What a great story. Michelle is a lucky gurl indeed. I’m new to this site, but not to the dream. This is the lifestyle I seek. Do you have a sister who thinks like you and sees the love and happiness in your home ? Love to hear more about you two. Keep up the good work
Lady Cathy,
This is essentially my relationship between me and my Lady. It was very gradual but it was at just the right pace. I’ve written my story somewhere else on here in more detail.
I’m now a devoted tea drinker. Afternoon Tea is capitalized on purpose. It is an event in our home. I prepare it and the scones and sweets and the event is the epitome of my femininity as is the evening meal and Sunday. I dress and make myself up to perfection for Afternoon Tea. Changing my clothes is absolutely necessary for Her. I change from my professional secretarial colorful skirt suits into flowery dresses with matching hats. It’s a devine lifestyle for us.
Your obedient servant.
Stephan(ie).
I have never cared for the term forced feminization, a man can’t be forced to be feminine but from my own experiences he can be seductively encouraged to cross dress just as you have successfully persuaded Alice to fully dress as a woman. Obviously there is a lot of eroticism in this lifestyle but for a man to be feminine he has to accept he has a feminine side and work towards bringing out the woman in him. How we dress has a lot to do with this, while it is fun to dress like a tart or wear sissy things like maid’s dresses it doesn’t bring out the woman in us the way wearing attractive skirts and blouses or pretty dresses does. When you take the eroticism out of the cross dressing it becomes emotional and even spiritual and this is where we realize it is more than just the clothes and having a woman to guide us and treat us as an equal is where our feminization really takes hold.
I firmly believe my feminine side has made me a better person, it has given me cause to be much more aware and concerned about womens’ issues such as the metoo movement, abuse, inequality in the work place and that women are taken for granted by powerful men. I can’t thank my wife enough for bringing me into her world as much as she has and if every woman did this the world would be a better place. I love your blog Lady Alexa, you are emphasizing the importance of men to be softer and more sensitive and nothing does it more than being a girl with a girl.
A very good point Jennifer, that forced feminisation is erotic and sensual too. I think I need to discuss this aspect further in a future post. Another great point about the sissy/tarty/maid thing. It’s fun some times as a game but generally in everyday life normal femininity is the approach to bring out the soft and emotional side of the feminised man. Great comments
Dear Lady Alexa,
I was the lucky recipient of not ‘forced feminization’ but ‘encouraged feminization’, much as You are transforming Alice. My LadyJ encouraged my latent femininity and allowed me to blossom as a human being. She was wise enough to recognize in me, a superficially ordinary ‘macho’ male, the gentle and sensual feminine being I struggled so hard to hide.
There were ‘forced’ aspects to my feminization, of course. Punishments for transgressions and disobedience were swift, humiliating and very often painful. But in a way, punishments gave me mental permission to obey Her and become more submissive and ‘feminine’. In my heart, I really wanted to be soft, obedient and womanly (like a traditional ’50’s housewife role) but my conditioning as a ‘male’ made me afraid to embrace my true nature. But the more feminine I became, the more content and fulfilled I became.
What a joy it was to be liberated from the trap of ‘macho’ and embrace my true femininity!
Hello Tris, good to hear your story. I think some males, such as my on Alice, don;t actually recognise that their masculinity is false and that they have a strong femininity inside wanting to get out. In these situations they need to be guided and yes, at times, that does mean being a little tough. And yes that does mean some form of punishment albeit gentle – more of a humiliation really. However, even punishment is consensual really.
Wow !
Tris, what a wonderful post. It captures what i’m sure I would experience if I met an understanding, encouraging woman who would appreciate having a loving, devoted male wife of the 50s type . Love to find one in the Los Angeles area. Enjoy your freedom to be you.
Pam, in awe of your situation.
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i enjoy it not forced
I think a little pushing is sometimes needed but certainly not forced
i’ ve have had a few (3) Women in my life who have feminized me. Each had a different attitude and approach towards Their domination and control of me. i learned from all of them and appreciate learning more by reading Your posts.
N you’ve triggered my interest. Do tell us what their attitudes and approaches were. Or at least tell me on my email.
Well, for me it is a different story…..
I lam Peter and like to be Saskia. Why? I am a dominant male person and need to be in control in my daily job. So many times I would like to escape form that role. My wife, I love her very much, does understand my need to feel and act more like a woman, but she does not want to play any role in any kind of forced feminization.
That makes it hard for me to get into this mode, becauce I have to do thi smyself. I have been visiting a commercial Mistress many times. She understood my needs, but in the ewnd it became to expensive to continue playing.
I do not want to play, I want to be submissive, and that is hard to do if you are on your own in that aspect.
A couple of months ago I wrote a long letter to my wife. I told her that I was planning that and weeks passed before I finally printe dthat letter and placed it where she could easily see it and read it. At once it was gone and she did not mention it.
I wrote al about the things you mentioned in your blogs and/or books. I don’t thins any of this triggered here in trying a bit to move into my direction. She know that I am wearing women clothes and that I play with my role and that I need that. Shee agreed to that but does not wnat anything with it.
She admitted that dhe had bi-sexual feelings. That confuses me, in not accepting my need to be a more female. I think (don’t know for sure), that she want me as her man and she pushes away her bi-sexual feelings. I don’t know if any of that has anything to do with my needs. It is complex in my mind.
Anyhow, I like to continue living as Saskia for as much as I can, but I sm frustrated not belonging to someone who would ocntrol me in that roadmpa. I’m on my own, that is a hard way to get better in the role of a submisive woman.
Saskia
Your story is similar to Alice’s in having a lot pf responsibility apart from the fact she didn’t know that her feminisation would be the answer. I did. It’s nice to read that you understand the need to shake off your masculine side, the side expected at work. I do hope your wife starts to understand but for many people, they can’t see beyond the standard social constructions. It’s not their fault and maybe over time she’ll see the benefits
Hello Lady Alexa!
I love it when i get the notification that you have written something new. I too love the term encouraged feminization. I would even be happy to find accepted feminization in a relationship. Alice is so lucky! Although your article seems to be written for the Ladies, or the girl in a couple, i hope there is also some interest from the perspective of a single girl. I think i am not so much feminizing myself as i am removing the male restrictions /barriers /walls that i used for protection and allowing my true feminine self to be free! My feminine self or identity is more relaxed, fun, expressive, sanguinous, and much cleaner 😊(not that I’ve ever been too slovenly.) The biggest caveat has been more space needed for skin and hair care products… Well, that and extra time to do my hair in the morning. Still… I can never go back. Sorry for my rambling on
Xxoo Carla
Thank you, I’ve been rather busy lately so there haven’t been so many. Mind you, I’m always busy. And yes, of course I write my articles from a woman’s perspective but I do understand that most readers are males so I try to look it from that aspect too. Alice helps me here. And I like your approach, if you can remove those false masculine aspects yourself then excellent
I approve of the change from ‘forced’ to ‘encouraged’ feminization and feel you have hit the right note. Loving feminization is intimate and warm and much better for the sub male psychologically speaking, and certainly encourages love in return from the feminized male partner. Although we are not partners, I feel friendliness and love towards you and am very happy for Alice. Iansubbrianna
I’ve had emails from males asking me to force feminise them. Apart from asking the question why on earth would I want to take time out of my busy day to do this to a stranger, it shows very well that there is no so thing as forced feminisation amongst adults. How can you ask to be force feminised? Really.
Dear Lady Alexa
i’ve referred now and agin to the love that must be there between he Superior and Her girl. Feminisation is the ultimate gift a Lady can give to Her partner. It is magical to see that beautiful gift unfold between You and Alice – not to mention Cathy & Her Michelle. Thank You all so much for sharing and for inspiring me x x x
Thanks Holly, that’s very true, feminising a man is a gift to him but of course, the benefits flow both ways. It has to be a win-win, it’s not all about the male, especially in a relationship. His acceptance in being feminised and his transformation has enormous benefits to the lady of the house. Why would we do it otherwise?
Lady Alexa
It is a surrender, but of attributes which at the time of surrender are abhorrent. Once complete, it is such a relief to have reflexive actions you used to have completely gone. I am now trained to have far more tasteful reflexive actions, such as making sure my hair, outfit, and makeup look just right whenever I see a mirror, and wanting to emulate scenes in our home from the stunning pages of Architectural Digest and Town & Country, and continually seeking out attire and accessories to coordinate.
Tastefully appointed gorgeous surroundings in the home are my hobby. My hobby and reflexive actions are a gift of surrendering all the repulsive and repugnant things which are male. Of course, I was willing. She gave me encouragement for which I am forever grateful.
I place total trust in Her. I am a stay-at-home now. I don’t see any males at all anymore. I am surrounded by superior Feminine energy throughout the family which always makes me better. Ladies make all judgements and decisions in my life and there is nothing better. A complete and total Gynarchy would make the world a most peaceful and orderly place.
I bow to you,
Stephanie
LadyA my QUEEN is in the process of feminization of me her sub. Doing this is increasing her dominance and control which has upgraded her self esteem, self confidence and self worth to an immeasurable level plus so greatly improve our relationship. I’m an A+ type personality but willingly and totally submit to her authority. This lifestyle has brought us closer together and increased our love for each other. She has permanently marked me as her stag/submissive with the Japanese symbol for slave/submissive and a stag on my left shoulder. Just within the last week she has found what she believes will be a permanent bull. She is now bbc and a size QUEEN and it could be more amazing. She is continuing to push the feminization of her sub for both her enjoyment and to further increase her control and dominance. I provide her with your blog entries and she reads them and utilizes the info every day. Please I beg you keep doing what your doing as it furthers the fact that a FLR is the closest perfect relationship there is. My only regret is that you are so far away (across the pond) such that you could personally take her under your wing and further her climb to the top of the mountain.
Hello Robbie, thank you for your comment. It’s very nice to read that there are other women like me who see the benefit of FLR and Forced Feminisation of their men. And that you are a male who understands and has accepted that we do this for your improvement and for the improvement of our relationships. Yes it’s a shame you’re so far away as we would both like to meet and interact more couples like us.
I can’t figure out how to comment directly to your story LadyAlexa. All I know it is a dream of mine to be in a true FLR. I’ve waited all my life to find what your Alice has. I will just continue reading Your words and dreaming.
I think you just did comment directly 👍