Although it seems to be mainly males who want force feminisation, there are some of us women who prefer our husbands and partners as feminsied husbands within a Female-Led Relationship.
Despite the fantasy stuff you see all over the web, what we want as women is for our men to be feminine and submissive but to remain biologically male. A female husband? A man in a girl suit?
A FEMALE HUSBAND, BUT STILL MALE
I’ve started to get correspondence from women who live in an FLR with their feminised husband. It seems that everyone’s FLR is slightly different, although in most cases itis generally the man who instigated the lifestyle and the lady found a way for it to benefit her.
I always realised the potential benefits, but mine and Alice’s FLR is a little different to most in that it was me who wanted my husband feminised and submissive.
But the point about an FLR and a feminine husband also being of benefit to the lady of the house, rather than just the male playing out his fantasy, is the key which seems to pass many males by.
Here’s a lovely story from Helen, who wrote to me recently about her own FLR with her female husband, Amy. He wanted to become feminised and Helen found the way to make it work for her.
A case of be careful what you wish for.
HELEN’S STORY AND HER FLR
I liked that many of Lady Alexa’s posts are about real feeling and realistic expectations. People mistake our FLR feminized partners’ soft and giving sides for weakness, but we know that isn’t true.
I was so glad to find Lady Alexa’s site and to see there was someone else who understood that the real femdom FLR lifestyle is not about whips, dungeons and porn but something more loving and caring.
It would be difficult to condense 17 years in our FLR into a paragraph or two. I believe we live close to the goals Lady Alexa has and, although perhaps we’ve gone too far in my husband’s feminization, it works for us.
MY FEMINIZED HUSBAND
My former husband, and now wife Amy, is not transsexual. I know it’s a fine line, but she is a man in a girl suit. I love Amy for all she is, but I still need and enjoy the male part as Lady Alexa does.
I’ve been luckier in life than I could have ever imagined, both in love and in my professional life. In every way, a great deal of that has only been possible, because of my beautiful wife Amy.
She was, at first, a he and a 25-year-old veteran and a truck driver when we met. I was in my last year working that summer towards my degree. My mum was a single parent and pushed me hard. She worked two jobs to get me through college, even with a scholarship.
She taught me to stand on my own two feet and to be as independent as I was able. I could never have imagined how my marriage would turn out though. People in small Midwestern USA communities aren’t exposed to much in the ways of alternative lifestyles.
The short version is we met and fell in love. Shortly after, I had a very tear-filled confession from him about his crossdressing and, in the end, we married. Then we struggled with it. Especially me.
A CROSSDRESSING AND FEMINIZATION MARRIAGE
There are a hundred degrees of crossdressing, from panty fetish to full-blown wrong body, wrong sex. I soon got tired of guessing what my husband was. He went from from being a happy crossdresser (CD) at weekends, and a moody not CD during the week when he had to be in male mode for work.
So I read what I could about male crossdressing. Amy was always trying to put my feelings first, which made things bearable and this attribute helped me to try to help him. He found it difficult to explain this desire for crossdressing and to be feminized but, at the same time, to remain a male biologically, just as with Lady Alexa and Alice.
At that time I hadn’t read Lady Alexa’s blogs and I felt alone, as if I was the only wife facing this.
I found information on submissive and cross-dressing husbands and female-led relationships. I began to understand what it was my husband needed and that it wasn’t unusual. I found I wasn’t the only women to be in this situation and that helped me a lot.
I decided that the only way to live with my husband’s needs was to face up to them and accept them. Apart from my initial difficulty in accepting this part of him, everything else was great in our relationship. I
I realised the drive to crossdress was how he was and he was as lost as me. He needed guidance himself. I decided to take control of the situation.
We took little steps at first. I got him to lose the leg hair; isn’t that prettier hon? Would you like to dress en femme more often at home? Then, wouldn’t that bra would look so much better on a bare chest. Surprisingly, I really mind in the slightest, quite the opposite. I found I was attracted to guiding my husband into feminisation.
MOVING OUR FLR ONWARDS
Almost 2 years after those first tentative steps into our FLR/feminisation, I landed a huge client at work and got promoted on the back of it. I was promoted again when my firm was bought out shortly after.
This career success drove me to take more steps in Amy’s feminization and to begin his conversion into my housewife. Amy lived to make me happy, so it wasn’t difficult. I taught him basic makeup and I bought her more female clothes. I got him to remove all his body hair.
Still, I could see it wasn’t enough for either of us. So, one Friday morning after he left for work, I laid out a little black dress I had found for him in a sale, black bra, panties, garter belt and lace top and hose.
He had half-days on Fridays at the time so, before I left for work myself, I wrote him a note to tell him to have dinner ready and to be all dolled-up and pretty for when I got home.
When I got back he was gorgeous, a bit too much perfume maybe and the eyes were a bit much, but feminine. After a lot of teasing and telling him what a cute little wife I had and after a few glasses of wine, I sat him down and changed our lives forever.
Sitting nylon knee to nylon knee, I ran a fingernail up her (no longer his) thigh, and said, “You love this girly stuff don’t you? This is who you want to be and who you really are, isn’t it?”
Amy melted into a helpless mess and said, “Yes”. Then I told her to tell me why she loved me, who I was in her heart and why she needed me if she was so into being a girl herself.
I thought I knew she loved me, but what poured out of her almost in anguish just blew me away. Even I was in tears.
I’m not a very large woman. I have a nice figure and people say I’m attractive, but I’m not the goddess Amy sees. I’m not the reason she lives for, or God’s gift to the world! But that’s exactly what she told me.
So I took out a gift bag I’d brought home and said it she felt that way, she should give me her male wedding ring. She completely fell apart and sobbed like I’ve never seen a man sob before.
After much soothing, I took Amy’s male wedding ring and gave her the woman’s diamond engagement ring I had in the bag. I told her I’d be her Goddess and all that went with it.
But if this was who she was then she had to be that every day, even at work. Maybe not makeup, but certainly bra and panties under her male clothing every day in the office. She had to be shaved of body hair every day, no guy clothes at home, no guy clothes at weekends.
If in two months she was sure, we’d have a new wedding, she would take my last name and become my loving, submissive wife. She was sure and we redid our vows on our wedding anniversary and she became my wife.
FLR, FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Unlike many FLR/force-feminized couples who go for an FLR once they have an empty nest, we had children and our families know.
Both of our mothers and Amy’s older sister support our life. Amy’s dad can’t begin to understand, it is very uncomfortable for him. Most people think he’s trans but of course, he’s not. They don’t get that a man can be heterosexual but enjoy being in what is considered female clothing and lifestyle.
Amy gave up work to live full-time as a woman and is a now stay-at-home mum with no male clothing. The kids were surprisingly fine with our new lifestyle, even though our son is all boy. They are now teenagers.
All these years later, I’m still the centre of Amy’s world, the goddess he worships. I think this is a point many men who want an FLR, and to be feminised don’t grasp. The woman has to become their goddess for it to work. There has to be a big incentive for the lady too and in our case, I’m Amy’s goddess
Ridiculous as it sounds to me still, Amy needs that. She wants and needs to worship me. There are worse things than being worshipped.
FURTHER FEMINIZATION
Our FLR was working. We decided to go to the next stage: try one round of hormone therapy. We stopped, then tried again, then stopped. It was a big step and although we were both excited by the idea of Amy looking even more like a female, we were also nervous.
Finally, we went for it and after 5 years, Amy now has hips, a cute butt and full C-cups. Her man parts still work and she’s beautiful. For years we still did the him and her thing at some functions, but she can no longer pass as a man any more, at least not easily.
We are totally monogamous. I love her more than I could tell you, and even when I’m a total, selfish bitch, she loves me more. In fact, the more selfish and bitchy I am, the nmore she loves me.
REFLECTIONS ON AN FLR AND A FEMINIZED HUSBAND
I’m glad I found Lady Alexa’s blog. I had tried to communicate with others but mostly, they were either bitter women or men pretending to be a woman for kicks. I know Lady Alexa has had the same problem.
I liked that many of Lady Alexa’s posts are about real feelings and real expectations and issues of an FLR with a female husband. I’m so glad to find someone else who sees that the femdom,FLR and forced feminisation lifestyle is a real loving relationship and is not about whips, dungeons and porn and males getting their kicks.
I work insane hours at times, but I don’t have to lift a finger at home. My home is spotless, the kids are amazing and our lawn and garden are beautiful.
And my partner still worships and adores me. They can have their real men, I know what’s best for me.
FURTHER REAL-LIFE FEMINIZATION
If you enjoyed that lovely true-life story from Helen, why not check out my own true-life forced feminization of my husband in my book, How I Feminised my Husband, and yes that’s my Alice on the cover. Great legs.
Click on the cover to see more.
As you know, he (she?) was less keen to become a girl so needed a lot of gentle and persistent coaxing. I got there in the end and we’re both happy.
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I love this M’lady. This is a sissy’s dream come true. 😍
Glad you like it
“Sitting nylon knee to nylon knee, I ran a fingernail up her (no longer his) thigh, and said, “you love this girly stuff don’t you? This is who you want to be and who you really are, isn’t it?”
I love this line! Every time I read it I imagine myself there in the cute black dress agreeing to irrevocably become her wife and take care of her every need. Makes me feel breathless!
Cindy
Ms Lady Alex: I just read about Joanne W. above and I see alot of myself in her story. My neighbors wife must have realized that I had sissy tendencies in my behavior before I did because one year on Halloween she had me completely dress up in a big teenage girls dress as her son’s pregnant wife. She had me try on and wear every feminine article of clothing that would fit i.e. full oversized maternity bra with oversized panty briefs to hold in my “baby” pillow, along with a slip and pantyhose. Then she added a oversized maternity style girls short dress that only came to right above my knees luckily the slip was not too long to show. I went around with her son from door to door and he humiliated me at every door with the little skit his mother made him say and of course I had to be submissive wifee to him by answering yes to wanting to become pregnant by him i.e. fulfill my wifely duties to him. At first I was humiliated to be taking part in this skit but after awhile I starting enjoying being humiliated to the point after it was all over with I went into their bathroom took a shower to remove all the makeup etc. from my face and then pleasured myself until I came repeatly to a hugh climax!!! All the while replaying all that humiliation I received as the role of horny pregnant teenage bitch in my mind while fantasizing. Now decades later as I think about it I wish that they would have forced feminized me and then been used by her or by a couple as their personal sissy maid whore. I still desire to be used by a man, woman or couple to satisfy their each and every sexual desires and needs while dressed as a sissy bitch. I live in the U.S. in a very populated region so what do you suggest I do in order to bring this to reality to my everyday life??? I consider myself to be pansexual because I love all people/sexes and would love to serve anyone as their sex slave. Thanks, Ms. Sissy Missi.
My ex wife asked me if she could make me up as a woman one day early on in our marriage, I never told her of my desire to become the wife in our relationship, she made me up & completely dressed me, she, along with myself, could not believe how much better I looked as a woman then a man. A week later, I got completely dressed up on my own & tied myself to the bed, when my wife came home she caught me, she told me, since I like to dress as a woman, she was going to make me live as one. She believed that by embarrassing me in public & in front of friends, I would lose my desire to dress up. She took me to the salon she goes to & had my hair cut & styled in a girly look, she had my ears pierced & my eyebrows done into pencil thin lines with a high feminine arch in them. She took all of my male clothes & moved them into her mothers house. The next day, she came home with five of her girlfriends & co workers to let them see her sissy husband, she told them, in front of me, how I was now the housewife & did all of the cooking, cleaning & food shopping, she then told me to get everyone a drink & bring it into the living room. After I served everyone their drinks, my wife asked me, again, in front of everyone, did I like being the housewife ? I answered yes, do I want to become a woman ? again, I answered yes, then one of her friends asked me if I wanted to be married to a man & be his wife, I told her, yes, more then anything, the whole group of ladies burst out laughing. Another of my wife’s friends, suggested to my wife that, she have me change into a nice dress & they all take me to the mall to get a set of acrylic nails for my hands & a second set of piercings done to my ears, she told my wife that they all would chip in to pay for everything, my wife agreed. While I was getting my nails done, the girl’s set it up for me to have my hair colored when they were done with my nails. When we left the mall, I had two earrings in each ear, my fingernails protruded a half inch past the tips of my fingers & were polished a bright red & my dark brown hair, which was already cut & styled in a women’s look, was now a light brown, almost a blond color. When we were driving out of the mall parking lot, rather then heading towards our house, my wife drove us over to her mothers house, she led me inside to let her mother see ” the sissy ” that she was married to. I lived as my wife’s sissy for a little over a year, that’s when my wife filed for a divorce, she said she needed to be with a real man, not a “man” who wanted to be a woman.
Are you still living as a woman ?
@Joanne
She sounds like a manipulative and selfish individual to me, likely best with her out of the way. I hope you are still living as a woman and enjoying life, be aware that once you’ve stepped into the rabbit hole the temptation to go further is difficult to resist.
@penny
I’m hoping she is. Thank You for your ‘recent’ comment to jog my memory. Thanks to the wonders of the web I had a long chat with my ex- that included (as my therapist requested) details of what her motivations were for starting me on the journey – she realised that my recent (then) breakdown had been triggered by something and hit the jackpot on the second guess. Long term she would get me sexually involved with men and then find her own partners, we’d live as housemates sharing a bed when one of us needed cuddles. She took a job on the other side of the Planet as she could no longer tolerate the local system. She knew I hated the country she was moving too but asked anyway – a very emotional time.
Lady Alexa and Lady Helen,
This post is so incredible! The way you understood Amy’s needs and encouraged and firmly forced some of her changes excites me to the core. I am a closet transgender. Early in my marriage I tried to bring feminization and female domination into our married life. I tied myself to our bed one night facedown wearing a pair of her bikini panties and her bra. I had placed her dildo between my thighs before I tied my last wrist. I was now unable to stop this, fully committed. After about 30 minutes she came to see where I was. The light clicked on and there was a long silence. She finally came alongside the bed and picked the pink dildo up and said…..so this is what you want. She sounded disgusted. I said yes so she pulled the panties aside and slowly penetrated me. It was obvious she was uncomfortable and did not enjoy it. I tried a few more times and she let me know she was not interested in this role play.
Years later I tried again and left out a printed article on femdom prostate milking. How it left the sub with a gentle dribble of semen that did not satisfy and left the male constantly horny. She was more acceptive of this and milked me for several months calling me daily to tease me and keep me in constant arrousal. As time went on age, medications and other things basically ended our sex life. I started to indulge my fantasy and started to take on line estrogen. The changes scared me after 90 days and I stopped. Over the years I have started and stopped many times. I usually use herbals to have a slow change that leaves me tingly in the sensitive spots but does not have a rapid effect. I have a slightly rounded butt, thighs and hips. My breast have slightly grown and my nipples and areola are slightly bigger and will show pokies through a tee shirt. I can still get erect but only with a lot of buildup. I prefer to nub my clitty with one finger like a girl edging until I spill over the point of no return. I wish I could have what Amy does with my Lady teasing and pushing me to go further and further until I can no longer hide my feminization and can not remain in the closet. To be dressed, taken out, shown off, teased and shown to her friends would be the realization of decades of desire. To have my breast grow until they jiggle and can not be hidden would be torment and extasy. You are both amazing women and I salute you for taking the point in your FLR’s. Your feminized men are extremely fortunate that you embrace and further this relationship. How exciting!
Nice I think I’ll try the milking article. My wife sounds like yours 🙁
I thank all the wonderful Women who contribute to this forum . Your acceptance and encouragement/enforcement of Your so’s feminine proclivities serves as encouragement to those of us who have yet to fully embrace the fact that this can be a perfectly viable lifestyle change .
Good or bad , this will become more mainstream in our society and it will be because of Women accepting and embracing this change.
It’s a wonderful feeling knowing i have given up my male ego and male ways. i have so needed and desired to be dominated and become a sissy. i love being a gurly person, i am so happy when i am feminized and serving others.
Such wise words.
teri
Helen, thanks much for your posting. In your posting you mentioned that Amy took your maiden name when you redid your vows. Has Amy’s name change been legalized? Do your kids use your maiden name too?
Amy did change her last name legally , just as many wives have done for centuries. The children naturally have our last name as well.
I find this interesting. Both Steffie and I use our given last names. I was not abut to take Steffie’s. That said, we felt that a gender shift in our first names would have a similar effect in terms of feminizing Steffie and underscoring my strrength and dominate position.
Lady Alexa, I wonder if you could comment on something that I find encouraging, and I hope you do too. In the last five or six years, many more feminists have realized that equality requires something more radical than eliminating this or that sexist practice. It may require “the end of men,” as Hannah Rosin put it. We need to deconstruct and ultimately eliminate men and masculinity. This is not killing off the physio-biological beings called males; as one feminist put it, Here’s what we do want to kill: the concept of masculinity. And you should want that, too.” British feminist Suzanne Moore says: “I want to see this class broken. There can’t be even basic equality for women without taking away the power of men.” This would be a mercy killing, the euthanasia of a cultural construct whose expiration date is long past due.
Our inability as a civilization to really tackle this enormous cultural obstacle, explains the widespread rise in misandry these past five or ten years with slogans like “ban men,” “I hate men” and “men are trash.” There has been a widespread reaction against misandry, but it is wrong-headed. Feminists don’t want to kill flesh and blood males. Need, as an enormous social project, the elimination of the category of men needs to be undertaken by males as well as women. One feminist advises “individual men to start hating men-as-a-group in the same way that feminists hate them — not a way that encourages automatic hostility towards members of the group, but a way where you want to see the group disbanded and its charter destroyed and cast to the winds and forgotten.”
Having looked through your blog, it seems to me that you have found the best way to accomplish this euthanasia of men and masculinity. It is virtually impossible for a male who dresses everyday as a woman, has a feminine hairstyle, answers to feminine name, has real boobs (in some cases), and curtsies before his mistress to call himself a man, to imagine himself as head of the household, to commit violent acts against women, or to see himself as superior to them. What I am saying is that we are seeing a convergence between the feminist project of liberating women from patriarchy and the ghettoized scene of femdom. The two are becoming one and the same, which was your original vision. Reality seems to have caught up with you. It seems that the separation of power and authority in all it forms from the meaning of manhood and masculinity requires a female-led marriage and the feminization of male identity. Thus, we arrive at the conclusion that misandry can be the driving force for a liberating change in the relations of women and men. Hating men, properly understood, can be something to be proud of.
L
I think this idea is what I like to preach too
My goal in feminizing Steffie and taking on the masculine role as Nick is not to ‘kill’ masculinity as such but to redefine it seeing as men have totally messed it up by associating some incredibly sexist and disgusting attributes with it. As such, Steffie has essentially given it up to me, quite willingly I might add, and place his life and needs in my more capable hands. In other words, I’m better at being the masculine one than he ever was, and he knows it and is happy to be soft and cuddly while I am strong. The bad aspects of masculinity are totally rejected by me and the good aspects are repurposed as his protector.
I think it’s a case of language. I want my Alice to remain as a male biologically but to strip away any masculinity and replace it with femininity – in the way that society defines masculinity and femininity
I couldn’t agree with you more Lady A. In the close to 18 months that my Selina and I have been living our FLR and a little over a year she has been living fulltime as a feminized male her masculinity still pops up at times despite the fact I have completely immersed her in femininity. I take pleasure in continuing to strip away her masculinity when it rears it’s ugly head. I do it for her benefit and for our wonderful marriage. I, like you Lady A, prefer keeping Selina a biological male ( no hormones) and she is a feminized male living as a woman and not a transgender person. It is a lovely life!!
It’s also quite a powerful feeling knowing you have succeeded in taking away all that male ego and Male ways I myself have enjoyed changing Trisha into a very girly person we aren’t young like a lot on here but Trisha was very masculine and could be quite spiteful but I gave him(her) the ultimatum and I was quite scared but amazed after a time hoe easy it was. I think inwardly a lot of Men are quite submissive and willing to learn the pleasures of feminisation as my Trisha as xx Julie xx
Hi Julie! Yes it is a powerful and wondeeful feeling knowing I have done away with the majority of Selina’s male ego and male ways! We are not young either having been married more than 20 years before starting our FLR. I do agree with you that many men have a strong submissive side and would willingly submit to a strong woman who is intent on bringing it out and feminizing them as well. I personally know 5 women who are in FLR’s of varying degrees and incorporating feminization of their spouses. I work with and come into contact with numerous men who become submissive in the presence of a confident, assertive, and strong woman. I think more women are waking up to the fact that we are better leaders and can assume leadership and control over men.
Julie and Katrina of course You both are right about males wanting to be in a FLR and feminized. My wife struggled with it and left me for a manly man after 40 years of trying to cope with my submissive and crossdressing ways. i haven’t found the right community to find Women like the both of You. i believe your men are very lucky to have found You Both. Of Course Lady Alexa’s wife is also a lucky one. please continue to write about your lifestyles as i live thru them.
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Hi Ladies
As a feminised man and now under the Gender Clinic to go further I can honestly say that a good Woman manager is very good indeed. But there are also a lot of bad ones who seem to think that all beneath them are there for them to be spiteful and mean to. That goes for both and all sexes. My ex-partner ran the house (and me) but was treated very badly by her woman boss. To her eternal credit she didn’t take it out on me.
For slave sindee my approach was to carry on as I had been, a lovely Lady spotted my situation and took me under her wing and encouraged me to broaden my horizons. Over time I was nudged further towards where she intended all along. Now it’ll be hormones and grow my own boobs. I’m not there for sex with her as I can’t perform as a man anymore, that certainly didn’t thrill me but you can get used to anything in time.
Remember we are the ones who are picked now, we don’t get to choose our Ladies, they choose us.
Thank You, Katrina, indeed my approach is to carry on as i do i offer respect and help to Women. Just hoping,some day some Lady will spot me and take me under her wing and encouraged me to broaden my horizons.
Thanks for the words of encouragement .
Enjoy your lovely life as i dream mine will be some day
i have never been happier and more at peace with myself since coming out to my Wife.
Alexa,
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Ok thank you for pointing that out. I’ll get Alice to look at it
Thank you. Alice is looking into it
Hello Helen. I was happy to see that you had posted your story and thanks for contributing. Assuming you had read my story, you know that I decided to share my thoughts, feelings and approach to dealing with a husband who likes women’s clothes. I hoped by sharing my story I would help other women understand their similar situations. There are a hundred different solutions by women who all have various tolerance to a feminine husband. I would love to see more women in similar situations decide to contribute, sharing their feelings and approach to staying with a man who dresses the same as they do. I appreciated reading your story as it is based on different needs and with your acceptance being a prime part of the solution, it works well for you and your husband/housewife.
Sheila
Thank you both, Ladies.
Dear Sheila,
I did read your story, and am very happy to find other who embrace this lifestyle. With so much negative written about wives like mine( I no longer call her husband),it is wonderful to find a place people share their lives, and inspire women who might miss something very special. We all have to find what works in our own life. I’m very glad my Amy found lady Alexa, and all of you.
Helen and Sheila, Thank you both for sharing your stories! It’s amazing to see more women assuming leadership in their marriages and feminizing their husbands! My marriage has some similarities and some differences to yours but we each are doing what works best for us. My Selina is a fulltime, feminized male and we just passed the 18 month mark in our FLR after 20+ years of living a more traditional marriage. As you both stated in your accounts, it is about our wants and desires. I hope our stories along with Lady Alexa’s blog will encourage more and more women to take control of their relationships! Thank you both for sharing your lovely stories!!
Ms. Katrina, if you will allow me i would like to ask three questions. The first is you mentioned you read other books on FLR that helped you take control of your marriage. May i ask which books you found to be the most helpful. Second, previously you mentioned that you were going to introduce selina to your cousin who he had disrespected in the past. With the feminization in full force how was selina different to your cousin. Third is how has your FLR and your new leadership impacted how you interact with men on a day to day basis, such as work , shopping, etc. i am still having mixed emotions with my FLR and my wife definitely wants it and sees the benefits when i’m in panties but i still have my own reservations. thank you so much. sincerely, charlie
Hi Charlie, thank you for your questions. Regarding books, out of respect to Lady Alexa and the fact this is her site I don’t want to promote books written by other authors. Everything you and your wife need is on this site. The ” Five male changes for a successful FLR” is the blog entry that opened my eyes and mind as to what a real life FLR could look like.
Selina was very submissive and apologetic to my cousin and made amends. I rarely dress Selina in sissy attire but did for the day they arrived. I learned early on the exposeure to women and some humiliation gets great results with Selina. It was a fun few days! My cousin was shocked at first but quickly embraced and supported our new marriage and life.
As I’ve grown in my leadership role in our marriage and gained confidence in myself it had carried over into my life outside the house. I carry myself with confidence and a no nonsense attitude around men but strive to not be mean or bitchy. The men at work I manage have noticed the change and a few of them have become very submissive to me. I am very professional, confident, and confident assertive at work with my male coworkers. In general life I am the same….confident and assertive but not mean or bitchy.
Whatever your reservations are are secondary to what your wife desires from your relationship. If she sees the benefits and wants a FLR it looks like you’re heading down that path!
Thank you Katrina an excellent comment
I’m flattered that Alexa thought our story might be of interest, and value. I wish her advice and insight had been available to me long ago. It’s wonderful to find there are others in this lifestyle, who are finding what works for their own lives. Thank you all for your kind words, and thank you Alexa, for giving so many this place to learn and share. Helen
What an incredible and wonderful story!
Partners in a mutually encouraging relationship. His submission and her dominance….hormones to better reflect who ‘she’ really is….and being up front and out to family and friends all work together to allow this couple to be themselves.
Thank you both for sharing. ❤️
I myself would never do that I’m a Woman in Every Way and would never try to look Manly.As for my Husband(Sharon) she as welcomed a Female LED Marriage in every way he as all body hair removed wears nothing but female attire but I do like him wearing just a nice top around the house as I love seeing his little bits constantly his hair is shortish but Feminine he wears perfume and looks divine when made up as become domesticated in every way does all the housework and food shopping . Sharon as gone from being a very Masculine person to a lovely Person and I’m Proud of her in every way but I could never adopt a Manly Role with Her I’m Firm but Fair with Her as I think Female led Marriages should be x By the way I Love this Site I find it easy to open up about things x Regards Julie
Hi Julie!
That is Delightful how Sharon presents her(him)self to you!
Male Femininity is a Delightful Thing!
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much Patti x it’s changed our lives forever. Sharon as been amazing and become more and more feminine every day,being truly honest I’m delighted how things are going x I will keep posting and I hope you are having as good a time as we are Patti and thank you for your lovely remarks xx love Julie and Sharon x
I wish I had , and the time to comment here sooner. I’ve seen from the comments, and from real life, people react, and question our roll in a FOR it out close is very feminized. I think in my own life, her love of all things feminine have made me more aware of who I am, an d embrace being a woman. It took many,many, small steps to gently nudge, or sometimes demand, to make my Amy the lovely wife she is today. She loves her roll in our family, but without her , my place here, and professionally, would have been impossible.
People have asked about her taking my family name. She is my wife. It was just a large step in her giving herself to me. She takes care of our home, keeps the family finances in order, and cares for the children. She is a stay at home mom. I would never have been able to devote the hours to my career, and take advantage of several rare opportunities, without her support.
I do demand a lot from her. It’s who she is, and for whatever the reason, she needs that. No matter the day, when I get home, I expect my wife in a skirt or dress, and at least everyday makeup. Sneekers, means and tank tops are fine working in and around the house, but I expect my feminine girl when I get home.
People wonder if it’s not love me a gay relationship, No. We still have to contend with man thinking from time to time. And there is the fun upside of having working man parts when you need them.
Complete roll reversal wouldn’t work for either of us. I love being the goddess who controls my princess, and she loves being Amy. We both had to forget what other people think. It isn’t possible for everyone. Some family members adjusted, sadly Amy’s father, and others never will. I enjoy seeing real couples here who make this life work for them. I once imagined a 50/50 relationship. How amazing to be blessed with some beautiful creature who belongs completely to me.
Thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts. Very inspirational. Live life on your terms
This is a great article and in some ways touches some points in the way the relationship is with my husband Steffie and me. I don’t mind that he has boy bits, but I like them to be tucked away in his panties so that the presents a flat front. I trust him because I know he loves me and so any thought of a chastity device is off the table as it is not needed. Of course, seeing him tucked way is the only way his panties should look which is why I insist that he also wears breasts forms. He does look great with breasts — so natural for his personality.
Because he willingly wants to be feminine and femininised, I enjoy doing it to him. Steffie goes out of his way look girly for me and to wear wonderfully seductive lingerie to be my eye candy.
The one thing that we do different is that we have reversed the roles as I take on the role of the man in the relationship. As Nick, I stopped shaving my legs, cut my hair short, and started wearing men’s clothes. I do not wear a bra and flatten my breasts. I wear sexy men’s underwear styles and wear a prosthesis down there (a silicon male organ known as a packer) to give me a bulge. This is essential because it lets Steffie know who is in charge here. But Steffie loves it and the way I look. As such, sex is more on my demand than Steffie’s
I guess I’m a woman in a boy suit!
Hi Nick!
That sounds Awesome. More and more couples are realizing the Great Joy that can come from a Role Reversed marriage. It might not be for everyone, but there is something really Special about a man being Feminized and a Woman Taking Control and now wearing the Pants in the Family!
Awesome!
It works for us. I am a spiritual person, yin and yang, and balance to things in life. So while I gave the feminine role to Steffie, who willingly accepted it and in fact craved it. I gave it to him out of love for him, but that meant that someone had to be the strong one, so I have willingly taken the masculine role, and refined it to be the way it should be. In a sense its a power grab, but is for the benefit of balance and to fill the power void. Even my use of a prosthesis is to underscore the contrast between us, because, and he agrees, that I look better with it than he ever did, just as he looks better without as well as with breasts. Its all good. May not be for every one but it works for us and is based on a gentle but firm love.
Good point. we should feminise our husbands through love. We know that it’s best for them in the end
Steffie has reda what I have written and asked me to post a few of his thoughts. Shere is a cut and paste from Steffie:
My world is empty without Nick there to be the strong one, the leader in our marriage. I am proud to be a feminine husband on the arm of my masculine wife. From the momenet I met her, I knew that hse was the one for me, cause she was everything in strength and dare I say handsome rugged features and physique (she played sports in school) that I was not and could never be. In a very real sense, by feminizing me, knowing that the feminine was at the core of my being, Nick has helped me to reach my own personal pinnacle of perfection. I submit graciously to her power over me, which is somewhat intoxicating. I strive to become more feminine, more “dainty” to please Nick’s eyes. The balance between Nick’s power and my fragility is awesome. My wife Nick is my Adonis and I am happy to be her Aphrodite.
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All I can say in response is how much I love my feminine little hubby, cause in Steffie, I found my perfection in being Nick.
Well, that’s certainly how my Lady views this journey. It’s about a loving relationship, and in some cases, relieving the burden of living up to a definition of gender that society imposes. She glimpsed this before I did.
I like that statement – relieving the burden of living up to a definition of gender
“relieving the burden of living up to a definition of gender”
I too like that. I have given Steffie the freedom to be the feminine person inside — the which has occurred naturally and is not defined by societal restrictions.
I am humbled that you wonderful ladies responded so favorably to my description of what this journey does for men. My humble thanks.
This story rings true to me. i love being controlled and directed by my SO. The freedom and pure joy that i experience while being Her muse, Her toy and Her feminized gurl, totally under Her control is very liberating to me.
sissyteri
Hmmm sounds wonderful sissy teri 💋 penny
This story rings true to me. My wife took control after I struggled under the pressures of a high stress role at work. She discovered she enjoyed it and took it further, but it started as a way to remove decision making and stress from my life. Then she researched how to better take control.
Maybe you could tell us your own story one day?
I should. Thank you for asking, Lady Alexa. It’s very kind of you to do so..
I should. Thank you for asking, Lady Alexa. It’s very kind of you to do so. I need some courage.
Joy… would it all be a possibility your Wife might be disposed or enjoy narrative of Her thoughts on the story as it unfolded between the two of you?
My Lady was not thrilled with the idea. I will tell you that it began with me having a bit of an anxiety melt down after years in a very high stress job. My lady took many decisions out of my hands and began to take control of the household. She enjoyed that role and thought it best for me to play a more…subservient for lack of a better term, role. She saw me drifting back to my old large and in charge ways, and we had several frank discussions. We are where we are due to her love for me and concern for me as well as her personal discovery of what she really enjoys. Feminization was one method she used to keep me humble. It started as a fun sexual diversion, but she saw (or already knew) how it changed my personality. Sexual pleasure is a powerful drug, and she used it to push me further.
That’s about what I feel that I can reveal for now. thank you for asking
Lady Alexa… It seems in so many personal stories such as these Women who may have had so little hint or inkling of Female First Relationship swiftly and in most cases adopt and easily assume well to being the primary force in the sexual dyad. Might it be that Females for time immemorial have been truly the sex that best is suite to rule… and this step of societal evolution may soon be the standard fully in the near or farther future — never again to be reversed?
Wondering, Lady Alexa… although You emphasize the journey You’ve taken is predominantly Yours, has the preponderance of accounts from Women who slide so easily into the primary role in marriages and affairs changed Your opinion that there is a coming Gynarchy in the offing that shall reconstruct and reverse the sexual landscape in the times to come?
I’d like to think there may be a coming gynarchy although I have no idea if it will be in my lifetime
This a most beautiful story. I truly wish to find my Goddess and live in an FLR. There can be no better way of life! Thank you.Femforever, michelle
Indeed, femforever
There is indeed no better way. As Helen said, being worshipped is not the most difficult thing
very nice
love is love and understanding and accepting
Thank You for sharing your loving story
Truly riveting story amazing I enjoyed and so did my Hubby x love Juliex
It was nice, wasn’t it? I just had to share it and Helen gave me permission
You are a very lucky Man in more ways than one she sounds like a truly wonderful Woman but I would like to say your wife seems to have total control x love Julie x
Hello Lady Alexa… Madelyn here… I’ve been a life long CD…my girlfriend and I began role playing with me in more of a submissive role in the last year…now I’m in chastity and plugged most of the time.. it works for us…we love your blog.. A suggestion for Alice and feminization..there are some breast creams to have some nipple development to have her use…look into pruria mirifica…. It has grown my nipples about double in size which has been very nice and sensual. Be well. Thanks for your blog!!!!!!!
Nice idea, I’ll look into that
Good morning lady Alexa . Hope you are both well . Can you tell me did you look into the product above prurie mirifica . My nipples are extra sensitive but I would love them to be bigger . I am currently wearing dd falsies at home when lady Maria approves this . Ps she is slowly coming round to me being slightly more fem . So getting there slowly. Hopefully she will see the benefits . We are both mid 50s so no time like the present . 💋 penny
No, I’m always nervous of giving Alice this type of thing
Good morning lady alexa . Have you tried this product yet . If so how is it going . I’d love to try but would only want my nipples bigger . In the real world. ? 💋 penny
I’ve abandoned incresing Alice’s boobs for now. Other things
Hello Lady Alexa,
This story gets me going and I reread it again and again. I just got home and fed our animals the way my wife likes it to be done. I cleaned up the kitchen and put away the dishes. My wife will be home in an about 15 minutes and I am fixing us a pizza with additional toppings for dinner. I carried the weeks laundry downstairs and will wash, dry and fold them before bedtime. I took a few minutes to feminize before doing the dishes. I am not out of the closet so I have some facial hair trimmed very short. I also use an electric trimmer on a 1/8 inch setting around my nipples and tummy. I am not very hairy anyway. Leg and arm hair trimmed to 1/4 inch. I trim my pubes in a landing strip fem manner. I have been taking Puraria Mirifica for several months again and have slightly puffy nipples and a slightly rounded butt. My clitty has shrunk to about 2 inches and some times draws back into itself and I have to pull the tip out when I pee. I usually sit to pee. My clitty can still get fairly hard with enough time for arrousal. I practice nubbing to try and orgasm with no erection. Tonight I plan to rub my wife’s feet with lotion while we watch tv. I’d like to do this nude, cfnm. I’m trying to find some way to bring her more into this. Just asking her to feminize me could ruin our marriage. It’s to good a relationship to jeopardize. I wish it was as easy as my fantasy. Thanks for indulging all of us. I love your blog!
Cindy
It’s a 5-year-old post so I had to go back to re-read it. I’m glad you reminded me of it. And as for CFNM, that forms a large part of our FLR too.