On the outside we appear to be a normal middle-aged (sigh) married couple on the inside we have a feminization FLR. I write this blog about my FLR with my sissy husband Alice and her increasing feminisation. However, our life isn’t just about FLR and Alice’s femininity.

We do everything an otherwise normal married couple does: we shop, go to the cinema, cook, eat out, eat in, go on holiday, listen to music, watch TV and so on. We also talk to each other, of course about things other than feminisation: the news, the weather, what we want to do etc. etc.

But we also discuss out FLR.

I therefore decided the other day it was time to have a serious conversation about my feminisation of my husband; not only my objectives but hers too. It has to be for both. It’s a marriage.

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I like to take into account my sissy’s opinions and agree how our relationship should operate; and that includes the FLR part. Otherwise, it doesn’t work for both of us and the FLR has to be for both.

Whilst we have both agreed that I lead the marriage and our marriage is a feminization FLR. But it’s not all about me just giving orders and spanking Alice when I feel like it. That’s something for the make-believe fetish sites.

A real-life FLR is loving and caring.

And this was the reason I wanted to discuss our FLR with Alice was that I had a feeling our feminisation goals may not be fully aligned.

Last Saturday evening, glass of wine in hand, we talked. I started.

“We agreed I should be the lead in our marriage” I said and Alice agreed. Obviously, that is the basis of an FLR.

This element of our relationship is not in question. Alice has suffered from society’s patriarchal view of life where the man has to show leadership and take decisions. It’s just not Alice, she prefers to take a back seat.

I, on the other hand, believe strongly in a matriarchal society where women lead. Alice is no wimp but she is happy with this way of life. A good start to our discussion.

“And,” I continued in order to set the basics, “As part of our matriarchal female-led household where I lead, you have to be a female and a sissy girl.”

Again Alice agreed but to a point. She couldn’t do anything else sitting there in a white flared mini skirt, bra and tight pink blouse. However, she showed some doubt about the definition of being female. She explained that she had become used to wearing pretty feminine clothing and loved it but she didn’t wish to be a real girl.

She didn’t want to take estrogen or other hormones and pills to feminise her body physically and biologically. She wanted to be a man who wore female clothing and was submissive to me. A sissy.

She explained she was heterosexual and attracted to women. She said she would be uncomfortable with being obviously feminine outside the house. This included being embarrassed last week at a local department store.

It seems I’d been too loud and vocal by saying out loud I wanted her to have her ears pierced and to go to a nail shop to have her nails done in the store.

I had got to the bottom of her issue.

I explained that I wanted her to be a sissy girl, but I did not want her to take pills to remove her ability to use her clitty. I do want her to have pierced ears and the wear earrings and to have implants and real boobs.

I would also like her to have a hair weave to cover her thinning top and something I hadn’t told her before, to have hair extensions so her hair fell to her shoulders.

I want to do things as two girls together, for her to wear dresses ALL the time, even outside, and for Alice to look just like a girl. But, with male sexual abilities. This is my objective.

I could see in Alice’s eyes we had a misalignment on the extent of Alice’s feminisation.

It was time for compromise. As I say, I do not want to really force something on my husband she doesn’t want. But equally, she benefits from me being forceful at times. Alice agreed that my wishes are the most important but that if she was uncomfortable about elements of her feminisation then we should think of a softer approach.

We listed our agreed compromises:

Being too obvious

I agreed to stop embarrassing her in public by calling her Alice, girl or sissy too loud. I have to admit, I found it amusing to shout out across a shopping centre, “Come here, girly.”

I was not going to start calling her by her old male name though or to think of her as anything other than a sissy. This is a red line. Our compromise was that while I had to continue to call her Alice, girl or sissy I would speak in a normal voice. I had to speak as if it were normal. a normal speaking voice level.

I will continue to refer to her as a girl or a sissy outside the home but agreed that it would be at a normal speaking voice. I will continue to say things such as, “be a good girl and get me a coffee“, or, “silly sissy” and so on.

I was being naughty when I called her girl out loud but it was such good fun this is going to be tough.

Holding up female clothing

I agreed not to hold female clothing up at her body in pubic in shops. We will go shopping together and I would still ask her opinion of her new female clothes, but be more discrete

Nail varnish

I agreed that she didn’t have to wear coloured nail varnish outside the house, even though I really want this, and we won’t go to a nail shop. We agreed instead we would have someone come to the house to do Alice’s nails.

Alice’s toe nails would still be coloured bright pink or red but obviously not visible outside the home. She will have to wear nail varnish but in publicit will be clear.

Alice wearing skirts in public

Alice doesn’t want to wear a skirt or dress in public. I think this would be wonderful but she’s not there yet. Maybe one day.

However, I told her she has to change into a skirt while driving, we will meet more femdom couples and she will have to wear a skirt when we’re with them at our home or theirs and I want to go to more fetish clubs wher eshe’ll wear a skirt.

She must wear skirts (and dresses) at home at all times; this was not up for discussion. I also told her I will invite suitable female friends to the house and she will have to wear skirts and dresses in front of them.

Breast surgery

Alice is not ready to undergo surgery to have breasts. That’s fair enough, but she must wear a bra at all times.

Shaved body, perfumes, female products

This continues with no change. I will continue to look into the idea of hair extensions and weaves. Longer hair for a male is hardly new.

An FLR Compromise

I have an approach in life: bank what you have. The fact my husband has accepted our FLR and that she must be a sissy girl for me is a win. Over time, I will continue to try to push against her internal barriers to accept more feminisation.

But. An FLR is not an overbearing dictatorship but a loving, caring relationship that is not yet the norm in society. A male who lives like a female is also not the norm but I hope it will become so in my lifetime.

And in the meantime, here’s my story of how I feminised by wonderful husband. Click on the image below for more information.