Forget the lurid fetish sites, the most effective way to feminize your husband is through a mix of care, love, persuasion and firmness.
The feminisation of a male partner has to be to the benefit of the mistress and not the male being feminised. In many cases, the male is a willing participant but in some, such as my own husband, the male is reluctant.
Since my relationship is real and practical, I had to and have to be conscious of not damaging what we have by being overly assertive or demanding. Anyone in my position faces real challenges when you are feminising your husband and living in a Female-Led Relationship.
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My FLR dreams
My ultimate FLR dream is to have my sissy husband Alice present as a girl 24/7. I don’t enjoy seeing her in male trousers and I’m uncomfortable and anxious unless she’s in a skirt or a pretty dress.
At this stage of our lives however, her full-time feminisation to the external world is probably not going to happen for several reasons. I can, however, push her feminisation and exposure to new sissy experiences a lot further still, I’m sure. And they don’t necessarily need to be to the outside world.
And this got me thinking about where we are. Although I’ve written a book called How I Feminized My Husband which detailed the process and stages I took in transforming my typical male husband into a sissy girl, I wanted to explain my approach in terms of my programme of forced feminisation.
How to feminise your husband
Programme might be a fancy word to describe how I feminised my husband as I didn’t exactly sit down and write a project plan. Everything developed organically as the world of FLR and a feminisation opened up for us.
But I reallise now looking back, I had an approach that worked and took a deeply reluctant husband into a completely new world. I transformed him from a typical male into a girly sissy and exposed him to an entirely new set of feelings and experiences. he loves them.
Here are my three key observations on what I did and why it worked within my feminisation programme.
Make his feminisation participatory
Being a bully is not something I would recommend. Fetish fiction and Twitter posts promote this idea but it’s no more than a fantasy play for a paying sissy customer and a professional mistress. It does not work for a couple in a loving and caring relationship.
Any programme of so-called feminisation works best when it is slow, steady and, as far as possible, encouraged and participatory. I become firm with Alice only when there is any tendency for her to backtrack or regress on what we agreed.
You should never mistake being firm with being a bully.
For example, once we’d agreed that Alice should wear a bra unless there are extenutating circumstances, this has to be the default. Therefore not wearing or forgetting to put on her bra unless we agreed beforehand would be such an incident when firmness is required.
In such cases the rule has to be reinforced but again, not necessarily by force or aggression. I find that expressing my disappointment and add a dose of humiliation as a consequence works most times.
Alice then feels guilty at my disappointment and tries to be extra careful. Or the threat of some humiliation will do the trick, such as shouting out sissy to her in a shop.
I use that one often now, “Wear the bra or I’ll call you sissy out loud in public.”
Feminisation is best progressed when the male is mentally conditioned. This requires stripping away his old conditioning and replacing it with the new one. This was key to my feminisation of Alice.
The platform is laid in his mind by frequent and regular conversations on what is expected of your husband as a feminised male. A sissy.
For example, I don’t like male body hair, obviously. So I often explained how nice it would be if she removed it. I did not demand or rant about wanting her with no body hair but instead explained why I preferred it, why it was important and how happy it would make me if she had smooth skin.
When she removed her body hair under my supervision, I ensured she could see the pleasure I received from seeing her that way and how I proud I was of her.
We discussed the public reaction of an older male having smooth legs, in the gym for example or in shorts in the summer and how we could manage it.
You can see in these two, admittedly older photos, just how important smooth legs are for a feminised male once you have put him in skirts and dresses.
I kept encouraging her also by saying she would find a way to explain her smooth legs to friends and family and indeed she did by talking about it as being like sports stars who also shave their bodies.
And then once you have conditioned your sissy husband to consider shaved legs and body as normal, you can move onto to the next step. I’ve now started the discussion on future plans including waxing and planting the idea of electrolysis or laser treatment for more permanent hair removal.
All these are still in the future but each time we discuss the future, Alice becomes involved in the direction of the feminisation programme milestones in our journey together.
Greater feminisation changes
Ideas that used to shock her, such as breast augmentation, we can now discuss normally. It doesn’t mean it will happen, but she is being conditioned to accept this as a possible future step forward. I don’t press the issue, but certainly set the direction and agenda for more female transformation.
I’ve also begun the process of introducing her to feminine sissies for a controlled and observed relationship. What had once been taboo is now discussed as I’ve involved her in the discussions which moved from hypothesis to becoming reality. Here again, the process has to be gradual.
As I’ve said, it is important to introduce normality into Alice’s conditioning to behave, think and become more feminine. Forcing her to have relations with a man straight off is not going to work. However, a gradual introduction by starting off with a feminine sissy or a transgender who is like a girl, except for one important part, is probably the best way to start this process.
I wil then work up from there.
This may sound a strange approach for me to want this in our marriage but, for me, it’s another element in the feminisation process. It is possibly the final piece of the feminisation jigsaw in getting her to have the kinds of intimate experiences and sensations that females have.
To be blunt, I do not know how she can be truely feminised until she experiences a certain item in her mouth and gets a taste of the consequences. Really, I don’t.
And I will be there to witness this once I get her to there.
Forcing feminisation is not the best way
Taking things gradually in the feminisation process doesn’t mean that I’m not 100% in charge in our FLR. But forcing my husband doesn’t turn him into a sissygirl it just means he wears the clothes reluctantly. Encouraging your husband, working with him and conditioning him has the best chances of success.
You bring your male with you willingly while you’re de-programming their social contsruction and re-programming them into becoming a submissive sissy girl.
There is an overhead as it means helping them choose clothing, helping them with their make-up as so on. This can be difficult at times and requires some investment of your time and energy so patience is essential.
Eventually you’ll be rewarded with a submmisive sissy girl who puts your needs first and accepts their status in your relationship rather than a forceably feminised male who is either resentful or thinks it’s just a game.
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And don’t forget, Feminisation and FLRs are not a game. They are a lifestyle.