A question I’m often asked is how does an FLR Feminization Lifestyle work? I had a variation on this very question asked by Curious Georgina and rather than just reply to her I thought I’d expand it into an article for all.
So, how does an FLR Feminization lifestyle really work?
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First off here’s the original message from Curious Georgina. My replies are below her email.
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Dear Lady Alexa, Thank you very much for your very beautiful stories and your frank and helpful responses to questions about the FLR feminization lifestyle. You provide hope to all the girls trapped inside of men seeking to emerge into the fresh air out of their oppressive, suffocating masculine shells and blossom into sweetness, light and happiness.
I have a few questions that probably most people who are interested in FLR-feminization lifestyle will find relevant.
Question 1: When a man is feminized by his dominant wife or girlfriend without using hormone treatments, does the sexual relationship between them still continue? The question assumes the man wears feminine clothing when at home; is called by a female name and has his body, leg and pubic hair fully removed but undergoes no hormone treatments. The wife is in charge of the relationship.
Question 2: Will a feminized man still be able to sexually satisfy the woman in the conventional way by penetrating her with his penis? Or do they swap roles in the bedroom too – does she penetrate him with a strap-on dildo?
Question 3: Based on your familiarity with couples who lead an FLR feminization lifestyle, how does the woman satisfy her own feminine emotional and sexual needs if she is always playing the traditional role of a male?
Question 4: Does the female lead in an FLR cheat on her feminized male with other, masculine males? Or is the relationship more like a lesbian relationship – dominant woman with a ‘gurl’?
Question 5: Is cuckolding an inevitable fate for a feminised man?
The answer to Georgina’s questions are that it depends on the relationship.
The first thing I need to say is that there is a big difference between girl trapped inside a male body and a male adopting or being made to adopt the ‘traditional’ role and manner of a submissive girl.
The first is a transgender issue and I don’t really have any experience or qualifications to talk about that. So I’m not sure my replies provide any help to those of you like this. My replies pertain to a male partner of a strong woman being encouraged to adopt female ways and lifestyle but remaining physically male.
The second thing I’ll say is that my answers are from my own experience. I’m sure that a wide range of experiences exists. Whatever suits the consensual couple is fine by me.
Question 1
In my own case, and in most cases of those I know in other FLR relationships with feminised men, the sexual relationship continues. In fact, encouraged feminisation of your partner enhances the sexual relationship.
In my case, our sex life is far better than before although I do not permit my husband to orgasm or to cum since I don’t like the mess and male orgasms tend to reduce a man’s submissiveness. It’s imòrtant to keep them in a state of desire. Because my husband is not permitted to cum, he finds it easy to get an erection. Which is what I need.
Question 2
The feminised male partner satisfies his dominant woman partner in the conventional way as in all marriages and relationships. See answer number 1. My husband Alice doesn’t like being penetrated and finds in painful, although I’d love to use a strap-on on him. So we don’t practice this although I know others who do.
Question 3
Your question makes an assumption that it is natural for a man to be in charge. This is not the case. Just because I am in charge of my relationship does not make me less of a woman or affect any of my needs, it enhances them.
I don’t become a male, I remain female and feminine. What’s unusual abut being an alpha female or matriarch?
Question 4
Again the question makes assumptions about an FLR feminisation relationship. Why would anything be different? Why would it be a lesbian relationship?
Alice has been feminised but is not a real woman; she’s biologically and physically a man but with what has traditionally been thought of as feminine clothing, routines and lifestyle. I would argue that traditional thought process is outdated and wrong. I would say our relationship is normal in the sense that nothing is wrong just that others haven’t caught up with us yet.
Question 5
No. I don’t know of any other couples like us who practice or want to practice cuckolding. I’ve read that it works for some couples. Fine if that’s what they want. I suspect it’s more of a fantasy but I may be wrong. It’s not our fantasy nor that of my friends like us though.
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The point about FLR feminization relationships is that outside the leadership/feminization/submission angle the rest of the relationship is as everyone else’s. We eat, drink, decorate, pay bills, talk, go to the cinema, go to restaurants and so on. Most of our time is not played out enacting some wild fetish-fest but is actual life albeit with a feminised submissive husband.
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I am a married and very submissive sissy housewife husband. I keep my body smooth shaved and perfumed. I wear acrylic nails with nail polish. I have two pretty shoulder length wavy black wigs and I wear makeup daily. My wife and I wear matching panties every day. I have lots of pretty bras to wear to match the colors of my panties. I prefer Rago 6 strap garter belts and Berkshire Lace Top Stockings. I wear my panties over my garters so it is easy for my wife to spank me whenever she desires. My heels are all 4” high and I wear them all day. I prefer a bodycon form fitting sheath dress to show off my curves. I am wearing 1000 g breast forms now and want 1400 g breast forms. I am dressed and ready every morning to see my wife off to work.
Very good
Cuckolding can be a solution for couples where a man has a small penis poor performance or both. My penis is 5 inches nothing special, it might even be helpfulm but I if I have premature ejaculation. thirty seconds and I cum. I knew I couldn’t please my wife. I did not mind that she occasionally had sex with other men, until I do not saw or heard that sex. After a few months, my wife wanted me to watch and participate. Her bull had a huge cock, fucked her for 40 minutes or an hour, she moaned and screamed with pleasure.
I couldn’t handle the jealousy. Sometimes I be very angry, sometimes I cried.
I could not. Then my wife happened to be talking about it with a woman at a swing club.
“Hormonal feminization is the solution for him. He will get small tits, he will lose male sexuality and libido, and will get a small limp clit and will become less and less jealous over time, even he will want a penis,” she said.
After three months I lost all man’s power and libido, after 5 months I wanted to suck penis of a wife’s lover. I like to lick a wife’s pussy and suck a bull’s penis almost equally.
I guess it’s a solution where the husband is no longer capable.
Yes, I read somewhere that a some woman said that a bad man could become a wonderful sissy. I am an example of that claim being true. Both my wife and I are very pleased now. There were difficulties at my job when I appeared as a female. Over time, this became ok.
The Reasons for Cuckolding are numerous. It is most common reason when the husband has a small penis or premature ejaculation. Other reasons are impotence of every kind. For couples who are in an FLR relationship or in FLMarriage, the reasons listed above are valid, but there are many other reasons.
Many dominant women do not want sex with a submissive partner or a husband, because it is not good for his submissiveness (sex is a male dominant act), he is in the process of denial, punishment or other reasons. Cuckolding increases submissiveness and closeness, if not used for humiliation and other exhibitions that have nothing to do with sex.
Most submissive husbands will accept cuckolding because they know they can’t give their wife what an alpha man can do, and they all want sexually satisfied wives.
There are many types of cuckolding. The worst is when Bull comes to the house and orders to hot wife and to cuckold husband what to do, occupying the double bed…
I am a dominant woman and I do not want men to order me, neither me nor my husband or wife (when it becomes). I order. Sex with the bull, with my future wife and me will always be out of our house. After sex, I and my wife return home together.
My reasons for cuckolding are the husband’s small penis and premature ejaculation. I deserve big penis and great sex.
My reasons for husband’s feminization are multiple. Cunnilingus will be better with two female bodies, she’s submissiveness will be better. Shutting down his male functions and male libido will greatly help her to accept my sex with men. I’m going to teach her that she loves cock, to suck cock passionately for me. We will share penises, but we will also have our feminine intimacy without men.
Hello Lady Alexa
My name is ” Carla” and I have recently found your blog and thoroughly enjoy your posts as well as some of your followers replies. Your realistic FLR point of view, experience, and input/responses to the questions has been very helpful to me! Just knowing there are many people like me and those that accept and seek us gives me hope!
How do you treat Alice in public or in front of relatives or friends? Do you show your Dominant side in front of them ??
With those who don’t know our lifestyle such as most friends and relative we appear vanilla
Thank you, Lady Alexa. You are helpful as always.
Just to clarify, by “girls trapped inside of men seeking to emerge” I did not mean transgender women. I meant men who have a strong feminine side and would like to live as feminized men in a FLR-feminization relationship, like Alice. I meant it in pretty much the same sense as when you said “all men have a submissive feminized girl hidden away inside them. We just need to encourage her to come out.” in your post titled “The Girl Within Him”.
I read it that you were referring to transgender women so thanks for clarifying that wasn’t what you meant Georgina. The written word can be ambiguous at times.
I very comprehensive response which details your relationship. Correctly you can only speak about your relationship and dynamic. Its wonderful that you share it with us. Xxx
My relationship and that of others like us I personally know. I am sure there are other variations
Thanks for your post. What could be more normal?
Exactly Ian