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MY FLR MARRIAGE

2 April 2026 by Lady Alexa 30 Comments

I have an FLR marriage and lifestyle, and it’s becoming more alternative by the month. It’s a relationship where I can do whatever I want; within reason of course. My husband trusts me entirely and puts himself in my hands. This means we live a lifestyle unlike most couples, but how many would love to live.

I understand that not everyone gets it, and I occasionally get comments here on my blog telling me what a horrible woman I am. I delete them as they are merely the rantings of a person with an inflexible mind. Don’t they see that we live in a wife-led relationship because that’s what we both want?

Let’s look at some of our alternative FLR lifestyle as a recap of where we are.

THE CHASTITY CAGE SAGA

27 January 2025 by Lady Alexa 53 Comments

In the past, I wasn’t keen on locking my sissy husband into a chastity cage. I had two main reasons for this. Firstly, I liked access to her little bits as I love to play with them and to tease her. Secondly, I have a view, that I haven’t changed, that sissies often prefer chastity cages more than their mistresses. That put me off.

However, my views have developed over time with changes to our FLR and I now like to lock my sissy away. Here’s what changed.

THE REALITY OF AN FLR

24 November 2024 by Lady Alexa 32 Comments

There are a lot of wrong assumptions about real Female-Led Relationships. These assumptions are based entirely on the fetish angle, as if that is the reality of an FLR for every second. Indeed, it was why I began this blog in the first place, writing about how to live an FLR in the real world.

The focus on the FLR fetish side is also why I get so many emails from men asking how to find a Mistress to feminise them and live in an FLR. Or how to get their wife to feminise them and start an FLR. Wrong questions entirely. The reality of an FLR is different and the fetish element is only part of what is, in real life, also a wider vanilla-type relationship.

TEASING SISSY

7 July 2024 by Lady Alexa 80 Comments

There are many great things about being a mistress leading a wife-led marriage and teasing sissy is one of them. Never underestimate the pleasure a dominant lady gets from teasing their subbies.

In this case, teasing sissy means making my sissy husband think she’s finally going to cum but then not allowing it at the last moment – edging but with the added fun that she’s not orgasmed for so long. It’s divine agony for her to be stopped on the edge. Or ruining it, Whatever, it’s fun.

ORGASMS ARE FOR WOMEN

16 October 2023 by Lady Alexa 22 Comments

A female orgasm is not the same as a male orgasm in terms of outcome and value. Female orgasms are more valuable. In fact, once the male has completed his reproductive duties, what value is there in him orgasming and cumming? There is none.

And this is why.