An FLR means investing time retraining and re-programming your man. A female-led relationship is a worthwhile investment for any lady wanting to improve her relationship.
IMPACTS ON FLRs FROM SOCIETAL CONDITIONING
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We all learn our gender roles in society from socialisation. This includes school, university, the workplace, socialising with others, the media and from our parents and families. It’s learnt from every single interaction we have with the society we live in from the time we are born.
Since much of society is still largely controlled by men, we learn that men should be in control and, despite many social advances, that it is still a woman’s place to look after the home and children.
This social conditioning is both wrong and insulting. It’s amazing that this attitude still persists. Women can and do offer a better contribution to society and it is up to us to force through the changes as you can be sure that it won’t be men.
In many ways this change to a FLR lifestyle will be a blessed relief for those men with feelings of inadequacy due to their expected role.
FEMALE-LED RELATIONSHIPS ARE PART OF THE SOLUTION
There are many reasons why a woman may choose a Female Led Relationship (FLR). In some cases it’s a simple case of a dominant woman and a submissive man and it falls into place naturally.
In other cases a dominant man in the outside world with many responsibilities may prefer the leadership and guidance of a woman in the home environment.
In other cases, such as my own, it was a case of recognising the benefits female leadership would bring to our relationship. It is then about convincing and then re-programming you man to accept a female’s leadership and direction.
I use the terms re-training and re-programming as men have been trained and conditioned to be how society thinks men should be. In many cases this conditioning can cause stress in the man as they are often not capable of leadership roles or rational decision making.
So the job of women is to de-programme that conditioning in your man and then re-programme him to be a very different person; one who accepts and enjoys female leadership as the new social paradigm.
ADVANTAGES OF A WIFE-CONTROLLED MARRIAGE
There are numerous advantages for a relationship when the lady is leading the marriage or long-term relationship. A Female-Led Relationship ensures that the household benefits from stream-lined and rational decision making by the woman.
Consensus and acceptance is never a good approach to decision making as it leads to compromise. Compromise means that neither party is 100% happy and that any decision is less than optimal. Empowering the wife or girlfriend to make all the decisions brings order, stability and predictability to a relationship.
More than anything, an FLR ensures a lack of dispute and argument and this results in a more harmonious relationship. You may at this point ask why a male-led relationship wouldn’t bring the same benefits.
There are many reasons why it wouldn’t but I’ll counter the question with the fact that femininity is a softer philosophy and that females generally are less aggressive. We prefer harmonious approaches to relationships over male posturing and aggression.
I’ll come to this point again when I cover why I prefer males to be feminised as part of the FLR.
The dominant woman will always make sure that what needs to be done in their home is done at the right time, in the right order and is performed well. In any wife-led marriage, the wife decides what is important for her man to do at any given time.
The wife/girlfriend needs to be strict when controlling her man. In situations where the wife has a disagreement with her husband, there is a need to quickly discipline the man before her authority is challenged and the stability of the relationship breaks down. Even in a well-running FLR, the deep-rooted conditioning of the male can still break out at times. It still does at times in my own.
A wife-led marriage helps a man to get over society’s unfair demands and expectation of him. These demands pressure a male to be a leader, a decision maker and the problem solver.
This means that what you want your man to learn and what he thinks he needs to learn are often very different things. It’s not his fault but that of his societal conditioning. It’s the woman’s role to teach him how to go beyond that to become submissive to her and that this is the best outcome for the relationship.
As a woman, you need him to learn to overcome his bad habits, to work independently in the home without your guidance and advice. To find fulfilment as he grows into his new role and how to accept and be comfortable with your leadership.
He needs to be taught how to serve your body and please you sexually, to obey your commands without question, be humble with you and to learn to surrender completely.
THE TEN STEPS TO A SUCCESSFUL FLR
There are a number of steps you will need to take to develop an FLR and here is my own list below. Although I’m sure there are different approaches, I believe the fundamentals are the same.
Here are my 10 steps to an FLR:
Set list of rules and regulations for the husband/male partner to follow.
I suggest they are written down and pinned up. These set the parameters of the relationship; a contract.
Establish yourself as the female authority figure
This is achieved in many ways, not least renaming him and insisting on him curtsying (or bowing) to you. I believe that it really helps to cement the different status levels. If your husband or partner is calling you by a cute pet name then the status level is undermined.
In my marriage I insist on being referred to as Mistress. Since I feminised my husband as part of the FLR process, he now has a female name although I often just call him girl or sissy. This approach is very effective as it’s demeaning for him.
Stop his male habits
This includes improving his personal hygiene. He should be trained to sit down on the toilet and follow feminine beauty and health regimes. He must be trained not to argue, his machismo must be stripped away.
He should be trained to become polite and submissive to all women. This can take time and is achieved through repetition, coaching and punishment.
The domestic chores become the role of the male
He should be required to do all the house cleaning and chores including washing and ironing the clothes, cooking, doing the dishes, cleaning the toilet and shower and all other domestic work in the house.
The woman may set out a roster of weekly chores for the man to do each week. Sometimes I like to cook or even do some housework but that would be my choice and is ad-hoc at my discretion.
Control his clothing
I believe this to be one of the most important areas to address in an FLR. There are three reasons for this is my mind.
Putting them in female clothing enforces his status level and ensures he wears cute sissy and girly clothing you enjoy seeing him in. Regarding status, people react to clothing as symbols of position and power or of lowly status. Different women employ different techniques here but the key is demonstration of the status differential.
The woman is the General, the CEO, the Chief of Police. The man is the private, the admin assistant, the secretary, the domestic help. We therefore need to dress differently. Men should be made to wear revealing pretty clothing. Many women like to keep their men naked at home and I also like this approach and adopt it or variations of it at times.
However, in my case I prefer to feminise my husband and make him wear very revealing and very feminine clothing. Short skirts and dresses emphasise his status as a domestic assistant to me.
Being naked or being forced to wear feminine clothing makes the male more submissive and feminine which are the qualities you should want to instil in your man. It helps to strip away any nasty male traits.
There are other ways to address this issue but clothing goes a long way to making this a reality. And really, it’s pleasant to see a man in a little skirt, a dress or just naked and vulnerable.
Control sex
Some go for chastity which I use a little. Control of his sexual ejaculations is a power-control mechanism even if, as in my case, I don’t permit it. The point is, it’s in my control. I expect regular sex and my husband has to perform.
Control the household finances
This includes taking control over the finances and the earnings of the male. He should not be allowed access to any money and should seek permission from the lady for money. It’s often best that he requests she make purchases for him to avoid him having money which can allow him to feel empowered and independent.
This doesn’t mean keeping him in poverty or denying him any treats, it means a general overall control. For example, I buy my husband entrance tickets for live sports events which I don’t attend. I then give him a little pocket money to allow him to buy a drink or food.
Regular pocket money is a good idea for him but obviously not too much.
Control social activities
The female should be the sole decider of all social activities and control the marriage diary. For example, if going to watch the cinema the female will decide what film to watch, what seat to sit in and what snacks to eat and drink.
That said, I will go to films he asks to go to also.
Ensure obedience
This is the foundation of any FLR. Discipline is therefore an important element of the relationship to ensure he complies with your wishes. Verbal discipline is the most usual way to ensure obedience but physical discipline is also part of the training and the re-enforcement.
Breaches of obedience should always be met with very strict discipline, either removal of rights or physical punishment such as spanking or slapping.
Change his demeanour through language
Correct language when addressing women is needed. Males should use appropriate titles such as madam, mistress etc. My own husband address me as mistress and another submissive male we know uses ma’am to address his wife.
Curtseying and thanking women for giving instructions is another reminder of the status level and ensures obedience.
4 STEPS FOR DEVELOPING YOUR FLR
When training your man to behave correctly, you don’t generally need to use physical punishment. You need to keep in mind that an everyday FLR is a loving relationship so despite the nonsense you may find on the web, you’re not turning your man into a whimpering slave.
What you’re doing is creating a hierarchy, a structure and leadership and improving your husband or partner. Here are what I’ve found to be the four steps to changing your relationship and your man:
- Positive learning with rewards: In general I like to provide a positive learning experience for my husband and I give rewards for goals achieved and for the way he achieves them. I provide him with affection and praise for work well done. Bad behaviour will be met with removal of rights, such as a TV programme he wanted to watch or an event he would have liked to have gone to. These punishments will always be in his mind and drive his behaviour most times. It’s important that this isn’t just about task-driven reward but also rewarding him for demonstrating long-term retention of his learning.
- Coaching. It’s very possible he won’t know how to perform certain tasks well. A good female leader should always be prepared to invest time working with and coaching her male. You should be authoritative and firm but kind. You may demonstrate what is needed and then watch and guide him from the sidelines, providing instructions where necessary and even stepping in to show better ways to do things. Your investment will eventually pay off as he will learn and you can back away to leave him to it. I also check his work on a random basis and provide praise for good work and punishment for bad work.
- Using a dominant mentor. I found that Alice’s training and behaviour has been helped by occasionally bringing in another experienced dominant lady. The change in dynamic seems to help as the other dominant woman has no romantic attachment which can at times lead to me allowing a softer approach with him. I have two friends in FLRs who we meet socially. I encourage the other woman to give my husband orders and to discipline him. She will also provide peer coaching to me and I may do the same for her. I recommend this approach to all aspiring female leaders.
- Punishment. Punishment can be withdrawal of privileges, verbal or physical. The ultimate punishment is physical although in my own real-life FLR this isn’t really a painful punishment but rather a slap or spanking. It’s more about the humiliation than the pain.
LIVING IN AN FLR
There are many ways therefore that an FLR might work for women, it depends on what you want. However, whatever the level of female leadership in a relationship, retraining and reprogramming of your man is necessary because of the way he would have been brought up in what was a male-dominated environment.
Although we can see this environment changing, it’s far too slow. We need to think of ourselves as change-makers, that rather clichéd Business English word to describe someone in the vanguard of change.
This isn’t easy in the beginning, A large amount of reprogramming and ongoing re-enforcement is necessary to achieve a successful and fully functioning FLR, even in situations where you have achieved nominalisation. This is the situation where the man is accepting and desirous of a woman’s leadership.
In my own marriage, my husband is a confident and assertive person when dealing with the outside world and this is surprisingly common in FLRs. However, whether your man is an assertive or submissive personality or, as is more likely, in the range somewhere in between, the objective is the same. A nominalised Female-Led Relationship.
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I reply personally to every sender. Thank you – Lady Alexa
Hello, as a x dressing sissy slave, I just love to be submissive to a Dom woman and accept any and all punishment. I truly believe All women should have a submissive mate, and would love working toward that goal.
Why do almost all the FLR websites view the male as needing to be fixed while the female has no flaws? I know I am not perfect but neither would she be.
This makes me feel this is a flawed model which I am thinking would be a bad deal for the male. Please show me how it truly is something a typical male would jump at if introduced by their female partner.
You misread the flr websites. We don’t talk about flaws we talk about the idea that femininity is more desirable as a trait than macho masculinity. An flr also deals with the fact that many men just don’t want to be the leader but it’s a pressure of society. If you read the flr sites they cover this, including mine. There’s akso an element of fantasy about the whole thing on many sites
I am not going to argue, but if you truly believed the male didn’t have flaws there would not be so much information on how to train them since they would already be there. Second I didn’t see anything to sway me towards FLRs, I enjoy my manhood and I appreciate it even more after my FLR investigation (at my girlfriend’s request). I may not be well endowed but now I love it.
You read flr sites so don’t pretend
I am curious. On Valentine’s Day does the female dominant get the male Flowers/Jewelry/Chocolate? Also does she take him to a fancy restaurant and romance him? Just seeing if all the items are reversed or only the bad items for male
That’s how it works yes
If you don’t mind me asking what did you do for him? Just curious.
He gets what he wants
You are a very kind person to your partner. I have not heard of any other blogs stating they give their male partner gifts on that special day. Accept my apologies for doubting you did.
My wife and I have been living in an FLR for over half a year now. I have been thinking for a long time about asking her to dominate me. Finally I dared to ask and what do you think? She immediately thought it was a great idea. We are now working together to solve my alcohol problem. I am kept chaste by her. Masturbation is also strictly prohibited. By being very moderate with alcohol, keeping track of how much I drink every week, I can earn points. A maximum of three a week, but then I am not allowed to drink that week. Furthermore, I can occasionally earn one or two points for doing a bum job. I can exchange these points for sex.
The bottom line is that I have about one orgasm every four weeks. That could be because she jerks me off but also by something else, like eating pussy followed by fucking. That depends on the number of points I hand in. It is very little but that has the advantage that it is always very intense. Our relationship has also improved tremendously. I carry my wife on my hands and think about her all day.
And it is true what I had read here and there. I absolutely don’t want anything else.
Very good to hear this
My wonderful QUEEN ordered me to comment here. I have been completely tamed by my QUEEN and I am happy and grateful to serve my QUEEN every day. I accept FEMALE superiority and my duty to serve my QUEEN and WOMEN as a universal truth. 1. I admit FEMALE superiority and agree that men are inferior 2. I admit that my QUEEN queen has complete control of my penis. My QUEEN allows him to stand upright and when I must ejaculate. 3. I admit that I have been doing all the housework here at home. 4. I admit that my QUEEN has controlled all the money I receive. 5. I admit that I must ask my QUEEN for permission whenever I want to do something. 6. I admit that I receive my QUEEN’s guests subserviently. 7. I admit that I like to serve my QUEEN’S FRIENDS. 8. I admit that I enjoy serving other men who are my QUEEN’s sexual partners. 9. I admit that I have been married for 12 years and for the past 4 years it has been an honor to serve my QUEEN. 10. I admit that I want to be cursed by all the WOMEN on the site because I believe in FEMALE supremacy.
Your penis is a clitty and is a ‘her’ not a ‘him’
Thank you … very grateful for making me understand this.
I would be glad to Lady Alexa. Thank you suggesting it. My wife and I have been in a WLM for about 15 years now. I am happily submissive to her. I am not fully feminized like your husband but I wear panties 24/7 and I have a few p airs of sissy panties that I must wear when doing chores. I do pretty much all of the chores in the house and I put gas in her car every week and serve as her driver every where when I am not working. I give her massages several times a week and attend to her sexual needs whenever she desires, usually with oral sex. I am not in chastity but she has complete control of my orgasms, which are far and few in between. It is very exciting for me to give her an orgasm while I am denied one. When it comes to decisions, she will listen to my thoughts and opinions but she has final say in all matters. I accept that and things are better that way. If I am bad (which is rare) or am not performing to her expectations I will be punished. Corner time is a favorite punishment of hers. We also have a weekly routine where she reviews my behavior for the past week and discusses expectations for the following week. This helps keep me focused on serving and pleasing her. We are so happy in our WLM relationship. It is fun and had brought us closer together as a couple. Thanks you for letting me share and I happy to answer questions from anyone.
A well written post and a nice balanced view on on FLRs. Many of the things you discuss are similar to my own FLR. FLR has been the best thing that ever happened to me and my wife. I hope others take your advice. Thank you so much for sharing!
Good to hear Joe. Why not tell us more about your FLR?
Are there multiple places to LOOK to find that “perfect Female Domme for you” as in magazines or websites ??? Unfortunately there are so many male dominants to so few female dominants. i have always had an interest in finding and exploring a “Female Led Relationship” but actually finding a website and or magazine has been almost impossible. I am hoping now that Attitudes and People in general have become more Open & available in the last decade as it has been about fifteen years since I have actively looked for a “Domme / Mistress” Led Relationship. i currently reside in Southern Virginia close to the North Carolina Border (30 miles) in Norfolk, VA. I am a white submissive male just turned 61, out of shape and over weight (50lbs) Medically retired on social security disability income. i am a non smoker who rarely uses alcohol, clean shaven with a misplaced eyebrow mustache. Thank You for allowing me to make this post, Ma’am.
I’m afraid I wouldn’t know where to look for a female domme as I have not had the need to do so. Obviously. However, in a partial answer to your comment, I would say there are far more female dommes but most charge for their services. There’s a big market if we see it in those terms. There are, from my observations, far more male dommes looking to dominate for free. I guess this is a function of the different approaches to the lifestyle by males and females. In the same vein. I get hundreds of requests from men wanting to be dominated by me in person or via chat but all want it free and don’t consider what might be in it for the woman. Is our job just to satisfy a man’s desires without thought for the lady wants? Not really submissive. So to get to the conclusion, if you or any man wants the lifestyle, look for a strong woman to love and care for as a first requirement and the rest may follow. It’s what happened in my and my husbands case.
Want to be part of a FLR but not sure how to talk the wife into it. Anyone i can chat with on this? Need advice/help or a coach to talk to her and I on the benefits for her.
I think has a lot of great ideas for some kink and roleplay but it is not a solid premise for a strong FLR relationship. If anything it’s more likely to end in divorce when the man ends up running for the hills at the hands of his controlling (abusive) wife. If someone were to publish a similar article swapping the roles of men and women in here the feminist outcry would rock the internet.
A lasting and meaningful FLR is built out of love, mutual respect and most importantly mutual consent. You cannot coerce someone into this kind of arrangement, that is controlling (abusive) behavior.
An FLR that is reached by both parties agreeing, with trial periods, regular checkins and feedback is what makes a successful FLR.
That being said, part of those agreements may include some deep deep D/s bedroom sessions that might even spill out of the bedroom (or bring a few more into the bedroom) and that’s all part of the rich beauty of it.
But ultimately, and FLR is something that both parties must venture into knowingly and willingly and with a shared desire for success.
Speaking for myself, married for over 18 years to a beautiful, loving caring woman I consider to be a gift from heaven. We’ve delved into various aspects of FLR but I think the pivotal moment was deciding that we would assign final vote in times of deadlock/disagreement to my wife (note, this was a joint decision reached through a lot trial and error and discussion).
She of course can also choose to delegate the choice if she wishes and likewise there are certain categories that I could veto (such as anything that may or would cause me physical harm or danger).
The fundamental difference here though is that it’s very much a joint venture. We discuss everything, we *DO* make compromises, we aim to always treat the other with respect and to find a happy middle ground. First and foremost we are a team, each with an equal vote. We simply decided that in times where no mutually agreeable compromise could be reached or we were in complete disagreement or deadlock that she gets the deciding vote. She is, in essence, the leader.
This of course is something that is always up for consideration (much like a Presidency) and could be changed at any time should we both wish. But…that not happened so far 😉
To give an analogy…
Scenario 1: You have a boss who is manipulative and controlling, he coerces you into doing things through a combination of tyrannical rules and draconian repercussions. There is no mistake he is the boss because if you break the rules you will feel the pain.
Scenario 2: You have a boss who always treats you with respect, relishes your opinion and makes you feel like not just a valuable member of the team but a vital part of everything that happens. They value your opinion and discuss all decisions with you before making a call. You may not always agree and in those scenarios, being your boss, they get to make the final call.
Which of these two managers is more successful?
You clearly haven’t read all my posts
Lady Alexa,
My life is so much more peaceful, delicate, and polite now. My Mistress is in control of all those things like money, logistics of restaurants, movies, travel, etc. She’s the one in the dark suits and while it’s actually forbidden for me to wear a black or gray suit as it’s a symbol of authority, I’m much happier and content in my peaceful, and delicate colors. I play the role of welcoming, cheerfully-composed, chamber of commerce, or ambassador-like person in the relationship. It’s hard to say I have to wear colored suits, blazers, and shoes.. when I absolutely love to. I honor Her so much that I always wake earlier so that when She wakes I am already dressed perfectly. My blazer and suit collection consists of ivory white, cream, bright yellow, soft pink, hot pink, festive red, Kelly green, soft light blue, and royal blue… gleaming gold buttons.. and delicate fabrics which I must keep perfect at all times. She specially orders my pants lined in silk, and I wear pantyhose so I can feel sheer and silky everywhere I walk.
I have taken to enjoy being shown off by Her to all Her Lady friends. They tell Her She has a perfect man. The best men are seen and not heard, She tells me. I wear makeup 7 days a week and touch up numerous times a day to keep presentable 5:30 am until 11pm if not midnight.
This is all part of my continual conditioning along with my exclusive classical music listening diet, to concentrate on my looks, my diction while speaking, my impeccable manners and perfect etiquette 100% of the time. My Mistress spoils me with anything which makes me look and feel delightfully peaceful. It also reinforces Her conditioning of me. Hair and makeup appointments before time in public with Her, regular hair and nail appointments through the month, monthly facials, and body waxing is routine, as I want to look perfectly composed and ready to serve.
You are right, the Lady is the Chief Executive. I as the man am the cheerful and smiling assistant and am submissive and bashful at all times. When She tells me I look great.. I blush. What a wonderful life as a man in an FLR!
This is a lovely comment. Every FLR is different as you say. Your sounds wonder except that I wouldn’t want to be in charge of all logistics and so on as it seems like too much work. In my case I make the decisions and my husband will do the actual leg work for me. I think of him as my housemaid and secretary and assistant too
Thank you so much for your reply, Lady Alexa. Being a very seasoned leader at Her employment, She knows that gradual changes have more permanency to them. She has said that once I have mastered a slower, softer and more suitable cadence to my voice which is in-line with my new role in life, She will allow me to place telephone calls to make reservations. I am currently working with a handwriting expert so that I can write handwritten Thank-you notes in cursive which is as proper as my attire. So it appears that gradually I will be given secretarial duties.
We live in a very nice place which has the dirty things like trash-removal and toilet cleaning taken care of in the campus of the condominiums. She envisions me as the secretary and assistant but nothing which would get my dirty.
So many of us men want this !
We get it – ! Bliss.
As Grace Slick once sang:
” Flash ! Paradise ! “
So I think it odd that you consider a FLR the same as a D / s or M / s relationship since in my opinion they are quite different. A FLR is led by the women but with consideration and thoughtfulness of the man’s needs and place. If a couple want at M / s relationship i am totally supportive but call it that. Major decisions in a FLR must be discussed and agreed upon as are all parts of the relationship and this gives strong women the ability to lead the relationship but in a way that both partner’s agree. Your outline is a master / slave dynamic and while i have issue with that call it what it is.
Who said I did? Equally they don’t have to be mutually exclusive. I suspect you haven’t read all my blog
LOL!! I was just thinking the same. However… if it makes one success I think it is worth it. 😉
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I firmly believe that in todays modern society people are becoming more enlightened to what it is that brings them satisfaction as far as relationships go female LED relationships are a positive thing in 2019 moving forward. and I embrace it with all my love. What I find that perfect partner I know that I have what it takes to make her happy as well as myself.
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I would love a relationship like this, but they’re just so hard to find. Do you have any tips for respectfully finding a suitable partner for a FLP relationship?
women can and should lead her man must be a gentleman at all times and humble and respectful of all women
I am glad to see more women in the house of representatives, this just shows that women can be leaders. I am also looking for an flr
I am in the South Florida area looking for a FLR.
I am in the Southern New Mexico Area.
Does anyone know the best dating site to find an FLR partner. I am having a difficult time finding a man who wants the kind of FLR relationship I desire. I’ve looked around. Am I missing something? Is there a dating site? Thanks, girls.
JJ if there is a chance that you’re living in the New York New York area I am a lifetime flr gentleman seeking a partner feel free to reach out.
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I think I need to charge a subscription as a sissy dating site?
Well done.
What type of FLR do you desire? Have you looked at aboutflr.com?
What kind of FLR do you desire? And have you tried aboutflr.com ?
If you’re still interested, I would love to be in this kind of relationship. I live in Asheville, North Carolina, though. If you would like to contact me at all, please contact me at HGuzynski@gmail.com. Thank you for this post, ma’am, and I hope your month is going well!
can you be in an flr where the man is controlled but still be able to dress and act like a good gentleman submissive
Of course, feminisation is optional in an flr. It’s just I enjoy my husband feminised and it makes him more submissive.
Would love to find a Dominant Lady for a FLR.
This is certainly a comprehensive list!
Another amazing post, ma’am. I was lucky my Wife knew how to train me. I call Her Miss Emily or Miss at all times. My role has changed and I am now Her maid where I belong.
Cursy
Thanks for your comment Missi, I’m pleased you enjoy them. It sounds like your wife has things how they should be. Lady Alexa
Thank You for the kind reply, ma’am. It has been quite a change but I know I am better off now.
Curtsy
Lady… in re-reading, one note of yours on Female family finances struck me in particular: “I think regular pocket money is a good idea for him anyway but obviously not too much.”
Might not that be quite interestingly and instructively be used on male girls in conjunction with ‘Control With Clothing’ by setting a part of her allowance whose mandatory use is for feminine attire, make-up, health and skin products etc that she must choose, itemize and account for to her Female Master.
Having to do such would impress upon her she has to be consciously involved with her own feminization, thus eliminating her previous misconception of being ‘masculine’ – and at the same time is being checked to see that her girlish and ladylike choices are under scrutiny.
It’s not a bad idea. I already expect her to buy her own female things even when I’m not there, even sanitary towels
Lady Alexa… i note that i perhaps should clarify my statement. What i also meant was that perhaps for Alice (or any other Female Master with Her male girl is that periodically She should give Her subordinate a ‘special allowance’ which she MUST spend specifically within, say 3-5 days on things that show her mind and actions are focused on being FEMININE that the Female Master checks, verifies and rates the male girl’s performance… his actions might even be judged by both You and other Females
would seem to fit perfectly the title of Your writing here —
“FLR means retraining and re-programming your man”
Amazing paradigm for the new hierarchy of the sexes! So much… no too much even to isolate points for discussion without ignoring others….
Saying that, however, i would specifically like to hear of discussion You and other Female Masters have interacted in brainstorming, developing and initiating as best control of Your male girls.
Also, on a lighter note what accounts might You while interacting with other superior Females had the most mirth and/or amusement over Your male girls in combined social setting – especially when they added to proper training and dominance over Alice and other males.
When I speak with other Mistresses it’s usually a fairly quick discussion by phone or maybe when we meet up before the evening progresses. There’s no big discussion really it’s usually decided in about 5 to 10 minutes. As for the most amusing activity in a social setting it’s when we dress up their clitties, usually with a pink bow then make them serve and curtsey to us naked but for the bow (and maybe stocking and high heels). It never ceases to amuse me and the other ladies
That’s thrilling for the men too !
Talk about a win – win.
Thank You Mistress Alexa, I send all You’re posts to my Mistress and she loves You and Your posts.
Excellent to hear
My idea of Paradise.
Of course. It should be for everyone
It should be every males destiny really
All males should be tamed, trained, and subservient to the superior Female. It is their right place. In nature, Females are superior. It is only humans who have it backward.
Lady Alexa, do you do personal consults or know of some kind of network? I am a female embarking on this journey with no dominant mentors. I am doing fine, but
would be so grateful to have powerful women around me. Thanks for posting all this, I believe the world is just about to turn to this model although I agree with you – it is happening much too slowly.
I do provide personal consultations but they are chargeable as I don’t have much free time