Yes my pretty Alice, I’m afraid it’s more regular feminization for you. She’s not been a bad girl really but I do want her more feminine and submissive outside the home.
I’ve been a bit all over the place recently with Alice’s feminisation and control.
Alice doesn’t want to be a proper girl all the time, she just wants a game. So it’s up to me to gently encourage Alice to be a better girl as she won’t bother. I know this and that’s just how things are.
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The problem is that what with writing novel, articles for other fetish sites and actually having a full-time job, I sometimes lose my focus. I’m not sure how I’d manage without a sissy housemaid.
I want my hsuband as a very feminized sissy girl. I want this very much and I would really like it to be permanent. I know this isn’t really possible for loads of reasons but I can push things as far as is possible within our constrained circumstances.
Now that I have feminised her for the home and I’m used to this situation, I can get a bit upset when she’s not feminised outside. For example, we went out on Saturday evening and, as is the way unfortunately, she had to put on male clothing.
It put a bit of a damper on the evening for me although Alice didn’t seem too put out herself.
There is nothing better than seeing her looking pretty and girly. So I thought deeply about what I could do to improve the situation a little. At home I have few problems.
Sometimes I do have to moan at her but otherwise we’re there, she’s a full-time girl at home. But what to do about going out?
Bra Feminization
I realised that I’m lax in my control at times apart from being busy. I had her wearing bras outside the home at one time and she stopped. She can be lazy and I didn’t enforce it as I was busy. This has changed now since Saturday and she’s back in bras full-time.
How did I let this happen? I got too busy. But it’s such as simple thing so I will make sure it’s enforced and, like with her panties and female products, she’ll get used to it and it will become normal and hence a permanent area of feminization in time.
Nail Feminization
I did start this post initially about another change I’ve made hence the photo with the nails and handcuffs above. This was about making sure that Alice has better nails outside and inside the home.
As much as I’d love her to wear coloured nail varnish at all times, I can’t really make her do that at the moment outside. Instead I’ve bought her clear nail varnish.
Alice is still concerned but I think I’ve been fair and I’ve put my foot down on this one too. Clear nail varnish when we go out. I don’t expect it all the time as she does have her male jobs to do at home on top of her housemaid ones and these can damage her nails.
More Feminization
I think I’m being extremely fair on Alice with insisting on some feminization outside the home now. It’s not as if I have told her to put her breast forms in or to wear coloured nail varnish so I’ve met her objections halfway.
It’s a fair compromise and Alice has accepted that she has to do it. She’s been a girly for some time now so it’s not as if it’s unexpected or unnecessary. The bra and the clear nail varnish are red lines and there can be no backsliding.
Hi Lady A, Alice doesn’t realise just how lucky she is.It is so interesting how many responses this post has generated.And yes, permanent feminization opens up so many possibilities. May I ask, is the aim aesthetic or power- based.What I mean is.Every lady loves to have a pretty girl at their side, but for you, is it more important to relish the humiliation and embarressment of Alice?.Permanent ie,tattooed eyebrows/eye liner or lip outline may be an option.Like yourself I do not wish to be in a chastity device (oh my word, they’re ugly)but ‘crotchless'(ugh, again) or backless knickers are so sexy and divine.Perhaps an odd piercing might assist Alice to be ‘tucked conveniently and being tucked does look so sleek.There’s also the fun part that if she wears backless knickers she can wear a vibrating plug.Something all us girls should become accustomed too, and yes, prostate stimulation can be a reward for her after a spanking.The dual association can effect her in such a gorgeous manner, she will be less focussed on her own orgasm and more attentive to yours.My wife insists I wear 6 or 8 strap suspenders every day and yes a tightly fitting heavily padded bra does show through if I try and be in ‘ boy-mode.I’m so appreciative of your efforts with Alice and of course, Cathy’s efforts with the lovely Mary.
The answer to your question about the aim of Alice’s feminisation is complex. In short though it’s about control, about my enjoyment of her humiliation (maybe they are linked?), about my preference for a feminine appearance in males and the improvements that femininity brings in males – hygiene, behaviour etc. I might add that I do enjoy some residual pointers at a previous masculinity. Therefore I would be more likely to want Alice in crotchless knickers rather than backless. A nice string thong in her bum is fine. It’s not about what the sissy or feminised male wants – what does a vibrating plug do for me? I much prefer feminised male parts on show, pink ribbons, pubic triangle, jewellery etc to demonstrate my control.
iI love your blog, Lady Alexa. My wife/mistress was slow about feminizing. What started with panties and aprons slowly expanded so that at the end of two years I couldn’t be surprised when my sy=taus was changed to fulltime maid. I think she knew me better than I knew myself. I am sure Alice is the same way.
Alice is one lucky girl. I can only dream of having a Woman like you. ? My wife would never do any of this. So lucky.
She is very lucky. Discuss it with your wife, maybe she just needs to be shown the light
Unfortunately, I have. She just doesn’t have any dominant friends that she can talk to and bounce ideas off of regarding this lifestyle. I’m always on the look out for a coach or mentor for her. Female control is such a huge turn on for me hence my comment about Alice being so lucky.
Are you in London? If so invite her along to a Femdom event or meeting that I am also going to and I could have a chat with her about the benefits she’d get
🙁 I’m in the US. I’m certain she most likely would not go to a Femdom event. …oh well. Thank you for your generous time.
My Mistress makes me wear panties or thongs some days. Some of them are not that comfortable, but I always enjoy the way they make me feel more submissive, and She always likes it when I am more submissive. I guess wearing a bra would increase the effect, but how does that work? I am quite slim, no man-boobs at all…
Put rubber bands around Alice nipples to make them protrude. You can take her out without a bra, but her tiny tits will be poking out! Give her the choice of wearing breastforms inside her Bra as an alternate.
Do be careful that the rubber bands are not to tight nor worn too long. We do not want to cause any injury, only embarrassment and discomfort.
That’s a novel idea for me Hilda and you are correct. I don’t want to ever hurt Alice, just humiliate her
Dear Mrs. Alexa,
I would kindly but strongly suggest that Alice should not use any excuse for exposing small signs of femininity in public, such as clear nail varnish. Instead she should take pride in it and simply respond – when questioned – “because I like it”. I am rarely asked why I wear clear nail varnish, but if it happens, that is my answer. Same for my tweezed and feminine shaped eyebrows. Nobody ever really questions it anyway.
I also wear in public women’s boots, and have received only complements for it, both from women and even from one man (in Texas of all places!). These boots are obviously flat an not overly feminine, and I wear them with fairly skinny jeans inside. It makes me feel wonderfully feminine, yet looking more or less gender neutral.
Finally, may I suggest that you buy Alice a CB6000 chastity device, which is very good for regular use, and you can attach a little bell to the lock perhaps. I can testify that making love to my wife while wearing the device is a most wonderful thing, now that I don’t need to worry about coming too early and losing my physical energy (and interest) as a result. I can now fully concentrate on her responses to my tongue, and engage in her orgasms “through my mind”. It is like I am experiencing tantric sex, in my mind and without losing physical energy; hence being able to continue for a long time. Hence, better love making and a more obedient and submissive “girl” for you.
Thanks you so much for your tireless writings and efforts to educate us on your progress with Alice.
Nice comments Tootsie I have also found that as long as it’s not too overt, a certain level of femininity is not questioned even on a person with obvious male looks as Alice. I’m keen on the bell idea.
Tootsie (and all), personally I don’t recommend a plastic type cage. I find them “smelly” and difficult to clean out when being worn. I am more exposed, vulnerable and available in a metal one.
My two cents worth……
One other hint about the chastity device…. Get an open type, that is, not a solid tube. It is much easier to clean in the shower. Also, there is a newer type of lock that is not a padlock, it’s smaller and does not make sounds when “she” walks.
Could I attach a little cat’s bell to it? It’s something I’d like to do to her and I couldn’t think of a way before.
Absolutely!!!! Wonderful idea. I will find one to show you on eBay and send the item number.
OK Lady A, here are a couple links. Just go to eBay and “copy and paste” the item number into the “search” box.
322315749341 This one is short but has great “availability” . But she can play with herself.
152515005485 This is the style I have. The extra “hook” holds the testicles up so that it doesn’t slip away from the body. New locking mechanism, and the “spikes” keep the wearer from being able to slip out of it. Very secure, comfortable for long term wear (and quickly removable for access) And it’s cheap!
the second chastity device looks so wonderful to me.
I have had several and this new generation solves problems associated with previous models. The teeth on this one are removable, but I am “old” and don’t have raging erections (without a pill) so they do not cut. They are so cheap now that it is easy to try a variety to find what suits you.
Antarctica?????
Not sure about teeth! I don’t want to damage her little winky. I have uses for it
You see they are removable. But even so, I can wear them and they don’t bite. It’s nice having the option. 😉
Ok I’ll have a look.
The numbers you have given me give no return on Ebay.Maybe it’s because I’m in the UK and this is a US code number? Maybe a name of the device would help
I was afraid of that. I wonder if you can link to USEBAY. Once you find the item, you can locate one on your version of ebay…..
ok, got it! Go to ebay, enter “chastity device” in the search box, then enter the model number:
A273-1 is the short model.
A274-1 is similar to mine.
Good luck. Have fun!!
Thanks I have found them on the UK site. The A273 looks very small. Both are metal, is this best for hygiene?
Yes, metal is better than plastic for keeping clean, and the open design makes it easy in the shower. As for fitting/measuring, measure the diameter when completely flaccid and have it snug. When measuring the minimal length, some say to subtract 1/2 inch (it will really shrivel that much) but I figured 1/4 inch.
Putting the device on will take time the first few tries. Slip one testicle through, then the second. Press the penis into the body to push out the blood, then it will slip through. Alice will probably be a bit “inflated” so this may take a while. Then I place a long string around the penis from bottom to top and twist the 2 ends together (do not tie) and put the ends through the cage, rear toward front. Lube the penis with lotion so it slides easier and pulling the string as you work the penis into the cage. Take time to make sure it is straight and comfortable before locking. I hope this is clear, maybe someone can also help….
Oh yes…. that is in ebay uk.
Interesting thread
https://forums.netdoctor.co.uk/discussion/31348/anyone-any-experience-of-male-chastity
Thanks Britney but putting Alice into long term chastity would deny me my pleasures. It belongs to me for play
May i respectfully suggest Alice purchases a copy of A Charm School for Sissy Maids, by Mistress Lorelei. This is written by a Woman for the benefit of Women. My Mistress J. had me buy a copy years ago and we followed a lot of the instructions. It made an enormous and lasting difference in me as Her maid, my Mistress J. loved it and so do i.
Mistress Lorelei is a wonderful, charming and amusing writer. i think She has other books for aspiring Dominant Women, too.
“A Charm School for Sissy Maids is also a useful guide for the Mistress training her submissive. Full of fresh ideas for devilish discipline and delightful services, this guide will provide just the structured approach your sissy submissive longs for-and it may give you new ideas for keeping him firmly under your well-manicured thumb!”
https://itunes.apple.com/gb/book/charm-school-for-sissy-maids/id455094633?
https://www.amazon.com/Mistress-Manual-Lorelei-ebook/dp/B005HZ6H5Amt=11
Thank you for your respectful suggestion. I will certainly look this writer up. Lady Alexa
Make her use a high pitch feminine voice , especially when both of you are in public, but not among friends or family. Her hankies should be female. Ask her to gently roll her hips while walking. Her bra should be tight and you can pull and release the straps. It will embarrass her , as it snaps back, but most persons will never observe. Make the shoulder straps loose and slide it off . She will struggle to adjust it unnoticed. Alice should realize that she is a girl pretending to be dressed up as a male. Love
For some reason her bra straps fall down anyway so she’s starting to have to pull them up again which is fun.
You are way to easy on Your sissy. My Mistress found my most hidden fear/desires and made me live them out. Your sissy needs this.
Submissives shouldn’t write to a Mistress telling them what to do sissyterri. Are you really submissive?
Hello Lady Alexa,
When out in boy mode my Mistress has me wear as much women’s clothing as we have available, as appropriate for the situation.
So ladies button down shirts, polo shirts, t-shirts, tank tops, jeans (regular and skinny). Ladies shorts, shoes (canvas, loafers) and hosiery (stockings under pants otherwise socks). I have a pair of thin white shorts that she has had me wear pink and floral print panties under which show through if you were to look at for a few seconds.
Add to that a dusting of light pink lipstick, and while she has not had me use clear nail varnish on all nails, she has had me paint my pinky finger with pink varnish.
She also calls me by my girl name when we are in public.
I think your feminisation of Alice is so wonderful. She is very lucky to have you!
Best wishes,
jen
She is lucky although she doesn’t always realise it. Thanks for your ideas they are excellent. I do only ever use Alice’s girl name. Or just girl
Always wonderful when a woman makes a man or boy be feminine in public. Men wearing pretty feminine clothing while attending female sporting events is also a great way to humiliate a male. Female control is awesome
Well it’s how men should be. Feminine
I think there are lots of ways to keep Alice more feminine while in public without worrying about somebody you know noticing. Yes, skirts, dresses and high heels are going to have to be kept for indoors. However tops, tshirts, blouses, cardigans and even trousers could all be chosen from the woman’s section and unless you go really over the top any of these could be down played if you encounter someone you know. Underwear doesn’t get seen, and make sure Alice’s bra is nice and tight so she’s very conscious of what she’s wearing. You can also add a number of bra extenders as this has the effect of moving the straps outwards and they fall over the shoulders rather often, meaning Alice will have to adjust them, and she’ll be very self conscious. Make her wear tights all the time as these have a very special feel that is quite difficult to get used to.
There are a few things to be done with accesories to; perhaps a couple of hairclips, necklaces or bracelets that are just a little more feminine than unisex. A badge on a jacket can be worn by a man, a brooch on a cardigan is more a women’s thing, the difference may be marginal, but you can edge it towards the feminine. Slightly girly glasses are another idea.
Make sure Alice NEVER leaves the house without a handbag. Make sure she has various and that she matches them to her outfits. If you meet someone you know it’s just a manbag!
As an overall strategy, choose places where Alice is unlikely to meet the people you know, but will be seen by a lot of other people, and little by little make her more girlie in public. This obviously works when out of town, but can also work by getting involved in new circles of friends or interest groups. Perhaps Alice could go to classes in yoga, painting, flower arranging, various types of needlework if your family and friends don’t generally show interest in these things. Maybe they never go to charity shops or fast food restaurants or pubs, maybe Alice should get a part time job in one.
If you work your strategy out well you could have her feeling very self conscious in public without the likelihood that she’s discovered by your circle of family/friends/acquaintances.
I hope some of that helps.
I don’t think Alice has time for a part-time job as she works full-time already but I like the yoga class idea. Or pilates. I generally prefer Alice in hold-up stockings rather than tights, especially at this time of year. But I get your point and it’s a good one.
About feminisation in public….. Have Alice wear a thin pair of driving gloves to cover her coloured nail varnish. She would only need to remove the gloves to eat, or if you directed her to remove them for a short period of time. You could also choose a more feminine colour or style of gloves.
Along the same theme, eye makeup with sunglasses would work the same way.
I like the sunglasses idea. It got me thinking that large girly sunglasses would help to disguise her masculine face better…..
I must say that the chastity device makes a “tremendous” difference. My wife has had me in one for a while and the change is quite noticeable. Let my just understatement that I am much more agreeable. It can come off in a minute, but takes a good ten minutes to put on ( a very snug fit). They are available on EBay for under twenty bucks, worth trying for that. Take time to measure for size, and go for snug.
I am sure that I or others can answer any questions.
SillyGirl
Hello SillyGirl. Can you tell me what’s in it for the mistress though as I don’t get it? I can only see that feminised men love the idea. Alice doesn’t get it either although she would wear one if I told her to.
The chastity device really does make a difference in behaviour – even if you do think it’s a male fantasy. As others have said – it can come off in a minute if you want to use him.
But the very fact that he is under additional control – and that he will be ever more focussed on your needs and requirements – is surely enough to try it.
My advice would be to lock him in for at least two weeks without release – if you can bear it !
Thanks Sarah. If you say it works then I’ll give it a go and see how it is for me. I’ll let you know. Why not look me up on Fetlife too, ladyalexa-uk, and connect.
My views on chastity devices are somewhat coloured by several femdom events where single men (playing at submissive) paraded around in chastity devices even though they had no mistress ordering them to wear a device.It was just a game for them.
Alexa – I used to think like that but when I treated it seriously – it upped everything.
The trick is to ensure he doesn’t see it as a game and that it is deadly serious. Mine has been 24/7 for four years. The longest he has been in is 3 months. Usually he is let out every 5/6 weeks. Or on demand……
Cleaning is an issue – so it’s on and off a lot – but ONLY for that reason or if I want sex. The minute it’s over – he is caged. It’s had the happy incidence of significantly improving his oral skills.
Caging, edging, building the tension without release – on my terms – NEVER his – produced such a step change in attitude that I would never go back.
I would be very surprised that if you do it seriously – that all the things you hold dear – compliance and total acceptance of everything you decide – you are unlikely to go back.
And don’t let him whinge.
Here to help !
Sarah
You’ve persuaded me on the oral skills improvement Sarah 😉 I can see the control element too now. All I kept getting before were the benefits for the sissy from everyone else but not what’s in it for me as the Mistress… until now, finally, it needed the female angle. Thank you.
Thanks for the help, Sarah. You are better with words than I.
Lady A., as for what’s in it for you, besides the additional desire/work on her improving oral skills, you can enjoy watching as she can not touch herself. This is one of the most frustrating issues for me. I was completely unaware of how often I touched myself until I was locked up.
The frustration of this results in a deep sense of wanting to please my keyholder with the hope of release and relief. You are a sensitive and loving Mistress, so I know you will notice/appreciate the change in behavior. Just be sure to reinforce this new behavior.
And note…. the worst thing you can do is put the device on and ignore/forget about it. That soon defeats the whole effort.
I made my maid wear clear nail varnish when in male mode. When challenged he was allowed to say that he had just attended a health club and had his nails manicured and the varnish was to strengthen the nail.
As for chastity – I would say it is a must. Even if you let him out to perform for you. It certainly puts their brain more into gear as it is a constant reminder of their devotion.
As for bra’s again it is a must in my opinion. Lip balm as well. When challenged it’s because his lips are chapped.
I hope you are having his eyebrows threaded ? !
Hello Sarah B. Good idea on the clear nail varnish. Alice and I have both noticed that no one has ever commented on her lack of hair on her legs so maybe no one will mention the clear nail varnish. I’ll use the lip balm idea, I like that. No I haven’t thought about eyebrows beyond the normal trim that middle-aged (ex-) men need. I’ll look into that idea too. Please do keep those great ideas coming.
I think you just might have to get firmer with her. Let her know that if she’s not complying with your wishes you will put her over your lap and take the hairbrush to her bare bottom. My wife has to do this with me about once a week as I understand that we can get very lazy and not want to get dressed properly all the time. I am getting better but sometimes it’s just a pain to put my bra on sometimes.
Yes punishment is part of the regime.
i have to say i agree with Sally, Lady A…chastity makes me sit down to pee…which tends to reinforce what femme thoughts i have…
(Sorry Alice!)
cj 🙂
I’m not keen on chastity as you know. I have use for her little thingy, why would I deny myself?
You wouldn’t deny yourself…as you would hold the key!…its yours on demand still! 😉
I still don’t get the chastity device thing to be honest. It seems more a male fetish to me
I suppose she always wears frillier under her male outer garments.
What about no socks so her stockings are on show and shirts that may show the outline of her bra.
Also the right male bits restraint would force her to sit whilst going for a pee. The ultimate in feminisation
Simply having to wear the frilly undies will make Alice feel more girly and more compliant
Curtsey
Sally
Well I don’t allow her to wear knickers any more Sally so she has nothing under her male trousers. I’m thinking of allowing crotchless now. I like the idea of stockings rather than socks. She already sits to pee
You are the BEST!!!
I try
so modest,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I’ve lots to be immodest about to misquote Winston Churchill
love it
Good to hear. Alice isn’t so sure but she’ll get around to it.