Although I live in an FLR, I was never keen on the idea of putting a cock cage on my sissy husband Alice. I’d been put off by the fact it seemed to be a device that sissies enjoy wearing. I had a lot of evidence from blog comments and at various femdom events seeing how much sissies enjoyed prancing around in them.
An FLR is for the woman, not the sissy. The clue’s in the title.
But now that some Mistresses have added to the chorus of advice, I’m going to buy one for Alice. There is a problem though: I have no idea what to buy.
I’ve had some advice but I’d appreciate more. Remember I’m in the UK so any links to Amazon or Ebay need to take this into consideration. Let me have some pictures or actual names and I can look for them on UK sites.
FLR and Cock Cage Requirements
Before you send me recommendations I do have some requirements of a cock cage.
- It needs to be comfortable for Alice. I don’t want her little clitty or pussy balls to get sore.
- It needs to be easy and quick to remove. No complicated locks.
- Ideally I’d like to be able to attach a cat’s bell and a lead to it somehow. This is a future requirement as I want to attend more femdom events and this would be great fun.
- Ease of cleaning of course.
- Ease of peeing for Alice.
- A nice to have would be one that lifted her clitty and balls up so they were more on show. Having no experience of cock cages I don’t know what can be done in this regard.
- Pink would be nice but maybe metal is best. I really don’t know.
- Not too expensive as I may not like Alice in one. It’s an experiment.
A Change of Heart
So I’m willing to give it a go five years into our FLR. I am heartened by the fact that Alice isn’t keen on wearing one. I’ll gather the recommendations and buy one once I’ve decided.
In some ways, I’m looking forward to it as it’s something different for us. Yes I do consider Alice’s opinions too. I just sometimes ignore them.
Lady Alexa,
I’m chiming in here late Ma’am, as I’ve just recently found your lovely blog. I’ve read in several of your entries of your concern that chastity devices are often about male fantasy. While this may ring true, I think most males who find themselves in long term chastity quickly learn that the fantasy is far different from the reality. I’ve been locked in a cb-6K for 45 days with no access to my clitty, and I assure you I desperately wanted out, and proved that with great devotion, submission, obedience, and hard work…I earned my way out!
To me, chastity (especially with a device) is punishment, and I strive to avoid it. My guess is that many who crave it also like the idea of being able to put it on and remove it at their whim.
Most humbly,
sissy jamieanne
Lady Alexa, I’ve worn both metal and silicon/plastic cages, and think you should know that each type feels very different. The plastic one has no feeling, if that makes sense. It’s easy to forget you’re wearing it. A light metal one, however, makes its presence known at all times. It’s worth considering this depending how you want Alice to feel when wearing one. There is a huge range in prices but again from experience, some of the cheap ones are very well made and just as good as the expensive ones. And definitely make it snug!
Thanks for the advice Veronica. Snug is good
I’m pleased you found me. Ask Jeeves eh? I’m going up in the world
Lady Alexa… your most recent posts in dramatic acceleration show an increased desire of Your quest to advance both Female supremacy and the proper permanent reversal of sex roles in modern society. You seem daily to come upon exactly what needs to be done to break the back of those false things male dominated civilization had based its power – both instinctually and on an intellectual level. Your assessments and intended methods to correct the basis of past mistakes that fostered Females being kept from taking hold of control are a wonderful hope for a future gynarchy.
One example quote:
” I had her wearing bras outside the home at one time and she stopped. She can be lazy and I didn’t enforce it as I was busy. This has changed now since Saturday and she’s back in bras full-time. How did I let this happen?”
Amazing insight in Your seeing the importance of not relenting on the male’s wearing of a bra once it is initiated – the bra as an ultimate physical, emotional and psychic reminder of how totally roles at to be reversed. The male girl who is kept in such raiment BY FEMALE ORDER could not possibly regain a ‘masculine’ self-image while feeling so ‘femininely’ and captively exhibited for display as he once envisioned Females.
(One imagines the possibility of an advert in 2027 – Make the male girl of your Dreams even dreamier… in a BALI BRA for EX-boys”! Believe me, Alexa, Femaleviewers would SMILE heartily as their male girls BLUSHED in meek feminine demeanor. Heck, by then, tv commercials shall be trumpeting ‘WOMEN Prefer Haines – on Their cute little Ex-gentlemen!” Wow – the Final Battle of the Sexes won on 70″ UHD Television screen!!!”)
And then now quote Your title:
“FLR, Femdom and Time for a Cock Cage”
This is an ultimate statement of how you understand the coming full reversal of power, roles, personality, psyche and even dress and fashion of the Female and male
is to be advanced and made permanent.
Chastity devices in past history until the last half century were surely 99*+ forced upon Females. One might safely guess (except for a few unadvanced tribal societies) the usage is now 90*+ worn by males and malegirls.)
Mandatory use of chastity devices is highly important for numerous reasons, many of which upon you have clearly stated or inferred.
1. the sex that controls sexual activity SHALL dominate, and Females have virtually a lock on command in modern society.
2. the sex that is kept in genital bondage can only think of its needs as secondary.
3. historically the male sex urge when allowed to satisfy itself on its own schedule immediately has been the seed leading to ‘penis pride’ and false male supremacy… now it is better the newly proven frail and weaker sex learn ‘vagina power’, which Female sexual control of release shall in perpetuity establish.
4. imprisoning by ‘masculinity deterrent” implements would decidedly lead males to fully re-thinking its impotency and/or inferiority compared to the sex that wields the key geometrically and with each passing day.
5. sexually controlled males and greatly increasing number of malegirls they become WILL INCREASINGLY yield to Female’ every preference in all other areas of conflict concerning power, behavior, thought, identity, roles, and yes, even dress.
6. also Your brilliant observation that the chastity bondage be decorative, as this impresses upon the male he is the one that now must visually please the superior Female sex – a concept quite the opposite of what the male once was its right in the past. From hence the Female’s needs are primary to enjoy the male as object.
7. choice of chastity control that leads even to the male never again able to stand in relieving the most basic bodily function of urinating, in fact in a manner much more restricted and controlled than Women shall ever have to perform. (In fact, most devices for malegirls will make them far more ‘dainty’ tinklers than Women ever were!)
Lady Alexis… get ready for a whole new era of mirth and empowerment as these recent tact You’ve chosen are made manifest (ooops! curtsey, Lady… i mean WOMANIFEST!). Suspect in a short time Alice’s training schedule shall have her soon presented publicly in a delightfully spectacular Public Debutante Presentation Party!
Oh, yes, one more thing… And of course it’s Your final choice on the type(s) of chastity chosen, but consider one at times that might keep Alice fully flat and girlish to remind her that there are situations You she may not be allowed to exhibit ANY ‘masculine’ features.
I think you should write your own blog after an extensive comment like that whyguys. Although you did make a mistake and frr that you will stand facing the corner for one hour with your trousers and underpants around your ankles and your hands on your head as a punishment. Repeat for the whole hour Lady Alexa not Alexis, Lady Alexa not Alexis……
*sniff* *tremble* Please Lady Alexa… i’m sorry, Female Master… b-b-but I’ve forgotten … when i’m finished with ‘corner time”—h-h-h-how d-do you put on trousers properly…. is the front or the back the part with that zipper thing????
Forget the trousers, put a skirt on
We bought a BON4M SMALL and it is nicely made but still too large for me, and requires an extra chain around my waist to make it secure…… probably not the best one to start with. Look at the Uberkinky website …. they have a great choice and are in the UK.
Hello Sharon and thank you for the advice. It’s all new for me and I am having to look myself as Alice is less than keen.
Thank you Sharon. Males always think their little thingies are bigger than they are. I’ll look at Uberkinky
Dear Lady Alexa,
Having tried many types(metal, silicon, CB), the Holy Trainer v.2 is most comfortable, and hides under clothes well. It also shows as you desire when sissy is barely dressed, especially in pink. It is easy to clean, and easiest for sissy to pee sitting like a girl. It is easy to take off, and put back on. I can comfortably exercise with it also, even bicycling. I strongly recommend it. The company’s service is excellent.
I will have a look at this one for Alice. I’ve included her in the selection process
Very nice. I love how it matches the stockings.
Yes I really love it too. It’s not my subby unfortunately it’s a photo I found online but it’s what I’m going to do to her
Another turn of the screw Lady A….Thank you….i will write to you direct on chastity…..
🙂
I look forward to it Jane
Should have it now…:-)
I do thank you for the extensive reply jane. I’ve told Alice to read through it.
My pleasure..hope it was useful. Very happy to answer further questions! 🙂
Lady Alexa,
Start off easy. There are $25 soft plastic pink ones that are very cute and comfy. I started that way myself. Alice will enjoy it….promise.
Soft and pink sounds great for Alice. I’ll let everyone know what Alice thinks after a week or so. I’m quite getting into the idea now
Hello. This is my first time commenting but you might find this helpful: https://denyingthumper.com/2015/02/13/the-best-male-chastity-device/
Based upon the criteria I would guess that the Holy Trainer V2 is probably a strong candidate. I have not personally experienced one but every written account I have read has championed it ahead of similar models. It also comes in pink. There is always a bit of an adjustment period at the start that may have some discomfort.
The biggest downside is that devices are never all that inexpensive and models outside the CB-X000 series tend to not include many sizing options included with the package.
I would have to believe that silicon models will fail #3 from your list. Metal is prone to being heavy and uncomfortable, but with the onset of many inexpensive made in China devices, these are likely the cheapest options available now and might serve to “test the waters” before spending a lot of money on a device.
Take care and good luck in your search.
Thank you for your first post furcissy. I’ll certainly have a look. I’m quite keen on the idea of a pink one.
You are very welcome, Lady Alexa.
I actually have a Pink Holy Trainer on the way. I’m hoping it will fit better than the others I have tried.
Depending upon the anatomy of their genitals #1 and #2 on the list will either be very easy or very difficult to meet. #3 may vary depending upon the device type. Some may require an additional strap of sorts to accommodate a lead and bell safely/securely. #4 and #5 may battle one another, as easy to clean = lots of open spots = makes it more likely that urine splatter will happen. #6 may take metal out of the question. Most plastic or silicon devices will give some lift. Metal tends to move things “forward” but the weight pulls them down as well.
#8 gets tricky and I can testify for it… seeing as we have in excess of $500 worth of CB’s that are buried in a storage tub that are too uncomfortable to wear for longer than 30 minutes. Jennie Jaye’s advice to start with a cheapie like that may be the way to start before sinking $150+ into something more serious. I only know of one seller that has a return policy on devices that have been tried on and worn (they are in the USA) so most of the time, if it doesn’t fit well… you are stuck with it.
Sissymaid missie’s recommendation for Chastity Mansion is also a good one. They have been around for a very long time and the people there really take chastity seriously.
Take care.
I have one love it
Lady Alexia
May I be so forward as to suggest joining http://www.chastitymansion.Com a very friendly place and lots of well informed people.
Curtsey
Sillymaid missie
OK are there other mistresses on this site?
Yes there are quite a few Ma’am.
Moderators and contributers are Mistresses. It has a more mature feel about it…not seedy…..
I’ve photos of my chastity on there, happy to chat about in private.
Curtsey. Sillymaid missie
Hot stuff..
We’ll see, let’s hope so