I’ve decided it’s time to encourage my sissy-girl husband Alice to become more submissive and accept more humiliation. It’s true that occasionally there is an element of pushing her into more feminisation but it’s always a joint decision in the end.
A joint decision mostly although I propose, persuade and push. But there are also times when Alice proposes something. I like that.
There is another element of my Female-Led lifestyle I enjoy that I don’t write about so much: Femdom.
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This Femdom of things increased after I attended a Mistress Workshop run by a professional Mistress for aspiring Mistresses. I discovered I enjoyed female domination and BDSM beyond just feminisation and a wife-led marriage, as much as that is fun.
I learned how to tread on a sissy’s balls and clitty in my heels and kick their little bits with the toe of my shoe. I couldn’t kick them too hard although the submissives asked for me to be much more forceful than I was able to do. I like punishing sissy clitties for being sissy clitties but there’s a limit.
I loved doing that anyway although I couldn’t be too hard in that area with my sissy hsuband as I don’t want to harm her.
And after having my Tumblr and Pinterest accounts closed down due to the content type (forced feminisation), my only social media sites are now Fetlife and Twitter. And Twitter is less fussy about its content and has opened my eyes somewhat to the excitement of slightly stronger Femdom activities.
I want to explore my femdom side a little more. Not as extreme as on Twitter but a little more might be nice. And although I have turned my husband into a pretty feminised sissy, I want even more submission from her and I want to do more humiliating things to her.
I feel heady at the propect. No submissive can understand the opposite thrill of having that kind of power over another person.
So, enough of Alice swanning around in pretty sissy clothes feeling girly, I want more fun by humiliating her. An alpha lady, like me, loves having a sissy husband to play with.
I decided after the Mistress Workshop I wanted more submission from Alice and less clothing. The sissy clitty is an excellent tool for dominating a sissy. Excellent indeed. And it’s so intoxicating to own a real one to play around with.
I’ve written about controlling a sissy’s clitty many times, suc as in CONTROLLING THE SISSY CLITTY and MY THOUGHTS ON THE SISSY CLITTY.
I returned home from work earlier this week, much earlier than normal, with all these Femdom and BDSM ideas whirling around in my head. Alice was, of course, at home and wearing a cute little loosely pleated flowery skirt. It was so short I could see her pink knickers. She also had on a white vest-like tee shirt with frills around the straps.
Her stockings were fine and her sandals open-toed so I could see her toenails were a bright shade of pink.
This was all very pretty but I had a change in mind; I wanted her naked and submissive for that evening. And I had the urge to spank her clitty and pussy balls even though sissy had done nothing wrong. It was what I’d done to the submissive at the Mistress Workshop and it was a wonderful powerful feeling.
Actually, although I’d trodden (lightly to his disappointment) on the sissy’s balls and clitty at the workshop with my heels and soles, it was a step too far for me to do to my husband even though she had told me after I had related the Mistress Workshop story that she didn’t mind me slapping harder than I did.
That was an interesting revelation but I was pensive when I got in from work. Sissy Alice asked me what the problem was. I waited a while then decided. “Sissy, I want you to remove your clothing. You’ll remain naked and exposed all evening. Maybe every evening for a while.”
She looked at me, a little disappointed as she’d made a big effort to look girly for me. She was looking pretty and had obviously tried hard.
“I want you to put on your pink bikini top and wear that. Only that.”
Sissy Alice looked quite surprised and said she’d put on her short skirt as she knew I liked it.
“Never mind,” I told her, “I changed my mind so just do as I say.”
I followed her upstairs to watch her undress. She removed her clothing and put on her pink bikini top and stood before me otherwise naked. Her clitty was standing to attention. She liked this. That was good.
I told her I was feeling more dominant after the workshop and reading some of the Twitter posts. I warned her what I wanted to do might sting a little more than usual but I needed to spank her clitty and pussy balls even though she’d been a good sissy.
She reminded me of the discussion we’d had when she’d told me that was more than fine.
I gave her erect clitty several swipes with my open palm and it felt good. I’ll swear she got even harder. I then slapped her pussy balls with my rising palm and got a satisfying flat slapping sound. Idid pull my slap a bit but it was a good slap all the same.
I felt the power surge in me, this was electrifying. I then tugged her by her pussy balls. Nothing too hard but I wanted to see how far I could tug them.
I’d seen on Twitter that there were several toys that femdom women used on a sissy’s bits and I wanted to get some — weight and stretchers, that sort of thing. BDSM toys. I’ve already been searching on Oxy-Shop but nothing too much. Some sex toys forthe sissy clitty and balls are completely over the top for what we want.
I have no idea why this is so much fun to play with my sissy’s bits like this, but it is.
I then got a little pink ribbon and I tied it round the back of her pussy balls and the base of her clitty. I made a little bow at the top. “This is how you will be for me every evening for a while, Sissy.”
If Alice’s erection had got any harder, I swear it might have exploded.
And here’s the full story of How I Feminized My Husband. Click on the book cover image of sissy Alice for more info.
Thank you for sharing your experiences lady Alexa, I love reading your posts, they make me see that this is possible. Congratulations !!
Glad you like to read my-our experiences
I wouldn’t take CBT, especially ball kicking, lightly.
Why?
Just check how protagonist’s from MTV Jackass are doing health-wise in their private regions.
Vast majority of things are better left to imagination, because injuries, trauma and consequential overall health – must be a hard limit in any Domination relationship..
Nobody has a super healing powers.
FLR can always go full throttle in verbal and situational domination. Physical has it’s limits: our fragile human body.
Regardless how men try to present themselves as “though”.
Or as it was falsely attributed to Betty White: “Why do people say, ‘grow some balls’? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.”
You don’t appear to have read my article properly. The first part relates an experience at a Mistress Training Workshop in London. Voluntary submissives attend as live slaves to practise on for the training. It was the submissive who was demanding I trod on his balls and kicked him. Not me.
Whilst I like this idea in principle very much and using a sissy clitty for punishment, what he wanted was a step (literally) too far. And at no time did I write about CBT but about spanking Alice’s bits with a flat hand albeit more firmly than in the past. And again, this was not at my insistance despite being attracted to the idea and telling Alice I was but it was at Alice’s request.
I updated my post as obviously some readers need things spelt out more clearly than others.
I am curious if you ever take your sissy to a salon to get a full feminine treatment including eye brows shaped, pedicure, manicure hair colored and/or styled, maybe a perm, bodyvwaxing, makeover and whatever service the salon offers??
No. I did take her once to a salon for a manicure and had someone come to the house for nails on several occasions after I’d checked carefully they were ok with it being a male. I also found a unisex hairdressers who was more than happy to style her hair. But it’s hard as I don’t like to involve others in our lifestyle unless fully signed up to what is an alternative lifestyle and not for everyone. I tread carefully therefore as it’s unfair to make others uncomfortable to satisfy our desires..
I teased and tickled the truth from my husband over time. He gets SO excited when I tickle him, he blurts out the truth. Soon I knew my ticklish attorney husband loves my stinky feet, soooo we explored that, when I was really sweaty. Soon I had him in panties on weekends, rubbing and kissing my bare feet even when I had gal pals visiting. Sometimes Todd was nude, smelling my feet, serving drinks, with women present. He thrived on humiliation so I pushed him more, and voila, he has bisexual and cuckhold fantasies. Mmmm, so do I. I made Todd beg to clean me up when k had my first “date”, and the ultimate was two years ago, he went down on a man under my supervision. Humiliation works ladies, but it helps to find your partners weaknesses and take control in a FLR situation
Very true, humilition works just fine
I would love to see her.
Such a lucky gurl.
she is
Why is Alice wearing dark stockings with a pink skirt?
Why is Alice wearing dark stockings with a pink skirt?
WHy not?
Ooooo, that’s nothing better than a sissy naked in heels! So adorable, we need to see some pictures but maybe cover her clittu?
I agree, I’ve stopped posting new photos as I was worried about leaving a clue and being spotted but I’ll try to sort something out
I have always wanted to be a woman’s wife since my late teens. I have been looking all my life for this very special lady.
I hope you find what you’re looking for
Sounds delightful xx I’m well exp in all of this I have a sissy husband who as been feminised and treated harshly for years xx yours Julie x
So you know how delightful this is
Very well written Lady Alexa. It is lovely to ‘hear’ Your thought process having been to the workshop and how Your mind is working its way through what you saw. From a submissive husbands stand point i think the thought of having my balls and clitty slapped would fill me with fear but Your approach is so loving that it would remove any such feeling.
Loving and naughty
The whole Femdom/BDSM lifestyle is a one of evolution. Your ‘harsh’ treatment of Alice today day will make you smile in years to come.
I was ‘soft’ and needed my feminine side bring out all my life. But I would never have thought that my wife would have ‘pushed’ me to the point that I now live 98% of my life as a female. I would never have agreed to having real breasts. Have a tight bow around my clitty at the moment put on by my wife and a very short T top as I sit here typing this. It’s a warm Sunday morning here. I’ll be only wearing the short T top all day. Clitty exposed with a bow on it. No bras and my breasts on clear display. My wife has a huge smile and that’s what it’s all about.
I’ll guarantee that you can’t imagine now what your Alice will be like in years to come. All it takes it tiny baby steps and almost everything will be possible.
Oh yes. The bow on my clitty feels wonderful and attracts much attention from my wife. That in turn gets a real reaction from my clitty. But no spurties.
Embrace every step of your journey. If Alice is anything like me she will wake up one day and be asking you to go the next step.
love
Belinda/Bruce
I agree, I have no idea where we’ll be in ten years. I tend to change my mind and go off in a different direction as I wrote about here.
Thank you for sharing Mistress. This is how my Mistress evolved her way of developing me.
None of it happened at once – there were gradual steps taken, I have been caged 24/7 for a number of years let out on birthdays, wedding anniversary and Xmas days. The use of strap on, paddles, leg spreaders, hog-ties, penis gags etc were all introduced over a period of time so their use fits Mistresses moods.
I wish you well in developing your sissy the way you want to. I’m sure she will be very grateful for the attention even though there is likely to be some whimpers ! Lucky girl
Maid katie
Yes, these things take time and some things we would have baulked at a couple of years ago we now consider in play
Wow, after my last comment, this page sprung up, so I did get to read it.
Now for the real comment…
I am glad that you are moving forward, I have been reading your blog for years, and have the feeling of climbing a mountain, and stopping half way up, just standing and looking upward.
And now I see you are actually moving forward, congratulations. You have informed her that she will be suffering some pain for your pleasure. A test of wills, a test of obedience. A test of love. As for you, remember the term “aftercare”. Yes, I have experience as a domm.
I’ve stood nose to nose with my sissy, caressing her and asking softly if she will suffer pain for my pleasure. From all I have read from you, I have no doubt that you can distinguish between erotic pain and long term abuse.
That’s because ALice fixed the problem, thanks for letting me know. I’d say pain is not what I give ALice, more of a light sting and her embarrassment
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Seems to work for some and not for others. My husband is checking it out
This came on me so fast & I never saw it coming!
She denied me sex for over 3 weeks & I was extremely in need.
I had stopped masturbating at her request a year earlier.
I was getting dressed for work & she surprised me by demanding I let myself be locked in the cage so I could not get myself off at work. I was late & let her put it on me.
All day I was in a terrible state! I needed to get off!
When I got home she told me to undress & I thought finally, release!
No, she told me to vacuum the living room, naked except for my cage.
Then she handed me lace trimmed pink panties & said put them on.
I begged to cum & she said no, not ever again!
Omg, not ever??
It was all down hill from Theresa she would get me to the edge, stop & fem me more!
I’m now in a terrible state of hornyness, frustration & feminized obedience!
You stopped masturbating a year ago? I stopped ALice doing that from the beginning, even before we got into an FLR
My wife is interested in Femdom and BDSM as an addition to our FLR. Would you share the name of the workshop you attended or how to find a good workshop for aspiring mistresses?
Thank you.
It was this one – https://www.mistressworkshop.com/ Run by Mistress Kim Rub
thank you. I’ve been following her on X.
Lady Alexa,
I sounds like a subdued aspect of who you are has awoken within you. You like this new aspect and want to explore the possibilities within it.
It also sounds like Alice responds well to this new side of you, she may even like it or at least is excited by the new you, for now.
It’s mor eit’s always been there but I’ve now decided to let it out a little more
This is the life I want to live now. I need to me totally submissive to a dominant woman & obey what ever she demands.
I have tried this with several pro doms & now know I need this as my permanent life.
Good luck