A female orgasm is not the same as a male orgasm in terms of outcome and value. Female orgasms are more valuable. In fact, once the male has completed his reproductive duties, what value is there in him orgasming and cumming? There is none.
And this is why.
Once the male orgasms and discharges, he’s finished. He’s had his few moments of pleasure and he’s ready to sleep. He instantly loses sexual drive and any interest in affection, passion and, worse still, any interest in serving the superior female as part of the FLR.
This is not acceptable.
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Realigning your FLR through sissy orgasm control
So we have established that male orgasm is not conducive to a fully-functioning FLR. Indeed, for hot-blooded women in an older relationship, such as mine, the older sissy may need two or more days to recover his sexual drive.
This is unacceptable as it stifles the female leader’s wishes.
Nothing good comes from the sissy male orgasm apart from a few moments of sexual release and pleasure for the sissy and a sticky mess for the lady. And I don’t like condoms so that’s not going to work either.
The female orgasm, on the other hand, is different. Her orgasm charges and refreshes her, not tires her. The euphoria that the sissy male experiences while orgasming is short and temporary but the female orgasm euphoria continues long after the lady has cum.
Her sense of euphoria can last for several hours. And she can orgasm again. And again.
A lady does not get tired and disinterested after an orgasm like the male, she becomes invigorated and happier. Indeed, the more she orgasms, the better for her and, by extension, her sissy partner.
A sissy’s objective
With the differing outcomes to orgasm & cumming between a lady and a male, it’s clear that once reproductive goals are achieved, the male has no further need to orgasm. His orgasm serves no longer serves any purpose. The sissy’s objective should then be to follow a regime of orgasm denial for the lady’s benefit.
If the sissy does not follow a voluntary orgasm denial, the lady should insist in order to deny her partner any further orgasms and improve their FLR.
Achieving sissy orgasm control
There are different ways to achieve this. The lady may put her sissy into chastity. Locking him away and not even permitting him to have sex. He may satisfy her with his tongue, his fingers or she may take a lover and cuckold him.
My own approach to to continue with full marital relations but to ensure my sissy husband never cums. We stop at the critical point and let him calm down to avoid him orgasming.
I don’t like the idea of cuckolding and, if I were to take a lover, I would still have the problem of male discharge and I’d need to deny him too. Besides, I do not like alpha males.
Achieving the perfect Female Led Marriage
My husband reports that the pleasure he receives from making me happier through his orgasm denial is greater than the loss of interest and the need to recover from orgasming. He reports that he still has intense sexual pleasure even though there’s no release.
In fact, it’s better as love making continues for far longer.
It may seem counter-intuitive but the more I train him not to cum and the longer we practise his orgasm denial, the easier it is for him to control his orgasm and the longer he can last before we need to stop for a while.
He now lasts far longer before getting the feelings of imminent orgasm than at any time in his adult life despite the lack of orgasm over what is now a protracted period of time.
In addition to the benefits of regular access to an always-ready erection that I never had before his orgasm denial, the energy and excitement I experience from the dominance and total authority I have over his orgasm control makes our FLR intense and exhilarating.
Controlling your sissy’s orgasm gives an overwhelming experience of total authority, power and control.
And for the sissy, he picks up my energy and euphoria at this domination and his utter submission and this makes everything far more intense for him too. He also reports a far more satisfying sex and daily life from orgasm denial. He feels a constantly high sense of sexual pleasure despite the lack of orgasm.
ORGASMS ARE FOR WOMEN
Male orgasms therefore have no benefit and they serve no purpose for me or for my sissy. He’s meant to serve me and ensure my desires are met. Anything that obstructs this mission needs to be removed. Sissy orgasm would be a barrier to a perfect FLR.
An FLR is the most harmonious way to live way to live for many reasons but at the foundation for us, is sissy orgasm denial. It makes so much sense.
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Lady Alexa l advice you to read about male semen retention, on the site Evolvingyour man, YogaGirl explains many benefits of s.retaintion for men and women and how this practice can improve overall relationship. Most men prefer gentle femdom where they can treat their beloved ladies like Queens, to serve, please, cherish, protect, provide and take care of them. When the gentleman embrace his giving and serving nature, he wants to respect, honour, take care, be thoughtful to his beloved ladies needs, he puts her wellbeing and pleasure on the first place. During the intercourse, instead of jackhammering and abusing the woman like a doll for his selfish desires, when he reveals his giving and serving nature through s.retention he desires to protect, provide and serve his lady in & out of bed by giving her the most pleasurable experience and multiple orgasms that she merits and expects. Women get healthier , nourished and charged by multiple orgasms, men instead lose their health get weak,drained, exhausted and don’t want to take care, serve and please their ladies after ejaculation. That why men who love their ladies want them to assist them with s.rerention.He becomes charmimg, chivalrous gentleman, who treats and cherish his lady like a queen, what woman doesn’t want these thoughtful, caring signs of care and respect.
I agree. Ensring my husband practises semen retention / orgasm denial has been a major improvement in my FLR
Maybe if an occasional release is needed this can be done by 2 sissy girls to each other. They could masturbate each other, and maybe bind up each other’s clitties in ribbon afterwards.
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I owe Alexa a huge thank you! I always thought guys needed release but after joining your blog I have denied my poor submissive husband orgasm for over 12 months. Oh he complained like the little bitch he is for a while about his balls aching, but I stood my ground. He provides me orgasms orally, and I tease him mercilessly (he adores my smelly feet), yet he’s not allowed to come. It’s our new normal, he had adapted and he is much more attentive to my needs. Men do not need orgasms, I love the power I have in our marriage, I’m good to Todd, I reward him by letting him explore his kinks (my feet, me tickling him, my smelly sweaty body after exercise), yet I get orgasms and he does not.
Guys want release which is an entirely different thing to need. Denying males orgasms works wonders.
My wife and I are in total agreement with a woman’s orgasm being paramount as my wife’s Sissy Housewife Husband it is my job to ask and offer oral pleasure multiple times a day. I know she can be pleasured any time and any place. My orgasm is not important with one exception. She only permits me a partial orgasm when she milks and feeds me my own semen. She uses a Hitachi Wand and a large spoon to get me to squirt and removes the Wand as soon as I tell her I am ready to squirt. The semen does squirt but the orgasm is ruined. As soon as I am done I squeeze out every last drop and she puts the spoon in my mouth. I have learned my semen is to never be wasted and must be swallowed.
Good to hear Leighanne. I do sometimes allow Alice a controlled discharge as I want to be sure there’s no prostrate problems with holding it in. I don’t permit the orgasm though and make sure it’s spoilt. I haven’t yet tried to feed him his semen though.
100% agree with your post. Orgasms are very rare for me. In fact at the rate I am going I may never be allowed one again. Denial keeps me in a perpetual horny state which I love. It keeps my energy high and focused on pleasing my wife. I get an incredible erotic rush and deep submissive feeling when we have sex and my wife orgasms but I do not. The euphoria from that lasts with me for days. Even though I am denied I feel like I have a better sex life than most guys.
My husband makes exactly the same comments, Joe. And it’s part of the reason I keep him in orgasm denial but not chastity. There are obviousy big benefits to me too but I’ve documented them many times.
I may do a post on Alice’s side of the story and what he gets out of my rule.
When holding the fallus up hard and performing sexually with the partner the blood pressure shoots above 170 mm/Hg. (Systolic, The upper number). The heart rate is above 130. The rush of hormones at resolution is to get the heart rate and blood pressure down to safe levels, so he doesn’t say have an aneurysm, a stroke, heart attack or some other selfish reaction.
Take a vacation to south America and find a surgeon who will remove Alice’s prostate and seminal glands. Be done with your problems.
It’s spelt PHALLUS and you haven’t read my posts properly.
Phallus rhymes with Malice rhymes with Alice.
Please add an edit button.
Say Hello to blue balls for me.
Phallus rhymes with callous and Dallas not Alice. Alice rhymes with malice, like the song title borrowed from the film. Alice’s balls are not blue as explained in my earlier articles along with why.
I got mad after I read in “Feminized by my wife” Kindle edition; chapter 7, paragraph 9, sentence 7.
“Miss Treet ground my erection and pussy balls with the sole of her boot as if they were an old discarded cigarette.”
The pussy balls hang in the sack for a reason. 1. To keep them from getting to warm. 2. Keep them from rubbing against each other or getting pinned against each other or the body. They have sweet spots where pressure can cause on to rupture. Once one ruptures its finished. Out of business forever. The scrotum can get caught on the corner of her heel and rip. It hurts badly. The stiches hurt even more. I know about the stiches personally.
I’d rather live in a cardboard box than with my mother, smoking is like eating grass out of the lawn. Nicotine does nothing for me. I only seem to attract women who are more messed up than I am.
Disfrutar. 🙂
Miss Treet is an experienced dominatrix. She knows exactly how to press against a submissive’s balls without damage. You also need to understand the use of metaphor by writers rather than taking things too literally.
Lady Alexa your comment “Controlling your sissy’s orgasm gives an overwhelming experience of total authority, power and control”, sums it all up. It’s about “control” and not about “denial”. IMHO.
A sissy “rewarded” every now again will me more attentive if she thinks there may be a possibility of a reward. Coming/cumming.
FWIW after years of serving my wife I don’t miss cumming at all. In fact when she decides to milk me I find it all somewhat humiliating. So I nolonger see it as a reward as such but rather as her controlling my clitty.
Either way I now find it much more rewarding to see, feel and hear my wife having her orgasm. I can be the reason for her orgasm or she may just make me watch as she pleasures herself. A sissies life is about a happy wife regardless of how she controls her sissy.
I wish you both well and hope Alice sees the benefits of a very happy wife.
Belinda
Alice does get the benefits of having a happy mistress
Dear Lady Alexa. “Your Orgasms Are For Women” post is spot on. An orgasm by the submissive male in the relationship is a selfish act on his part. During his recovery time, he is not nearly as attentive and servile as he should be, thus depriving his Wife/Mistress of the royal treatment She most richly deserves. As counterintuitive as it may sound, male orgasm denial results in a deeper, longer lasting appreciation of Her as he knows that it is what She truly desires and is the essence of a true loving FLR relationship. He should consider it a privilege to do everything in his power to make his Wife/Mistress happy at all times even if it means sacrificing his own selfish, short-lived pleasure. It is definitely a small price for him to pay.
Yes, an orgasm by a sissy is a selfish act.
Like me the sissy male needs to be constrained and trained to fully please his Mistress denying his own orgasms through chastity relieved only when needed for procreation. The sissy needs 60 days for his cycle. He is cleaned and bathed on the 60th day and put in a very short expensive silk gown to mid thigh and taken by the eunuch to to the luxury play room where She is waiting for him in a black leather fully zipped cat suit.
The sissy needs to be denied, chastity is ony one option.