One of the things I need to stress is that my relationship with Alice is a loving one. We met, fell in love and married. So the fact we’ve since ‘spiced things up a little’ is an addition to our relationship but not a replacement for our married life together and apart from her being feminised, we go about the rest of our life as any married couple do.
This means that although I’ve taken over the leadership of our relationship and as part of this I’ve feminised my husband, it doesn’t mean that I’m going to do anything that really upsets her (Alice) and makes her life sad.
It’s always a balance for me to see how far I can push Alice whilst acknowledging that I don’t want her to suffer or be miserable. This pushing of boundaries doesn’t stop at her discomfort, just when it goes into her being unhappy and a lack of pleasure for her.
However, she accepts she has to try things and we can them discuss together and I can then decide whether it’s too much or not for her.
This I have to say was the case with the butt plug for Alice. Now I really like the idea and some limted online research seemed to suggest it would be (eventually) nice for Alice. Our first attempt ended in failure.
Apart from a difficulty in keeping it in and that it was the smallest one we could find (maybe these two elements are linked) it left Alice not only cold but in some discomfort. She felt nothing pleasant leading me to think that maybe the online stories of the pleasure felt by men in that area are grossly exaggerated. In fact she commented is was like she needed to go to ‘number twos’.
So for now, we’ve parked that idea for a bit as it added nothing to my enjoyment seeing Alice really unhappy with something.
Next on to the sissy maid dress. I had high hopes for this but although I remain interested in having Alice dress as a maid while she serves me and cleans, the dress was quite simply so short it was more like a short shirt, finishing just below waist.
I guess that’s the problems of buying something online manufatured in a country where people are several inches shorter than a 6ft tall English girl called Alice. I love the little pinny though so that will feature again.
And finally just to report that the changes I implemented such as permanent leg shaving have become the norm and the purchase of the electric woman’s shaver has worked very well.
One of the problems and reluctance of Alice to keep shaving her body was the time it took and the little nicks she made with the razor. All eliminated with this wonderful device, a great purchase.
I also have to say that in the gym or now that it’s warmer, in shorts outside the home, no one seems to have noticed that Alice in her male guise has perfectly smooth legs although Alice is always nervous about showing her now permanently feminised legs. Anyway even if they did notice it wouldn’t matter – her discomfort is fine and probably desirable, her being miserable is not.
rubberpinafore has hot shares! To each their own :))))))))))
My wife and I have been married for over 35 years and during that time I have become her full time maid and wear a professional uniform at all times. That consists of a proper maid or nurse dress, tabard and at least two aprons, plus rubber gloves and a formal headdress. I am kept plugged at all times (and caged to prevent unauthorised “fondling”) and I have a tip to pass on to keep the butt plug in place.
Push the dildo in, put on a waist apron with long ties and pull them tightly under your bottom over the base of the plug. Wrap the apron ties around the base of the cock, behind the balls and knot them once tight. To complete, put on heavy rubber panties. Not only will the plug never fall out but movement is limited and curtsying is also fun!
As to the dress being too short, I strongly recommend a proper supplier such as Alexandra work wear for professional items. A maid’s dress needs to be practical and humiliating and this is perfect when used with PVC aprons.
Thank you for these suggestions, I will certainly try the butt plug idea. I have looked at the Alexandra site and it’s a little too practical for my tastes. I much prefer Alice in something girlie and very feminine.
Trust me, the butt plug will become a permanent feature once it is strapped up there and you will have hours of fun making him pick up bits from the floor, simply to watch him bend over and see his intruder go deeper every time. Just make sure the apron ties are long and quite broad. A standard English waitress apron is ideal and looks very feminine. Perhaps you will also need to select different styles of plug to help with his pleasure. I prefer a medium sized plug with a very narrow, tapered end at the base so the sphincter also offers grip. I am sure he will get to love his back door buddy as it will rest on the prostate and keep him horny all the time.
As to Alexandra, they are professional and not very girlie so perhaps not quite what you need. If his current dress is too short, may I suggest a longer see-through apron to protect his uniform and still allow you a view of his girlie bits? There are some very good semi-transparent PVC bibbed aprons that can be locked on to add to his humiliation and keep him suitably attired in skivvies while attending to his chores- and to you.
And to finish, a nice sturdy cock cage (CB 3000 is a good start) also offers you a good view of his frustration and will keep you amused as he busies himself around the house.
U really are a very considerate mistress Lady A..yes u would certainly not like ur girl to b miserable..and i think Alice also knows ur always right thats why she follows ur instructions at the same time she knows u care for her hence she opens upto u if any prob…ut an ideal mistress Lady A
Thank you Shelby, I think I’m a bit too considerate sometimes
Lady A only that person can be considerate who has the power and who can choose to do so. I would relate an incident which happened recently with me. I was home early and was preparing dinner for me and my owner wife when my mom-in-law came. She was expected to come but my wife got delayed, I was dressed usually in my shorts and vest with an apron on. I offered her drinks as she settled to wait and then she began talking and suddenly said she was very tired and could I massage her legs, I was taken aback. I had massaged her legs before but only when my wife instructed me to. I didnt know how to react but then I thought she was nearing 70 and my owner’s mom so I sat beside her and begun massaging her legs. While I was doing so, sometime later my owner returned and to my relief she smiled sweetly when she saw me massaging her mom’s legs and settled down on another chair. My mom-in-law also signalled to me that she was fine now. My owner instructed me to get a drink for her and another for her mother. I brought accordingly and then my wife asked me to sit beside her on the floor (she was on a chair) and massage her legs, SHe began talking to her mother as I was massaging her legs and in between she was tousling my hair , fondling my cheeks without looking at me .I felt as if i was a toy in her hands.After sometime she told she was happy with my behaviour and i can stop massaging . I got up and then my wife firmly patted my butt number of times and asked me to go and take some rest as I had been a good servant. Now my wife has been so nice and considerate to me and sweet too but she got the power over me, controls me totally and that makes her considerate. If you have the power only then you can be considerate.. Lady A and that you have over Alice..curtseys Shelby
Yes, I agree, such a delightful post to read about your loving relationship. Also so exciting to a man who wishes that his wife would “push” some issues. I would welcome discomfort of feminisation such as being required to wear a plug or feminine clothing. During the winter season I kept my legs shaved, but upon spring arriving, my wife said it was time to let it grow in as she did not want anyone to see my smooth legs. I would have been willing to brave that discomfort and the thought of “permanently feminised legs” is so thrilling to me!
Permanently shaved legs haven’t yet caused Alice any problems in the outside world, nor shaved chest. I haven’t yet pushed the shaved lower arms but maybe…
The things that didn’t work can still work.
With plugs matching size of the plug to the size of the person is important. To get the pleasure of that slight pressure against the prostate gland it has to be the right size. Think small for small anatomy, medium for medium, etc. If the plug is too small you get exactly the effect that was experienced. A person 6ft-ish would be medium to large or even in between at medium large. Go slightly larger than the first one tried and if that doesn’t do it slightly larger again and stop once at the right size.
The maids dresses can be made to size, costs a bit more but so worth it 🙂
Also I recall reading about no pleasure concerns for you regarding strapons. Look into the feeldoe, share and one other I don’t remember the name of right now sorry. Also use them with a harness even though they can be used without it just works better. See rubyryder pegging paradise too.
Yes I want to carry on with the butt plug even if Alice doesn’t. I think your suggestion is good, slightly larger.
Dear Lady A,
It is truly wonderful to read that your relationship is such a loving one, which is really the most important thing. Every time I read your updates on Alice’s progress or reservations, I cannot help imagining how I would feel as a feminised subservient husband, if I were in the same kind of relationship (which, in many ways, would be a dream come true). One thing I would certainly see myself enjoying with passion would be the idea of wardrobe-building. I would open the doors to my girly wardrobe and feast my eyes on my crisp, billowing blouses, my pleated skirts, my delightfully emasculating girly cardigans and my pretty dresses. I would keep it all arranged by colour, fabric and style and enjoy fussing over my feminine collection and enjoying every ribbon, every button, every faux pocket. Not to mention the accessories! Well, enough about me and MY fantasies, but I was just wondering what sort of effect such closet building would have (or has had) on Alice (?). I think you are certainly right in letting her (partly) chose her own styles, and I cannot imagine anything more pleasurable for a feminised submissive hubby than to develop her girly poise and elegance by managing her own emasculating wardrobe. In addition, she could also iron, fold and arrange your wardrobe (if she doesn’t already).
As for the buttplug issue – well, perhaps it’s an acquired taste, which might take a few attempts. But one thing I enjoy very much in any case is one of those (pretty tight) elastic pearl bracelets which, instead of being worn around one’s wrist, can also be worn around one’s (clean shaven) pussy balls. I adore that feeling and perhaps Alice might like it as well as an occasional “secret pleasure” under her skirt!
regarding the pssy balls, Alice has some rubber cock rings which I like her to wear. They go quite nicely with a little pink bow tied there too
Thank you again Lady A for another lovely addition to the blog. I love the fact that you really appear genuine and in a loving relationship and whatever happens…that is paramount.. Some things are too important to spoil…i hope that Alice appreciates your approach..and perhaps gives a little in other areas….
That said… i cant deny that there is a part of me that thinks practice makes perfect…and that Alice is perhaps pushing back a little hard on the plug routine. First time i had one in i had the same feelings as Alice…but, in the interests of adopting what i thought was good practice for a feminised sub… i persisted…and did pleasurable things whilst it was in…ie…dressed en femme! i have to say that now…there is definite pleasure…perhaps by association…but definitely from the constant feeling of fullness that i have come to yearn… Other subs may associate it with the likelihood of it paving the way for an invasion of another kind …from a strapon from a Mistress ..or the real thing… but for me that is not on the cards currently.. much as i’d like to experience… I suspect that Alice needs to have confidence that the feeling she has is just the plug..and not the real Number two!.. and an effective strategy for keeping the her clear in that department will let her relax a bit more rather than worry that she is about to have an accident.
The bad sizing of the sissymaid dress is a shame as i expect you ordered it from the same site that i did..and i have to admit that its good quality… mind you…who really cares if its too short and humiliates Alice a bit…lol. Perhaps she needs a bit of jewellery down there to add to the view?
I did wonder too…as she has not had her ears pierced…how you felt about nipples or even belly button piercings….imagine jewellery there too… she does owe you one remember…. 😉
Pleased to hear though that the legs remain smooth..something i have taken to myself and continue to maintain now as i love the smooth feeling..especially when wearing Fully Fashioned stockings.
Remain persistent…please… just like developing tastes in food and drink…i’m sure that Alice’s body will come to accept…and finally enjoy the feeling…
Thank you again… curtsy
cj 🙂
.
what a kind and Domme you are. Pushing the comfort zone. Hot shares
Thanks Jane. I’ve been quite busy lately and haven’t had the opportunity to write much. I agree that Alice needs to practice more with the plug and I’m going to persevere with it. I don’t know why but I really like the idea. Yes she owes me and it’s invisible to the outside world so there’s no excuse. As for the short maid’s dress, yes you know I enjoy her on display so I’ve kept the dress and I’ll dress her little clitty up