There are many great things about being a mistress leading a wife-led marriage and teasing sissy is one of them. Never underestimate the pleasure a dominant lady gets from teasing their subbies.
In this case, teasing sissy means making my sissy husband think she’s finally going to cum but then not allowing it at the last moment – edging but with the added fun that she’s not orgasmed for so long. It’s divine agony for her to be stopped on the edge. Or ruining it, Whatever, it’s fun.
I have two current over-riding rules in my wife-led relationship. Rule 1 is that my husband must be a submissive sissy girl. Rule 2 is that she must not orgasm.
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I am in the early stages of a major change in our FLR that will usher in a 3rd over-riding rule which will be that she will no longer be allowed to have sex with me and only with another sissy. The no-orgasm rule for her may remain in place for all the reasons I have written about many times.
Currently (July 2024) I’m in the stage of weaning her off a wife-husband type sex life. Rule 3 is not there yet at the time of writing but that’s the longer term goal I’m working towards.
Controlling sissy’s clitty
I’ve written about about Rule 1 that my husband must be a submissive sissy often and it forms the basis of our relationship. The majority of the posts on this site are about this rule.
I wrote about the future Rule 3 and how I’m working towards it here: The Final Sissy Frontier.
I’ve also published several posts on Rule 2 and why I don’t permit my sissy husband, Girl, to orgasm. My No-Orgasm Rule 2 has two benefits beyond those I first thought about when I made the rule I wrote about here, and here.
I’ve come to believe that even if you are a Mistress who allows your sissy to orgasm, controlling sissy orgasms is an important element of an FLR. And it’s a perfect demonstration of total control. The dominant lady owns her sissy’s clitty.
Whilst I lock Girl in a chastity cage often, she’s not kept in chastity at all times and never will be. I put her little miss clitty in a tiny cage to prevent the risk of her playing with herself when I’m not around.I’m also trying to shrink her little princess as I while want it to continue to function, I’d like it cuter and more clitty-like.
Since I won’t be using it to give me satisfaction once I get to Rule 3, Girl having a smaller, cuter and prettier clitty will be an excellent result.
Edging & control in an FLR
Edging my husband, Girl to the point and stopping has become a highly amusing pastime. It cements in both our minds how much I am in charge. I bring Girl to the brink and stop. Because I can. And because it’s funny.
At present, this includes her having to stop before cumming during any sexual activity. Once I’ve stopped our husband-wife approach to sex fully, edging her will be the responsibility of whichever sissy I choose or me using my hand.
I often masturbate her to the edge as a regular training activity. This helps with her learning not to cum but is also tremendously good fun.
Although Girl knows there is absolutely no chance of me allowing her a release when I’m rubbing her Miss Clitty, her little mind often starts to wonder if this time it might happen. I guess the male psyche expects that having their clitties stroked is foreplay to the big event despite what I tell her and the evidence of the past couple of years.
Her instincts ignore the fact that while I’m rubbing her Miss Clitty, I constantly tell her she will not be cumming. I always start things by asking her if she’d like to cum this time.
“Yes please, Mistress,” she always replies.
“I’m sorry, Petal, but you know you’re not allowed to cum.” I’m not a nasty Mistress who shouts and screams and neither am I cruel. I am usually gentle and caring with her. That said, I’m not sorry she can’t cum. It’s for her own good.
“Hold it in, baby girl,” I tell her and laugh seeing her face red and anguished trying hard to not orgasm even though her whole being wants to do just that. And as I play with her little thing, I remind her, “Mistress doesn’t like sissy mess. No spurting, darling sissy.”
It’s what sissy training is about: overcoming a sissy’s inbuilt programming. In fact, after a long time of not cumming, she can last longer than ever before.
It’s an amazing feeling to rub her clitty and feel her body tensing further and further in expectation as she gets to the point of almost cumming. Then I stop. “You’re a good sissy pansy,” I say. “Mistress is pleased we had no nasty sissy mess.”
I sometimes wait a little while for her to calm down and then start again. It gives me so much pleasure. “Is my sissy bimbo’s clitty ready to cum? Poor little sissy girl. Is Mistress being cruel? You know it’s for the best, Petal.”
I can do whatever she wants. I’ve found I can touch it lightly and it stays on the edge for ages. This is delightful fun. I like to also slap it and her pussy balls while telling her, “This is a naughty Miss Clitty, Petal. Miss Clitty wants to make a mess even though she isn’t allowed to. My poor femboy.
Since we’re currently still doing the husband and wife thing in the bed, I love to play around with her clitty after I’ve orgasmed (sometimes often) and she hasn’t. This is amazing fun as her body is so tense and her clitty almost splitting with hardness. But it’s not going to happen and it’s such fun to tease her.
I have made a change as we move towards a future of her not allowed to have sex with me. I no longer allow her to see me naked. I change into a nightie for bed and all activity is in the dark. I’ve also withdrawn bringing her to the edge with my mouth.
That said, I love to put my lips close to her clitty and pretend I’m going to. Teasing sissy is such fun.
This is a stage towards her getting these acts from another sissy only. What sissy doesn’t like a blow job? Well, Girl will get one but only from another sissy.
Once she has a sissy girlfriend, it’ll be the sissy she’s doing it with. And still not cumming although there’s a part of me thinking it might work for her to cum in a sissy vagina. It could cement things better. Not sure, the jury’s out. Let me know in the comments what you think.
I will add that I give Girl milking sessions. I’ve read that it might be necessary for prostate health. Other web sites dispute this but to be sure, I will milk her using latex gloves and a face mask. I ruin her orgasm of course and she has to clean up.
Teasing Sissy
So things are moving towards the next stage of our wife-led marriage albeit far too slowly. Other aspects of our life have intervened but that’s life. Now things are settling down, I hope to re-instigate the move to sissy love and get things going.
And let me know in the comments what you think about letting Girl cum with another sissy or to continue to no-orgasm rule. I’m in two minds.
But whatever I decide, I’m certain 2024 will be the year of sissy love. Click on the e-reader cover below to find out more about sissy love.
Dear Lady Alexa,
I whole heartedly concur with your approach to teasing Girl’s clitty and denying her orgasms. As you say it teaches her respect for you, and develops more control and confidence for her.
As regarding her forthcoming love making sessions with another sissy which you are generously planning to arrange, I would say, on reflection, that she should be allowed to cum in another sissy’s pussy hole, but only once she has blown off and swallowed the other sissy’s semen beforehand. Naturally this would have to be done to your satisfaction before she could be permitted to have her little ‘treat’.
You’re so sweet and loving and kind to her in so many ways that in the end, in order to reciprocate that kindness, and understanding your true feelings on the subject as she clearly does, she might decide to waive her right to an orgasm in order to please you.
Alternatively though, you could leave the decision up to her, but warn her that there might be further consequences, but don’t elaborate on any details: let her mind ruminate on that one !
What a simply wonderful life you both must lead. You are both extremely fortunate to have found one another. I have yet to encounter a more perfect relationship. You are both very much living the dream.
Yours, awe inspiredly,
Frankie.
(curtsey and bow)
I’m still in two minds about the orgasm as it changes her behaviour for a couple of days
Dear Lady Alexa, do you think that it would be nice if every man’s clit would be shrunk by chastity belt?
No. I’d like my husband’s shrunk but I may want to have fun with someone else’s and what fin would that be if it wasn’t big?
Interesting that Toni gurl is asking questions about postings and your replies Lady Alexa. Questions which i am only seeing on the notification emails…but not on here. I have seen about 8 email notifications now about posts, none of which I can see on this site! Odd….
That is strange. I’ll get Alice to purge things.
Many thanks Lady Alexa… i’d hate to be missing out! 😉
Lady Alexa,
Thanks for the reply back! Was my latest post, posted? i can’t find it on your site. Looking for reply backs on it. It wasn’t a repeated posting. Hope all is well with you!
Yes, that was what I was replying to. You posted it twice on the 9th Sept
Over many years of sissification by my ex-wife and now a very discreet Dominant ex-GF who now owns me sexually 100%. My current wife and i have had no sexual relations or contact other than a kiss or a hug here or there. My current owner controls my sissy clit, male pussy and my ovaries 100%. We meet several times a month in her private home and sometimes venture out in public. Sometimes i am dressed female 100% other times not. Our last outing was last week. we went to a Starbucks near her home and i was diapered. i was wet before we left her home, but at Starbucks while consuming our drinks she told me to wet again while seated, then go stand over by the window where some other women were seated and i was instructed to soil my diapers and return to my seat. i followed my instructions and then was told to return home and wear the diaper till bedtime. My S/O was away for a few days. so i was safe returning home in my soiled diaper. But over the years of my sissification, diapering, chastity wearing and other conditioning my current status is, i am no longer able to get very hard just semi hard, my clit has shrunken considerably, and the amount of my female ejaculate is quite less than it used to be. i am only allowed to have a female ejaculation when i am with my Owner or if permission is given for me to have a female ejaculation at home. We have also recently purchased a pink FuFu clip, and my owner loves how it hides my tiny clitty and my ovaries and gives me a more feminine look down there. i can also wear it at home as it is very unnoticeable. takes a little practice to get it on correctly for the proper look down there. Only drawback is tinkling while wearing it, is quite messy. Even though i always sit to tinkle its still a messy while wearing the clip. But i have no say and my Owner requires me to use it as much as possible. The one we purchased also at the top say’s SISSY on it! i am very proud wearing it in honor of my Owner!
Well, it’s good you’re owned and controlled. Not into nappy stuff myself though.
Over many years of sissification by my ex-wife and now a very discreet Dominant ex-GF who now owns me sexually 100%. My current wife and i have had no sexual relations or contact other than a kiss or a hug here or there. My current owner controls my sissy clit, male pussy and my ovaries 100%. We meet several times a month in her private home and sometimes venture out in public. Sometimes i am dressed female 100% other times not. Our last outing was last week. we went to a Starbucks near her home and i was diapered. i was wet before we left her home, but at Starbucks while consuming our drinks she told me to wet again while seated, then go stand over by the window where some other women were seated and i was instructed to soil my diapers and return to my seat. i followed my instructions and then was told to return home and wear the diaper till bedtime. My S/O was away for a few days. so i was safe returning home in my soiled diaper. But over the years of my sissification, diapering, chastity wearing and other conditioning my current status is, i am no longer able to get very hard just semi hard, my clit has shrunken considerably and the amount of my female ejaculate is quite less than it use to be. i am only allowed to have a female ejaculation when i am with my Owner or if permission is given for me to have a female ejaculation at home. We have also recently purchased a pink FuFu clip and my owner loves how it hides my tiny clitty and my ovaries and gives me a more feminine look down there. i can also wear it at home as it is very unnoticeable. takes a little practice to get it on correctly for the proper look down there. Only drawback is tinkling while wearing it, is quite messy. Even though i always sit to tinkle its still a messy while wearing the clip. But i have no say and my Owner requires me to use it as much as possible. The one we purchased also at the top say’s SISSY on it! i am very proud wearing it in honor of my Owner!
Dear Lady Alexa,
Fantastic update. May I suggest a similar situation to how my maid Jane cums?
Much like with your girl, my maid is not allowed normal orgasms. However, she is permitted orgasms anally, usually through sex with my boyfriend.
If you go the sissy sex route, perhaps she can only be allowed an anal orgasm from being fucked by the sissy?
Mistress Tracy
Interesting thought Mistress Tracy… although many of us are in chastity 24/7… i suspect that to double the fun / humiliation /frustration one could get the sissy to use a strapon… speaking from experience, its the most frustrating and humiliating experience!
🙂
jane… curtsy
Thanks Tracy. This is an attractve idea. I have a thing about seeing her do a 69 with another sissy and maybe I’ll allow orgasm if she does this too.
Thank you for the response! I thought for a bit the idea was (for example): you may come in a sissy’s mouth and then she would eventually grow to like it. Not bad.
Buuuut then I thought no, you would probably prefer her to think: since this is happening, and with uncomfortable energy, I still have to suck her, but not come, maybe I should take the leap, and surrender fully to my Mistresses.
Then you quickly get not only compliance but enthusiasm. And she gets the extra thrill of the added humiliation!
Dear Lady Alexa,
I have (re)read everything you have written on the topic, and seen all the lovely reader responses. I would like to offer this comment that synthesizes all the information and makes a concrete plan for your vision. I hope you like it.
First of all, dear readers, do buy Ms Alexa’s book. This is the lifestyle we all dream about, and the person we want to support is Lady Alexa and the artist formally known as Alice. And the (new) book is not expensive.
I say artist, because perhaps that is the way Miss Alexa could think of her Girl. You have clear fantasies. You don’t want to debase her into a puppy. You don’t want to tie her up in the basement. You want her to come along to your sissy thinking.
But mostly, you want to shape her into your fantasy for your personal enjoyment, because you want it to be that way. And knowing her the amount that we do, she will enjoy it too eventually. But why pull when you can push?
Maybe as part of your do-you-want-to-come-Petal routine, you could set up the challenge: I am thinking about letting you climax if I am titillated and impressed by the show when I bring a sissy home for you.
What would impress you? Her enthusiasm obviously. Running to the door to open it. Smiling and punctuating her attention and stories with gentle touches for emphasis. Eye contact. Flirting. Sitting next to her with her leg against the guest’s. Dancing sexy with her. Promise nothing will happen for her the first time(s). But if you will feel it, you will continue down that path. Future moments will probably includes oral and penetration pleasure from your guest. What milestone will earn her reward? The Mistress decides.
I suggest one more thing. Buy her a pair of the sexiest open toe sandals with the highest heels to assist with this process: Her sissy love shoes. First just let her see them and want them. Put them out. Take them out of the box. Look but don’t touch.
Then, before you explain this plan to her, let her put them in for the first time and practice walking. When you explain your push plan, she will be standing in them and associate this process with them. Maybe introduce the bells here too to add an auditory component.
Then later whenever you discuss these things or you update her on the plan, she always wears them. They kind of connect everything and make things a bit more difficult and sexy. As you have her practice walking in then, she is also practicing getting used to the sissy love idea.
Push not pull Instead of you nudging her reluctantly, you get her working for the plan. Think of the power of that. And with the higher heels and bells you get the lifestyle escalation, which turns you on, as a bonus.
And then later, knowing you, when this submission escalation is complete, however that shakes out, whatever that eventually looks like, you will probably re-remove climaxes again. Mission accomplished… for now. Click click click go the heels. Ding-a-ling ling go her collar bells in your new lifestyle soundtrack. And by then with her clitty bell too!
Thank you for reading this!
Yes it’s always interesting to read what other Mistresses do with their sissies. My mistress is very young and she likes to keep me in chastity in a metal micro cage. Not allowed to cum and only released to see shrinkage, hygiene and occasional milking.
Given lots of housework tasks and serving meals and drinks when mistress has dinner parties.
sissy only allowed to wear lingerie around the house and nothing but an apron to clean.
Use of a bell is a good idea when linked to Hypno triggers and mistress likes sissy to watch Hypno videos and learn to be a better bimbo doll.
Mistress likes to see her Gurl serving another much more well hung sissy or even a young twink.
She won’t ever allow sissy to have sex with her or touch her pussy except with tongue as a special treat. Fucking his for real men not anything to do with a sissy babydick!
So many little activities mistress enjoys having sissy to perform on a daily basis. All to do with mistress having total control of her sissy’s mind and body. And of course sissy loves providing mistress pleasure as a good girl must.
Very good Lily. I’m sure I’d get on well with your Mistress
Yes it’s always interesting to read what other Mistresses do with their sissies. My mistress is very young and she likes to keep me in chastity in a metal micro cage. Not allowed to cum and only released to see shrinkage, hygiene and occasional milking.
Given lots of housework tasks and serving meals and drinks when mistress has dinner parties.
sissy only allowed to wear lingerie around the house and nothing but an apron to clean.
Use of a bell is a good idea when linked to Hypno triggers and mistress likes sissy to watch Hypno videos and learn to be a better bimbo doll.
Mistress likes to see her Gurl serving another much more well hung sissy or even a young twink.
She won’t ever allow sissy to have sex with her or touch her pussy except with tongue as a special treat. Fucking is for real men not anything to do with a sissy babydick!
So many little activities mistress enjoys having sissy to perform on a daily basis. All to do with mistress having total control of her sissy’s mind and body. And of course sissy loves providing mistress pleasure as a good girl must.
Yes, a good approach. I wouldn’t associate her with being a puppy as such but I understand what you mean. I want a compliant submissive sissy who loves her new lifestyle
Lady Alexa, you are amazing. You are the dream woman for so many of us.
I love what you have acheived with your sissy.
My recommendation would be to allow occasional orgasms to make the transition more palatable for her. But you wean her off them over time. This will help her make this big step but ultimately put her back where you want her.
Mariah
Yes I tend to agree
…of course, nothing should go to waste if You do allow her to cum…
She should lick it up obediently to develop her ‘liking’ for semen…
I haven’t done this yet. My idea was to wean her gently onto other sissy cum. Gently is usually the way I get her to accept changes
Silly of me to even think that You hadn’t even thought of that…and had a plan! hehe…
In awe as usual….
curtsy..
Hi Lady Alexa!
I suggested that you try a fufu clip several months ago but at that time you were still using Girls clitty for your pleasure. Now that you are moving away from sexual relations with Girl may I suggest you revisit the clip possibility. We use it and my Wife loves it. It really makes your clitty look like the real thing. I too play with another sissy and my Wife loves to watch us play. Unlike you we do incorporate a BBC bull for her pleasure and she loves to watch me be used by him. Those days don’t happen very often with schedules and such. To fill the gap we have started to use a harness that I wear with a variety of attachable dildos. While I’m caged I wear the strap on harness and my Wife experiences deep orgasms. She loves that I feel no sexual stimulation from the strap on. Very occasionally if She is in the mood She’ll allow me to “doodle” after we are done if I’ve serviced her to her satisfaction.
When we started our journey 5 years ago I had no idea where it would lead. The journey takes its own course and is rarely scripted. Now here we are, I’m pussy free , can only orgasm if I’m be being penetrated by Her or Her Bull or if She allows for me and our sissy friend to play. I don’t feel complete if I’m not in my heels, toes and nails done up, makeup and hair flawless ready for the day. It’s hard to do with the vanilla life we lead but when we are in our alternate reality we are at our happiest! My transformation is so well underway and we love our life!
At the moment, I’m still using her clitty and even when I’ve stopped I’ll continue to play. That said, I like the idea of the fufu clip. Asyou say. when we start this we don’t know wher eit’s going.
Regarding Girls orgasm control,
when we first began bi play I wasn’t the least interested as a matter of fact I had trouble attaining an erection. It was bad enough that we resorted to ED meds which were of little help because the mindset wasn’t there. Here we are 5 years later and I get so excited about bi play that I can barely contain myself when let out of my cage or clip. My erections are significantly thwarted while in my apparatus and are somewhat painful because they are constricted. But when out of my devices I am so turned on and ready to go that it takes immense concentration not to orgasm. My wife now uses those same ED meds to get my clitty rock hard when playing with a tgirl or our sissy friend. Yet on those days I cannot orgasm. I just sit there at the end rock hard and incredibly frustrated. Of course our friend has either cummed on me or in me and everyone but me is satisfied.
My excitement level has reached such a new height that when limp or caged I can “sissygasm” as we call it. It is an ejaculation not sperm per se but a sticky translucent discharge that only happens when I’m hyper turned on. It’s amazing how I have gone from no interest to a constant craving for Tcock, sissy clitty or Bull cock 24/7. It can be done!
I also give Viagra to Girl from time to time, not sure if I mention it in the posts. This is because I expect to see her erect as a sign of her respect and desire for me but also because it does heighten her humiliation and fristration because she’s not allowed to cum. So funny.
Lady Alexa, what a wonderful update! I love to hear of your developing relationship with Girl, and I particularly love hearing how you verbally tease her – your words are firm yet loving, strict, yet maternal…a perfect combination that cannot be resisted. You really know which buttons to press! My own little clitty responds immediately when reading your exquisite words, so I can only imagine that Girl must be in absolute sissy heaven!
Regarding her orgasms there is surely no better way to demonstrate your implacable dominance than to totally deny Girl any orgasms at all. Personally I think this is the best path to take. It’s likely, of course, that she will not be able to hold back, especially after being denied for so long and after extended periods of arousal. If she cums whilst with another sissy I imagine she would be punished in someway (disobedience should always be punished), but it would also be an oportunity to further tease her for cumming with a sissy (“oh dear, did my sissy get all overexcited with her girlfriend? Was it all too much for you, poppet? Look at all that sticky mess you made!”)
Yes Girl is in sissy submissive heaven, it’s true. I think your idea about being less strict over her orgasming with anothe rsissy if it happens with a small punishment if she does is the way forward
Dear Miss Alexia,
Please forgive a second comment. I don’t mean to clutter your inbox, but hopefully you will appreciate the comment.
I have the almost of respect for you and obviously the issues you are entertaining and manipulating are top sport. Thanks in advance for your consideration
I am also curious about the upcoming no sex rule. You have mentioned previously that this is not a punishment. But while I can see the logic of no orgasms or (fewer) erections, why would you want to remove the intimacy of the relationship? I would think that maintaining that connection would be the desired goal for you both.
For example, although somewhat cruel, would it not keep the intimacy (while denying the physical pleasure) if she were to wear a strap on to have a sexual encounter with you? She could service you how you love, hug and touch you, while not behaving any physical pleasure himself. Pure supportive love making would maintain life lower and the connection with her emotionally. I would think that would be a threat to motivate her while demonstrating your absolute control.
No erection, no climax, no seeing you named AND no intimacy? By taking that final piece away are you not cutting too much? And if not, is there even a theoretical line that could be too much?
I think you’ve misread or I’ve not explained properly, I’ll go back to my article and re-read it and change if necessary. I meant I will withdraw pentrative sex with me and move towards a cuckold relationship of some kind. I will continue to expect Girl to display erections very regularly and for me to play with it a lot. She will pleasure me in all other ways and we will continue a close and loving relationship with cuddles, kisses and touching. I never said no erections but the cuckold idea has become much stronger of late as well as moving Girl into a sissy sexual relationship.
So hot Lady Alexa…
i love how your mindset has changed..
I love it so much when my wife teases me to the edge over and over again. It drives me insane and is wonderful torture. My wife does allow me to orgasm but it is rare – maybe 3 times a year. Funny thing is, since they are so rare I never expect an orgasm. Even though she teases me and has me beg for orgasm, I always expect a ‘no’. It just so happens that she allowed one of those rare orgasms the other day. I was so surprised to hear a yes. It blew my mind.
Right after an orgasm, it seems like the next time she teases me, I get to the edge so much faster and it is harder to hold back. It is torturous. For that reason, I vote that you do allow him an occasional orgasm but only allowing him to orgasm with another sissy present is a fun idea. This may make him get excited whenever he is with another sissy. I also think it adds to his submission to have specific restrictions or conditions tied to his orgasms. Adding more restrictions is even more fun, like he can only orgasm with another sissy and with a butt plug in 🙂
Although I’ve written the article from my perspective, Girl loves the edging and teasing too. I’m thinking more and more of the only orgasm with sissy thing as both an incentove for sissy sex and a reward for her.
I think you should jenny cum in girl. Be good for all of us!!! I would ask him how it feels to be filled up with Jenny’s love.
Ihave no idea what you mean. Jenny cum? Whos Jenny?
Sissy should only be allowed sex with another sissy. Encourage her participate wholeheartedly, sissy by making her realize that this her only way to get any sexual pleasure. Inform her that you may soon stop any release for her and she should prepare herself to get her joy by sucking another sissy’s clitty or when another sissy penetrates her resulting in a prostrate massage & release. If ever she expects a blow job, it is only if she can seduce the other sissy by her ladylike submission and seductive behavior. Inform sissy that she should start to think like a female in addition to dressing like one. Her sexual satisfaction depends entirely upon how much she can arouse & excite another sissy. Get her to understand that accepting enhancements like pierced ears & breast augmentation will only help her achieve greater sexual joy as a female. HER MASCULINE DAYS ARE OVER!!!
I’m also thinking of sending her on dates with sissies. I think this would be wonderful.
Dear Miss Alexa,
Your journey over the years has been exciting to follow. Your tastes have changed and grown more extreme and I have followed it with a mix of excitement and appreciation that it has not been me. I enjoy release so much.
I have been waiting with anticipation for this post and I was delighted to see it arrived. Thanks again for sharing your journey.
I will be buying your Femboy Love as I have bought all your books. Even as it goes in a direction which is not my personal favorite, I want to show my support for you and my support for the concept that the sub does not make the decision of what happens in life.
Since you want Girl to make this sissy change, and enjoy it no less, perhaps you can see *that* as the great power move. That is the ultimate control. That is the ‘because you can’ detail which seems to give you so much erotic thrill.
I’m sure you can make the change and keep her no climaxing role, but perhaps it is even more powerful, empowering and fun to connect her release to these (still very dominating) conditions. I would suggest it is even more humiliating to let her finally release first in a sissy’s mouth and later inside that sissy. You could probably even make her beg for it and agree to do any amount of very submissive things in advance in trade. Imagine the power you would feel at this ultimate social programming!
Imagine the feeling of abject authority rushing through your body at this moment, perhaps literally climaxing yourself. Imagine her excitement and horror as she combines the release she has dreamed about with the shame and realization of what she has become. She begs for it, loves it, hates it, hates that she solves it and loves you even deeper. That complexity of feelings will
Be what you have created. She feels your power, and connects to you open for the next chapter.
That to me seems like the best and most powerful outcome for you both.
And what more humiliating/sexy changes would you get from her before this moment? I would start with higher heels, bells to hear her coming, and I know it’s not your first choice, but many grow to love it, perhaps some crawling, puppy days to shift her from upright thinking to thinking all fours.
And if that is not up your alley, then her teetering on the tallest heels will certainly please you.
I see the appeal of maintaining your strict no climax rule, but the actual release and feelings afterwards are even more submissive as it ties her actual pleasure to your ultimate frontier. That makes the subordination even more complicit.
Thank you for reading my letter.
Matt
I like the idea of a little bell. One idea I’ve been toying with for a long time is having her foreskin pierced and putting a small ring and a cat bell on it. I don’t like the pet thing one bit or the crawling idea although I do love the idea of a collar and lead or a lead around her pussy balls/clitty, Maybe a cat bell on her collar too.
It seems to me that having come so far down the road of not allowing her to cum, it would be a shame to undo all that hard work you have put in. Having another sissy who is allowed to cum in her, will help reinforce the message that she has the lowest status in the relationship, because she is still never allowed to cum.
I think in an ideal world you should have a second sissy who takes over from girl in the sex part of your relationship, but then finishes off by cuming in girl.
I don’t permit orgasm but I do milk her for prostate health occassionally but ruin the orgasm. But the point you make is my dilemma. And yes, my idea is a second sissy in the relationship above Girl but below me, of course, who will I will use for me sexual pleasure (no cumming with me) but will cum in and on Girl. Allowing Girl to orgasm with a sissy is a kind of strong incentive for Girl to embrace my new approach. On the other hand, she’s used to not orgasming and it’s working well.
You previously wanted hubby’s equipment for yourself, and with this change you are proposing many options open up. No orgasms has it’s advantages. However it might be particularly cruel if you were not to let him orgasm with you, as seems to be your plan, and to let him orgasm with sissies, this will mess with his sexuality and be a real mind fuck. You could even bring arousal with other women into the equation, with no orgasms with the women but orgasms with the sissies. It would be ideal if these were women you know he fancies. And to be really evil, let him choose; arousal with a girl he fancies and hopefully knows, but without orgasm, or orgasm with a sissy. He’ll end up always choosing the sissies, but it will be a gradual process. Enjoy…
I never kept Girl’s equipment hidden away for myself. Other Mistresses have seen, touched and spanked it and sissies have played with it. But there’s no way I will ever allow my husband to have sex of any kind with a real girl. And she will never be allowed to have sex with sissies without me being there to control things.
Lady Alexa,
i am also a 100% owned sissy but by a very discreet old ex- girlfriend. But i am also married and we no longer have sex at all in my marraige. This stopped over 10 years ago and my wife never was very sexual etc. In the discreet relationship with my ex-GF for over 10 years is quite simple. We meet at her home on average 2-3 times a month. Upon arrival i am promptly inspected and dressed to serve her needs which can be housework, massage, small repairs, oral servitude, toilet duties etc. She also disciplines me with spankings, strapping, humbler etc. For the past 10 years she owns my sexual privates which she calls my sissy pussy or cunt, my ovaries and my sissy clit. i am forbidden to have any sexual contact with my wife except for kissing or hand holding. i also need to get permission for any self-pleasure. My Owner has taken me out dressed in public many times dressed very provocatively to gauge reactions from others seeing me in public. She also enjoys diapering me for outings or wetting my diaper for her pleasure. i am now 70 and she is 60. i have been so conditioned over the years in that i can only really feel pleasure from my sissy clit in her presence. At my age it doesn’t get very hard anymore, and my sissy clit has shrunken considerably from my once what was a very virile penis. My sissy ejaculate is also a very small amount but yet in her presence it seems quite a bit more. i guess its the mental connection we have between us. i am no longer the male i once was but a total sissified male at this point. In the past i was married to a very Dominant ex-wife. But wife # 2 is very plain vanilla. i guess it never leaves you and by chance reconnected with an ex-GF who is also Dominant and single. She btw is very beautiful and looks 40s and loves being a sexual Dominant. i agreed many years ago to allow her to own me sexually 100% by a written contract between us. But we both have our private separate lives that we both respect. Her favorite is WS and i am often used as her toilet, made to consume my own and her favorite supplied drink for me is her urine mixed with my female ejaculation. At times in the summer months i maybe doing some yard work for her. At times she will say its break time and we sit on her patio and she provides me with a full glass of her golden nectar on ice while she consumes a normal refreshing beverage. At times her neighbors have stopped by to say “Hello” and there i was consuming her special drink. They were totally unaware of what my drink actually was. BTW, i had male outer clothes on also at these times. She also uses a strap on dildoe on me quite often. If she needs to be penetrated, she has a special hollow dildoe strap on for me to wear. Its quite small as she has a very tight vagina and doesn’t want any pain. Her dildoe for me is quite larger. We share a very discreet relationship that is very special to both of us! Her most wanted pleasure is for her to see her owned sissy pleasure and be used by a real male that is also under her guidance and control. She feels its time for me to experience what a real female experiences during sex. We have been looking for some time for the right person to share this with but so far, no luck! i have written many times in the past and this is an update on my current status.
Thank you for your life story, very interesting. I’m toying with the idea of using Girl for my toilet but it’s messy so the idea of a ‘golden nectar’ drink is a good one.
Its been a while since i checked back to your blog Lady Alexa (mores the pity!) but today i caught sight of the headlines and was drawn in… and so pleased i was too!
Oh how things have progressed for You and your sissy – i love it…and as usual am somewhat jealous of the whole situation!.
As one who is in 24/7 chastity (now in my 3rd year – with obvious hygiene breaks) i have come (not cum! lol) to love and accept it but do still get terrible frustration from not being able to play. Originally my wife did hold my keys and enjoyed giving me ruined orgasms, which i have to say is one of the most humiliating and frustrating experiences..but oh so erotic and controlling – something that really gets to a sub. Nowadays sadly this no longer takes place for a number of reasons, but the constant horniness and desire to serve continues in me..and i still crave that feeling of control to the point that i self lock with no plans to cheat. i can honestly say that i feel content now in chastity and i can assure you that over these last few years it has changed my whole outlook – something that you have no doubt seen in your sissy.
All this will be relevant to your sissy if you continue with your 3 rules:
1. Acceptance of being a sissy
2. Acceptance of being denied/teased/ruined
3. Acceptance of being totally there for others pleasure
4. Acceptance of any humiliation that ensues, including the inevitable deterioration in one’s ability to maintain erections after long term chastity..and in my case the size has definitely diminished.
5. A total desire to please
6. A realisation as a sissy that as normal male sexual pleasures are denied the body somehow re-focusses to other pleasure centres or erogenous zones – namely nipple and anal in my experience. i et true joy now from anal penetration – something that before was more a cerebral thing ie. being taken by a dildo a year or more ago was more about the act of submitting and being submissive and did not actually turn me on physically…but now..i get real pleasure from it and can have multiple sissygasms through anal..although sadly the full ejaculatory orgasm from pure anal remains so rare (i have had 3).
7. A realisation that as a sissy, one cannot give normal pleasure to a woman – that is for real men (some go on to cuckolding but whilst that is a fantasy of mine, it has never happened).
8. As male traits and attire are reduced the warm feeling of slipping into feminine clothes becomes the happy ‘go-to’ place for a well-controlled sissy. Speaking personally, i get so excited at trying out new outfits and slipping on sheer stockings and panties…it has become natural.
9. As those male desires fade the desire to please is so strong..in my head this has led me to look outside of the normal heterosexual playground and get excitement from the like of gay porn and real men. Obviously that is a big step for some…but to me when dressed en femme and caged i just want to please all.. including sissies of course! Who knows your own sissy might have similar thoughts.
Much of what You write about is the stuff of sissies’ dreams so let me please encourage You to push further the limits and do what You think and know is right… its all about YOU now..and sissy will understand. The control you have over Your sissy is sublime and total, i can see that and i know she can! Once she let You step onto the first rung of the ladder of a an FLR it was inevitable that You would climb all the way to heavenly heights!…
Do push the next level Lady Alexa and i hope that you get to experience the sight of your sissy with another. i have no idea where you are but i like to think that i could share that experience but know it is a forlorn hope under the circumstances i sit.
One last thought, that may or may not appeal to you… if you did seek some pleasures from penetration, but didnt wish to seek this from real men outside of your marriage, had you considered getting sissy a strap on.? i had the pleasure/frustration to use one on a few occasions. My contraption had a detachable dildo for her pleasure, whilst the was an insertable anal plug for me. All the straps worked around my chastity cage and held everything firmly in place. Performing the act was one of the most frustrating and humiliating things i’ve ever done .. knowing that i was not going to come, whilst my little sissy clit was getting tight in its cage as i worked hard to give pleasure with my thrusts! i could see on her face the pleasure i was giving which was a joy..but i had no feedback sensations in the usual fashion – just the feeling of the plug as it also pushed in with each thrust. When both collapsed at the end, She was left moaning and falling asleep, whilst i was a gibbering wreck, hot and exhausted with the tightest of cages and still full with the plug. It was highly erotic but incredibly frustrating.. If that give You a thrill, give it a go!
Thank you again for Your blog Lady Alexa. I will be tuning in more now and avidly reading Your updates like a good obedient sissy…
Nice to hear from you again Jane. I like your 9 rules, I might steal them for a post. I will make a couple of minor comments though for our situation. I use chastity now on Girl but not 24/7. When I’m around, usually in the evenings, I often release her. I ALWAYS lock her up when we’re not together, even if I pop out to the shops or for a coffee with a friend. I trust her good intentions but since she hasn’t orgasmed for some time, I can’t take the risk or put her in a position to defy me by succumbing to desperate desires. I also use a very small cage on her to restrict and squash things up down there and hopefully shrink it over time. So she sleeps in it and I put it on her during the day if I’m not going to play. However, on the other hand, I love to see an erection as I consider it a sign of desire and respect for me plus it’s such good fun to tease her to the pint and stop that I don’t want this to end.
As for penetration, I intend to eventually take a feminine sissy lover with a large clitty to satify me (but not cum) and to satisfy my husband (and cum). Lucky sissy when I find her, eh?
Lucky sissy indeed!…. totally lucky!
i understand what You are saying about an erection shows desire and speaking personally there are consequences of 24/7 chastity (mainly in the small HT Nub but also with an ‘inny’ inverted and flat cages – some with urethral inserts) and that is a reduced ability to get such an erection, which i guess for a submissive sissy is totally appropriate.. whilst i can swell..it is a shadow of its former self and not erect…but at half tilt… humiliating i know, but a fact.
i am pleased You enjoyed the 9 points and i will continue to see where this goes.. i just love Your approach to your FLR as i have repeated many times.. and as always i am experiencing this and savouring it vicariously!… in total awe.
i would love to know what Girl thinks of all this.. and if she ever wanted to chat to a sissy friend, i would be so happy to engage in conversations with her… obviously at Your discretion and supervision..
Yours humbly
jane 🙂
OH MY. Lady Alexa. All of your posts get me and my little sissy clitty very excited but your latest post and your plans for your sissy husband have gotten me and my clitty so excited that my sissy stick it hte hardest it has been in many years. A very good feeling to say the least. I am hoping to get some good relase today but fear it will end up in my usual little dribble of sissy juice and I will be more frustrated than ever. I love the 2 rules that you follow with your sissy and I agree thay are an absoulte must for all sissies. I think all sissies should be made to follow rule three for really cementing control over sissy. I love the idea of shrinking her clitty. My clitty has shrunk over the years and the smaller it gets the prouder i am of my cute itty bitty baby wewe. I love all the cute little names you have for sissy girl. Sissy bimbo and petal are 2 of my favorites. I am of 2 minds on the letting sissy cum with another sissy. I like both idea’s. you love denying your girl and get many laughs from doing it so why not keep doing it. Keep her frustrated and horny. But why not sometime when you have two sissies kissing and playing with each other and them not expecting any release you surprise them and say ok you 2 girls may cum and have a release. You could decide if one or both could cum and who would clean up the sissy mess. Each cleanup their own or each others or both. Could be fun to watch. I am always hoping to find a woman like you when I read your posts. i admire you and the way you treat your girl and of course love getting some sissy relief as i read your posts. Thankyou so much Lady Alexa from sissy Donnagirl
Hello Donnagirl. Allowing Girl to cum with another sissy is a big dilemma as you say. Whatever I eventually decide abotu whether Girl can cum or not, I will expect the other sissy to cum in my sissy’s mouth and sissy vagina.
If you would allow her to cum in another sissy vagina then would you also allow another sissy to cum inside her too? Do you think to feel truly female she should experience that feeling as well?
There is no doubt that I will instruct another sissy to cum in Girl’s mouth and sissy vagina. The only question is whether I should allow my husband to cum in the sissy.
Lady Alexa,
Another commenter described their transition to bottom full-gay. I’m imagine those scenarios where Mistress wanted _nothing_ of my masculinity. I truly believe the single biggest difference between the XX and XY expressions are that the male organ strives to be a psychological leash. It’s not that women are never overwhelmed by biological urges, but men simply “are not always” overwhelmed by them, and the difference between a sissy and someone who has decided to seek gender-change is that the sissy is still connected to their leash, and still sees there is hope, no matter how much they hide it from themselves.
Disallowing Girl any future ejaculation ever might actually end up being only slightly different than orchiectomy, and we know that orchiectomy produces eunuchs along with psychological changes that might well demolish the basis for Girl’s submissive id.
Bringing Girl to a state of full homosexuality seems like it would pose a serious risk of inverting her submission to You into resentment. There _will_ be moments when Girl is servicing you and, perhaps, hears a male voice in the background triggering her arousal-through-association. Homosexuality is repulsive to males in part because we immediately make associations. We straights just and especially sissies/femboys etc, have a hard time identifying female body parts with their functions, especially during arousal. If you take that away, the idea of providing oral service suddenly can become rather unappealing – especially to a male individual who has elevated the feminine onto a pedestal. “But sissies love watersports”, yes, how many beg “please soil me with your sulfate-bearing liver excretions”? A _vj_ is a human organ that can get or carry diseases, part of an entire system of organs that can suffer complications and failures. A _pussy_ is the key that turns the male brain off and activates the scrotebrain.
Not to leave you in the negative could I suggest only allowing Girl to cum when:
– holding the load of another sissy is in her mouth or ass,
– wearing a prosthetic and on condition of an aggressive disposal of the product such as with bleach or etc, that can tap into the most deeply buried genetic-greed of the most devoted sissy,
And I to try and retain some degree of the straight fantasy, consider ways to use Girl’s crotch as a mounting base for toys while taking steps to minimize sensations to her crotch: layers of latex or rubber, etc. Having you ride _on_ her (not ride her) while perhaps being passionate if you still feel that way about her, will give Girl a poison sweet to tell delude herself with that since you didn’t cut her nuts off yet, and sometimes you seem to still want that one-on-one sexual experience…
To be clear, I don’t allow Girl to orgasm. I oversee her ejaculations through ruined orgasms. I will also allow and insist on her ejaculating with other sissies but might still not allow orgasm.
Dear Wonderful Lady Alexa,
I must start by always saying how lucky your Girl is. To live the life that someone like me is only able to dream and fantasize about. I have been trying to get my wife to understand the many benefits of living in an flr like you have. I know I’ll never get the life that Girl has. But I hope to be able to have something more fitting. Every relationship between a man and a woman should be an flr.
I would like to say, Lady Alexa, about your comment here and about what you said in the blog above. You ask for opinion on whether or not you let Girl cum and how. Whether or not in a sissy vagina or not. I’m only a male and my opinion shouldn’t really matter much. But in this instance it might make sense what I have to say. I don’t get to live a feminine life at all. Even though I would love to live Girl’s life. But I have had experience with other men. I have never in my life had even the slightest desire to put my cock in another’s ass. Whether it be a sissy vagina or even a female ass. I was made to once in a woman. But never since. However, I have had a cock in my ass a few times. And been filled with cum. I’ve never felt more like a girl in my life. I loved it so much. I wish I could feel it run down my legs. I felt so much like a girl. And like a slut too.
My thought is that Yes, definitely have girl’s sissy vagina fucked and filled with cum. From another sissy, or even from a bull. I guarantee she will love it and feel so girly, and want it often. But when it comes to her cumming, her putting her sissy clit in another’s sissy vagina, well it might feel too masculine for your purposes. Maybe it would be better for her to lay back, all dressed pretty and soft, and for another sissy to bring her to orgasm with her mouth. Or continue to not let her at all. Although it seems like you feel she deserves this kind of reward. But I wanted to express my opinion from a “Girl” wannabe. It may be too masculine for her to do the act. I would hate to see something as simple as that, start to reverse all the amazing changes you’ve made in her.
I wish I could be her. She seems to have the most wonderful life. Do you have any suggestions on how to bring my wife closer to your mindset? I would appreciate any thoughts.
Thank you Lady Alexa, for your time and your kind consideration. You truly are “The Perfect Woman”
I keep telling Alice I’m the perfect woman too
Brilliant teaser just what us sissies must learn to submit to a mistresses power. My little clitty is locked in a microo cage 24/7 only released to clean and a little edging but not allowed to cum. Aroused all the time thinking of release but only frustrated and begging for release.
I think I told be even more humiliation if she is not allowed to cum even with a sissy, but the other sissy is allowed to cum. So she can only service the other sissy but not cum herself. On the other hand, it is extreme, so maybe something to be built up to. Initially she’d be allowed to cum with another sissy and over time, it would be less and less an option until she is not allowed to at all.
That may be a good solution. I’mattracted to the humiliation she’d have by being submissive to another sissy.
I ask permission to cum and get told no. I can only cum while I eat my Queen’s pussy
That’s ok but for me, even that would be too much sissy cumming.
Dear Lady Alexa,
How wonderful the life is you’ve given your girl. I hope your husband realizes that he (she) is the envy of so many of us wishers and wannabes. Girl’s life before was like a dream. Now, adding sissy love, just seems to fulfill it completely. I feel that the sissy that I wish I could be, should have sissy love with other sissys. The part about not being able to cum? I feel that you do want to reward her in some different way. Why not by letting her orgasm this way? Even explaining to her beforehand as something for her to look forward to. What do you think?
Allowing her to cum with another sissy is both a reward and an incentive. But I’m also attarcted to not allowing her.
Good morning Lady Alexa,
As always it’s wonderful to read about you treatment of gurl.
My wifestress Miss Maria often edges me, but I am sometimes allowed orgasm, although usually ruined ones. After reading your stories I have mentioned to Miss Maria as per your suggestion about being allowed play with another sissy, this is still a work in progress for us.
Miss Maria does know i sucked a couple of gurls before we were married.
I will update as this develops
Enjoy your weekend.
Curtsy
Nancy Dublin…x
Alice’s orgasms are always ruined on the odd occassion I allow it
Love reading Your posts, Ma’am, and i wish that Wife had Your sensibilities with regard to feminizing me. Your sissy must know how lucky it is to be able to serve You and surrendering any chance at an orgasm is a small and insignificant price to pay for the education being received. Most males might not understand this until they have experienced chastity and sissification, but once they have learned how delicious it is to lose their agency and be subjected to a program designed to emasculate them then they will do anything to facilitate it happening over and over again.
Your question about allowing sissy to orgasm when with another sissy is a tough one. For myself, i would want to orgasm if it could be from penetration, for emulating a feminine experience like that would reinforce my inner girl. Giving another sissy fellatio might be good practice, too, but as a sissy i know that i am very uncomfortable receiving pleasure in that way and have never been able to orgasm that way, i guess i prefer to give rather than receive.
Though i understand Your distaste for Alpha males, i bet that there are some in Your circle of Friends who might be useful in giving sissy a good pounding. Surely as a learning experience, surrendering to a Man is a valuable lesson and would cement the identity of womanliness deeper into sissy’s spirit.
As Wife has also discovered, my libido and desire to serve dissipate whenever i am allowed an orgasm. She has remedied this failure on my part two different ways. At first, when my response to serving became diminished after i was allowed to cum, She spanked me. That was a lot of trouble to Her, and really ruined the tender mood that had been created. My apologies and tears helped, but my behavior lapsed due to the physical manifestations associated with a male orgasm so even though i try to be better, i cannot escape this refractory loss of performance and am horrified by it, but realize She is absolutely right to discipline me this way. A second way of returning me to my normal submissive sissy mindset is to have me consume my mess. Maybe the hormones in it or the humiliation of it work to put me back into being a sissy again, eager to serve, I don’t know. But it works.
I don’t ever see an alpha male in any situtation in our relationship. I don’t like them.I think regarding Girl, I like her as a sissy more than as a real girl so her playing with and being submissive to another sissy is my turn on.
I self bind my penis and balls, will this cause penis and ball shrinkage. I usually walk around nude to what my wife thinks about it has little to say or doesn’t care what I am doing.
If your sissy starts to associate orgasms (her only orgasms!) with sissy love, then I suspect you will encounter a lot less resistance from her to play with other sissys in the future.
That’s my thinking and may be the way to go but stopping her orgasms has a lot of benefits too.
So glad to see your trainng going foreward in such a powerful way. Step at a time.
it’s the best way to ease things in.
Would be great to have a BOSS LADY. Especially if she has a clitty larger than mine. Proud of my clitty I will post a picture of I figure out how to send or attach.
No dick pics on my site
Dear Lady Alexa
I speak from experience when I strongly recommend you allow girl to orgasm with a sissy. I was always bisexual and when my wife lost interest in sex I was forced to revive acquaintances in the local gay community. Within a year of orgasms only with other males I became fully committed and now regard myself as a wholly bottom gay. I do not with to resume intercourse with my wife – or any other woman – even if I am given the opportunity. If Girl is the same I am certain she would quickly regard herself both physically and psychologically as female , as indeed I do. Best Wishes to you both
Yes a very good point