The dilemma of living in a relationship with a feminized husband is something that must face many women in a female-led marriage. It’s certainly a bit of a conundrum for me. How so you might ask?
My quandary is this: I want my feminized husband to be as female looking as possible, but also to remain biologically male underneath. For this post I’m going to look at why I want him to remain male, why I want him even more feminised than he is now and then how I think I can square this circle.
A FEMINIZED FLR IS OUR GOAL
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I know from my correspondence with other ladies in FLRs with feminized husbands, that they have various methods to satisfy the dilemma. Most, if not all, women I speak to in FLRs are not pushing for their husbands to undergo a surgical sex change. It’s more about feminising their husbands as part of the FLR process.
For example, a regular contributor to my blog is Cathy. We also communicate privately. She has a slightly different approach to me, and she is also a loving female authority, but for her male performance isn’t so important as it is for me.
So let’s look at my specific dilemma; the dilemma of wanting apparently mutually exclusive objectives. I want a fully feminized husband with the attributes of a girl in all ways but one: her clitty must function as a male’s in bed.
THE BENEFITS OF A FEMINIZED FLR
I have gone into the advantages for women in feminising their husband’s many times. The change in their behaviour, attitudes, manners and care make the investment worth every bit of effort.
Men themselves will find the changes, brought about by their feminisation, are to their benefit too. They become calmer, less aggressive and confrontational. They find the need to be competitive and macho slips away. Taking orders from a loving female authority and accepting our punishments, releases males from stress and responsibility.
Another important benefit for those of us in an FLR with a feminized husband, is the erotic tension it brings to our sex lives. Simply put, it’s highly stimulating for both parties. So much so for men, that it can be used by us as a powerful relationship-control mechanism. I know from my correspondence with other women like me, we all use this.
And this is what causes my dilemma. We find our feminized husbands more sexually exciting. To me, it’s a mix of my husband’s feminine appearance and the power I get from having moulded him into a girl.
I can therefore, control my husband through the intense sexual tension and excitement he gets from being feminised. I get the satisfaction in bed from my own excitement at his feminisation.
The issue therefore, is how to turn him into a girl in appear, behaviour and body, without the use of hormones and drugs which would affect one of the most important reasons for feminising him in the first place.
A dilemma indeed.
A HUSBAND SHOULD BE A GIRL
I’ve feminised my husband, to a point. As regular readers will know, she is fully feminised at home and in female underwear outside. There is much further to go still.
I’m working on my husband having breasts. I don’t think I can get to where Cathy’s husband’s breasts are, but towards an A cup maybe.
Exercise and the breast pump have not given Alice anything like a female breast. She has some muscle there which, under a tee shirt, looks vaguely pronounced. I have had some suggestions for herbal solutions and I may have to try these.
Anyway, I found padded bras which Alice now wears. Under her clothing they look good. She even wears them under her male clothing when out. Not too big to attract stares, but visible.
The biggest dilemma now is the male clitty. On the one hand, it’s needed for control purposes and for bedroom activities. On the other hand, it looks so damn male.
I do enjoy feminising it, humiliating it and so on. I’ve renamed it the little princess, which makes Alice squirm. I also use a female pronoun to talk about it: she’s very pretty tonight, she’s a cute little clitty, and so on.
The problem is, under panties and even through a tight skirt, the lump shows up. I only want to see Alice’s lump at certain times. All other times, I want a flat crotch look, hopefully with little vagina lips.
It’s the the feminized husband dilemma.
SQUARING THE CIRCLE WITH A FEMINIZED HUSBAND
The penny dropped when I got a message on Fetlife. It was from a submissive man who only identified himself as 305FLR. He sent me a link to a US website called koalaswim.com. We don’t have anything like this in England, not that I know about anyway.
The website sells various items of clothing, or what they call transformation design. I’ve already chosen some panties for Alice called Sex Doll and Clever Girl Thong. Maybe Pink Girl and Lady Gear Shorts too.
What they do is tuck a man’s clitty flat whilst spreading their pussy balls into a vagina lips shape. Fantastic. I’ve written to Koalaswim and they will deliver to the UK, although the delivery charges are a bit much, coming from the USA of course.
Never mind, it should go some way to solving my dilemma for Alice. It’s a price worth paying.
Have a look here. There’s no affiliate marketing on this link, I just love the look for Alice.
IT’S A COMPROMISE WITH A FEMINIZED HUSBAND
The solution then, is around body shaping your husband in the gym, managing his diet and finding him clothing that shapes him into the female form you want.
The vagina shaping panties are now on my Christmas present list for Alice. She’s a little worried about her cute little clitty being squashed flat in tight panties. It’s price she’ll have to learn to pay.
Since I got the idea from an email out of the blue, I’m sure there are many of you who know of other types of body-shaping clothing I can use on Alice. I’d be really keen if you know of anything in the UK?
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Mistress Alexa this sub has breasts and nipples are a good size My mistress used Fenugreek and saw palmetto but Mistresses sub was neutered at a very young age so had small breasts in the first place hope this is of some help to you
The point was that I don’t want Alice neutered, just female (looking)
NuBra has silicon push up bras. Very effective and when carefully centered, deliver a very good cleavage.
Where do i find such a gorgeous girl that I could get into a relationship with thats really cool like y’all?! I’m straight..only been with girls in my life. I got divorced in March earlier this year. But of course I do have some kinky fantasies ive never admitted to ex wife, or ex girlfriends. Been too ashamed. But now that I’m free from her…ive decided to search for a pretty new girlfriend. And one that is really turned on by this type of stuff. 😉 Ive always dreamed of being dominated..and I’ve been caught up watching a very large amount of sissy transformation hypno pornos..and forced feminization videos. And to be honest…im in fucking love with every part of it. Any idea where i can find a girlfriend that would “force feminize” me?? And FULLY. Ive put on some panties a whilr bavk that belonged to my wife..and i just say that those pink and blue panties..made me finally feel complete in life..and my dick rubbing the inside of those panties..turned me on pike ive never fept before. So yeah. Its time to find a dominant girlfriend..and she forces me to become a pretty ass girl..and live that way. This stuff makes me so damn hott…and fascinated. Help please!!!
Hi everyone, I’m CATHY whom Alexa mentioned twice in this article. Let’s just say that my FLR is with a husband who had been dealing with many middle-age biological/hormonal issues for years before we started our FLR lifestyle. As Alexa noted, I then found the intense and very detailed feminization of him quite exhilarating – and for him, it was now a very pronounced and consistent (daily) reminder of physically (and emotionally) pacifying him into a new very quiet, relaxed, calm spouse in our home – it really enforced the passive resolve these body changes had on him. Panties and a pad or liner are the obvious best fit for this new shape, appearance, and complete lack of former functions. Wearing a bra to hold his very own full, rounded, soft and jiggly breast tissue added even more to removing his former self in our relationship. We’re still in love, very happy to be married – but in our ’empty nest’ privacy and freedom, I now have this lovely, cute, reserved, compliant, and very feminine partner and complete control of all we do, and I love it so much.
I will do a post soon on your latest stories and photos Cathy
Cathy I would like to meet a woman like you cuz I’m in my 50 s to an trying to figure out lifestyles like this I’m single an looking in Washington state
Cathy and Alexis,
My husband Claudia has been feminized since our daughters left for college. She was already somewhat trained being the only male in our household. I taught our daughters to dominate men from a very young age. They learned a lot by dominating their father as teens and they carried it on to their lives. Both are married now and in FLRs of their own. On holidays it’s so much fun watching our husbands mincing around in high heels and pretty dresses as they serve the holiday meal. To have their father a pathetic, feminine sissy helped my girls immensely when it came time to sissify their own men. We have all found much better compliance and even embracing of the feminization process once sissy has female breasts of her own. My husband had 12 months of Ovarian Glandular initially with permanently rendered his penis a tiny, withered clitty. OG sterilizes the user within 6 months, but we went a full year just to be sure. Her testosterone levels are almost non existent while her natural estrogen is near the level of a 20 year old woman. She is so calm, respectful and submissive that it’s hard to believe she was once a man. My daughters are having a lot of fun feminizing their ‘girls’. It is quite easy for them as their husbands are naturally submissive and feminine, being from the millennial generation of males. My husband is a baby boomer and they are much more challenging, although still very susceptive to sissification. I’m so proud of my daughters for continuing our proud and important family traditions. I can’t wait for my granddaughters to grow up and take their place as heads of their households. FLR forever!
I forgot to mention that I used Pueraria Mirifica to put breasts on my husband with GREAT results. 1500mg./day with an hour of breast massage morning and night. Sher is now a 38D and still growing (slowly)! I would recommend any wife to try PM on her sissy. It worked very well and extremely quickly. All resistance ceased when she realized she had breasts. They are also a nice addition to her new, feminine look and her clothes all fit better. She loves the feeling of her tits bouncing and jiggling as she walks.
We need photos of her new boobs
I just checked my email now, but it’s way late. I have many pictures that we’d love to share, isn’t that right Claudia? I’ll be back tomorrow with pictures and the OG info. Love, Jennifer
I just checked my email now, but it’s way late. I have many pictures that we’d love to share, isn’t that right Claudia? I’ll be back tomorrow with pictures and the OG info. Love, Jennifer
I’m not sure where to post the pictures.
Send them to me at ladyalexa@mail.com
All very nice. Tell me though, what do you mean by Ovarian Glandular?
Ovarian Glandular is the new name for the Bovine Ovary feminizing supplement. If you want Alice functional, it is not for you. My husband’s clitty was so small it didn’t matter if it worked or not. Claudia does just fine with a slip mover glass dildo. I enjoy making her as feminine as I possibly can. I have several lovers to keep me happy. I love seeing the anguish in Claudia’s a I strip all her masculinity away. She used to be a very masculine man, a very successful bowhunter, she was looked up to by many in our area. As manly as she was, that’s how feminine I want her to be now. I will be sending pictures to your email. Feel free to spread them around. I would love to see my husband published for everyone to see. I know it would make her so happy!!
Oh my, those Koalaswim items are delightful! I have seen plenty of gaff panties and thongs for secure tucking away of the clitty, leaving a nice flat tummy, but never one that rearranges the pussy balls into the shape of a vaginal mound.
Appearance aside – and I do love the look – there is such a powerful element of feminization and control there, manipulating sissy parts to be pretty, rather than just covering them or disguising them with padding.
Aren’t they just? It’s one reason why I like Alice ‘fully functioning’, being able to feminise and prettify her little bits is part of the fun – for both of us
Lady Alexa. Chapter 4 of feminizing your husband by him was very good. Being made to strip at another house in front of 2 sissies should have been humiliating for him and I am sure it was. I think you are doing a great job and bringing him along nicely. As a sissy I can only wish to be treated in the same manner. Keep up the good work. Donnagirl
Yes, and if you look at a later post, I took Alice even further a month or two ago.
Has there not been much success with the suction pump? I had such high hopes.
No, I think I need to add in some other things to help them along, creams and herbal concoctions. I just need to be careful they don’t contain hormones otherwise my fun would be spoilt
A good post indeed. Most married older and empty nest males would be intrigued by an FLR with them feminized. Why ? The reasons would vary, but most older married males secretly admire the female and feminine mystery. This mystery is something that they would like to try, but heaven forbid, polite society and most likely their spouse would disapprove. So they are stuck in the rut forever, consigned to the male role straight-jacket.
I am a late sixties year old male married to a woman in a traditional roles defined relationship. The thing that has affected our empty nest is me (since retirement) being crossdressed 24/7. This is a liberating experience folks. Every man should try it and do it. We now have a life similar to Cathy and Mary. What a wonderful blessing it is.
Thanks,
Gendre Amore
yes liberating, that’s how Alice would describe it too.
Perhaps if Alice used an extremely lifelike strap on in the bedroom, and it was OK, you could think about hormones?
I don’t believe it would work. The fact that she has the desires of a male, since she’s being led by her little clitty, means I can control her better. Equally, feminising a working male clitty is more effective and much more sensual than something lifeless.
I would suggest corset training for alice
Dear Lady Alexa, I haven’t yet noticed in your posts if you have tried milking your feminized hubby. I’ve run across some articles on the Net that indicate that a prostate orgasm can be a very long, mind blowing orgasmic experience for the sub.
Regarding breasts, what do you think of the realistic facial/head/chest masks that totally cover the head with openings for the eyes and mouth, and have built-in breasts? I’ll send you the link if you are interested. I don’t recall it off the top of my head.
No I would never milk my husband, what a waste. I have use of her little dolly for my personal pleasure. As for masks, that would be a resounding no. I want to see my husband squirm as I dress her in ever more feminine clothing
Dear Lady Alexa,
May I suggest that you do not worry too much about Alice’s male performance declining with feminization. She can use a strapon dildo on you if needed. Another very intimate, satisfying and fulfilling way to use a a dildo is to use a face harness. Alice can use a face harness – the dildo will be mounted vertically on her face (on her mouth) and you can then ride the dildo. If you google ‘face dildo harness’ you will find many options online.
Not one of the best suggestions I’ve received, Georgina. Read my post again.
I wondered if you’d looked at FancySteel’s feminizing chastity belts? They create the appearance of labia and completely hide all those male parts. But of course they’re all still there when you want them.
https://fancysteel.com.au/collections/male/products/sissy-mens-chastity-belt
Hormones will achieve so much of what you are looking for you should do it. The addition of a viagra or cialis at the appropriate time will let Alice’s clitty function when you decide you need it, even if it is a bit smaller due to the hormones. This is what works well for my mistress Wendy and I.
I think I’ve replied on this topic many times – I’m not going to give Alice hormones
Dear Lady Alexa,
Please may I suggest you try using a gaff on your gurl. they can be worn under any style of panties and completely remove the unfeminine male bulge and in doing so prevent unwanted erections and fixation on the male genitalia so that the gurl is fully focused on the needs of her superior. I was gaff trained and can attest to their efficacy. A further option is to put her into hip and bum padded underwear, these feminise the flat male shape and again keep the gurl tightly tucked back with the same effect as a gaff.
Good quality gaffs can be purchased from Hourglassfigure on the web and are a reliable and trusted supplier.
Padded panties can be found on Ebay.
Thank you for all of your posts, I am a loyal reader and you are an inspiration.
Dear Lady Alexa,
Please may I suggest that you try using a gaff on your girl, they are very effective at keeping the male parts tightly held back between the legs preventing unwanted erections giving a convincing flat feminine vee appearance and can be worn under any style of panties, I am gaff trained and can assure you of their effectiveness.
Also, padded hip and bum panties are also very effective at bulge concealment and pad out the straight male shape for a more feminine rounded appearance.
My gaffs were purchased from Geraldine at Hourglassfigure, they are a reputable and reliable supplier. Padded panties can be found on Ebay.
Please keep up the wonderful FLR lifestyle, you are an inspiration.
Best regards,
andy
This sounds a great idea , thank you
‘My quandary is this: I want my feminized husband to be as female looking as possible, but also to remain biologically male underneath.’
‘I want a fully feminized husband with the attributes of a girl in all ways but one: her clitty must function as a male’s in bed.’
As always a very interesting and thought provoking post. It seems to me as if the two quotes above are the critical ones so yes, I understand your position on hormones as we’ve commented previously.
I’ve had good results using a gaff the best ones being home made using the waistband from tights and the top of a sock. Combine this with learning how to push my balls back up through the channels they dropped down from and careful tucking gives a pretty flat front. It worked so well that in Ibiza with some lady friends this year I was wearing the same bikini panties as they were and got told to put a top on or face a fine by the police. However there is a downside, long-term tucking seems to reduce sperm production and may be a factor in penis shrinkage. In my case a quite welcome event but not for you two I think.
You have mentioned herbals for breast development before which will also cause these issues, additionally they are a very expensive way of doing what medical hormones do.
So may I humbly suggest getting Alice to tuck and contain except when you want his equipment available 24/7. It hurts a bit to start with but that quickly goes away if it’s done right and is, in my opinion, simply down to the change in position. There are also non-slip bikinis intended for surfers, divers and the like, dropping a panty size or two will also help.
In my experience resolving the ‘bottom’ issue will make accepting breasts a lot easier. Before hormones I had been massaging my boobs in the shower and playing with my nipples, they had developed beautiful sensitivity and the only difference on hormones is the areola grew and darkened. If Alice gets that far I think you will be pushing at an open door to get her implants.
Sorry for the long comment. I hope it’s worth the read.
No apology needed for the long post Natasha, you’ve picked up my dilemma exactly. I wish more readers would read my words more carefully – no hormones!!!! It’s not an option. It’s a very good suggestion you make although I’m not sure how the tights and socks thing works but the ‘tuck and contain’ is the way I want to go for Alice. A very simple but effective idea is your suggestion to drop Alice’s panty size. I hadn’t thought of that.
I’d be grateful if you could send me more detailed instructions on the tights/socks thing to my email – ladiesontop@mail.com.
I would be interested in this as well. vivian.locked19@gmail.com
I’d suggest subtle changes with a focus on the behavioural:
• I assume Alice doesn’t wear aftershave, but does she wear a hint of feminine perfume?
• When she purchases normal clothes to wear out of work outside your home are they men’s clothes, or a feminine version? Do you make her pick androgynous clothes?
• Do you reward feminine behaviour and penalise masculine behaviour? Do you offer rewards and penalties which escalate over time? the ultimate penalty could be implants.
• Make her read a sissy story out loud with a feminine voice before bed each night whilst pleasuring herself(no orgasm of course) , she’ll go to sleep thinking of the sissy in the story.
• Enrol her in dress making classes. https://thethriftystitcher.co.uk/
• Buy her some chicken fillets for her bra. https://www.very.co.uk/secret-weapons-chicken-fillets/1600247853.prd?sku=sku20593035&cm_mmc=google-_-PLA+-+Generic-_-Everything-_-PRODUCT_GROUP_p39025565764_&utm_campaign=Generic_All+Products+-+TOP+LEVEL&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=PRODUCT_GROUP&gclid=EAIaIQobChMInNeT1Kuv3wIVQ7TtCh2GqQwjEAQYAiABEgIdXfD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
• Pierce her nipples to make them more sensitive.
• Consider a vasectomy, it will make her reconsider her masculinity
• Get her to practice giving oral sex with a suction dildo.
• Get her waxed in a gay parlour.
• Show her off here http://www.lingerlondon.co.uk/linger_straight_guys.htm
• Show her off at Club Pedestal. http://www.clubpedestal.com/gallery.html
All with no hormones! I hope a few ideas are of use
Hello Roberta, thank you for the suggestions – I like the chicken fillet idea. Waxing is a nice idea too although I’d prefer a female place and environment for her. She already gives oral to my strap on and wears female perfume. I think it’s a big step for the next phase of her development
Dear Lady Alexa,
I quite sympathize with your dilemma. Wanting Alice to function as a male whilst looking and be having female is an interesting dilemma.
I am sure that you have now conditioned and trained Alice to think and emote as a female. The most important part is to get her accept her role which is to please you as your girly husband.
Rather than her body you should nowconcentrate on her mind and heart. Alice can become more feminine only with real breasts. Her lower body i.e. flirty must continue to function. Breast augmentation and implants are the only solution.
Given the encouraged and loving nature of your relationship, Alice has to willingly accept or even volunteer or ask for implants.
The way forward is to psychologically condition her. Try to express your disappointment at her lack of boobs. Compare her unfavorably to other girlie husbands who have well developed tits. Add that you are kind in not wanting hormones nor considering considering castration or any other procedure. Hint that she can please you by getting implants. Be subtle but express your emotion of disappointment and sadness that despite your best efforts Alice has not developed her boobs. Make her feel guilty and ashamed. Over time her resistance will wane. Instead of discussing if, start talking about the size you would like her tits to be. Once the topic shifts, she will perhaps be pleading with you to consider size 32 as against your wish for large 36C cups.
At this point, let her win the argument, but shift ground to where and when the implants can be got. Make her research the places and find out options. Slowly get her to become a willing participant and let her feel ownership of the decision.
It may take 6 months to a year. However success is almost guaranteed.
I know this because I am a qualified psychologist. I have worked with other womwn who have used my technique to castrate or even have their husbands undergo orcheotomy!
Some men have consulted me on getting breast augmentation or waist reduction for their wives.
The UK may not be a conducive place for getting breast augmentation or implants for a male! The regulations and procedures are too stringent. Try Europe, especially Netherlands orcEastern Europe , Hungary or Poland. Another place is Brazil , but its far.
I enjoy your blog both personally and as a professional consultant.
Love
Dr.M.Petit
Thank you Dr Petit, this is very good advise and a nice approach. I have actually started her wearing padded bras to get used to the shape on her chest through clothing. They are small, maybe an A cup. I thought this may work too as earlier feminisation changes, which she initially resisted, have become second nature. And you are quite correct, breast augmentation surgery on a male who will remain biologically male is unlikely to be available here in the UK. I think Eastern Europe could be the solution.
I have looked into this extensively. Not so much the UK but many countries (here in US and especially Canada) breast implants are easily done as an elective surgery. Some insurance will pay for, but most don’t. There’s usually no issue in getting them done as it’s a “reversible” procedure. They can be removed completely or as many people do replaced with larger sizes later.
That could be also a selling point to Alice. Get a nice solid be cup and agree to a year or 18 months a revisit with option to remove them. My guess they will feel so good and natural and you’ll love them she would never go back.
Good luck!
Once she has breasts she will NEVER give them up. I’ve never seen a sissy that doesn’t embrace feminization once she as breasts, just sayin’. They make sissy feel like a woman. Jennifer
Dr. Petit, let me concur 100% that your “gradual” approach has been the key to my husband Mike’s (Mary’s) buy-in to FLR. He would have never agreed with everything all expected right away. Growing out his hair took 18 months, but secured one obvious change in him. Longer nails with very light pink polish by itself was a rather small thing. Wait a few weeks and then add a few gem stone rings. Next month a bracelet. Month after that a thin ladies watch. As hair grows out longer, try small earrings once in a while. Weight loss was also slow-gradual for almost 2 years. Breast development with herb extracts was also VERY slow-gradual, but change from start to today is eye-popping, especially combined with much slimmer-slender body. Skinny jeans were a good start. In time, try capris. In time, morning walk with women’s stretch mid-calf workout leggings (first in black, over time light blue, then gray with pink trim . . . . all very gradual changes). No make up to just a little mascara and natural lip-gloss around the house – and stayed with that for months before next step. Very plain, functional plain white bra to start and just at home. 4 years and 5 gradual steps later, different colors, some lace and bows, and push-up styles. Started with very plain stretch-microfiber hipster panties in gray, black, dark blue. Later tried green and white. In time red and peach-nude. Then stretch-lace cheeksters. In time lacy thongs. Started with a little toilet tissue in panty crotch “to keep dry”. In time, thin panty-liners. Eventually got to daily maxi-pads. Started with H+M or Old Navy cotton clingy top in gray or green. Over time, try white or pastel blue ribbed knit. Still could be ‘male’, more unisex, but in time buy from the ladies’ section – a subtle print, or flared style. Start with men’s skinny jeans. Then go from denim, black, and gray to maroon, white, tan, blue. Then shop women’s section for jeans. GRADUAL also was key to doing things only at home, just the two of us, and I never pressed too much/too early for more. But that turns into being out in the yard gardening, sitting on the deck, check the mailbox. In time, take a walk together. Then morning work-out walk in unisex looking outfit. In time, fold in more feminine styles, colors. My dear sweet husband would never be where he is today unless I had gone GRADUAL, slow-patient, step-by-little step. Very good advice Maria!!!
Bravo Mistress..
I have been away from here for a while, but returning, I see that you continue to go from strength to strength…turning the screws ever tighter…and it does please…even though I am feeling Alice’s pain only by proxy and not in the flesh..
As a former, standard, macho male who has discovered the error of his ways I can relate to Alices position. I love my femme side and would do anything to exploit it..but would not wish to lose anything physically. All I can say is…don’t give up. I love the link…and am thinking of ordering some myself hehe.
May I take this opportunity to wish you both the compliments of the Season…and thank you for your lovely blog…
Cj x
Hello CJ, seasons greeting to you too from both of us
Hi, it’s Cathy again. So many interesting ideas. In our case, a long-term daily commitment to Fenugreek and Peuraria Mirifica 100% pure liquid extracts, massaged into the breast tissue twice daily did – in time – transform his former male chest that had atrophied and softened in middle age, into rounded jiggly and full breasts with true feminine shape and feel. He could no longer wear any kind of T-shirt or clingy sweater in public as he did not simply look like an overweight guy with man boobs, but with a trim torso and slim 30″ waist his breasts appeared VERY feminine under such tops (like any woman going braless) with larger and very obvious erect nipples. THAT opened up the wonderful opportunity to have him wear bras – all the time at home, and 90% of the time we’re out in public. Now at 6 years it’s actually easier (and more fun) to have him wear skinny jeans, unisex flats/low boots, women’s knit tops and sweaters, add a light flowery scarf, put his hair up in a scrunchy or clips, and then with sunglasses (here in LA) he appears to everyone as a casual woman rather than a mixed image that makes people wonder “male or female?” And with our sunny-warmer year-round temps, staying with white, ivory, yellow, peach, power blue, and pink tops – his bra cups, shoulder straps, and back-band all show through for all to see, and that “bra-look” with rounded jiggly cups are the best confirmation to all who look our way that we’re just two gals out for the day (no confusion about my husband any longer).
Hi Cathy. As i often point out, the love that shows through from what You and Lady Alexa have achieved with Your girls is as magical as it is truly inspirational to me. Adding in the (slightly scary) professional approach of Dr Petit (how many girls has She helped i wonder?) makes me full of hope for 2019 – knowing there are wonderful women like Yourselves out there. (Perhaps more?)
i must wish You all a wonderful holiday season and the best of success for 2019. 🙇♀️😘
I Agree so much with your assessment Holly! It is a delight to see what Alexa and Cathy have done. Dr. Petit is also such a wonderful insight….it would really be interesting to hear from her in an indiscreet way how many Women she has helped in feminizing their husbands and other males.
We can only hope that male feminization will not only continue in 2019, but will accelerate, as more Women realize the Great benefits of having Feminine males in their lives.
Hello Ms Cathy. I must say again i love your input!
I have looked and researched various herbal and natural cures for general health. I too have been interested in breast development and wanted to keep little male bits functional. I have read so many contradicting stories in various forums about Fenugreek and Peuraria Mirifica. I will have to look into it again! I definitely consider you a reliable source of information 😊. Thank you!
Xx
Carla
Holly, based upon my own FLR experience with my husband, I truly believe some men are just more “ready” than others for broaching the subject. Maybe a 6’5″ 250lbs hairy guy working in the trades is just too far “male” to be open in any way to FLR. But my Mike worked 25 years in a very stressful office and was very much open to changing that from his life. I proposed and he agreed that I would take over our finances, schedules, travel plans. Done! and he was so relieved. I proposed and he agreed to finally cut back to working just 2 days/week AND tell his bosses he had to work from home through a VPN. Done! and he was even more calm and compliant. I proposed and he agreed to change his diet and get down to 174lbs and a 30″ waist even though he’s 6’2″. Done! and his new slighter body was another step in my direction. With his mid-50s hormonal-physical changes, I proposed he use daily herbal extract breast massage, and also grow out his hair and nails. Done! and such additional “softening” made him even more relaxed, demure. Gradually he was now cooking dinner 6 nights a week, doing all our laundry, cleaning the house, tending our large garden, no more sports on TV replaced with reading books with me and sipping wine. Mind you, all this was not in one weekend, but 9-10 months of me totally committed to this. By the 1-year mark, the door was wide open in well-established FLR to gently prod him into wearing a bra and panties all the time at home. Done! Flat-ironing + styling his longer hair. Done! Get him some unisex skinny jeans, capris, knit tops-sweaters, slip on shoes. Done! Wear light pink nail polish. Done! Show him how to do average-everyday make-up. Done! Introduce a “bet-wager” to wear women’s office attire at home for one month 2 days a week working from home. Done! (now every Tuesday + Thursday). Gradually cycle-out boring male clothes from the dresser and our large walk-in closet – and replace everything with unisex-androgynous and more female clothing. Done! Quite a long journey, but so worth all those steps in between to get to here.
Well Done Cathy! So nice when a Woman takes control and feminizes her males! He is much better off for it!
Done ! she certainly was x
Love it. Thank You for sharing Your love story X
Holly x x
Hi Lady Alexa
A friend of mine has embarked upon feminizing her former husband. The reborn girlie who my friend now calls her “missus” is now permanently in bra, panties and skirt or dress with long hair. Her ears are pierced and she sons full make-up including nail polish, lipstick and perfume. Body shaping is in progress with the help of corset training and weight is controlled with regulated diet and exercise .
What is interesting is how she is conditioning and training her “missus” to behave feminine. She has started a baby nursery service for young infants below one year. Here in the US, many young couples are happy to find a safe place where they can drop their infants for a few hours. The young ones are promptly entrusted to her missus who has now become an expert in nappy change, wiping loopy bottoms and preparing and feeding the infants with a bottle. Many a time she is cooing and cuddling a crying infant , calming the child with baby talk.
The money for such a service is good. My friend uses this training to prepare her missus on her need for proper boobs , saying that even if she can’t produce milk, it would be nice for the babies to at least have a tit to nurse upon. Her tactics (uncannily ) mirror Dr.Petit psychological conditioning. Future plans for her “missus” include breast augmentation, lip shaping, laser and or electrolysis for moving facial hair and voice training to speak permanently in a high feminine pitch.
I am a privileged and fascinated observer with a ringside seat!
Love
Annalise
Hi Annalise!
It sounds like your friend is an Awesome Woman! It is much better for Women to have feminine males in their lives and at their disposal! I am so glad to hear that you have a ringside seat on seeing how a male is properly feminized and turned into an obedient “helper” to a Stronger Woman.
Do you have any plans on feminizing any males in your life?
Patti
I am somewhat new to this site but finally decided to contribute my thoughts. I have my own dilemma, somewhat different than many I read. I am not trying to make my husband be a girl, just to wear women’s clothes and experience the challenges that women deal with and social expectations to look good and to do it in public as well as in private with the associated learning to deal with embarrassment for wanting to wear women’s clothes. This includes hair, nails, makeup (and associated skin care), clothing coordination, etc. I do this to be sure he has to deal with more than the fun he wants to have in privately dressing in a panties, skirt or lace blouse.
Although he had worn panties for many years, a few years ago he wanted a little more. Such as satin or lace tops, women’s shorts, etc. I went along with a little more until it was obvious he was going to continue to want a little more. While I was not that excited about having my husband start wearing women’s clothes and look like a woman, I decided he should also experience the difficulty that we endure in the name of being feminine. I decided to insist he either do it or not and if he continued, I was going to control what he wore. This included clothes, makeup, hair, nails and some of the things he would find less enjoyable such as tight sports bras and spandex shorts in the gym, taking yoga classes in women’s yoga clothes with makeup on, watching chic-flic movies, reading magazines such as Allure, Women’s Health, Vogue, etc. Sex was going to change. The only thing I suck would be his nipples. Also, since he enjoyed seeing me with cum on my lips, face and nipples, I would be doing that to him. He was also expected to swallow his cum, not me. He squirmed a little at the thought of some of this but the agreement had to be all (as I decided) or none. He chose to go with it and agreed to my terms.
As time has brought us around to finding a comfortable level of feminization and I have accepted that I live with someone who is not the man I thought I would have. In place of that I take it as a challenge to keep him on his toes with the details and work it takes to be a woman. I even push a little at times to make his dress more feminine than he ever wanted, including in public. He knows to get up each morning and shave, do at least minimal makeup, usually pulls his hair up in a scrunchy (pink), wears lace panties and bra, short girl shorts, women’s jeans, flowery capris or a skirt with women’s tops and sandals (1 ½” heel) around the house. He must keep his nails done always (filed and painted). The only difference going outside the house is he has to do more makeup (I insist on details), wears ankle boots (2” heel) in the winter but does not wear a skirt unless we are out of town. He must keep his body smooth, with occasional waxing and shaving in between. I take him to hair salons and explain to the lady to cut his hair as if he were a girl (it stays shoulder length with bangs). With his nails painted and wearing women’s clothes, it is obvious to them. He had to sew his own string bikini and wear it at the pool with others there. I use SPF 30 on his chest under his top to be sure the lines did not blend in so all summer he has tan lines that look like he wears a bikini top. Yes, he has been embarrassed many times.
My dilemma is more about making him continue to look more like a man in women’s clothes or to just make him blend in with women and not be so noticeable. I am not into holding hands with what looks like a woman in public but I do my best to push him into uncomfortable territory.
Sheila
Hello Sheila, I think your dilemma is similar to my own and you articulate it well – that we want our husbands to wear what are considered female clothes and experience all those challenges we face whilst biologically remaining male. I personally enjoy the fact that it is clear that my husband continues to look like a man in women’s clothing. As long as he doesn’t look like a drag artist that is, and looks pretty or as pretty as a 6ft male with masculine features can look. It’s why I don’t go down the sissy frilly maid dress route with him. I think there’s quite a way we can go to feminise them further without actually turning them into real biological women. It’s one reason why I would never contemplate using hormones to make the changes I’m after in him. I personally do not expect Alice to ever blend in fully as a woman but I do want to push her further and further into femininity with increasingly obvious signs of his/her femininity in public. I hope this makes sense.
Sheila, my wife has done the same to me as you are to your husband my name has also been changed to.
She had me femmed by a team of women to start with most of who i knew mega embarrasing for me. she took me to a salon dressed after my ultimatum wearing womens trousers but i came out ina skirt thong bra t top all pink and heels, i was waxed bare especially my bits my nails had been done a full set ombre and my toes to i have long hair which was layered and coloured to my eyesbrows were removed and painted on and i was pierced i have lots now.she moved me into my own pink room full of sissy and slutty clothing mostly pink to with various sized heels. i also have to have tan lines when on holiday and she is thinking of hormones and even talked about implants possibly a long way down the line.
we go to domination parties all the time that is where she gets most her ideas from other mistresses and shemales to. I am more a house husband now but go out dressed fulltime to.
It’s no more than any wife should do to her husband
Ty Lady Alexa i have to agree with you, my wife has now introduced me to short pinafore dresses i have had my hair cropped short to look like im more butch than i was with long hair but left the sides angled up from my chin but she has had iit coloured pink to and i look rather sissy. My bras are padded out well to but not to large. Some bras are visible through my clothing as is my thongs and frilly pantes. i have lots of handbags mainly pink and purple ones now. I do have to attend domination parties with her and have had contact with other sissies to including being undressed.
Greetings Lady Alexa and Cathy 🙂
As always,I am envious after reading the articles and personal stories here. Perhaps many of the males are resistant to the feminization but many of us would love to have a wife or girlfriend that supported or encouraged it! I have currently taken it upon myself for my feminization. I have done this to some extent in the past as well as the binging and purging. My resolution this year is NO MORE PURGING! Thanks to the information on the internet i have been made aware of terms like transgender, genderfluid, etc etc, and have long since stopped trying to force myself into a prison of masculinity. I no longer wonder if something is wrong with me or why I am not normal, or behave the way I do or like what Ilike. Not only am I fine the the way I am, but there are others like me. I also have hope thatone day I will be lucky enough to find a Woman such as yourselves to share this with.
Thank you for the support and encouragement!
Xx Carla
Hello Alexa,
Yes, we do have similarities in our goals. I may take a more ‘all-or-none’ approach to the subject but the result is about the same. As I said above, he either does as I ask in this area or we go back to men’s clothes. For a few years I pushed more to see how far he would go in his feminine interests but he remains a man in women’s clothing. He still wears women’s panties, pants and jeans with ankle boots, makeup and nail polish for any daily errands and shopping we do but I do not push skirts or high heels on him when in town. Neither of us is interested in the sissy or over-the-top dressing, just a feminine look for a 50 something year old woman.
Exceptions are when we go on vacations. I tell him ahead of time what I think he should be wearing, including skirts, dresses, heels, etc to keep him nervous about what I will expect of him. To be sure he takes me seriously, a couple years ago we went on a weekend trip in the car. I packed his makeup and panties, period. He left the house in a maroon, silk chemise dress with spaghetti straps and had to wear it all weekend (he rinsed it out at night), including the hotel, filling the car with gas, rest areas and a few fast food restaurants. I only packed a couple skirts and a dress for myself to be sure he could not take my pants or shorts and chicken out. After spending that weekend being very embarrassed and seeing other people avoid him and give him looks of disapproval, he believes me if I suggest something similar again. We have also gone out to restaurants at night with him in a long skirt, thin, feminine sweater and a visible bra underneath. Again, this is not the norm, but just occasionally to keep him aware that I do intend to test him. While I am not sure how much Alice wants to stay in women’s clothes, going on trips out of town give you an opportunity to test him and enforce your goal of getting him able to wear skirts outside the house.
Sheila
Very interesting Sheila. I have never done over-the-top humiliating outfits for Mike (Mary). I have no interest in parading him in public wearing stereotypical “drag queen” and old school “transvestite” attire that stands out in such an embarrassing manner, that includes people avoiding him, thinking he’s some kind of pervert, and related. The thrill I’ve done for my husband is having him in very average, normal, everyday mid-50s mature woman attire that works with his overall face, thin body type, 6’2″ 178lbs, skinny girly legs – nice calves and very thin ankles – his own longer hair, and his own jiggly rounded breast tissue. The “looks” he gets in public the last several years we’ve done this with our ’empty-nest’ lifestyle, are not negative and derisive – but seem more about subtle “wondering” as sometimes he passes up into the high 90%, other times more in the 80% range, so the uneasiness for him (the ‘squirm factor’) is that he’s interacting with women and men fully presented as an average woman. An example: the two of us did lunch out last Saturday, then shopping and errands all afternoon, then saw J-Lo in Second Act matinee, then light dinner after. It was rainy cooler temps here in LA, so my sweet wore dark gray leggings over lace-top thigh-highs, ankle boots, ivory clingy knit-top that showed all bra and cami straps/band/lace, Bo-Ho tan + black long sweater, ivory and gray scarf, black shoulder purse with stretch-lace cheekster panties and pad wedged in tight, average make-up, pink nail polish, hair up in clips on side and soft bangs in front, and full casual gypsy jewelry ensemble. Cloudy day, rain/umbrellas for some of the day, provided perfect day cover in that outfit that he was 98% (or more) passable in restaurants, shops, walking around, movie theater. The BIG thrill for him and me is watching him have to slide into VERY girly-feminine manners, voice, walk, sitting, slowly looking over clothes in stores – ALL forcing him to BE very much a woman to all who see us. THAT’S the most fun for me and puts him into such a lovely place – compliant, quiet, reserved, confirming to me, listening, demure, calm, and over the months and years more and more relaxed. Hot summer days in August I have to be more creative with his “look” when long pants/skinny jeans/leggings are too hot, same for long-sleeve tops.
Very nice situation you have in that two consenting adults basically get what they want in the “lifestyle department”. May the rest of us be so lucky.
As Mary now passes between 80 and 98 percent of the time, it seems that her own reticence or lack of confidence is creating visual cues for the general public in thinking that she is not all she seems. The next step would be to have reinforcing exercises in confidence building with the general public. I am sure that you do this to a degree Cathy, yet haven’t gone into detail with us on this blog. Perhaps sharing your thoughts and/or plans in this area with the readers would be well received.
We’re several years into this, so I have coached-directed my husband a LOT and he has naturally/gradually become more and more comfortable in public as middle-age Mary who blends into the crowds at malls, theaters, restaurants, museums, galleries, pedestrian streets/ shopping, morning power walk work-out on crowded Ocean Blvd. I’ve seen 100% first-hand, “the more we do this the better Mary gets” and I enjoy seeing my husband intentionally behave/act very feminine to fit exactly with his female appearance. We’ve even done Christmas Eve service with 800+ attending, various concerts (casual and fancy) as well as art or music festivals out strolling among several hundred or 1,000 or more people. Over 5 years into this, he has the hips, slow pace, gentle hand motions, quieter voice tone, sitting, standing, ALL aligned with the extremely girly appearance he presents.
I’m a MTF trans girl who will be on hormones soon, so I just want to ask: are there any FLRs where the woman is okay with her partner being trans? I’d love to be in a FLR relationship but not at the expense of staying a man when I know that’s not who I am.
Neither I or my sweet husband (now re-named in our FLR as Michelle, closer to his Mike/Mikey) have any interest in him becoming her permanently. While our nearly 7 years of FLR have moved him into a very settle, content, complacent, and fully accepting female position within our marriage, the people and relationships of work, neighbors, close friends/couples, my family/his family, and our own 2 sons with their wives and children make SRS completely out of the question. When Mike is in traditional male role and appearance with these people, he does exhibit a softer, more feminine side in mannerisms, and he does have a softer more slender body-frame with longer hair, and a sometimes very noticeably feminine looking chest outlined under his shirts/jackets – and I have casually attributed it to “middle age, hormones all messed up” with those close enough to me to actually ask about this. And of course he slides very easily-seamlessly into life as girl-feminine Michelle under my FLR guidance, and accepts that as our new “normal” for probably 80-90% of our week. I hope that helps you understand my FLR positions.
Hello Lady Alexa,
Have you thought about dancing lessons for Alice? Most big cities have GLBT dancing groups that would love to have new members. Whether it’s ballroom, salsa, swing, folk, or square dancing something will be gained. This will help with deportment, poise, and rhythm. Also this is a wonderful opportunity for socializing in gurl form for Alice in an accepting environment. As she gets better she might even look forward to going to dances. This might become a nice public bonding time for both of you.
It sure was a wonderful opportunity for me.
Evelynne
Hello Evelynne, Alice and dancing don’t go well together. Tall and gangly with two left feet. Besides, in our real-life FLR there’s no point in forcing things on Alice that she is plainly incapable of and doesn’t enjoy. I like to her have an element of freedom to pursue her interests so long as my interests are put first. We have a happy marriage and that’s because we do things we enjoy, Including FLR
I have no dilemma. Complete feminization as much as possible without surgical procedures. Feminine look and makeup. Her excellence housework is important as sex. Oral sex with both sexes, is her part in sex. Intercourse is reserved for real men.
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I’ve been try to get my wife to help to be more like female for years but she will only go as far as dressing me up maybe once a month
It’s not enough for me I want to dress and feel like a woman more often I would like to wear makeup every day and a dress
Then do it. The only person stopping you is you.
I agree a husband should be a girl and treated like one she should do what most women do and take cock in her mouth and dress and live as a woman also obey her mistress wife
Ps I wish my wife would feminise me I can just dream
What else should one do with a husband?
Ovarian Glandular is the new name for the Bovine Ovary feminizing supplement. If you want Alice functional, it is not for you. My husband’s clitty was so small it didn’t matter if it worked or not. Claudia does just fine with a slip mover glass dildo. I enjoy making her as feminine as I possibly can. I have several lovers to keep me happy. I love seeing the anguish in Claudia’s a I strip all her masculinity away. She used to be a very masculine man, a very successful bowhunter, she was looked up to by many in our area. As manly as she was, that’s how feminine I want her to be now. I will be sending pictures to your email. Feel free to spread them around. I would love to see my husband published for everyone to see. I know it would make her so happy!!
Hello Lady Alexa. Hope all is well. So I’ve been watching certain porn videos “husband forced feminization”..and I have to say that I’m absolutely fascinated and know I belong that way. So happy I came across your page while doing a little research.
My name is Jay. Im 34 years old. Ive always been a straight dude, and always been with women. So me and my wife got divorced in March of this year. She decided she didnt want to be faithful anymore. Oh well. Ive always lived with some bizarre and “weird” fantasies ive always thought. Which is why ive never talked to the ex girlfriends about it. I figured they would leave right then and there. But I’m free now, and its time.
So I had no idea there were so many women out there that really lived for this stuff! Feminizing their husbands and making them live as pretty women. That turns me highly on. So sexy. Anyways, where on Earth can i found a pretty woman like this? That I can be in a relationship with? I’m so ready to meet one..and then have my straight self dominated…and then forced feminized into a pretty little girl. I did put on a pair of my ex wifes panties once…they were baby blue and pink…sexy lacey type panties. And as soon as I felt them rub the insides of my legs when i put them on my ankles..until i pulled them all the way up. Something clicked in my mind. I had never felt so damn complete, and so sexy. I had no idea what to do with myself. Just feeling my cock packed inside those pretty panties…i had never felt so alive or happy. It was weird. But I loved how i felt.
So ive decided I want to be with a beautiful girl..and be FULLY feminized by her. As she teaches me everything thing I need to know about being a woman. How to put on makeup, how I keep every inch of my body completely hairless..what I can take to further feminize me..with my feelings and everything. I really want some nice boobs as well. I want it all..and need help from someone. Anyone. Pleaseeeee!!!
I appreciate your article Lady Alexa!