My blog tells the story of my Female Led Relationship (FLR) from a Mistress viewpoint. Occasionally, I like to post my sissy husband’s perspective of our FLR. There have been a lot of changes in our FLR recently and there are some big changes still to come. An FLR like ours breaks with the established social conventions and I’m looking to break a few more.

For this post then, I’ve added a section where my sissy gives her thoughts on how we live our alternative lifestyle.

Mistress rules, mostly

The idea for turning our marriage into being Wife-Led and feminising my husband came from me, that’s true. However, I always discuss what I want to do with my husband and we work on making it happen together.

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Fair enough, I can be pushy and get annoyed at times because she finds some ideas difficult to digest at first. I suppose orgasm denial and sissy love was a big change to take in, but she tries things out for me and we both see how we feel about them. Well, she does, I’m always already sure.

I would never force anything onto my husband she doesn’t like. She knows that so she is happy to give most things a go knowing if she says it’s a red line, it’s a red line.

The FLR we have means we do things together that would be considered odd in the wider society. We don’t do anything that is wrong ethically, morally or legally or anything that harms or bothers other people who don’t want to be involved. We do what is considered wrong by social convention and we don’t have to follow convention.

So, I will now hand over to my sissy subby husband to give you her view of our world. It’s a very different look at things than I give in my posts, of course, and she covers a whole range of things in our lifestyle that came to her mind.

My Sissy Husband’s Side of The Story

I tend to see things as most vanilla people do as a default. Unlike my wife. However, the difference with most people is that I’m open to alternative ideas. Lady Alexa certainly has plenty of those. Knowing that she wouldn’t make me do anything I really hate means it’s easy to try out her latest left-field idea. I know it’s safe to do so and back out at any time.

The other point I’ll make is that my wife and Mistress, Alexa, does not work on this blog or her wonderful books alone. I’m fully involved in helping her. I do all the technical work on this blog. This includes the proofing of her posts, adding affiliate stuff and ads to help pay for this site and the proof reading, formatting and uploading of her books to Amazon and the other online bookstores.

Many of the ideas in her books come from discussion over my sissy fantasies as well as those of other sissies we know. She uses them as well as her own Mistressy ideas of which she has many.

So in addition to being her ‘housewife’ around the home, I do all her administration work on her books and social media sites, including this one. I have full access to her ladyalexa@mail.com email and I clear all the rubbish emails out to leave her to deal with and respond only to relevant emails.

I’m her admin. assistant, secretary and IT support in addition to housewife. When I’m working on her admin, she likes me to dress like a girly secretary for the day. Here I am in three photos you may have seen on this site before when I’m in girly admin. assistant mode.

I love being her assistant and ordered about, especially when wearing a short skirt. She can be abrupt when she’s immersed in something and and occasionally tells me off, slaps me if I’m slow or I do something wrong.

To be honest, it’s an incredibly exciting sissy submissive role play that is real at the same time. I am her sissy secretary.

Nothing is a surprise in her blog and social media though because we are a team and everything she writes about has been fully agreed and understood between us. I obviously see it before it goes online.

Feminisation in our FLR

Our FLR and my Feminisation is not public and is unlikely to ever be for many reasons we not going to share online. I present as male outside the home although my body is largely shaved and I’ll be wearing female underwear.

Only our friends in the same FLR scene see me dressed, or undressed, as a sissy.

There are many people who misunderstand my feminisation, especially as my wife calls me Girl and Alice and uses female pronouns for me. Readers should not conflate this with this with a transgender or transvestite as I’m not. My feminisation is for very different reasons and this blog is not a transgender/transsexual blog.

I am a sissy, a cross-dresser and a transvestite. I love my wife putting me into female clothin. Being put into girls’ clothing is humiliating for me since I’m male.

At home, I wear what are considered by society as female clothes and I take on what what are considered female traits. Alexa refers to me as a girl for sexual, fetish, behavioural and power play reasons, not for biological or gender reasons. Our relationship is a Wife-Led Relationship.

My wife uses my feminisation to improve my behaviour by exaggerating my feminisation and for control. In many ways, my feminisation is what used to be called petticoating where petticoating is used as a form of humiliation or punishment.

This approach does not mean that we are reinforcing female stereotypes that assign femininity as inferior, passive or submissive. For a start, Lady Alexa is always feminine and very much a strong assertive alpha female role model and leader so that blows that idea away.

My feminisation is an exaggerated feminisation that a real female is unlikely to use combined with regular genital exposure to humiliate and to change my behaviour. My wife puts me in revealing clothing tending towards bimbo or slutty such as very short skirts and lots of pinks. MIniskirts for me are a prerequisite in our house and the more girly and feminine the better for my wife.

Exposure of lots of skin is a powerful method for displaying the difference in levels in our relationship.

The enemy for Lady Alexa is masculinity in general and its toxic elements particularly. She doesn’t hate men, she just feels they should all be more feminine and that masculinity is artificial and socially driven. Her feminisation of me is a way to emasculate me to improve me but also that the extreme exaggeration and exposure ensures subservience.

You can see that our lifestyle and my feminisation is not a reinforcement of stereotypical feminine traits. It is, instead, a statement of female strength through my wife’s leadership and my subjugation as a male. It promotes female leadership.

Reluctant feminisation

I am still reluctant to wear female clothing, but that’s merely the social conditioning in me.

I don’t wear female clothes because I want to be a female. I’d never worn them before meeting my wife later in life. If Lady Alexa were not around, I would revert to male wear as I have no interest in becoming a real female.

The point is, I enjoy my wife putting me in female clothes and I enjoy her leadership and control. I enjoy pleasing her and making her happy.

Female-Led Lifestyle parameters

I consider I’m lucky that Lady Alexa likes to live what is considered an alternative lifestyle and her often unusual approaches to marriage are exciting. She challenges the preconceptions of how people are expected to behave in a relationship within decent parameters, of course. She often challenges herself by looking inside at what other artificial social barriers she has that affect how she still lives and interacts.

I sometimes ask her what else she’d like to do if she could do anything she wanted i our lifestyle without consequences. What are her fantasies and dreams? That is a big discussion when you have a wife like mine. Think of opening floodgates.

I’ve pointed out that we’d already decided that her needs should always come first, I want that and I thrive on that agreement. I have told her she could be far more ‘selfish’ if she wanted but she continues to hold back somewhat as she cares for me and doesn’t want to cause any hurt. Both of us say she still has to get through this self-set barrier, which she is doing.

More control

One outcome of an earlier discussion with her where I said she should be more ‘selfish’ was my wife decided she wanted to try a lifestyle where I was not permitted to orgasm. I hadn’t seen that one coming, pun intended.

The initial discussion revolved around two areas. One is that she’s far more highly sexed that me and at my age, I needed two or three days to build up my reserves again which frustrated her. Secondly, she didn’t like that after orgasming, my submissiveness reduced significantly.

She has also never liked male cum, the smell, the taste or the appearance. She thinks it’s necessary for procreation, but when not necessary, it’s horrible. I told her she shouldn’t experience any of that if she didn’t like it, she has to live as she wants.

Orgasm denial was her answer to this. I couldn’t actually think of an alternative. I’d painted myself into a corner.

Although it wasn’t my choice, like everything I went along with it on a trial basis and we found it worked well for us both on a number of levels. In addition to the original reasons, denying my orgasms gave her a deeper control since she was now deciding on my bodily functions.

The no-orgasm rule has been very successful for us in strengthening our FLR. It’s more important for me to see her desires met than to orgasm, frustrating that may be at times. However, I’ve actually become used to it now and the desperation has receded over time. The deep sensations of frustration and humiliation are rewarding in a surprisingly satisfying way, especially when she teases me and keeps me on the edge for long periods.

Added note: We often receive mansplaining comments on the blog on the topic of orgasm denial from fake sissies who haven’t bothered to read Lady Alexa’s posts on this. The mansplainers conflate orgasm with cumming. My wife will make me cum for health reasons, but she ruins the orgasm. She has explained why and I accept that.

Sissy love

Lady Alexa has toyed with the idea of pushing me into relationships with sissies for a while. She also stated she’d like to push me into sex with non-sissy males. I flatly refused that and my wife knew this was a red line so we’ve not returned to it. I know she has it in her head still though.

She says she wants me to have a sissy girlfriend for more regular close contact (with her there at all times). I came to realise it was also about squashing my masculinity andnincreasing my femininity.

The sissy love thing is going slowly as the last time it went too far and too fast for me so we’ve reigned back. I was very uncomfortable afterwards. Lady Alexa wants me to have relationships with sissies but not at the expense of our relationship.

She’s taking sissy love a lot slower now and we’ll see how it goes. As with everything, my wife only wants to do things we both enjoy but it has a powerful pull on her so it’s not going away.

She says she’ll take it slower next time and that there will be a next time to test the limits. Maybe we can build up again slowly. I love the control and humiliation aspect of her making me do this, especially under her instructions and observation.

Cuckolding

Lady Alexa believes our sex life should be unequal. Sissy love is to remove my masculinity and to cement her control and humiliation. For her, she’s increasingly considering taking lovers.

Building on the idea of our FLR being about her ultimate pleasure, then her having total freedom on sex makes sense. The idea has developed now she has befriended another Mistress who lives locally who locks her partner and cuckolds him regularly.

Lady Alexa is extremely gregarious and and loves to go out and to socialise. I’m more introverted and usually prefer to stay in. So her having a local female friend to go out with more often works well in both our normal relationship and our FLR. She gets to go out and have fun and to meet people.

However, she wants it to go further and her idea is to lock me every time she goes out with her Mistress friend as her friend does. She never likes leaving me alone anyway with access to my clitty but she’s toughening up on this particularly with the no-orgasm rule.

I’m not keen on being locked, but I see her reasoning and I accept it when she wants to lock me. Who knows, maybe I might be tempted after so long without an orgasm. I’d feel bad after and she’d notice immediately by my behaviour. It’s best to remove the temptation, I understand this.

Her idea is she has complete freedom. If she meets someone she finds attractive, she’ll have sex. There will be no secrets and she’ll phone me to tell me she’ll be late or not coming home because she’s going to have sex.

Her idea is also to tell me the detail when she gets home. She has no plan to bring home her beta males or take a permanent boyfriend, but just to be free to have casual sex when she wants.

She also likes the idea of having sex with my sissies partners in front of me and me finishing them off. She doesn’t like male cum and also her beta male partners would be required to wear a condom for this but more importantly for health purposes.

II found her no-orgasm rule difficult at first and sissy sex a major step, but cuckolding really does pull me both ways. I love the idea of Lady Alexa enjoying her life and having all the pleasure she wants. It’s also a very exciting humiliation, a level above anything else we do. I haven’t made it a red line because of these reasons.

On the other hand, my social programming is kicking in. Is this what we really want or are we becoming fetish adrenaline junkies?

Lady Alexa will be going out with her Mistress friend and they will meet other men. How far it goes, only time will tell. We will try it for certain and maybe she’ll have sex, maybe she’ll back out. Maybe though, we’ll settle into her cuckolding me as another element of our FLR lifestyle. I’m sure Lady Alexa will write about it here as this area develops one way or the other.

The Sissy View

As you have read, my sissy husband Girl is somewhat less impetuous and free-spirited than me. I like to dive in and try something new and if it doesn’t work then move on. Girl prefers to ponder on it and consider the consequences. It’s why she needs a prod every now and then.

That said, as my husband Girl has written, I’m not a bully and I respect her red lines. I just ask she tries things first as nine times out of ten, she finds what I suggest is actually a lot of fun. And we live this way to have fun. Our FLR is good fun for both of us.

Girl’s article explains how everything we do is consensual and how she loves to be pushed into new experiences. If I had my way, Girl would be having full-on no-holds barred sex (no orgasm for her) with a sissy every week and I would be out finding beta men and sissies to use for sex.

But I want what we both enjoy and it’s no fun if only one gets the benefits.

It’s getting close to Christmas and a girl likes to be spoilt. Why don’t you write to me at ladyalexa@mail.com to tell me what you’d like to buy for me.

I can’t wait to hear from you.