Why would an attractive, well educated and normal woman like to feminise, dominate, spank and humiliate her man?
Why would a woman who loves her partner and has no wish to share him with anyone else then also find enjoyment in humilitaing in front of her female friends by showing him in feminine clothes or naked and ‘making’ him serve them as a maid?
Moreover why would an educated man, masculine and successful, not only allow this but enjoy it too?
We would like to get your views on this as we know we are not alone in playing this type of game so we assume it’s not so unusual as it seemed to us when we first tenatively ventured into it.
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We don’t follow this as a lifestyle but as a game to play which enhances our sexual excitement. This is where we seem to diverge from the majority of internet sites and meeting groups which generally seem to us to go for the extreme instead of what to us is an exciting element of our overall lifestyle and interests.
We do find that the femdom games we think we invented are, infact, nothing new and everyone who enjoys this type of activity also plays very similar games. We have also read that often, men with responsibilities and who are very independent (such as is the case with us) are more likely to enjoy being feminised and humiliated.
To be able to let go and be told what to do. Something they cannot allow in their normal lives where they are often men who always have to take the lead and are seen as masculine and alpha males.
What matters is finding a partner who enjoys the same activities as you and, in our case, we found that person without realising our submerged desires. Something subconscious had to be there.
So what do you think? Are there many ‘normal’ couples out there who are like us and dislike the extremes of BDSM but enjoy playing ‘The Game’.
Just come across your blog. Is it still active?
I am a married man and father. I have always had a strong ‘feminine’ side and experimented with homosexuality when I was younger. As part of the experimentation I dressed as a woman or in women’s clothes. My girlfriend, now wife, encouraged this. With kids and all, all that fell away. But occasionally, three four times a year, often on holiday, I will find women’s clothes – sometimes just knickers and tights, sometimes a dress – laid out on the bed for me. This is always at my wife’s instigation; she is sexually dominant whether I am dressed up or not. I like to dress in this way because I love the feeling of the materials, but also because it puts me in a place of shame and embarrassment and potential humiliation and exposure. It makes me even more submissive. While I am dressed I am treated as a woman, sometimes fucked – I pretend to be a woman. It used to be about sex, but now it is about atmosphere, the feeling of being a woman. I am otherwise entirely masculine. I am a senior executive/manager in a very pressured job. I’m also of mixed background – partly Asian Muslim, very conservative.
Of course, there are many contradictions, as you have found, in a man dressing and being treated as a woman. But most of these are social. It is the most natural thing in the world that gender roles and behaviours and functions should be fluid and shared and it is a wonderful thing to let go, to be more yourself than your biology demands. As you say, the key is the partner and environment. I hope you are still at play.
tazsis
Hello Tazsis and thanks for your comments. We agree with all your points. The blog was inactive for a while but we’re starting again so please continue reading. We have a load more material as we are still playing and so there are lots of new things to write about.
I agree with you that the excitement is breaking the social rules which are incredibly strong in us all. We are also from very conservative backgounds and love breaking these social restrictions.
Lady A and girl
I feel the same way as a male who prefer a submissive role. I tend to choose my girlfriends, with the help of subconscious, who shows a dominant character but without talk of any bdsm stuff, even for the one, come out that she had a soft bdsm experience in her past. However, It is very hard to find perfect match in a conservative society that a mistress will also reject her soul 🙁 Sorry for any bad grammer 🙂