I’ve had several requests from sissy readers who want to understand what it is that I, and other alpha women, adore about the ‘forced feminisation’, submission and the humiliation of men. In particular, why we love to do this to our partners. Especially as we say we love them.

The question of why I love forced feminization probably needs a doctoral thesis. I’m not going to write a thesis, but I will explain my personal feelings about why I love forced feminization from the dominant lady’s perspective.

Before I get underway, I first want to point out from my experience that every dominant woman who enjoys feminising their partner and every FLR couple who practice this feminisation lifestyle do things differently.

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Other forced feminization viewpoints

FLRs of all types work when the couple are both getting something they want from the dynamic and it’s consensual. It’s what works for the couple. In my case, a major part of my FLR is my ‘forced’ feminization of my husband.

Some prefer to have a stronger BDSM relationship or a relationship where the man is most definitely still a male but kept under the woman’s control. For example, many couples enjoy the male wearing a chastity cage which doesn’t work for us. I need rapid access when the mood takes me.

Besides, I like to see my sissy’s erection as it’s a sign of her desire for me. I do not like sissy mess but that’s another story.

Some levels of ‘enforced/encouraged’ male feminisation go from one extreme with female hormones and surgery to the other extreme of occassional male crossdressing. My own FLR is between these two feminisation extremes.

This article is written from my personal perspective but it’s one that appears generally common amongst other dominant ladies I’ve met whatever the level of their personal FLR or their partner’s feminisation and submission.

Why is male feminisation so important for some women?

Let’s break this question down into the main points of why women like me prefer their male partner feminised and why I prefer submissive sissy males generally.

As with all my articles, I am not writing about anything to do with transgender people but biological men who are heterosexual but ‘encouraged’ to adopt female ways and appearances and even forced bi.

Feminisation of clothing and leadership

I don’t understand why our society believes that males should generally have short plain hairstyles, wear trousers and why women are expected to have ‘pretty’ hairstyles’, skirts showing their legs and other clothing to accentuate their body shapes.

Why can’t men wear pretty miniskirts and high heels as a normal clothing style? I certainly prefer to see men dressed this way.

Although the concept of what constitutes male & female clothing and appearance has been changing in recent years, the general look remains the default. If a male were to arrive at his company offices in a pretty minidress or strolled through the high street whilst asserting he was not transgender but merely enjoyed wearing female clothes, it would could a stir.

Pretty feminine clothes, especially miniskirts and low tops in light colours such as pink, put the female in a submissive position due to the exposure of their bodies and the sexual nature of the clothing. In comparison, male clothes are usually more practical, more robust and cover the body more unless it is to expose muscular arms.

There is no logical reason why men shouldn’t wear the same ‘feminine’ clothing as some women. It’s far more pleasant for me on the eyes and often better sensually for the male.

I challenge these current norms for so-called male and female appearances and would love to see the concept of what is considered as correct male and female clothing change.

Whether my ideas are forced feminisation or I’m the vanguard of change I’m not sure.

Power & leadership in forced feminisation

As an independent, dominant and assertive lady, I naturally like to lead. I thrive on the power I feel from feminising and humiliating my sissy husband Alice and seeing her enjoy it too; because she does.

My dominant side was one of the initial attractions between us. I detected a gentle side to him even though he was and is a successful professional in the business world. He detected a strong side in me that enabled him to relax and let me lead.

Discipline is an important element of maintaining power and it is a huge excitement for me to have that power. I adore seeing my man in feminine clothing and being submissive to me. I would go so far to say that the power of feminising a man is like a drug high. Or what I imagine a drug high might be.

Our relationship has evolved from being a very conformist husband / wife relationship to one where I am the lead and my husband is now a submissive girl in appearance and manner at home.

Feminisation means a ‘female’ friend

I don’t want a real woman as a partner as the male has a bodily item I enjoy using but I do want my husband to look and act like a woman otherwise. I want to have shared female interests in clothing, perfume, make-up and so on.

But I want him with a fully functioning real penis. I want to know that physically beneath the make-up and clothing there is a male, albeit well hidden. I like that there are little physical signs that show there is a man beneath the femininity. It makes feminisation so more more fun.

My real wish is that Alice lives permanently as if he were a girl and for this reason I only think of her and refer to her in the feminine form. I call her girl, sissy and only occasionally Alice.

Feminisation as humiliation

Goodness how I love to humiliate males, in particular my husband. So more than just putting a male into feminine clothing, I love to dress my sissy Alice in much more feminine clothing than me or most women would ever wear.

That is a large part of the fun I have with feminisation. Is there any more fun and amusement in putting your husband in a pink tutu or a tiny pleated schoolgirl miniskirt? Is there anything more humiliating for a male?

I wear dresses to the knee or I wear trousers. I make Alice wear miniskirts or dresses, often white, pink or yellow. She must never trousers in the home.

I ‘encourage’ her to wear schoolgirl clothing and secretarial clothes as I like to see her dressed as a girlie-girl rather than a real woman. Here’s my husband in secretarial clothes and a kind of schoolgirl/secretary mix.

Exquisite, don’t you think?

I love my sissy’s body exposed and to be a sexual object for my eyes. It’s also very important to denigrate her penis. The penis can be a strong indication of maleness and therefore I just adore feminising it and telling Alice how insignificant it is.

Feminisation as submission

I particularly enjoy seeing Alice’s clitty on display. This is about submission in the way you often see animals open their legs to submit. I love this submissive display in my sissy or sissies in general.

I often make her pin up the front of her skirts so she is completely vulnerable. My dearest wish is to show her off to my non-scene friends like this but I haven’t yet found a way to bring this up with them as I’m concerned they would think it weird. Not everyone is in on the fun of humiliating your partner or feminisation.

The feminine act of curtsying, as opposed to bowing, is also an important element to demonstrate her submission to me.

Pampering

Any woman likes to be pampered so a dominant lady like me expects this. Alice does my hair, my nails at times, massages my legs and feet, applies moisturiser and generally does the housework to leave me free to be spoilt.

We often cook together but Alice will always serve me and clear the table up afterwards including the obligatory curtsy of course.

Feminisation in the sissy mind

Alice obviously enjoys her feminisation but has at times viewed it as a sex game rather than a lifestyle. I have had to push it increasingly and methodically and sometimes she has been reluctant.

I have to stay on top of things and inspect her pussy area, legs and body for hair as she can be lazy. When we have been out and Alice has worn trousers, I will still sometimes have to tell her to change into a skirt on our return home. That said, I enjoy the control over her clothing and telling her to put on a skirt.

All other aspects of our marriage are normal. We don’t spend all our time talking about FLRs and forced feminisation as we do lots of normal things in and outside the home such as listening to music, watching TV, reading, decorating, cinema, meals out and so on.

Alice still enjoys many things that men like such as sports which I allow of course. The only difference is that Alice watches sport on TV at home dressed as a sissy girl, which is a lot of fun for me.

What’s next on the feminisation bucket list?

If you’d have told me before we married that we’d be where we are today with my husband feminised around the home and living an FLR, I would have laughed. But here we are and I’m happy, and so is Alice.

The next stages of feminisation though are more complex as they involve bigger steps. I don’t know where we’ll be in the future but even if I get no further, I believe I have the basics of what I need in a husband now — a submissive sissy.

The trouble is, I want more feminisation. A whole lot more.

If you’d like to read, in more detail, how I went about feminising my husband, click on the book cover below for my story of How I Feminized My Husband.