The COVID lockdown gave me time to try out new ideas in our FLR and make some changes to my sissy husband. I like to ratchet our FLR up a notch every so often. Changes keep all relationships fresh and exciting, especially in a wife-led marriage.
As a wife-led marriage, it’s all about what I want and what I wanted was something new and fun. That’s exactly what I did.
A wife’s FLR rules
I’m a highly sexual woman so, unlike in some FLRs, I expect my husband to serve me sexually. I have no interest in cuckolding because I prefer a feminised husband. Why do you think I feminised her in the first place?
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I’ve covered the reasons for this on many of my earlier posts, such as — The Ultimate Guide To A Successful Female Led Relationship and A Forced Feminization Lifestyle.
However, I had a brand new idea for our relationship — not permitting Alice to ejaculate. Sex yes, but the end result has changed. For Alice, not for me.
So, how and why did I get to this? It was a lightbulb moment.
A SISSY HUSBAND & CHASTITY
Sex is an important element of a loving relationship, especially when I enjoy it so much. I know many sissies love the idea of being locked up, kept in chastity or cuckolded. That’s for sissies; I don’t want that and I don’t want a strong alpha man.
I want an effeminate submissive man. It’s why I made my husband that way.
I’m not a great fan of cock cages as I like my sissy husband to have her bits readily available for me. However, I’ve recently thought about using a cock cage on Alice for when I go out and leave her on her own.
If I did, I would probably go for this 3D printed cage as it’s light, custom designed to fit and I could still see her little princess through the bars.
I trust her not to play with herself at the moment, not least because the punishment would be immense if she couldn’t get hard because she’d been playing with herself. She’s not getting any younger so needs recovery time.
When she was 18 maybe she only needed a couple of minutes to get hard again after cumming; now she needs a couple of days. I occasionally do a random check.
She doesn’t play with herself knowing I might check and, anyway, it’s a lot of fuss and bother for me to lock her up every time I leave her on her own. Even so, the 3D cage looks like it might be nice to use occasionally, if I’m away for longer periods for example.
A SISSY HUSBAND AND HER MAN BITS
Having Alice’s clitty easily available or on display is what I expect nowadays. I love to play about with it, decorate it or just look at it. It’s my personal living sex toy — so much better than a plastic dildo.
I often keep her naked at home because of this, or at least in a tiny skirt without panties or her skirt pinned up at the front. Availability and fun is the key.
I expect her clitty to be erect when it’s on display. It’s not possible all the time obviously — often we’re doing other things so it’s not necessary. Some evenings though, I want her clitty displayed and erect for me to enjoy.
There are three reasons for this:
- An erection shows a strong display of desire for me. A woman wants to know she’s attractive, sexy and desirable. We’ve been married several years and it’s important to see that Alice still finds me desirable.
- An erection is a sign of respect. It’s like a salute or a curtsy. When she strips off, I want to see it rise to attention.
- It’s damn good fun to play with it. It’s not the same when floppy, I don’t like to see a lack of interest.
I may have to tell her to rub herself at times naturally, she’s only human. If we’re doing something mundane like watching TV if might flop. I may need to rub or stroke it myself to keep things hard.
A good two to three hours of erection is entirely feasible and I love to see that. Occasionally I give her Viagra when I want to keep it harder for longer or if I want to play more seriously.
She’s not permitted to cum during these sessions, of course. I want her little miss clitty to remain hard for as long as possible.
And this all gave me one of those lightbulb moments for a ratchet up in our relationship.
A SISSY HUSBAND & EJACULATION
During a recent long session of playing about with her erect clitty and not permitting her to cum, I asked myself — what exactly is the point of male ejaculation when there is no longer any need for reproduction?
Good question and one I hadn’t considered before.
I’m sure it’s a pleasant feeling for my sissy husband when she orgasms and cums, but what else is the point? Sissy ejaculation makes a nasty sticky smelly mess and often means I have to clean up or wash myself after. All that gooey jizz on my hands or more intimate places. It doesn’t do it for me.
This thought process led to my second realisation. After Alice cums, she tends to lose a certain degree of attention in me and her femininity. She still behaves, but there’s a noticeable reduction in her keenness to please. It’s detectable and I don’t like it.
An FLR is all about the female, the clue’s in the name. There was only one solution to this dilemma.
THE SISSY HUSBAND CUMMING SOLUTION
Online searches suggests that if a male doesn’t cum for a long period, the semen and sperm is released through urine or reabsorbed. It’s quite safe therefore, for a male to not cum and I want Alice to be safe.
In fact, several studies, I read online, report physical, mental and spiritual benefits for the male when ejaculation is restricted or stopped entirely.
Restricting or stopping male ejaculation, once they’ve done their job of procreation, would appear to be better for them.
Conclusion — I can see no reason for Alice to be permitted to cum anymore. This will mean no nasty mess to clean up and no lowering of submissive standards due to her getting sexual release. Knowing that she will not be orgasming allows her to focus more on my pleasure.
With all this comes a benefit to Alice’s wellbeing too. What’s not to like?
This does not mean I’ll put Alice into chastity; our sex life will continue as before. The single difference to our relationship will be that Alice will never be allowed to orgasm/ejaculate again.
I’m very good at spotting when she’s getting close to orgasm although before I wasn’t concerned, it was just for my information. I’ll now need to be aware when this point arrives and stop activities to allow her to calm down before we start up again.
Of course, once I’m personally satisfied we can stop anyway.
Currently, this means that I’ve had this in my mind during ‘activities’ which takes away some of the moment but I’m sure the investment is worth it in the end once Alice becomes accustomed to not cumming.
I expect Alice to play her part and be honest when she feels she’s getting close and to stop to calm down. I might sometimes get lost in the moment at times. To be fair she’s doing this, albeit reluctantly. Once we’re more used to it, I’ll put the responsibility onto her entirely.
ALICE’S VIEWPOINT
Although I generally discuss the FLR and feminisation changes I want to make with Alice, and even gain her buy-in, on this one I made the decision without debate. I think it’s that important. I presented it as what will happen.
Alice thinks I’m being overly tough but accepted my new ruling after I explained my reasons and how it’s something so very important to me. After the first weeks, she reports no major problems aside from a small residual frustration and longing, which is to be expected.
She says that the built-up frustrations and urgings tend to dissipate to some extent over the course of a day or night although they never go away entirely. This, for me, is good news as it keeps in a state of permanent desire.
THE MISTRESS VIEWPOINT
There is no downside. Stopping my sissy husband Alice from ever ejaculating again means she gets harder easier which is obviously a great benefit. I have noticed she is more submissive, attentive and caring.
Not allowing Alice to cum makes everything cleaner and tidier. No more gooey mess after.
Things are more entertaining too. I can tease her more by playing with her little princess, stopping to let her calm down, then starting again, reminding her she’s not allowed to cum. I’m working on how far I can go. I’d like to be able to get her to the last nanosecond cusp before stopping.
It’s not without its risks that she will cum so I’m going carefully and concentrating on the signs. I think I’ll get better at this and find that absolute final moment to stop. This game is divine and a side benefit of the new no-Alice-cum rule.
I’m looking at methods of humiliating her little princess further. I’ve tried ball stretchers and weights on her at events and I like this. Anything to show a level a disrespect to her clitty is important since it strips away the proud masculinity around the precious little thing.
Here’s something I’m going to get, it’s a called Kali’s teeth and it comes with attached weights. Delicious.
This pussy ball stretching device looks fun too and useful for simple every day stretching. I like the idea of her wearing it as she serves me naked. Who’d have thought that being a mistress could be such fun?
I believe this change in our relationship has been as important as when I first put Alice in a skirt. I wish I’d thought about it sooner but I’m here now.
IT’S A SISSY HUSBAND’S LIFE
What is the point of male ejaculation? When you’ve finished with reproduction, absolutely nothing at all. This then, is my sissy husband’s life.
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Have you ever known of a husband ever backtracking even to the stage of returning back to the preFLR mode?
Once you start training your husband into a cute sissy about how long till he becomes content to be your “she” sissy husband? I am actually hoping to have a sissy husband by the time American football starts. I would like “her” to now sit on my lap in the couch in her short skirt with cute panties and pantyhose while I wear our favorite team’s leggings. It would be nice to be the “guy” while watching for a change. I would love to fondle “her” cute groomed “clitty” to get wet at times during the game for my pleasure.
Finally, do you ever humiliate Alice by having her use a strap on harness instead of her “clitty”? I am afraid my future sissy husband might be slowly getting ED as he can not perform as usual (and I take him at his word about not masturbating because even he finds it gross LOL).
Peace
Michelle (maybe after I sissify him I force “her” to call me the masculine version of the name, who knows LOL)
I only know of my husband. She would slip back if I didn’t keep on top of things.
Fist, let me just say that you are an amazing strong women. Wish I could have met a women like you 30 years ago.
You asked for ideas about how to reduce the size of his little Princess. Locking in a chastity device is good but even more effective might be a tight wrap in the elastic wrap now available in all pharmacies for holding bandages in place. Its very elastic and attaches to its self.
I can shrink my clitty down to 1/3 to 1/4 its normal size. And still pee so no need to remove for extended periods. I think this might be very effective long term at size reduction.
I’d that reduction permanent or temporary?
This is wonderful progress, Mistress. i think most Females in FLRs eventually find there is much more benefit in never allowing the sissy to ejaculate. i have been a sissy my entire life and have always always found my lack of desire to wear Women’s clothing and makeup and to serve others to drop drastically after a cummy. As i’ve gotten older, this feeling has stayed around longer after release. Hard but never cumming when You can see her then in chastity when You cannot, sounds ideal. For chastity, i also recommend a waist chain that pulls the device against the body to stop any attempts to sneak out the back of the cage. This is also kind for the sissy because it makes night time erections more comfortable.
You’d have your own supermodel! With taught, toned legs no less! Plus she’d be teetering and you’d be sitting. What could be more powerful? And who would notice the height differential?
Your the Queen of feminization and shoes are one of the sexiest elements of female fashion. I’m just saying maybe they deserve one more moment of consideration.
Respectfully yours,
Matt
Sorry, I never saw your response to my earlier post on this topic. I now read you don’t want Alice in heels as you don’t want her to be taller. Lucky her! Life could get quickly more uncomfortable (if sexier… aha the paradox!)
She’d be about 6ft 6 in heels
Dear Lady Alexa,
I have always enjoyed your books and your blog. Thank you for letting us in your very special life.
As you like to occasionally take things up an notch, may I suggest one possibility? Make Alice wear higher heels! Forced high heels ticks so many of the boxes that would seem to to appeal to you. They make her legs look sexier and her more feminine and demonstrate a comfort sacrifice that I think you would quickly appreciate.
I have read that you find them impractical around the house, but I would not see why that is important. To me they seem like a demonstration of power and give her an extra reminder of the sexual charge you require. From personal experience as an aging sub, it also gives a an extra oomph in your erection, something you would undoubtedly also appreciate.
Warmly,
Matt
The thing that is even more embarrassing ..SHE says SHE would have probably never put me in female clothes full time and have me carrying a purse and feminize me so greatly but her boyfriend told her he thought it was a great idea and SHE wants to make him happy …. what to do ? …i am very afraid … kathy
The thing that is even more embarrassing ..SHE says SHE would have probably never put me in female clothes full time and have me carrying a purse and feminize me so greatly but her boyfriend told her he thought it was a great idea and SHE wants to make him happy …. what to do ? …i am very afraid … kathy
Lately Mistress is causing me embarrassement and even FEAR … lately . SHE is braver than her Sissy …she had me wear feminine clothes always and that was fun …She said she has decided to have me in bras ..dresses and carrying a purse starting almost immediately ..and dress me this way in public also …permanently ..im scaed and petrified …sissy kat …help!!!
why must I always wear a bra ? … sissy kathy
You tell me
Lately Mistress is causing me embarrassement and even FEAR … lately . SHE is braver than her Sissy …she had me wear feminine clothes always and that was fun …She said she has decided to have me in bras ..dresses and carrying a purse starting almost immediately ..and dress me this way in public also …permanently ..im scaed and petrified …sissy kat …help!!!
I have a question whats the purpose of female’s orgasm when it has no part in reproduction?
How would I know?
Her pleasure which is number 1 in an FLR relationship!
Yes, feminization is the only way and it is best for all around. All males should be petticoated through high school, fully trained in all domestic duties.
That is so Correct. This is what The New Age Lifestyle is all about! Female Control over Feminized males!
Exactly
To quote some of your words of wisdom;
“Conclusion — I can see no reason for Alice to be permitted to cum anymore.”
and
“…I don’t want to spend any effort focussing on her pleasure.”
I couldn’t agree more with those sentiments – Feminization is the Lady’s choice and that is beyond question, my experience was simply that once I stopped cumming it took very little effort from my partner to get to where I am now. It barely registers anymore which means my focus is now completely on my partner to her benefit.
I’m sure that everything will work out exactly as you intend and I salute your dedication and effort so far. You continue to write a most wonderful Blog, Thank You.
Basically it’s the ability to orgasm without ejaculating or even getting hard in extreme cases. AKA ‘sissygasm’ it can be achieved through anal or front stimulation and is a mind-blowing experience.
Once Alice is shown how to achieve it she will get pleasure as you determine and for as long as you wish.
I wasn’t aware this was possible. Anyway, Alice’s role and clitty are to provide pleasure and fun for me. Anything she gets from that is fine but I don’t want to spend any effort focussing on her pleasure. Maybe your proposal will happen by default. If so that’s also fine.
Dear Lady Alexa
As always a very interesting and thoughtful post and one that I can contribute to positively. As I’ve revealed before I was part feminised by my ex-partner and was so thoroughly prepared that I have continued the programme she drew up. It is five years since I last ejaculated and much, much less since I orgasmed. I have been checked and have no health issues as a result of not cumming. Your research agrees with what the Doctor told me – sperm is recycled back to the bladder and disposed of in urine and does not build up until one’s balls burst. I was able to orgasm without ejaculation quite easily from anal stimulation or frontal stimulation rubbing with two fingers maximum, usually without an erection which is what my ex- intended. I’m now well into hormone treatment and ejaculation would be extremely difficult if not impossible no matter what I tried. As a bonus the pleasure I get is magnified ten-fold over anything a male can imagine.
The factor that made it work for me was the build-up to activity getting in the right frame of mind, soak in a scented bath, make-up, shaved, nice music, lovely lingerie and the rest that you are likely familiar with.
Alice may be reluctant but when you grant her an experience without ejaculation when there will be no refractory period before stimulation becomes effective again your work will be done. In my experience she’ll love it.
Thank you, that’s good news as even a once a month milking isn’t my idea of fun.
I’m not clear what you are referring to about your non ejaculation orgasm.
Dear Lady Alexa,
I have been following your progressive FLR for years now with pleasure and some jealousy.
My wife is certainly not as interested as you are in things like feminization, which I crave, but has progressed in some increments. Mostly I do things myself with her grudging acceptance and occasional encouragement.
Several years ago I learned about the benefits of orgasm denial and my wife found this is beneficial to her also. It was a revelation to her that a man could have sex and not orgasm, this was a major game change for us and a role swap since i used to orgasm every time and she rarely did. Now she orgasms frequently and I am allowed to very rarely. This was my idea to begin with so I did not need much convincing and have gone as long as 3 months without. My wife “threatened” to make me go for a full year and that was exciting to me. The thought of never being allowed to orgasm again is exciting and terrifying. She does enjoy seeing me orgasm and sometimes “makes” me do so when I am trying to hold back.
At one time we came up with the “rule” that I must consume my “goo” if I released without permission. Sometimes she remembers to make me eat it and sometimes she makes me eat it even when I do have permission. Keeps me guessing.
Although I have purchased numerous chastity devices, she does not prefer to use them. I am on the honor system and have not masturbated to orgasm for years.
I practice ball stretching using brass rings purchased at the hardware store and several heavier ball stretchers sold for that purpose. I wash the dishes with these or other devices on my cock and balls and always present myself for inspection prior to starting the dishes. This provides some “stealth” submission opportunity while our adult son is in the house.
I am very happy with the results of my orgasm control and denial in that it has helped me become much more attentive to my wife’s pleasure and needs. I am a masochist and get a thrill out of “paying” for her pleasure by suffering with clamps on my nipples and genitals while she brings herself to orgasm with her vibrator and I am left frustrated, aroused, sore and very happy.
mrbill
Just a thought for the monthly milking (if you do that). Invite a couple of sissies over for a few hours of relentless cock teasing – bringing Alice oh so ever close to orgasm time and time again. Then finally at the eventual moment of orgasm just ruin it – the cock will throb and jerk and emit the goo but with almost no orgasmic pleasure. A ruined orgasm is maddeningly frustrating* and then the mess can be licked up by the visiting girls.
Sugar XX
*As I have no Strict Wife I have to pay a Professional Dominatrix for this service.
I don’t know a couple of sissies to invite but the idea is ok. I’m not overly concerned about ruining her orgasm, it’s more about not wanting her to cum as I don’t like the mess it makes
Hi Lady Alexa,
The PA piercing wasn’t painful at all. Bled a bit but not an issue. The skin there is very thin. One of the results/benefits of the PA is that I always have to sit down to pee as some may come out the PA piercing. Not always but I never know. So like a good lady I always sit to do what a lady has to do.
The PA came about because the mistress wanted both a PA and a navel piercing so that she could pull my clitty up and connect it to my navel with a pretty chain. Thus always looking erect. But for a number of reasons the navel piercing never happened.
regards
Belinda.
I like the idea of finding a way to hold it up and out for display although not by putting Alice through the piercing of her poor little clitty. A navel ring and a light chain attached to a ring around her clitty sounds feasible. Thanks for the ideas
Hi Alexa,
Just a word of caution. (We’ve been down this path). There is a lot of research about male orgasm and prostate health. Never ‘cumming’ again is one thing but just not as a male’ I would suggest the occasional milking. That can be done without any pleasure for the sissy. And take it from me with fewer and fewer releases the clit can ‘dribble’ much of the time. Mistress make me wear a pad to prevent soiling my panties.
Ball stretchers? Good idea. But again we have been down that path. Keep an eye open for signs of ‘real’ discomfort by the sissy. The pain and discomfort can cause damage if over used.
We have found in our relationship the threat of something is often as good as the act itself.
All the best.
Belinda
Thanks for the advise Belinda, it seems there is contradictory advice on not cumming. What I might do to avoid risk for Alice is to milk her once a month to keep her healthy.
The reasons for stopping her cumming are not to stop her enjoyment, which is neither here nor there, but because of the reduction in her submissiveness and desire to be a girl after orgasm and the fact I hate the sticky mess cum makes and the smell. So I’d probably milk her traditionally by hand using latex gloves to keep her goo off my skin and a medical mask to block out the smell (we all have those these days) and point her release into a collection bowl for her to flush away.
As for cbt, I don’t ever do anything to hurt or damage her, everything I do to her pretty little bits is more about humiliating her and me having enormous fun.
Hi Alexa,
I’ve learnt that not coming isn’t a bad thing. I think Alice will also think the same. Eventually. I get more pleasure from pleasing mistress that I ever got from cumming. It maybe just me. But after cumming I feel just as feminine as before cumming. Now I never feel down because I believe the joy is in the giving. FWIW I only ever get to cum from a mistresses milking. It’s a very matter of fact process.
But I do suffer somewhat from dribbling from my clitty. I hate it but mistress sees it as a huge compliment!
All the best.
Belinda
She’s getting used to it
Hi Lady Alexa.
Something that may be of interest to you.
Many years ago I got two piercings. (Long story). One a Prince Albert and another called Guiche. (Google will describe them). Of interest is that those two piercings, fitted with rings, can be locked together. Sort of a chastity device without the ‘device’! A padlock between the two if you are feeling sadistic. Or a pretty chain of the appropriate length. A short chain will make erections painful. A longer chain simply for decoration purposes. With the right jewelry the Prince Albert can easily be disconnected for those times you ‘need’ Alice’s clitty. The Guiche can be left there permanently. Something pretty. I find them a constant reminder of my ownership. We live in the sub tropics so most of the year I can walk around the house with no panties and a pretty chain between my legs is a constant reminder of who I am.
Good luck.
Belinda
I like the idea of jewellery on her sissy bits. The idea of a Prince Albert seems a little extreme and Alice positively hates the idea. Maybe a foreskin piercing might be less eye-watering?
Love your method to milk him as my wife always uses rubber gloves and never touches my clit with her bare hands. i am required to swallow my goo all the time unless she has other plans for it such as me wearing it on my face and lips, using as a facial cream or redepositing it into my male pussy with a plastic syringe. She has come up with some very creative humiliating things to do with my goo as you call it.
I love to touch and play about with Alice’s little princess. What I don’t like is the nasty goo it used to spit out. Hence the gloves
Lady Alexa,
Yes its been a long time actually many years since my wife actually touched, swallowed or had my go on her or inside her! She now refers to it as my female ejaculation or sometimes “that nasty stuff”. Her rubber dishwashing gloves reinforces her indifference to me sexually and that i am property being milked like a farm animal without any emotional feelings attached to it. My milkings when they happen is a very cold emotionless proceedure without any emotion or feelings attached to it. It is usually a very rough proceedure and my little clitty as she calls it is pinched, slapped, squeezed etc. until it produces my female ejaculate for me to consume or for her to humilaite me in whatever way she pleases to.
I would allow occasional ejaculations for your benefit.
For example when you are pegging Alice.This way you would feed her willing to be pegged. Make sure she is superfemenine before a pegging session…
Mentally she will associate being ultra-femenine with sexual pleasure and willnembrace more and more it. You can eventually suggest him to go through breasts and hips augmentation and facial feminization ( without hormones to avoid risking his performance) during these ejeculation sessions until he eventually ask for them
I see your point but currently I’m fixed on this. I’ve never liked male semen in terms of the mess it made and the smell but it came as a package with the good stuff. There’s currently no downside to Alice no longer being allowed to ejaculate at present. Let’s see but for now it’s not happening.
I am very curious that how you two met. And how did you convine him to be in in flr.
It’s all in this blog or my book How I Feminised my Husband
Since we are retired, we have a lot of time to play, and since I can’t cum, I’m horny all the time, and my wife likes me that way.
Great, seems like my approach will have additional benefits
Since we are retired, we have a lot of time to play, and since I can’t cum, I’m horny all the time, and my wife likes me that way.
Lucky husband, my wife also denies my orgasms.
I am 75 years old and my dominant wife never allows me to cum. We have sex multiple times a day (2 to 5 times a day). I always beg her to let me cum but she always says “NO”. I’m also allowed one pee treat a day, plus in the morning after she pees, she allows me to be her toilet paper.
I do beg her to allow me to cum, but truth is, I love the constant pleasure of being horny more than the extreme pleasure of an orgasm. On occasion I have had an accident and a ruined orgasm, but we are getting better at controlling that. And she does love making me lick up my cum when that happens.
Goodness me, 2-5 times at 75? Can you send your secret my way for Alice? She’s pretty healthy and fit but 2-5 times a week would be nice. As for accidents, I expect a couple of accidents in time as Alice gets used to the new regime and we get better at spotting when to stop things.
I don’t plan on getting her to lick her own cum up as I don’t plan on her cumming again.
Love your post Lady Alexa! Similar to you, my wife denies me orgasm via the honor system and not with a cage. She has always been very random of when she would allow me an orgasm, not allowing me to know until the last second, when I am on edge and begging, as to whether or not I can cum. This has been an exciting and torturous mind game for me. Although random, the average time between orgasms has lengthened over the years. We are at the point where I typically go 3+ months without an orgasm. I think nowadays she rarely even thinks about orgasms for me and she may be heading down the same path as you, with not ever allowing one.
Honestly, when she teases me to the brink of orgasm and I beg for one, I’m secretly hoping she says ‘no’ because I get such an erotic rush from being denied and I love being teased over and over to the edge. The lack of orgasms keeps me in a perpetual state of arousal. On any given day, it is so easy for her to get me erect in just a few seconds. It really does mess with my mind and make me so weak and vulnerable for her. I get aroused and submissive feeling over the simplest things.
The hardest part is after sex, when she has an orgasm and I don’t. I get a tremendous erotic rush when she orgasms without allowing me one. I love being used by her like that. However, when she is done, I have a strong urge to want to continue to have sex with her and orgasm. Of course she is done with me at that point. It takes a long time for me to calm down.
It took me a long time to build up to that long-term denial. I am not sure how your husband will handle it cold turkey. In the early years, I would tend to get annoying and very needy when I had all that pent up sexual energy. She would often allow an orgasm when I reached that stage. Nowadays, I control it better and I never expect an orgasm. I am solely focused on her pleasure. Another consideration, is that having an orgasm every now and then is a good reminder of what he is missing. Whenever I am allowed an orgasm, the teasing and denial afterwards becomes a little harder for me for the first few weeks. I think my wife likes to challenge me like that and not let me get to used to no orgasms. Good luck with the denial challenge!
Ps. I love this quote from you “It is not a point for discussion. I only want to know how she feels.” If my wife said that to me I would feel completely owned by her in that moment.
-JoeD
A nice considered comment and it’s clear you understand. I don’t intend to go down the occassional orgasm route, as far as I’m concerned my husband won’t be ejaculating again but I understand your point. I see the improvement in her behaviour and in erection response.
An exciting dynamic Lady Alexa! It’s a demonstration of your real power over him and his absolute submission to you. Your sissy husband is lucky to be married to you!
You have indicated in your comments that denial does not mean no sex. That is so true. Even though orgasms are rare for me, I have an amazing sex life, probably better than most guys. I just wanted to reinforce that point to help others understand how exciting denial can be.
She is lucky, I would agree. She’s not yet fully convinced over her denial of ejaculation but I’m sure she’ll learn
Dear Lady Alexa
I was a bit concerned about permanent chastity until I read recently that it is not related at all with any health issue for the male species, especially about prostate. On this side denying any orgasm to Alice sounds safe, according to French and Swiss studies by physicians and researchers.
In fact the only side effect that you might have to deal with someday would be erectile dysfunctionning occasionally. It may or may not appear as any subject responds differently however.
Hopefully this may help you chère Lady Alexa.
Very respectfully.
There are conflicting reports on the effects of prolonged chastity.
“In one large study of almost 30,000 men, those who said they ejaculated more than 21 times a month on average had lower chances of prostate cancer during their lifetimes, compared with those who ejaculated four to seven times a month.”
And what about the impact on women?
“Without regular intercourse, the vagina can tighten and its tissues can get thinner and be more likely to get injured, tear, or even bleed during sex. This can be so uncomfortable that women with these symptoms avoid having sex, which can make it worse.”
As I keep repeating, I’m not talking about chastity but denial of ejaculation for Alice. The two are different things.
Chastity means not having sexual intercourse and that is not what I’m talking about here. Sexual relations will continue exactly as before, I demand it. What has changed is that I do not want Alice to ejaculate, so we’ll need to stop, let her calm down before resuming activities until I get my satisfaction at which time we can stop.
I will watch for any ED but I haven’t seen any indication after some weeks of my new regime. In fact, everything is excellent. Marital relations but no nasty mess to clean up after.
Thank you once again for your posts – your thoughts and insight are invaluable. On the subject of ejaculation suppression, I have read elsewhere that this is only potentially harmful to males in their 20s and that older males encounter no issues (no pun intended). I can also attest to the fact that, after 6 months of no cumming, witholding ejaculation is not as difficult as most males would have us believe.
I am totally in accord with your opinion that a sissy’s ejaculation not only serves no purpose, but that it is actually counter-productive. A sissy’s role is to provide pleasure for her mistress – NOT to receive pleasure herself, which can only be a messy distraction. I believe a true submissive should derive contentment from forgoing their own pleasure in order to better serve their dominant. In this way denial becomes a source of intense, overwhelming pride.
If she’s desperate, and you want to stop any cum, then a pegging is always an option!
Keep the blogs coming, always miss them when you take a long break.
I’m not too bothered if she’s desperate. She’ll need to learn to control the urge and let nature take its course
My wife stopped having regular intercourse with me over 6 years ago now. She caged me after catching me looking at porn online and masturbating. i have been locked ever since but still serve her sexual needs such as oral, rimming, worship, strapons, and golden. She has a bf who she regularly has intercourse with and as her sissy cuckold i clean her after. i have accepted my role as her cuckold and servant a long time ago now with no regrets.
So are you permitted to cum? I’m after real life experiences of sissies who are no longer allowed to ejaculate
Dear Lady Alexa,
Have you heard of the DreamLoverLabs technology for controlling, training, disciplining, and rewarding one’s sissy? It sounds dizzyingly emasculating from the perspective of the sissy, and delightfully intoxicating from the perspective of his Owner who thrives with such power over her hubby. I think this technology needs to be updated to use a cell phone app and so forth, but even its current iteration is wireless.
Warmly,
Suzette La Soubrette
No I don’t know this, tell us more
Dear Lady Alexa,
You instructed me to provide you and your readers with more information re DreamLoverLabs technology. I’ll tell you what I understand about it. There is a LOT of info on their website that I haven’t had time to wade thru’, but the following paragraphs cover the basic ideas. I’ll keep this as succinct as possible. Please feel free to write me if you require me to do further investigation for you.
This technology works in conjunction with non-metallic chastity cages. They have a link to suggested/supported cages on their website. Two tiny pad thingies are attached inside the cage to sissy’s little soldier at two different spots: the head and the base. These little pads provide the means to deliver little zaps for correcting your sissy, or stimulation for edging your sissy. These pads are connected to a tiny box which is attached to the top of the chastity cage. This box houses a connectivity device to your remote control, and it houses what I think is called an accelerometer.
The accelerometer technology is adopted and adapted from commercial applications where a shipper, for example, wants to know exactly where their product is at all times, if it has moved from a designated spot, if it has been bumped, tilted, if it is in motion or stationary, etc. You get the idea?
Thus, just imagine the control you can have over your sissy. You might want to confine him to a particular spot with nose to the wall, or a particular altitudinal position (canine mode is one of the button choices on the remote — hands and knees), or bottom up and head down with sissy waiting patiently for Mistress to plug or peg the pet,… You might want to keep sissy out of certain rooms or areas, or in certain rooms, or you might want to ensure that sissy is actively engaged in doing his tasks and not lounging on the sofa. And if sissy is not where you want, not in the position you want, not in motion as you expect him to be, or not in a certain stationary position as you expect him to be, etc… it’s “oh me oh my” for his little package as you give him some degree of “motivation” (zap levels 1-10) either by your finger tap or, even possibly more amusing, automatically via programming, thus hands-free control of sissy. And the pulses can be repeated for a certain duration and ever increasing levels of intensity until sissy has corrected his behavior and/or position. Canine mode for five minutes? Ten minutes? Whatever. No problem.
The accelerometer knows sissy’s altitude, movement, inclination, etc
Plus, there’s more. Dreamloverlabs has training materials linked to a computer, so you don’t have to lift a pretty little finger in sissy’s “re-education” program. I’m not sure how broad and deep their training goes, but suppose it encompasses appropriate behavior of a maid, applying makeup, cooking classes, etc etc. And if sissy’s grades aren’t up to your preset standards….. automatic zapping corrections and/or auto-imposed corner time, doggy mode time, and so forth.
I understand that the little jolts have been carefully regulated so as not to cause physical damage, but do provide sufficient motivation and psychological conditioning to train your sissy with minimal fuss.
Perhaps there should be a women-owned business that specializes in transforming males into perfect little bimbofied, feminized sissy hubbies and playthings?!
Wait! 🤔 What?? 😳
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suzettelasoubrette@yahoo.com
There’s another technology that y’all might enjoy. Perhaps you already know about: Corner Time. The url is: https://cornertime.github.io
This system of discipline uses your webcam to monitor your sissy. Mistress can design a custom corner-time punishment which sissy must carry out by getting into a certain physical position as determined by Mistress, and remaining perfectly motionless in that position until the allotted time has elapsed. If Sissy deviates, the webcam will notice, and a computerized verbal reprimand will admonish Sissy to get back in position, then add additional time to her punishment.
Mistress can review a report to see how Sissy did. Just imagine the possibilities…..
“Darling, I’m going shopping with the girls. I’ve set up a couple of hours of corner-time discipline for you to “enjoy” while I’m out. It’s all set up so you don’t have to worry your pretty little head about a thing. Just wear exactly what I left for you on my bed. Be dressed and made up within 30 minutes, then get in the position I’ve described in my love note to you that I’ve left for you on my vanity. Now chop chop, Dear! You don’t have all day to dawdle. I want you looking like the perfect little bimbofied hubby you are ,and in place. Oh, I think I positioned the suction-cup dildo at just the right height. I sure hope so or it’s going to be very difficult for you to remain in position! Hahaha …..Now be a good gurl and have fun. My girlfriends and I will be checking in on you from time to time via our security cameras. Ta ta Love! Mwah!!
Dressed and made up in 30 minutes? No way this sissy maid could manage that!
Wewll you should learn. It’s not about sissys
I think this post needs a bit of clarification. I actually came here because I was eager to read people talking about that device, and specifically its deliciously clever “canine mode.” As I understand, the way it works is that when the domme presses the button to engage that setting, if the male is standing or lying down, he will instantly be compelled to get on all fours because *only in that position* does the device *not* send regular electrical shocks to his cock and balls. I think it gives him a few seconds to assume the position after he hears a warning beep, but thereafter he will not be able to stand, lie down, or even kneel without pain. It seems like a very effective way of making him comply. I can imagine the humiliation I’d feel as the wearer, especially if I were angry with my domme for something, and without the ability to argue with any dignity! She does not have to keep pressing the button; it monitors his body’s position automatically. There’s no question who would win that argument. Hot!!
Thanks Alexa. My Mike/Michelle has very low-T and many years using Fenugreek and Pueraria Mirifica have actually increased the two natural estrogens (estrone + estradiol) to the place where he is very small and flaccid ALL the time so that little “V” of soft skin between his legs is easily covered with an Always pad and tucked super flat inside panties, never to be an issue (unless I decide we’ll do that). Being in charge of our FLR is more about coaxing-assuring my cute Michelle that flat down below plus lovely all-natural breast development up top together enforce a detachment from the “other” “previous” husband interests and needs. These have all been replaced with constantly reinforcing POSITIVES about feeling and looking feminine, so that there is no thinking back on/going back to any things that are not feminine. Such a strong push always toward more and more things that ARE feminine alleviates any interests-discussions in the “other”, so they are not concerns any longer. It really is just feminine, female, girly, woman, and she/her ALL supported by very positive outcomes that make my Michelle 100% okay and happy with our FLR. It’s convincing the spouse how much better, more relaxed, lower stress, and FUN life can be if you just accept and “go with it”.
Hi Cathy!
What you have done with Mike/Michelle is just so Delightful. Creating a Better male through Feminization is something that all Women need to realize is the Best way going Forward. That is what the New Age Lifestyle is All about. The Difference is that in the New Age of Female Empowerment, once Women have Totally Feminized their men they really need to Celebrate them as the male sissies that they are. If we refer to them as she and her, then we reinforce the Patriarchal stereotypes of Women being “weak” and “helpless”. Women have come such a Long Way, and now as they have achieved POWER over the once Dominant male, it is very Important that we associate the traits of “Dependence”, “Submissiveness’ and “Prissiness” to the male. Will it be “embarrassing” calling your Totally Feminized man a man….YES, for him because the Males have Created the Narrative, But to Instill Female Power over the male, he needs to be associated as the Pretty, Feminine and docile being that he is!
You are an Awesome Woman, and all the Women on this blog are so Delightful and doing so much for Womankind, but it is now Time that men be called out for what they are, Pretty and Delightful sissies, under the Control of their Female Spouses!
Thank You for all you do! Michelle must be living such a Wonderful Life with you!
Patti
Hi,
i am in the same situation with my Dominant wife. It has shrunken to the size of a small nub or as she calls it my clit. Also pretty significant breast growth also. i have almost no traces of my former male macho self as i now live as my wife’s submissive gurl. After over 25 years of conditioning my will to resist has been broken. On the other hand she has become more creative and dominant. Her punishments, humiliations and treatment of me has become more creative and harsh over the years both in private and in public. She is addicted to her power like a addict is to drugs. But i still find my current situation exciting and fulfilling. Deep inside always felt female and my macho image was always a façade. Now i am at peace with myself and my current situation.
And are you permitted to cum? Are you milked?
Lady Alexa,
i am not allowed to have what my wife calls a “female ejaculation” unless her permission is given. It is done under her very strict supervision or by her manually. When she performs a manual female ejaculation on me she wears ribbed rubber dishwashing gloves that are pink in color. i am placed in one of several positions which are:
1. On hands and knees milked from behind like an animal into a bowl
2. On my back with my legs raised and spread or in stirrups
If i am manually instructed to perform the female ejaculation it cannot be in the way a male masturbates. i have to manually rub my clit/penis head the way a female would rub her clitoris. This will be done till a female ejaculation is complete.
After each female ejaculation i must consume my ejaculate unless she has another deviant use for it to humiliate me with it.
Due to my age and the use of herbs etc. my ejaculate is a very small amount. Usually less then a 1/2 teaspoon full. When i have a female ejaculation she laughs and remarks about the pitiful amount of ejaculate. Saying things like a real male would produce much more or you should be ashamed of that etc.
I’d love to hear about your wife’s creative “punishments and humiliations.” ðŸ¤ðŸ’‹
Also, see my reply to Lady Alexa re her inquiry about the DreamLoverLabs male control system and training regimen, under this blog topic. I’ll also mention the “corner-time” monitor/enforcer.
Hi,
It’s annette aka toni gurl. My wife’s humiliating creative ideas have been so many over the years. Her favorite is giving me my period every month for two weeks of the month. Originally her used pads were used and a new tampon inserted in my male pussy. As we are older now she no longer has her period. She now uses pads that she retrieves from the disposal bins in public restrooms, friends and relatives bathrooms etc. At times I am ordered to pad hunt in unisex public bathrooms. The used pads are changed once every 24 hours. During my period weeks I am only allowed to sponge bathe my body in all areas except my pubic and anal areas. This leads to a very strong period odor and also a very messy area down there. My triangle of public hair usually also becomes matted with discharge from the used pads. In the summer with shorts on my period odor is very strong and noticeable in public. Many times also have been made to wear female white jogging shorts. When the pads are really soaked and wet I have also suffered in public the embaressment of leakage through my panties onto my shorts. These stains were very visible in public. Once at the mall we were going up an escalator and one young teenage girl remarked to her female friends “Look that man has his period” ! They laughed so hard, i was so humiliated and embaressed. When we reached the top my wife said to me in a very loud and clear voice ” When we get home we will have to change your Kotex pad you dirty gurl”! The young girls behind us laughed again. They followed us a short while and i believe one of them took a picture of my stained shorts from behind me with her cell phone. Because she said to her friends “I got it! There has been many extreme and embaressing things done over the years. Another favorite of hers is having me diapers and then when we’re out having me lay in the back of our SUV with the rear hatch open with my legs hanging over the bumper, lowering my pants and changing my dirty used diaper right in a public parking lot at the mall or Walmart etc. i have lost the will over many years to resist her and she has become more and more creative, strict and Dominate. i believe it seems from her disappointment in me for never having to have been a real Alpha Male Husband she should have been married to and my lack of ability to please her sexually in the area of normal penis/vagina intercourse. Questions? Feel free to ask.
Suzettre,
Did you get my reply about my wife’s creative punishments and humiliations. i sent it this morning but don’t see it here.
Dear annette, I read your reply.
Wow. Used pads? Is that really safe? To me it sounds very unhygienic and possibly dangerous to your liver, endocrine system, skin…..
Re having dirty diapers changed in public…. is it really the best thing to “subject” other people to one’s kink without their express consent? And what about children seeing this?
I have concerns about both “humiliations.”
Im with you on this Suzette. And Annette? Is this true or a fantasy?
Hi,
yes this is true and not fantasy. We are very careful out in public with the diaper changes. We make sure there is no one around especially young ones. Its the chance of being seen thats provides the excitement, and the changes are humiliating and embaressing. As far as the used pads we have done over a very long time with no issues since there is no blood to blood contact etc. We are both very healthy with regular check ups also. Yes some of this maybe extreme humiliation but over the many years its addicting to both of us. For her its power and control and for me its the embaressment of being a totally submissive sissy gurl in a total FLR relationship. Yes, sometimes i am humiliated in public by what i am wearing, the way she speaks to me. being taken to purchase my panties, girdles, bras etc. She has even had me on vacation on beaches wearing a one piece floral bathing suit. Sometimes i am taken out fully dressed with a wig. Lately more so because i can wear a face mask. Questions please ask.
Nice to see you back Cathy. It’s been a while since we’ve heard from you. Do you have a feminization blog ?
Dear Cathy,
Wonderful, more power to you.
A more feminine world would be a better place, you are an inspiration.
Dear Cathy,
Such a lovely and progressive path to loving feminisation, the world would be a better and prettier place if more women took this up, more power to you. Wonderful.
Dear Cathy
Oh, wonderful. Female led relationships and feminisation will make for a better world for women and males too.
My kindest and respectful regards,
andie
Dear Lady Alexa,
First, I love your obvious enthusiasm for feminizing your hubby. How exciting! I love reading about all the deliciously mischievous ways you control and humiliate her. And I totally agree with you re your wanting to thoroughly enjoy her “pleasure toy” for YOUR pleasure! Wonderful! I wish I had someone like you in my life. But I’m not writing to talk about my love life, or lack thereof (teehee).
I’m writing about your latest innovation in the control of your sissy. While I appreciate the erotic humiliations you impose on her (the poor dear hahaha), and your delicious control over every little aspect of her life and dress, behavior and act, ratcheting it up to the point of totally denying her any relief is kinda’ jaw-dropping . Non? Oui!
I’m not convinced I believe the sources you mention that suggest that total abstinence is physically and mentally healthy for Sissy.
According to the peer reviewed medical sources I’ve consulted, failure to drain Sissy’s uh – clitty juices is actually harmful, in terms of leading to serious health consequences for her prostate.
I just want to be sure you are fully informed of what you are doing to your sissy’s health, and the fact that other Superior Females may follow your advice to the detriment of their sissies.
So I offer an alternative that I think you and your followers might find thoroughly enjoyable…. And your sissy will find utterly emasculating and humiliating. Sound good?
What I’m suggesting is prostate milking. This could become a weekly ritual. Perhaps an entertainment for a ladies tea party.
First, train Sissy to give herself enemas to make her back passage all nice and clean. Second, dress Sissy to your liking; perhaps something over the top in girlishness and/or babyishness. Long story short, Sissy will end up on hands and knees, over a spanking bench, on a coffee table, over a tea caddy, or locked in “fucking stocks” …. Perhaps restrained in that position and left there for 30 minutes while you and the ladies enjoy tea and conversation.
During this wait, Sissy might be plugged with a dildo (it’d be cute if a little bell were attached to the exposed end). Sissy’s mouth might be similarly plugged, also with bell, so plugged and belled at both ends.
When it’s time for sissy’s prostate milking, replace the rear plug with a remote controlled prostate stimulator. The ladies will find it very amusing to pass the remote around. The sissy will start to ooze her naughty goo, which should be collected in a tea cup saucer. The ladies may also enjoy any number of entertainments while this is going on (spanking the sissy, tickling, oohing and aaaahing over his adorable outfit, etc).
After a half hour or so of this, Sissy is made to thoroughly lick up all her goo goo from the teacup saucer, like a kitty lapping up milk. Many variations on this theme are for you to dream up.
This practice will maintain the health of Sissy’s prostate, and give you much amusement at further feminizing and emasculating her.
Non? Oui! Heeheehee
Suzette La Soubrette
My research told me different but I’ll continue to look. If there is a health risk of any kind I’ll do the milking idea
Oh how I would love to find a Mistress and an FLR and be kept like this. It would be a dream come true for me.
Love the idea of the anal stimulator. I have seen one with a remote control here https://acmejoy.com/collections/anal-vibrators/products/3-folds-thrusting-vibration-butt-plugs. I would love to be taken out in public with it in and for Mistress to have the remote control.
I completely agree with Lady Alexa. The only reason for a man to cum is for his own pleasure. Sissy hubby is no longer a man, and she should only be concerned with her Wife’s pleasure. So, there is no need for her. to ever cum again.
Since I can foresee accidents happening, especially as these new rules are introduced, I might suggest making greater use of the chastity cage. Or, maybe a better solution is to use a cock ring on sissy. Slip it over sissy’s erect cock, and if it is tightly fit, her cock will remain hard indefinitely, but she won’t be able to cum. It is torture for sissy, and long time pleasure for her Wife.
I am sure accidents will happen in the beginning. It’s a learning process
This will be a real challenge. As someone who has been denied, at some point, the desire to cum will be overwhelming and she will cum on her own. You should watch for this the longer the period lasts. At some point you may have to use a chastity device to prevent nature from taking its course.
Another approach would be to set rewards for allowing her to cum, and progressively lengthen the time. Make the requirements quite humiliating and arousing to you – such as getting ears pierced, dressing another sissy, etc. Failure to earn the rewards should increase the timing.
Ruined orgasms are another way to disabuse the sissy of valuing ejaculation. YOu can retrain her mind to not get pleasure from orgasms.
Omg a nice thought about tasks to get relief
What an awesome blog entry Lady Alexa! I love your reasoning and how Alice has no choice or say in your decision! Not allowing a sissy or male to ejaculate most definitely makes them more submissive, attentive, and eager to please! I restrict Selina’s ejaculations to once a month, but this gives me something to think about.
After dealing with infertility and testicle cancer we tried a chastity device. I found it stimulated me more until finally my supply has completely run dry. There were other issues like chafing. Now living with ED. I would rather my wife Queen Bee have her pleasure. I like your idea
I hope your health is good now. We too found the chastity devices chaffed, it’s one of the reason neither of us particularly like them
Lady Alexa … my ex girlfriend has feminized me and says no more sex with her …. that I must dress female full time and suck guys she has sex with off so she can enjoy watching her sissy … she caught me in womens clothes and she says I must suck real men off while she loves watching me suck them off … its humiliating but she says this is how things must stay …kathy
Like it
I do like that you have a FLR marriage and he has accepted his position in the marriage as a feminized husband. My wife and I have the same type of marriage. I fully accept my role as her Sissy Housewife. I have a very large wardrobe of dresses, skirts, lingerie and heels. I am slowly replacing all my jeans and dress pants with women’s jean and slacks. I also have been buying nice woman tops to wear when we go out. I always wear bra and panties now. We have been using breast suction to stretch my little breasts larger. I can fill and AA cup bra now. I wear a Kali’s Teeth Chastity when I perform oral pleasure for my wife. She prefers my tongue over my penis. And I get regular daily spankings and paddlings to future remind me I must obey her.
Leighanne