The lockdown gave me time to try out new ideas in our FLR and make some changes to my sissy husband. I like to ratchet our FLR up a notch every so often. Changes keep all relationships fresh and exciting, especially in a wife-led marriage.
As a wife-led marriage, it’s all about what I want and what I wanted was something new and fun. That’s exactly what I did.
I’m a highly sexual woman so, unlike in some FLRs, I expect my husband to serve me sexually. I have no interest in cuckolding because I prefer a feminised husband. Why do you think I feminised her in the first place?
I’ve covered the reasons for this on many of my earlier posts, such as — The Ultimate Guide To A Successful Female Led Relationship and A Forced Feminization Lifestyle.
However, I had a brand new idea for our relationship — not permitting Alice to ejaculate. Sex yes, but the end result has changed. For Alice, not for me.
So, how and why did I get to this? It was a lightbulb moment.
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A SISSY HUSBAND & CHASTITY
Sex is an important element of a loving relationship, especially when I enoy it so much. I know many sissies love the idea of being locked up, kept in chastity or cuckolded. That’s for sissies; I don’t want that and I don’t want a strong alpha man. I want an effeminate submissive man. It’s why I made my husband that way.
I’m not a great fan of cock cages as I like my sissy husband to have her bits readily available for me. However, I’ve recently thought about using a cock cage on Alice for when I go out and leave her on her own. If I did, I would probably go for this 3D printed cage as it’s light, custom designed to fit and I could still see her little princess through the bars.
I trust her not to play with herself at the moment, not least because the punishment would be immense if she couldn’t get hard because she’d been playing with herself. She’s not getting any younger so needs recovery time.
When she was 18 maybe she only needed a couple of minutes to get hard again after cumming; now she needs a couple of days. I occassionally do a random check.
She doesn’t play with herself knowing I might check and, anyway, it’s a lot of fuss and bother for me to lock her up every time I leave her on her own. Even so, the 3D cage looks like it might be nice to use occassionally, if I’m away for longer periods for example.
A SISSY HUSBAND AND HER BITS
Having Alice’s clitty easily available or on display is what I expect nowadays. I love to play about with it, decorate it or just look at it. It’s my personal living sex toy — so much better than a plastic dildo.
I often keep her naked at home because of this, or at least in a tiny skirt without panties or her skirt pinned up at the front. Availablity and fun is the key.
I expect her clitty to be erect when it’s on display. It’s not possible all the time obviously — often we’re doing other things so it’s not necessary. Some evenings though, I want her clitty displayed and erect for me to enjoy.
There are three reasons for this:
- An erection shows a strong display of desire for me. A woman wants to know she’s attractive, sexy and desirable. We’ve been married several years and it’s important to see that Alice still finds me desirable.
- An erection is a sign of respect. It’s like a salute or a curtsey. When she strips off, I want to see it rise to attention.
- It’s damn good fun to play with it. It’s not the same when floppy, I don’t like to see a lack of interest.
I may have to tell her to rub herself at times naturally, she’s only human. If we’re doing something mundane like watching TV if might flop. I may need to rub or stroke it myself to keep things hard. A good two to three hours of erection is entirely feasible and I love to see that. Occassionally I give her Viagra when I want to keep it harder for longer or if I want to play more seriously.
She’s not permitted to cum during these sessions, of course. I want her little princess to remain hard for as long as possible.
And this all gave me one of those lightbulb moments for a ratchet up in our relationship.
A SISSY HUSBAND & EJACULATION
During a recent long session of playing about with her erect clitty and not permitting her to cum, I asked myself — what exactly is the point of male ejaculation when there is no longer any need for reproduction? Good question and one I hadsn’t considered before.
I’m sure it’s a pleasant feeling for my sissy husband when she orgasms and cums, but what else is the point? Sissy ejaculation makes a nasty sticky smelly mess and often means I have to clean up or wash myself after. All that gooey jizz on my hands or more intimate places. It doesn’t do it for me.
This thought process led to my second realisation. After Alice cums, she tends to lose a certain degree of attention in me and her femininity. She still behaves, but there’s a noticeable reduction in her keeness to please. It’s detectable and I don’t like it.
An FLR is all about the female, the clue’s in the name. There was only one solution to this dilemma.
THE SISSY HUSBAND CUMMING SOLUTION
Online searches suggests that if a male doesn’t cum for a long period, the semen and sperm is released through urine or reabsorbed. It’s quite safe therefore, for a male to not cum and I want Alice to be safe. In fact, several studies, I read online, report physical, mental and spiritual benefits for the male when ejaculation is restricted or stopped entirely.
Restricting or stopping male ejaculation, once they’ve done their job of procreation, would appear to be better for them.
Conclusion — I can see no reason for Alice to be permitted to cum anymore. This will mean no nasty mess to clean up and no lowering of submissive standards due to her getting sexual release. Knowing that she will not be orgasming allows her to focus more on my pleasure. With all this comes a benefit to Alice’s welbeing too. What’s not to like?
This does not mean I’ll put Alice into chastity; our sex life will continue as before. The single difference to our relationship will be that Alice will never be allowed to orgasm/ejaculate again.
I’m very good at spotting when she’s getting close to orgasm although before I wasn’t concerned, it was just for my information. I’ll now need to be aware when this point arrives and stop activities to allow her to calm down before we start up again. Of course, once I’m personally satisifed we can stop anyway.
Currently, this means that I’ve had this in my mind during ‘activities’ which takes away some of the moment but I’m sure the investement is worth it in the end once Alice becomes accustomed to not cumming. I expect Alice to play her part and be honest when she feels she’s getting close and to stop to calm down. I might sometimes get lost in the moment at times. To be fair she’s doing this, albeit reluctantly. Once we’re more used to it, I’ll put the responsibility onto her entirely.
Although I generally discuss the FLR and feminisation changes I want to make with Alice, and even gain her buy-in, on this one I made the decision without debate. I think it’s that important. I presented it as what will happen.
Alice thinks I’m being overly tough but accepted my new ruling after I explained my reasons and how it’s something so very important to me. After the first weeks, she reports no major problems aside from a small residual frustration and longing, which is to be expected. She says that the built-up frustrations and urgings tend to dissipate to some extent over the course of a day or night although they never go away entirely. This, for me, is good news as it keeps in a state of permanent desire.
THE MISTRESS VIEWPOINT
There is no downside. Stopping my sissy husband Alice from ever ejaculating again means she gets harder easier which is obviously a great benefit. I have noticed she is more submissive, attentive and caring. Not allowing Alice to cum makes everything cleaner and tidier. No more gooey mess after.
Things are more entertaining too. I can tease her more by playing with her little princess, stopping to let her calm down, then starting again, reminding her she’s not allowed to cum. I’m working on how far I can go. I’d like to be able to get her to the last nanosecond cusp before stopping. It’s not without its risks that she will cum so I’m going carefully and concentrating on the signs. I think I’ll get better at this and find that absolute final moment to stop. This game is divine and a side benefit of the new no-Alice-cum rule.
I’m looking at methods of humiliating her little princess further. I’ve tried ball stretchers and weights on her at events and I like this. Anything to show a level a disrespect to her clitty is important since it strips away the masculinity around the precious little thing. Here’s something I’m going to get, it’s a called Kali’s teeth and it comes with attached weights. Delicious.
This pussy ball stretching device looks fun too and useful for simple every day stretching. I like the idea of her wearing it as she serves me naked. Who’d have thought that being a mistress could be such fun?
I believe this change in our relationship has been as important as when I first put Alice in a skirt. I wish I’d thought about it sooner but I’m here now.
IT’S A SISSY HUSBAND’S LIFE
What is the point of male ejaculation? When you’ve finished with reproduction, absolutely nothing at all. This then, is my sissy’s life.
Leave me a comment or send me an email letting me know what happens in your household. Chastity? Restriction of sissy ejaculation as in my household? Or maybe milking?
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