Sometimes my hsuband is a good sissy and sometimes a bad sissy. She tries hard for me, I know that, but she’s a man at the end of the day and we all know what that means. Yep, they are deficient and inferior to women and so they can’t always match up to a female’s expectations.
And my expectations are that she’s a good sissy. The trouble is, she can also be a bad sissy.
Let’s look at some recent events where my husband has been a good sissy before turning my attention to her bad sissy side.
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The good sissy
Let’s take the good things first – clothes shopping for my sissy Alice – yeah!!! Alice the good sissy.
This Sunday coming is Alice’s second outing at the Femdom club Devotion hosted by the wonderful Miss Treat and Alison.
So firstly we went shopping for a nice new sexy female bra and knickers set. We know her size by now (Alice not Miss Treat); she’s a 40C chest and size 16 knickers so that was quite straight forward.
I have no idea if those sizes mean anything to readers outside the UK so I’m afraid I can’t do a translation to metric or US sizes if they’re different.
Secondly I decided I want sissy to have a nice new dress for the femdom event. A minidress, naturally. The last time she wore a very short skirt and blouse but this time I wanted her in a sissy dress.
In the end, I bought two but both online. Here is sissy in one of them:
And the other:
Then we went to a number of charity shops in North London. The problem with charity shops is that there is what there is and there wasn’t much yesterday.
We did get a nice little sparkly shoulder bag and a couple of blouses for Alice but it was good we’d already bought the dresses online as there really wasn’t much that was very pretty.
The bad sissy
Despite a month of no chocolate, no cakes, no beer, very little wine, very little in the way of carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) and regular gym, Alice’s weight and tummy size remains stubbornly at almost the same as a month ago.
I want Alice with a small girly waist like a good sissy but instead she’s a bad sissy. Not trying hard enough.
I’m at a loss to know what to do. When she was younger weight would fall off her easily but now it seems to cling on. I’m guessing that things are much more difficult in middle age.
I admit I haven’t done the calorie restriction so maybe I really have to get tougher.
And the not good not bad sissy
Until I get rid of sissy’s paunch, she’ll continue to display a middle-aged male body shape. I won’t be able to move into the next phase of shaping her body to be more female.
She’s promised to try harder. So she’s not a good sissy but not bad either as she’s trying. I suppose.
I’m looking forward to next weekend but disappointed that Alice is not a good sissy as she won’t be looking her best with that small paunchy tummy.
Oh well I suppose that our lives will always have their ups and downs before reaching our goals.
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Hello Lady A
If the gym visits are regular and she has no health problems, are the intensity levels high enough? Maybe more weights and sweating is needed to make the ‘man’ body respond.
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Hello Mirri, I think you’re probably right. Alice is (was naturally skinny) but middle age seems to have caught up with her and what used to work now doesn’t so it looks like she needs to make a lot more effort in the gym and in her food intake. In general a middle aged person at 6 foot and under 13 stone is not bad it’s just I want her with a more feminine and lighter body.
i buy my own lingerie too. Wife doesn’t want to be seen/bothered with shopping for panties, etc. for me. More perfume seems like a nice step 🙂 sara
You’re so refined in everything you do with Alice, Lady A. Alice is so lucky, because I’m sure she will achieve ladylike sophistication with your wonderful guidance!
Sissy Chloe
Thank you for your kind words Chloe
Yes, that really sounds wonderful. I can totally relate to that – sharing glossy magazines and commenting on the ideal blouse, the perfect clutch or the new and exciting hairstyle. By the way, has Alice learned yet how to bend her wrists and position her elbows to be more feminine in her manner? Of course, as a girl, she also needs to touch her hair, adjust her clothing, play with her jewellery and modify her voice. All those delights for the lucky girl!
Sissy Chloe
She’s not there yet no. She is much more delicate in her movements when in a skirt or dress which is great so I’m ok with that. I think there’s a fine balance between being feminine and being a caricature or a pantomime dame and I’m working on her achieving that balance but there’s a way to go yet.
Hello Lady A, is Alice now better at choosing and buying her own underwear or does she still have to be guided as to what to buy? Did she pick her own set for the event and if so what did she go for? I’m sure she’s going to enjoy going out again and meeting new friends ?
She now chooses her own underwear. It was a rule and she’ll often buy it when shopping without me. Yes she chose her own set for the event. She went for a white and purple coloured bra and matching knickers. The purple is the frilly bit. I was there that time but I stood back and made her go through them and choose. She also bought a new box of stockings for the event. SDhe uses hold ups as she’s had great difficulty ewith suspenders. I have to say it’s much easier these days as she can just take things off the shelf without asking for help but she does have to look through them and then go to the till so we’re getting there.
Wonderful work, Lady A! How about making it a rule for Alice to wear a feminine perfume at all times? Same as yours perhaps, so she is always reminded of your wonderful influence on her.
SIssy Chloe
Hello Cloe, I would make that a rule but it already is. We only have female perfumes in the home and we share. In fact we only have female products in the home from shower gels to perfumes. One of the attractions of feminising Alice (one of many) is that I now have a feminised partner to discuss feminine beauty products, women’s clothes, hairstyles, jewellery and so on. It’s wonderful
i luv that first dress!
And, i think after she gets in shape a bit more, the weight will again start falling off.. good for both of you! best, sara
They are arriving tomorrow so I will post photos 🙂
Great! 🙂 sara
Alice needs to build lean muscle. Hi reps with low weight, strengthen core. Hire a fitness trainer for him. He must build muscle. With 40 inch chest, 36 inch waist I think I read he must be very soft and flabby. Running/cycling to shape legs more.
Alice is only flabby around the waist, everything else is nice and slim including her face and chin. She’s been slim for all her life with a 30/32 inch waist until recently. Her legs are wonderful with no fat at all and nice and long and slim. It’s only now in the past couple of years that a middle aged spread has gone on around the middle. I need to target her waist soemhow
Lady A. Alice is such a lucky girl to have you guiding her journey to womanhood. Outings to femdom friendly events should perhaps increase as you head towards taking her out in public more. She will need the practice being in skirts before strangers. Have you considered loaning her to other Domme ladies in your neighborhood for menial tasks? That might aide in her development as a servile female.
She is a lucky girl that I am guiding her to womanhood although she doesn’t fully appreciate that part yet. As for the loaning her out, that is something I would love to do this but I don’t yet know any other Domme ladies in my neighbourhood
I am middle aged like Alice and also have that tummy issue. Considering I don’t weigh much it is a pain to get rid of. I use the squeem and it helped reduce it a lot and still doing its job. Good Luck!
Thanks it does seem to be a middle aged thing
Lady A.., the wt loss and everything takes time, certain you will get her in that Bikini by summer
just keep doing what your doing with Alice, just remind her at every opportunity that you want this to happen: her to have a more feminine shape and she needs to do this for YOU, I went through a similar pattern with Michele and in time, things fell into place, so don’t loose hope. For the dresses, should they not fit exactly as you hope then just add some shape wear, certain she will look devine in them, Keep up the good work Lady A, best wishes… Christina
From a different stand point. The weight be has didn’t come on in one day or one week. It will take a bit more time to remove. I found, as I have the same issue, that I need to limit how much I eat and not so much what I eat. That’s with in reason to say, if all you eat are starches then yes a reduction in those is needed. Same with candies and sugary stuff. Also be sure not to eat just before bed time.
Yes I think it’s the same problem with Alice. I had thought it would be what she ate (and drank) bit as you say, it seems to be more about amount now
Hi Lady A! I had to put Joanna on a diet some years ago and found I had to reduce her calorie intake down to a tiny amount before the weight started to come off. About 700 calories a day and little more than baked potatoes with no butter or topping from memory. I think it must be a man “thing” The good news is that once it started it fell off very fast
Love
Karen
On Mon, Feb 1, 2016 at 8:39 AM, Ladiesontop by Lady A wrote:
> Lady A posted: “The good Let’s take the good things first – clothes > shopping for Alice – yeah!!!. This Sunday coming is Alice’s second outing > at the Femdom club Devotion hosted by the wonderful Miss Treat and Alison. > So firstly we went shopping for a nice new bra and kn” >
Hello Karen, I’m coming to the conclusion that the severe reduction in calories is the only way. I’m glad to hear it did come off Joanna eventually so I have hope for Alice. I just expected it to be easier. Anyway I know what I have to do now
chastity weight loss plan; lose a pound a week, or remain in chastity. might work for this sissy if she had a key holder.
It could but that would punish me too as her mistress.
Hmmm… not necessarily…
http://www.uberkinky.co.uk/male-chastity-dildo-harness-81174.html?gclid=COjn66Ll78oCFQjmwgodjCIK1g
😉 cj
Yes I see however I really like the real thing – not rubber or plastic which is why Alice will always retain her male bits even when she has an otherwise feminine body.
Love the dresses LadyA… very feminine…a nice petticoat might push them out even more… 😉
Its all very subjective – dieting regimes…but i have to say i found the 5:2 diet really easy and and very effective. i lost 5 Kg easily… and (apart from a little wobble after a week away with friends) have managed to keep my middle aged spread down to a minimum! 🙂
Persistence usually pays off though….so keep up ht great work!
cj 🙂
Oh a petticoat I hadn’t thought of that. Yes that’s a great idea. I think maybe something like the 5:2 may have to be the answer.
…and of course…. dont forget the power of a good waist training corset to reduce middle aged spread….!
That’s true although firstly I wnt rid of the fat then I can get her waist even thinner with a corset
Good morning Mistress
The dresses are lovely and very feminine.
May I suggest an app called ‘my fitness pal’ to help with the weight problem I have used it and it does help.
Hope you enjoy devotion next week
Curtsy
Sally
Thanks Sally. I’ll have a look at that app as I really don’t know what’s happening regarding her tummy!