I’ve written articles before about Mistress’s FLR Rules of the house. They were useful for setting boundaries for my sissy husband, Girl and for when we’ve had other sissies visiting.
But nothing stands still, especially my wife-led marriage, and in recent times my thinking about our marriage has become tougher. I enjoy pushing boundaries and doing things that are not harmful or illegal but are often considered by society as ‘not correct.’ Isn’t that part of the fun?
Something that’s not illegal, hurts no one, is enjoyed by those doing it but other people think is wrong for some reason is highly exciting.
I’m in regular contact with other Mistresses and with sissies. I’ve recently made friends with another Mistress who lives nearby via social media and then met who is in an FLR too. Speaking with her has given me a host of new ideas and it’s fascinating to learn how others live this lifestyle.
More about this friendship and its outcomes in the near future. Stay tuned.
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I also regularly converse with other FLR couples and several sissies. I recently picked up a conversation with a lovely pretty sissy we’ve known for some time but lost contact with for a couple of years for various reasons. There will be more to come on this story too, I’m certain. Stay tuned.
I’m also in regular email contact with Mistresses and sissies from outside the UK. We can’t meet but it’s good to talk.
Contact with those in the FLR/Dominant Lady/Sissy lifetsyle is wonderful as you get to play out and share your lifestyle with others like you. It helps to discuss and share your experiences and ideas. And because of this, I’ve decided to write out a new list of Mistress’s FLR Rules as my relationship and lifestyle have moved on.
And because my sissy husband, Girl, is about to become a whole lot more exposed to dominant ladies and with submissive sissies.
The basic idea of the new rules, like many, came from correspondance, in this specific case with my new Mistress friend and with my blog readers who left some great comments on my previous post – Teasing Sissy.
Mistress’s FLR House Rules
These are my new toughened up house rules with a small explanation for each one to avoid any doubt. I think I should have been a lawyer.
1 My husband must be a sissy
Sissy husband will wear only female clothes at home or be naked. Sissy is not permitted to wear trousers at home at any time. She will wear girl’s underwear at all times. She will answer to the name Girl and other pet names such as Petal, Flower and Buttercup. She will also answer to Bimbo and Sissy Slut on the occassions I feel like it.
Sissy is responsible for all household chores as Mistress sees fit. Sissy must have smooth legs and genitals although a landing strip or pubic triange is permitted.
2 Sissy must not orgasm
Sissy husband’s role is to provide pleasure and submission to Mistress. Orgasming dilutes that focus and reduces submission. Leaving sissy in a state of constant sexual desire gives her a strong drive to serve Mistress.
Mistress will tease and play with sissy’s clitty for her amusement, leaving her in a permanent state of being on the edge. Oh how I love doing this.
3 Mistress controls sissy’s genitals
Mistress will lock Sissy’s clitty away whenever Mistress is not with her to avoid any risk of her playing with herself. Sissy’s clitty will be locked away at night for sleep and during the day.
Mistress will squeeze sissy’s clitty into a tiny cage as Mistress wants sissy’s clitty to become smaller. She will measure progress. I want to see a one-inch reduction as a first stage and we’ll go from there.
Mistress will generally unlock sissy’s clity for evenings when sissy is expected to have an erection as a display of her desire and respect for Mistress. Sissy will be exposed or wear a short short with the skirt on top of her erection for display or the front hooked up.
No cumming, just erection.
4 Sissy will present for milking as required
Mistress will milk sissy monthly as a mimimum, often longer, to ensure prostate health. Mistress will perform the milking session using latex gloves, a surgical face mask and a plastic apron.
Mistress does not permit sissy orgasm so will ruin it by stopping at the edge point. Sissy must collect and clean her cum as Mistress will leave the room once it starts.
5 Sissy’s role is for pleasure to others
Whether this be for Mistress’s, another Mistress’s amusement or a sissy’s sexual gratification, this is sissy’s role. SIssy husband is to be a the bottom of the submission rung even when another sissy is present.
My idea is to tell a Mistres or more likely a sisy to do whatever they want – no pain or nasty stuff obviously like number 2s. Pretty much anything else will be fine and sissy must accept it.
6 Sissy cannot give pentrative pleasure to Mistress
This is a near-future rule once I have things in place. Sissy’s role will be to continue to pleasure Mistress but use of her clitty for sex will become off limits. Mistress will find a sissy or hopefully many sissies with bigger clitties for penetration and for anything else she wants to do.
Sissy husband’s clitty is not the biggest and Mistress now requires bigger and better.
Mistress’s sissy lovers will not replace sissy husband as her partner but will be for her sexual amusement only.
Sissy husband will continue to be Mistress’s loving partner and provide her with sexual satisfaction in all other ways. Mistress has a high drive and requires regular attention and large clitties. Our FLR and marriage will continue to be affectionate, loving and supportive with lots of continued physical contact including, doing all couple things together, non-penetrative sex (one way), kissing, cuddling, holding hands and so on.
This will still be loving marriage minus penetration and Mistress with sexual lovers.
7 Sissy will have sissy relationships
My goal is that my sissy husband finds a longer-term sissy relationship with dates and full intimate relations. However, a long term relationship may be impractical or difficult so short term and one-offs may be the way it goes. Nothing will be permitted without my agreement and approval and there will be no intimacy without me being present.
I’ll almost certainly accompany them on their dates to remain in control of events. I will want to see hand holding and kisses in public.
Rules 6, 7 and 8 below are not replacements for our marriage or relationship but an additional aspect to it.
8 Mistress will take lovers as she pleases
Rules 6, 7 and 8 are linked. Mistress doesn’t like apha or ‘real men’ but Mistress will date and take sissy lovers. This may be without sissy husband being present but often sissy husband will be present when Mitress is at home with her lover. Sissy will be expected to serve when Mistress brings her lover home.
She will wait quietly and respectfully whenever Mistress makes love with her lover.
Since Mistress does not like sissy cum, her lovers wil not be allowed to cum so sissy husband will be summoned to finish the sissy off once Mistress is satified and in any way Mistress decides – mouth, sissy vagina or by hand.
Mistress Rules
Them are the rules of my house. What are the Mistress rules at your house?
The rules of my Mistress’s house are somewhat different because I am not a “sissy” but a “dog”. I am not feminized, although I often wear pantyhose. Below are the main house rules:
1. I am permanently locked in a chastity cage. My Mistress uses me when she wants, but I am not allowed to ejaculate without permission. I am also not allowed to talk about sex and my needs – my mistress considers it unnecessary. My possible sexual activity takes place strictly according to the Lady’s instructions and only when she decides about it.
2. I’m always naked at home. I’m not allowed to wear any clothes. I only wear a collar, a cage and sometimes an anal tail and ears.
3. My time outside of work is 100% organized by you. She decides where I can go out, who I can meet, what I watch on TV when I go to bed. I have no right to privacy or intimacy – everything I do can be monitored (including using the toilet). I am not allowed to have any private contacts with other women.
4. My Mistress decides how I should dress. She likes it when I look nice as a man and I am her decoration. It is mandatory to display the collar as a symbol of my subordination. When we go to the pool or beach, I always wear nude tights and thongs. My mistress really likes it when other women notice my collar and tights.
5. I do all the housework ordered by the lady.
6. When you take me somewhere, or when we are shopping, I am not allowed to leave without permission.
7. My mistress really doesn’t like it when I do anything that hasn’t been approved by her in advance.
8. Sometimes I fully function as a dog. I move on all fours, bark, whine, and eat from a bowl. I am also taken for walks in the garden or forest. On a leash and naked.
Very good. I’m not into the dog thing but if that’s what floats your boat
News is coming soon?
Your life is more exciting than any book you might write. Publish this encounter/story as a paid post. Flesh it out with a section from her perspective…
This is big news in the Lady Alexa world and we should pay for it! I suggest €4!
Respectfully yours,
Matt
I’ve written lots of books, 3 of them about our lifestyle.
Dear Lady Alexa,
You have teased that there is news in your husband’s situation. I think I speak for many of your fans that we are dying to know the details. Might you perhaps enlighten us?
Warmly,
Matt
Yrs, I have news. It will be coming soon
In relation to non penetrating sex, why not have Your husband put on a hollow extender dildo to use on You, where a much longer and thicker instrument penetrates You while he understands that his role is simply about being an instrument of Your pleasure. Maybe it’s the only time he gets to be on top, but clearly there is a separation where his role is to provide the stimulus for Your enjoyment and pleasure.
Question, do You make Your husband consume his cum on those occasions when he is permitted a release? If You take other lovers, do You share the intimate details with him when You arrive home from Your date. Do You require him to assist You in getting ready for date night?
Offering a different view point on minimizing the husband’s frequency of being enabled to attain orgasm. I recall a woman many years ago told me that one could tell the extent to which a man was truly submissive by their eagerness to submit and do as instructed after they have had a release. If their eagerness wanes off she said, they are likely in it for the fantasy experience, and not truly devoutly submissive.
I am intrigued by the practice of sexual coercion. Taking the male beyond the point of tease and denial and or edging, but with the knowledge that the aroused man will say or do anything if they believe the woman will enable them to orgasm. By way of example, I have been in situations where a woman had me close to the point of no return and said, she would permit me to orgasm only if i consumed it when permitted to go over the edge.
That is such an easy sell for the guy when he is on the verge and a different story following his ejaculation.
I am curious to know the relationship You see between arousal and the promise of release with the degree of eagerness to heighten Your partner or husband’s desire to be the instrument of Your pleasure by interacting in the manner You require.
I appreciate that You wrote that forced feminization is often not always forced. Which leads me to the thoughts that the tools or approaches one employs in their FLR are hardly a one size fits all proposition. I would be interested in reading about accounts where the feminization process was not stigmatized per se, but rather willingly embraced by the Female’s male partner.
If Your husband or if the Woman in a FLR discovered that their mate gained arousal from wearing silk or satin panties and lingerie, would they see that as a good thing or would they instead insist he wear cotton. To what extent is feminization a tool for control, vs. a vehicle for mutual pleasure. If the man is aroused by certain aspects of the feminization process isn’t that a good thing? where to the power models intersect with individual gratifiation? My thoughts are that if we embrace that woman ‘s mind is the superior of the two species, why would She, They copy, replicate and mimic the top down power models embraced by men in the first place? Their superiority would be demonstrated by a unique approach that did not appear to be a theory X leadership style
A Mistress friend of mine has also suggested the hollow dildo but I’m not sure as I want to wean my husband of penetrative sex entirely. Maybe with a sissy but lets see.
Forced feminisation is indeed not a one size fits all and many males embrace their feminisation. My husband enjoys it as a humiliation and did not instigate it. He is sexually around by it though and this is an interesting control mechanism for me as well as a way to change his attitudes and manner. We don’t find any particular interest in silk or satin specifically but just feminisation generally and also forms of CFNM and submission and domination.
Lady Alexa,
You’ve said elsewhere you want for Girl to fully experience the feminine side, via interacting sexually with other sissies. That makes total sense from a femdom/sissy/feminisation stand point; but as you’ve more generally described your wish to have your husband truly experience femininity, does it still make the same sense?
You said you thought having Girl play with other sissies was the ultimate expression of feminisation but, surely that is just the Blue Origin version allowing a brief glimpse and then returning to the dirt.
Why would anyone who experiences femininity want to go back to the bruising, tortuous punishment of living on the end of the shackle of “masculine” (TM)? (Except a masochist who enjoys it as a form of humiliation 🙂
I think you have worked a quite amazing magic that crosses a fundamental feminisation boundary where your husband’s male persona is the drag act now, and Girl is a full realisation of what is societally “perverted” about feminisation of a “man”. A playground for humiliation, etc. It distorts femininity thru a testosterone lense that will only take on new dimensions.
I’m not implying transition, but I think you are at a point where you should consider finally feminising *your husband*? It won’t erase or diminish Girl as a toy for you to play with.
Because a woman can be anything, but a “male” can only be a “male”. True, actual feminisation is only a beginning from which one can expand. It is the antibiotic to the infection of macho, the chemo for the cancer of “masculinity”. ‘”feminisation”‘ is a perversion that amuses masculine minds, feminisation is freeing a human mind from the perversion of modern masculinity.
– E
I think you’re looking at it too deeply. I enjoy femdom as a lifestyle and ALice as a submissive and we do things around that.
This is deep thinking indeed!
I think your points stand as written. I’d be curious to see what Lady Alexa thinks…
Matt
I replied with my thoughts to Eleyna
Thank You for sharing that perspective. I would love to read Your impressions of the power that arousal of the subject has as a means to his submission. I have in the past used the example of the Dominant Woman how teases her male subject by rubbing her high heeled foot in his lap and teasing him then withdrawing the source of arousal and letting the high heel fall to the floor. The dominant woman tells her subject you want it back, get down and grovel. And he does in an instant, motivated by the desire to have the Dominant woman reengage her teasing of him.
In a different scenario, the Dominant woman dangles her high heeled shoe for him and tells her subject to get down and grovel and he does simply because he is following her direction.
Both show the actions of a submissive responding to a Dominant woman, but in the first scenario, the submissive is channeled into action via a sense of sexual coercion.
To what extent do You use sexual coercion to direct the behavior of Your subjects and with what degree of personal satisfaction to You, and or to the subject?
To me the notion of sexual coercion seems powerfully enticing, and highly desirable as a means of captivating me and motivating and directing me into a Dominant’s submission. Any thoughts?
Sexual coercion works well
Lots of comments on how to embellish for sissy but little apparent thought given for the Lady. It’s decided sissy’s “penis” is past and “nub” is the future, and you can source penetrative sex from works in progress, but it doesn’t really let you appreciate what you’ve taken/taken away, does it?
Have you contemplated ways to use sissy as a mounting plate for toys? Not a sex doll, that would suggest an interaction, just a realistic base for your toy of the hour when no useable clit is available. Maybe several layers of foam or silicon or rubber that sissy needs to don a few minutes before you are ready so that they have that realistic body temperature feel. The less that reaches them the better, and I’ve really enjoyed it by putting headphones or once a vr headset on the mount with a fairly intense educational video. I give her nothing to use for fantasizing or wishing or hoping. It is a deep lesson in repurposing, down to the very word “the mount”, from verb to noun for sissy.
It definitely requires reinforcement to work. I can’t say it “nurtures” but it certainly seemed to less the resistance to and procrastination around cuckolding.
My pleasure is from controlling my husband and the enjoyment of doing whatever I please to her. I will take lovers for my pleasure rather than use my husband as a toy this way in time.
Dear Lady Alexa, I appreciate your rules and ideas. I am a bit older, and have spent years off and on as a cross dresser who now realizes that, however secretly, I am a sissy. I am in a fairly new relationship with a Woman, and she owns the house we live in. But there is no FLR idea or communication in any formal way. I do a lot of the chores and cooking. She doesn’t know of my tendencies toward feminization. I’m too afraid to even suggest anything like that with her. The ideas of her being with a well endowed sissy, or her supervising me with a sissy friend sound amazing. And the idea of chastity almost makes me cry out of both shame and a strange excitement. I’ve never really understood my sissy / femme tendencies. But thank you for you attention to all this and all the best to you and your sissy husband.
Maybe this will develop. It’s how my flr started.
what about a traditional milking which would be a whole new level for both of you. gloves apron and mask standing but sissy gets on all fours on a table ; wearing something very short frilly and sexy like a babydoll; panties down around the ankles ; ball gag or penis gag in sissy’s mouth; sissy is locked to prevent erection; you with gloved hand stimulate prostate from behind inserting finger into sissy’s boipussy; forbidden juices simply flow out like urine onto a saucer providing a totally new and humiliating sensation which results in no depletion of desire in fact sissy is more frustrated than even w a ruined orgasm. of course sissy consumes the forbidden juices lapping them up from the saucer .
I don’t like the gag thing but I’d like to try the prostate massage on Alice. As long as she doesn’t orgasm it might be fun
I strongly believe that milking should be accompanied by some form of discipline or extreme humiliation.
Milking is a reminder of one of the last symbols of maleness left in girl or any other sissy. It produces that disgusting mess non of us want to see, and that is why I believe some form of punishment should follow. I know it’s a necessity for good health, or so we are led to believe, but if we as mistresses have to accommodate it then there needs to be a consequence for sissy.
So, following with your idea of another sissy carrying out the milking I would suggest the following.
Girl should be made to dress provocatively, sexy underwear, stockings, heels etc. She should then approach the sissy you have arranged to do her milking. Girl should ask the other sissy to please carry out my milking. She should then add, afterwards you can watch me lick up the nasty mess and then to show my appreciation you can cum in my mouth and I will swallow all your nasty mess as well. (Or words to that effect).
She should then carry that out thus taking care of the milking and humiliation all in one go, all under your supervision of course, but without you having to lift a finger.
I think milking my husband while wearing gloves, mask and a plastic apron then stopping before orgasm so it just dribbles out is already extremely humiliating, don’t you? Once I get another sissy to do it, I’ll watch from a safe distance and a mask.
Agreed that must be extremely humiliating for her. But I always believe if the humiliation can be made even more extreme, then that can only be a good thing.
You have been pushing him (her) for over a decade, you might be near limits he isn’t conscious of. He won’t know until you take him over one of them. They are insidious and exist in non-verbal memories from before he understood language. Real deep stuff.
If you stop maintaining the blog I’ll know you go there. Enjoy yourself.
We discuss everything as I explain often. If there’s something she isn’t comfortable, we take it easy and see how it goes. There are various things I’d like to do to her but don’t as it’s her red line.
Wow! Those rules are amazing! After reading many of the comments on this post and your last post, i thought of an idea for you, i don’t think it has been mentioned yet. Instead of allowing her to cum with a sissy, you do Girl’s milking in front of a sissy or have the other sissy milk her in front of you. If possible do all his milkings in that manner. Best of luck to you!
I like the idea of getting another sissy to do the milking. I currently have to do it with latex gloves, a plastic apron and a face mask so I’d prefer to get a sissy to do it.
Lady Alexa,
Perhaps you can solve this by connecting several of your apparent goals in the rules, and have another sissy perform the milking penetratively with a mounted prostate stimulator (eg Zenith vibrating anal plug attached to a vibrator) or other penetrating toy, but instead of the usual doggy style you would require girl to face her partner and engage them passionately.
Lady Alexa it’s good to see your set of rules. But in our, wife and myself, case our rules were just a rough starting point. All relationships will evolve. Or at least they should! In our case we ended up somewhere completely different to where we started out envisioning. What started out as a dom/sub BDSM life has turned out to be more of a lesbian relationship. Albeit with a few minor twists!
As to a small clitty. Well I maybe able to help you with that wish. I once had a 6-6 1/2 inch male bit. That male bit/clitty is now approx 2 inches when fully aroused. It works only when my wife wishes it to work. She is a constant ‘fiddler’ and never gets tired of fondling her cute little toy.
Laddy Alexa I may be able to recommend something that may help. But not publicly here on your site. If you would like to send me an email I can tell you what worked for us.
Regards
Belind/Bruce
Hello Belinda, I agree although our rules are a kind of foundation that I move on from as I feel like. Your clitty size reduction is impressive, I’m jealous as I want that for Girl. I also want it to be fully functional as I fiddle constantly too and I expect to see a reaction as in an erection. I’lll email you for you secret solution.
Lady Alexa…
I am so impressed!…
I love the rules You have drawn up…and at how different they are from the usual notion of taking powerful alpha men for cuckolding.. a very interesting twist!… I love it…I hope Girl does too.
I appreciate that the saying ‘careful what you wish for’ is so relevant to this situation.. but I truly wish I could say I was in the same position as Girl. I am trying hard to get into what her mindset must be these days…having moved on from those earlier days which just involved her wearing panties and a bra. This is on another level… I congratulate You on Your very inventive and fiendish mind! hehe…
Sissy Girl is really going to be put to the test isn’t she! I wish I could hold her hand to give her support. If only I was nearer and free to spend more time as jane! Hey ho!… I guess its that vicarious experience for me… so please dont stop or go soft…
Yours Humbly
Jane…
curtsy.,…
Yes things are moving on Jane
I find your new rules exciting and I think you are doing well to introduce these to your flr with girl. I feel you have to continue to grow in the relationship or things might become stale. IMHO congrats and i hope for the best!
You’re right about the stale thing, things become usual and routine and I liek to shake it up from time to time
Dear Lady Alexa
Heartiest congratulations to both you and Girl. When all your rules are being obeyed in full I think you can honestly say “mission accomplished”, You will have successfully feminised Girl as much as humanly possible without further medical intervention. Where on earth will you go after this Lady Alexa? I so hope your efforts bring you both every happiness.
At the very end of “Feminised by my Wife” girl wrote ” That’s a worry and an exciting prospect” I – and I suspect many others – would be fascinated by Girl’s update to her book; describing his journey and how he feels now. In the meantime, my very best wishes
Thank you.I think Girl’s concerns are part of the fun for her
Thank YOU so much for laying out these rules in detail. As a would be sissy who doesn’t have the faintest clue of how to attract a Mature Dominant Woman who would actually want a sissy , this is exactly how this sissy would want to live including being in a community of other Dommes/sissies. After YOUR last post it sounded like YOU were moving in the direction of cuckholding YOUR sissy husband. the way YOU envision this sounds incredibly fulfilling for B/oth of Y/ou . I was also glad to see that YOUR sissy would still have the privilege of servicing YOU sexually minus the penetration. YOU are so fortunate to be able to live the way you want and develop YOUR relationship and lifestyle. thank YOU again.
I keep changign my ideas and wht I write is generally my thinking at that moment. Yes, I’m movign towards cuckolding as long as it works for me, hence the need for both a pretty sissy and one with a large clitty to make it satisfying
Lady Alexa
Those sound like very reasonable rules indeed. Muchblike ones here at my house for sissy andrea( sissy name not capitalized to denote place). She has been subject to mst all of yours in some way, form,or fashion sjnce her inception into chastity and subsequent sissification. After some lengthy time in chastity full time I must say that it has hada quite the reducing in size effect. More so than I ever expected.,I am more than pleased with the rdzjlts and reduction! Sounds like a good plan you have for her and it has worked well here.
Amber
Hello Amber, I’m very pleased to hear that putting your sissy in a restrictive cage the the desired effect. I’m quite enthusiastic now.
Hello Amber,
My name is Tim (traci). How are you