Every so often I like to reflect on the progress of my Female Led Relationship with my sissy husband. And reflect on how I decided it was in my and my sissy husband’s best interests that he be feminised as part of this FLR.
I remember excitement of some of the big changes I made, such as getting him into a skirt for the first time, changing his pronoun from ‘him’ to ‘her’ and then her name to Alice. I was in charge and we were both pleased with that.
A Good FLR
Although I’ve succeeded in taking our FLR a long way and turned my formally vanilla male husband into a sissy husband, I still want to take things further. There are many things I want to do in our relationship. I like to change and challenge comfort areas and social constructs.
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Some of the areas I want to go into with Alice now are obviously the more difficult ones. I’ve got her into skirts and girls’ clothes at home, which is great. I’ve stopped her orgasms that made her less submissive and attentive to my needs and used to result a sticky smelly mess.
And, so far, we’ve been undetected in our new lifestyle as far as friends and relatives are concerned. Or at least as far as we know.
One FLR couple we know said they keep their relationship style secret from their family and vanilla friends but believe something is going on but unsure what. I suspect that may be our situation too.
Going further
The main obstacle therefore for many further changes would probably make the changes visible to all. Pierced ears for example or breast implants for Alice. Or wearing female clothes 24/7.
Alice is understandably reluctant to do this so we have a compromise for now. I insist on Alice being feminised in the presence of others who share our lifestyle. But I also want her little clitty on display and feminised when with others like us. I think this is a an important submissive display for a sissy submissive.
I also consider an erection a sign of respect to me or another mistress. So this needs to be displayed.
I have made Alice do this before when we’ve met other FLR couples at home or at their home but I check with the other Mistress that this is OK before springing it on her. Maybe she doesn’t want to see a sissy clitty all evening.
Every Mistress has always thought it appropriate for a sissy to be displayed and humiliated if that’s what I like to do.
This is even if they didn’t make their own sissy display their clitty. Of course, that makes it all the more delicious.
It’s fun to include others in our lifestyle
My others, I mean those who are in the lifestyle. I do not believe we should impose our approach to life on others who have not consented. This is one reason we have kept things behind closed doors.
The other week, we invited some new FLR friends come to our house for dinner. They had only ever met Alice in her external her male guise so it was delicious as Alice was suitably embarrassed.
They are far more advanced than us in the lifestyle so maybe Alice will learn something from the experience over time and become more adventurous like them.
At the end of the day
When I arrive home from work late, it’s a great feeling to smell the cooking as I enter the house. Alice is there preparing the dinner in a pretty little skirt and top or a mini-dress. Alice will come into the the entrance hall and curtsey to me and say, ‘Welcome home Mistress.’
Last Friday, we discussed several of my plans for our FLR again. How I want her more involved with other sissies is the big next step that we’re still to take for various reasons I’m not going to publish. I’d also like to go away to another city where we’re not known and for her to wear female clothing outside the hotel or Air BnB room,
However in our everyday life, although I really want Alice to have pierced ears, be permanently feminised, have real boobs, have ‘forced’ sex with other sissies under my guidance and so on, in the scheme of things so far, things are not bad.
I have all these great ideas but I also know that if I go no further, what I have is already good. Very good indeed.
In other posts you’ve spoken about the sexual perks of your FLR and, I wonder if what you are looking at then is the dissonance that comes from blending “femme” with “female”; I remember being mortified one day, standing in an elevator and two women walked in. They looked like they’d had a rough day and were done with the world, but I recognized one an article of clothing, which reminded me I was “in the panty club” right there, and the particular pair of panties I was wearing had some sexual memories associated with them. And suddenly I felt like the wrong sort of pervert, an invader. I was mortified.
There’s also the subconcious strain that you are wearing panties while *pretending* to be dressed like a man.
What I found was able to eventually change it was a better separation. The focus of shopping became mundane items like jeans, boyshorts, unisex items; things I could get up and wear on a miserable saturday without noticing I wasn’t dressing male.
Clothes.
My undies drawer was stuffed with panties and a few remaining male garments, and then along came one super hectic week where I was so busy and tired Kylie could have come to my apartment and sat on my face and I’d have said “excuse me, I can’t see the tv”, but on the weekend when I went to do laundry, I discovered despite “male” me being at the helm all week out of necessity, it had opted just to wear whatever came out of the drawer first instead of engaging in that battle too. I’d worn my female underwear every day for 7 days including one day when it most certainly was visible to everyone else, but being a pair of CK boyshorts and not being fully visible, it would either have been overlooked as “must have left the girlfriend’s in a rush” or just poor style choices.
There’s a point in the process where it seems/feels that you might spoil things to the point where it has no impact on you, and you might as well just stick to wearing penis-oriented clothing; but the very stimulatory benefits you described in a post several years ago eventually become heightened when you go to switch from your outdoor (but female) clothes to playtime…
Hope there’s something in there that helps.
The sexual perks of our FLR are far more complex and interconnected trhan any femme/female dissonance. For me about my power and for Alice is her submission and humiliation. Being put into feminine clothes and being called a sissy and girl is a part of my power over her and her submission.
Lady Alexa I am hoping that maybe you can help me. At least with some ideas. I have longed to live my life in an flr for years. I’ve understood most of my life that women should be in charge and in control, in all things really. I am married to a wonderful woman that I love and adore. We have talked about living a female led life many times and she is very interested in it. Not as much as I am but she is interested. She comes from a life and culture that the man is in charge and the woman takes care of the home and has dinner ready when the man gets home from work. You know what I mean. Taking care of the man. We have not been together for a very long time and are not young. I am in my early 60s and she her late 50s. She likes the idea a lot but doesn’t seem to be able to actually put it into practice in any way. I wonder if you might have some advice for me on how I can actually get her to start thinking about taking it seriously and start living our lives they way they should be. In an flr.
Being turned into a sissy is another dream of mine. Hopefully that can be a natural progression of the lifestyle.
Any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. And I know it would be a better life for both of us.
SHow her the benefits for her of an flr
I do try but lady Maria is sooo not getting the idea . Such a shame . She also doesn’t see the advantages to no release
Shame as there is
Hi Roy
Are you able to have a completely trusting and honest conversation with your lovely wife? Assuming she has them, what are her favourite ways of having an orgasm? And how often would she like them, ideally? Has she ever used a vibrator and does she still? Many women, including my wife, will orgasm more easily to a vibrator (or your fingers, mouth), than with intercourse. If this is true for her, and you can meet HER needs how and when SHE wants them, you are well on your way to an FLR sex life.
I have many many other ideas, especially on the sissy front, as they have worked very well for my wife, and my marriage , which is now more intimate and enjoyable than ever.
Perhaps if Lady A would put us in touch we could discuss and bring your progress back to this forum?
I’ve been looking into exercises that would plump up the hips and butt but also help reduce the waist. Ignore the upper body and once can make a subtle change to look more feminine.
Possible idea to help reach your goals?
Nice ideas Daphne
Surely every sissy should grow sufficient breast tissue to understand what it means to have breasts and understand feminine sensations and emotions?
I think you’re right
Lady Alexa, I hope you are successful in your effort to push the boundries and coax Alice into more and more sissy submission/humiliation. I think more public exposure for Alice, particularly, as you say, in another part of the country where you are not known, would be beneficial and hopefully she will become accustomed to being Alice in public (although not too accustomed). It may prove to be a watershed moment for her.
Having a sissy girlfriend for Alice would also, I’m sure, be a breakthrough. I feel that sissies really need to be brought together by dominant women, and I’m sure Alice would respnd well to such an encounter, particularly if she is the more submissive partner. I have no doubt you would be extremely proud of her and her humiliation would be very rewarding for both of you.
If you are sucessful in finding another sissy for Alice to play with, I do hope you will publish a full account. I would be thrilled to read it.
Thank you for reading this.
Her humiliation is oddly very rewarding for me
Humilation serves one of two purposes:
1. revenge for past wrongdoings.
2. Infliction for degradation out of hatred.
Which is it? Will you in the future increase the degradation or possibly accelerate it into exponential growth.
Two false choices. Try again and think what the person being humiliated might get out of it because the person being humiliated is enjoying it.
Dear Mistress Alexa,
Thank you for your always interesting discourses about your progress with Alice. Just a remark about piercing her ears. I have had pierced ears for many years and it is hardly visible. Even my very attentive daughter never made a note of it. It would make wearing earrings much more natural for Alice and be yet another small step forward in her permanent feminization. And in male mode she could wear at least one stud, something nice in gold and with a stone. That would explain the piercing, right? Wearing long dangling earrings in my pierced ears makes me already feel very feminine. Something Alice would get to love, as a positive affirmation of her girlhood.
Love
I’ve toyed with this idea for a long time
Dear Lady Alexa,
Alice is certainly a very lucky girl indeed to have you as her Mistress, I note however that you feel a certain amount of frustration that she cannot wear female clothing outside of the home, while this may not be possible have you considered softening or feminising her masculine wardrobe ? (perhaps you have already done this) I’m thinking that if Alice no longer needs go to work there really is no need to wear trousers at all unless attending a formal vanilla event at least from May through to September/ October when shorts can be worn, not the butch cargo style but something altogether briefer, maybe not Daisy Dukes but certainly not knee length either, these could be worn with sandals of which there are some quite feminine / unisex styles or maybe espadrilles ( the nearest thing to ballet flats for men) there’s also an option of three quarter pedal pusher trousers also made for men, add a floral or paisley shirt and the effect is fairly feminine without being overtly ‘women’s clothes’ In recent times there has been a trend for men to wear athletic tights under shorts, these look indistinguishable from ordinary ladies thick black tights perhaps you might like Alice in a pair of those ?
I am glad you are now referring to her as your sissy . That’s so nice you have accepted he is a sissy. 💋💋 sissy penny
Yes, I never used to like the term but I do now.
Well if you need another sissy for one evening get in touch ?
Looking beautiful and extremely gorgeous
I think so too
Dear Lady Alexa. Absolutely love Your plans for alice. You should continue to push the envelope if that is what makes You happy. Keeping Mistress happy is the number 1 goal for every submissive, nothing else matters.
It make me very happy to keep pushing into new areas of female domination
I agree with you Alice should have pierced ears and real boobs. What all would permanently feminized include? If Alice is forced to have sex with other sissies, who would be the dominant sissy? Have you ever thought of cuckolding Alice and making Alice have sex with your Bull?
She should and I love the idea but we’re not sure if we want to be so open about what’s going on. Aloice would never be permitted to be the dominant sissy. I’ve written many times that cuckolding has no interest for me. I do not like alpha males, I like sissy males.
Hmmm us sissy girls so easily to train . And with me and Alice together there would be no dominant. As you lady alexa would orchestrate the whole time me and Alice are doing our sissy chores around you humble abode 🥰
I’d always be in charge of any sissy events
Oh lady alexa . Hmmm let the sissy games begin. 💕 penny