I receive a lot of questions about having a forced feminisation relationship — the feminization question. Most are from aspirant sissies, of course, but there are a few from ladies too.

Every relationship is different with different needs and dynamics. Since I have been in an FLR for some years, I have ‘force’ feminised my husband and I know a few other couples who share our lifestyle approach, I can respond with some degree of experience to the forced feminization question.

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My answers to the question of how to be feminised or to feminise your husband/boyfriend are different because the reasons for it are different depending on whether you’re male or female. Thereby hangs the answer for why males often struggle to find a willing partner and need an answer to the feminization question.

Let’s start with answering the question for males as they have the biggest problem in understanding how to answer the feminization question.

The Male Feminization Question

The question I get from males is generally along the lines of, “How do I find a woman to feminise me?” or “How do I get my girlfriend/wife to turn me into a sissy?” and “How can I get my wife to accept my desire to wear female clothes?”

Can you see what’s wrong with these questions? Women will spot it immediately but males may not. Let me help them.

The feminization questions I get from males are all about them and their fetish/need/excitement with little thought about what the lady might want or get out of it.

I know of no FLR with a feminised male where the male asked his wife to feminise him and she said, “Yes dear, of course I will.” Every single relationship of this type, my own included, began as a vanilla relationship. The attraction was between a strong alpha woman and a beta male; it developed from there.

In most cases in the FLR couples I know, the male partner told their then girlfriend after a couple of dates that they had a proclivity to be submissive and to wear female clothes. The submissive side was obvious to the woman but maybe the crossdressing took a little more to sink in. However, it did and they worked out things from the beginning.

The key point is that the relationship started as a vanilla one through mutual attraction and not through forced feminisation.

And in all cases, the future sissy husband asked their girlfriend how they felt about this early on, how they thought it would give the lady control and what the lady wanted to get out of a relationship of this type should they go for it.

Even where the male’s desire to be feminised came later in a marriage, they considered their wife’s needs from the change they were asking for. In most cases, it was a formalisation of what they already had implicitly.

Therefore, never try to jump into becoming a sissy as the objective. Take on submissive tasks and make her the queen. Feminisation may then develop once the wife is being treated as the most important person or the male becomes the typical submissive around the home.

My case is less common, although not unique, in that I led the gradual feminisation of a sometimes surprised and reluctant husband. However, we were together because of love and affection and the attraction between a strong woman and a beta male and not as a desire for male feminisation as a major element of our relationship. Not at first anyway.

So aspirant sissies, never forget that for a woman the relationship comes first. Never tell a prospective or current partner that you want to be feminised or turned into a sissy girl without context and showing what’s in it for them.

In my case, I knew exactly what was in it for us when I started Alice’s feminisation, but Alice didn’t realise so I had to show her the benefits of an FLR and forced feminisation to her. The same applies the other way around.

All ladies want to be treated with love, care and respect. The more you give them and the more control you hand over, the more chance they will eventually accept your feminisation or it will develop naturally.

You will need be a feminine friend to your lady and not someone who likes to flounce around the house in a sissy French maid’s dress. Be more sensitive to your wife’s needs; pamper them, do housewife chores for them. Show them the benefits of you being a female like them but a submissive one who does what they tell you to do.

To be a proper submissive sissy, you will need to make her the priority not your personal feminisation desires. You must give her control.

For example, there have been times when I’ve had problems with Alice even though I pushed her into feminisation. She sometimes forgot my needs and started to enjoy her pretty female clothes too much. I of course took steps to bring things back to the priority. Me.

In a forced-feminised FLR there is one over-riding rule: the lady of the house comes first.

The Dominant Lady Feminisation Question

The answer for ladies who want their husband feminised is therefore different.

An alpha lady like me who wants their partner to be a feminised sissy will often need to take a softly-softly approach. The male will be fighting his internal constructs even though the concept of being feminised may be exciting and even attractive to them.

Of course, being assertive and demanding is a normal trait for a strict wife but you should also praise your sissy when (s)he’s in beautiful feminine clothes. Get him/her to associate it with the pleasure of being a sissy girl and the discomfort with being male.

Even though you need to be loving and persuasive with him, you will also need to constantly monitor things. You will need to ensure he dresses and acts appropriately: appropriately means feminine. Early on in the feminisation process you should throw away his pyjamas and male underwear. Put him into panties/knickers and nighties as soon as possible.

From a base of female underwear and nighties, you can start to gradually increase his feminisation.

This isn’t so difficult even when they resist or seem reluctant because women’s panties feel nicer for them and no one else can see them so it’s safe first step. If your husband has good hair, it’s now the time to get him to grow it too. These are all easy steps you can apply lovingly and they form a great base for expanding his feminisation.

You will also force to get him to shave his legs and chest as soon as possible, especially as you’ll want him in skirts and dresses and body hair is unattractive.

A smooth body is largely hidden from the outside world so use this idea of a safe change to push him to shave. Once they do it, it feels nice against their new female clothing. You have him feeling exciting feminine sensations for the first time and they’ll find it hard to resist.

Once you have decided to feminise him and taken the first few steps, you have to get him into skirts. Do not delay this step as this is the biggest one and when he accepts something utterly feminine, there is no going back. It’s then merely a case of how far you can take him.

I know it’s daunting for a male to put on a skirt, it was for Alice, but associate it with sex and pleasure — it works every time.

Get him to explain how nice the female clothing on his hairless body is. Make him tell you how wonderful it is to be female and make him directly speak about the joys of wearing a skirt. And now you can start calling him a girl now. If he objects, point to the skirt he’s wearing.

Give him lots of compliments associated with the word girl —”You’re a pretty girl,” and so on. Start calling him a girl and a sissy during sex games and then gradually bring it into everyday use along with a feminine proper name.

The Feminisation Process

I hope this helps to answer the questions around the forced feminization question and gives both males and ladies some insight into the way forced feminisation needs to be approached within a relationship.

Whether you’re male or a lady, always be aware of what’s in it for your partner. For males, think about how your lady partner will benefit from feminising you as a man. For ladies, associate the forced feminization question with pleasure, compliments and caring, especially if he is reluctant beyond the bedroom.

Let me know in the comments or privately by email to ladyalexa@mail.com how it you answered the forced feminization question. Did you as a sissy raise it and how did your wife react? Or are you a dominant lady like me and pushed your partner lovingly into becoming a sissy?

Do tell.

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