An FLR dynamic is forever twisting and turning, morphing and transforming. That’s probably the same in any relationship, FLR or vanilla. One month I think our FLR should work one way, and another month, I change my mind and the whole dynamic changes. One thing that affects any FLR is outside influence and changing lifestyle, another is the experiences we have.
Our FLR has twisted and turned again, such as in my on-off-on-off relationship with chastity cages. One moment I think they’re useful, the next they irritate me, especially when I think a sissy enjoys them just a little too much and uses them as a technique for delayed sissy gratification.
That’s not the case with my husband, Girl, but I see other sissies from time to time wallowing in the delight of wearing a chastity cage. Very annoying.
The chastity cage problem
I last wrote about putting Girl into a chastity cage 24 horus a day, shrinking her little cutie and preventing her from having any kind of sex at all. I wrote about this here just 5 months ago – The Chastity Cage Saga.
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I’m now backing away from putting my husband in a chastity cage full time. Again. Although I would love to shrink her little thingy through putting her in a tiny cage that atrophies it over time, there are trade offs.
Hygiene
I loved seeing her little clitty squashed into a one-inch long cage. The trouble was that it wasn’t easy for her to pee as the urine got caught in the cage and squirted in odd directions. And before anyone says use a catheter, neither of us like that idea, so no.
Although Ive bought a bigger and better cage for my sissy husband, a cage still affects the next issue I am having with a full-time caged subby hubby.
Access
I can’t help it, but I love having a real-life sex toy to hand, so to speak. I know I have ideas of cuckolding, but I also like the here and now. I love to play with my little toy. It’s a lot of fuss to have to unlock it when the urge to play comes to me. Besides, I like her naked around the house on these warmer evenings, exposed and on display for me. And for any mistress friends I might occasionally invite for coffee or dinner.
Really, it’s so much fun to tease her by playing with her cutie that locking it away was depriving me of my fun.
I still need to cage my husband’s little cutie when I’m not around to avoid her succumbing to any nasty urges. I continue to not allow her to orgasm and it’s too much risk to leave her alone with no cage. But otherwise, I’ll leave her little cutie hanging free when I’m with her. It’s cleaner and I have full unrestricted access for fun and games.
Cuckolding
One or two personal things have prevented me from progressing on the cuckolding idea at all. I now don’t believe I want to restrict my sissy husband from sex but I do still want to cuckold her. Absolutely. I want to cuckold her as she watches because that’s more fun. For me.
My mistress friend who lives close by cuckolds her partner and has several submissives and is keen to introduce me to the exciting world of cuckolding. We’ve struggled to get diaries together for personal reasons on both sides, but a first step is not far off, I’m certain.
Sissy love
I adore the idea of guiding my sissy husband into sissy love. I want to see her do everything with another sissy under my supervision and instructions. I oversaw the start of this last year and wrote about it in The Final Sissy Frontier and A Mistress And Her Sissy.
There is still far further to go on this, but I’ve held back as I took her too far too soon. I need to row back a little. I’ve been successful in bringing my husband with me on where I want to take her because I took things carefully. If you have a sissy husband who didn’t have any desire to become a girl before I met her, like mine, or to have sex with other sissies, it’s important to take these things slowly.
I’ve let her decompress after last year’s sissy love experiences and it’s now probably time to reintroduce her. This time, I’ll take baby steps. The goal is for her to give a sissy fellatio until she cums into her mouth. I know this is a big step, so I’ll need to take things step by step to get to that point over several sessions over several weeks.
The ultimate goal is for full sissy intercourse, but I think a sissy cumming on her face and then in her mouth is the realistic target for this year. I’d like my mistress friend to be there to see Girl doing the blowjob and taking it in her mouth. I know she’d find that hilarious.
I’ve often debated with myself whether to allow Girl to orgasm with another sissy and I continue to be in two minds. I don’t like the loss of sissyness that happens after she orgasms but, on the other hand, I wouldn’t have to deal with any mess as that would be inside another sissy. More importantly, allowing her to orgasm with other sissies could encourage her to have sex with them as the only way to achieve an orgasm.
Changing FLRs
Those who have followed my writing for a long time know how far my FLR has come over the years and how much it has changed. External events shape what I can and can’t do so what I’d like to do isn’t always what I can do.
Wherever we end up as an FLR, we know our relationship is light years away from the vanilla relationship we had when we first met.
Dear Lady Alexa,
I completely concur with your excellent plan to allow Girl to experience an orgasm only in the company of another sissy. It will, as you rightly suggest, provide her with the perfect motivation to engage in sexual activity of that nature. What a beautiful, loving experience awaits her, and of course, also for yourself and your sympathetic friend.
Cuckoldry being one of the kindest experiences a leading lady can bestow on her husband. Let the fun commence !
Yours humbly,
Frankie.
It will be good for everyone
Hello Lady Alexa. i wrote to You earlier regarding my inability to click on the new books in Your recent email. i tried to locate them on Amazon but was unsuccessful. Please send me the direct link to Amazon that You mentioned and will allow me to purchase those books. Thank You for Your help. chanel.
Hello Lady Alexa. i wrote to You earlier regarding my inability to click on the new books in Your recent email. i tried to locate them on Amazon but was unsuccessful. Please send me the direct link to Amazon that You mentioned and will allow me to purchase those books. Thank You for Your help. chanel.
That defininitely seems like your firewall is set to block. Here’s the link to my Amazon US author page with all my books – https://www.amazon.com/stores/Lady-Alexa/author/B01HWRGJGW
Have you explored her having an orgasm via prostate stimulation?
This can be the sex for her, the other sissy stimulatin the prostata with fingers or other
I haven’t yet. I certainly want a sissy to stimulate her prostate with a finger. I won’t allow her to orgasm though. Rules are rules.
Can you make part 2 of how I feminised my husband available on kobo?
Kindle edition not available in many African countries.
Thanks
Natasha
Kobo declined Part 2 which is why it’s not published it there. This happens from time to time with non-Amazon book sellers as they can be much stricter on fetish content.
You are right that sissy’s enjoy a chastity device. It makes us feel vulnerable and takes away our ability to touch or please ourselves. You can not feel masculine in any way while wearing one. These are feelings we like. There are micro flat cages that have a small tube that inserts into the urethra. These also excite us with a brief tiny pain at insertion but that is surpassed by the excitement of our clitty being penetrated which is very feminine and the erotic naughtiness of something so taboo. You mentioned in your post that you do not like the idea of a catheter but I can assure you that it is not a bad experience and could lead to sounding play with sissy being penetrated deep into her tiny wet hole. These chastity devices will help shrink the sissy clitty over time. A balance of using one of these types of chastity devices when you are out may be just what you need. That coupled with requiring Girl to watch sissy training porn while you are out that encourages cum swallowing and penetrative sissy sex would both excite and torment her the entire time you are not at home. You could release her or give her the key and command her to release herself upon your return to be more assessable. These cages can get the size down until you can invert her clitty into her body cavity for a smooth look in panties and for additional pleasure for you as you are then able to penetrate her and finger her in a very fem manner. I can finger myself over an inch deep now easily. I understand your reasons for not letting Girl cum. Most Cum Eating Instruction videos incorporate tasting and later swallowing your own Cum as a stepping stone to sucking and swallowing someone else’s juices. Girl could be milked with a prostate toy and while this is not equal to her full orgasmic load it would be a good training tool to break down that barrier of having hot creamy cum in her mouth at your will. Having other Mistresses and sissy’s watch or participate in her milking would be even more embarrassing and exciting. The spraying urination problem can be eliminated by having her squat and pee in the shower while you watch. If she is nude then spraying off with a hand shower attachment would make easy clean up. It is so much fun to read about your FLR and your ideas. Thanks for sharing. Most of us do not have a willing partner to submit to concerning feminization in an FLR. Your posts are always fun, matter of fact and exciting. They help me realize that women should have control over my everyday life and my sexual pleasure or restriction from sex.
As I mentioned, it’s about whether a chastity cage does anything for a mistress not a sissy. You’ve explained what it does for a sissy. For the Mistress?
I’m sorry Lady Alexa, I did not see your reply until now.
From the Mistress standpoint, her control and shrinking of the submissive’s genitalia using the inverted chastity cage would seem to be exciting for her. The sissy would have no voice on when it is stopped or how tiny her clitty gets. The units that have a built in catheter would stretch the urethra. There is some minor initial pain with the insertion. Mistress insisting on that also reinforces the fact that she is in control of any pleasure and any related discomfort. Being penetrated like a female would be pleasurable for the sissy but experimentation with larger devices and or sounding rods by Mistress that go deeper and stretch wider would again be controlled by Mistress and teach sissy that there is sometimes a little pain that accompanies penetration. Being remade feminine is not all fun and easy. There is a price involved. If any prostrate fluid is released, Mistress can require sissy to submissively consume it for her mistress pleasure. This could help Mistress bridge the gap between sissy learning to taste her own juices and actually having another male or sissy ejaculate in her mouth at Mistress whim. The power play exchange and the humiliation of being seen by Mistresses friends with a caged, shrunken member that gets no relief seems also to be something Mistress would enjoy.
Hello Lady Alexa. i really enjoy reading Your posts, but when i click on the photos of the ebooks and audio books in this communication to purchase, the connection times out and i am unable to purchase the books. Perhaps it is just me but thought i would bring it to Your attention. Thanks, chanel.
My husband uses a conversion link to the books that diverts to whatever country the user is in or even to choose between Amazon or Apple Books. She tells me your firewall might be preventing it as it’s working for us. However, if you tell me what country you’re in and what book you’re interested in either here or on email, I’ll send you a direct Amazon link.
Thank You Lady Alexa for Your prompt response. This issue has never been a problem in the past but i am interested in all of the Amazon books that were included in Your most recent email. i am located in the United States.
Thanks again for Your help. Have a blessed day. chanel.
It sounds like Girl is in for a very eventful next few months. I envy her. I have for a long time, wished for my wife to be like you. I just can’t seem to get her to cross into the thoughts of being so dominant and playful, the way you are. I truly believe that the life you have chosen for your husband is the perfect life for a man. I can’t wait for you to really start the cuckolding and read about that. I think that should be a very important part of a marriage. Again, my wife will not entertain the idea.
Thank you for all your writings. So someone like me can, at least, dream and fantasize
It’s going to be fun that’s for sure
I am not a big fan of chastity cages, and for me, they are the last resort for sissy discipline.
I much prefer tucking and, if necessary, taping. I think that keeps my fem flat and feminine under her panties.
I agree although I need to use one on Girl for when I’m not around just in case. Taping sounds like fun, I might try that too although access and Girl presenting her sissy clitty are very important