Our Female-Led Relationship between a Mistress and her sissy has moved on recently to a whole new level. I’ve taken my sissy husband to new sissy frontiers which will get me to my end goal. The point of a real FLR is that the relationship should be all about the Mistress. Her desires and needs must be paramount. It’s her sissy’s role to make that happen.
And I’m making this dream much closer.
Where we were
For a long time, our FLR was more mild. I’d turned my husband into a feminised sissy and he was submissive to me and my instructions. That went on for many years until more recently. I’m not sure why, but I began to want to push things into areas I’d never considered before.
I wanted something much stronger.
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My husband, Girl, tries to go with my demands although they take some getting used to sometimes. I often need to take things slowly and step by step. That said, she loves to be my submissive and to be pushed into new things.
In a previous post, Teasing Sissy, I explained that I had three over-riding rules in our FLR. 1, my husband must be a submissive sissy. 2, she must never orgasm (see Orgasms Are For Women and The Orgasm Gap). And I’m was now working towards a 3rd rule – taking lovers (cuckolding my sissy) and to stop from having sex with her entirely. We’re moving on to a new and more pure dominant-submissive dynamic.
In my new vision of our FLR, I believe I should be free to enjoy taking many partners. At the same time, I want my sissy husband to become a sissy slut to service other sissies. Maybe eventually I’ll want her to service men too for my amusement.
The new Mistress and sissy world
I have a lot of contact with sissies and I explained in my post, The Final Sissy Frontier, how we met Jenny. Jenny and I persuaded my husband Girl to put Jenny’s large clitty in her mouth for a couple of seconds.
I’ve recently been in communication with another sissy who I’ll call Poppy. Jenny and Poppy know each other too but that idea is for another day. Jenny had told me what a naughty sissy Poppy was.
We had lunch out first to get to know each other and so that I could be comfortable with Poppy. I was. After our lunch, I invited her back to our home with a mission to move Girl’s sissy training on a few steps. And what big steps they were.
Sissy Dancing
Poppy was already dressed as a girl but Girl wasn’t. I made her undress in front of Poppy and I put her in a little skirt and skimpy frilly knickers. I put some music on and told them to dance slow and close.
Girl did what I asked without complaint. I’d told her exactly what I wanted from the afternoon – sissy affection, kissing and then we’ll see how much further we’d go. Well that’s what I said because in reality, I was going to push this on from the last time with Jenny.
Like the encounter with Jenny that I wrote about in The Final Sissy Frontier, I had to give some firm instructions to get a seemingly reluctant Girl to become more intimate with Poppy. First I got them to dance with their bodies touching and moving together. Then I got them to cuddle cheek to cheek as they danced
Poppy was enthusiastic, Girl less so but did what I told her.
Sissy Kisses
I wanted to see them kissing. I explained to Girl, “You’ve already kissed Jenny so you can do the same with Poppy while you dance.” Girl looked at me and shook her head. Poppy’s eyes sparkled. “You will kiss her,” I said, “and you will do it with passion, open your mouth and put your tongue in her mouth.”
Girl’s eyes widened but Poppy put her lips to Girl’s. My husband’s eyes were on mine without blinking but she opened her mouth and went with the kisses. I’d say that after the initial shock, she settled into it and seemed to enjoy it. She told me afterwards she thought she’d taste male or feel facial whiskers but that it was like kissing a real girl. Poppy’s face was smooth and like a girl’s.
Another hurdle cleared.
Sissy Love
I made them put their tongues out to see them sucking and licking each other’s tongues. Girl did this without complaint. So, on to the main event. As they kissed, I told them to grind crotches together and again there was no problem. I lifted both their skirts and tucked them in their waistband so that their clitties pushed against each other as they danced.
Poppy had an obvious erection and I believe Girl had a partial erection. This was a pretty good thing as it meant she was enjoying it. The feeling of power to make my husband do this was indescribable. I know sissies love this humiliation but women like me get excited making it happen.
“Stop,” I called. Poppy looked at me disappointed, she had a massive erection and clearly did not want to stop anything. “Kneel, Girl.” I ordered. My husband looked at me. “Kneel and I want you to face her clitty.” I touched her shoulders and she went to her knees. Her eyes went everywhere except to the bulge in Poppy’s knickers an inch before her eyes.
“Kiss it.”
Girls started to object.
“No, don’t be a naughty sissy slut.,” I said. “You had Jenny’s clitty in your mouth so kissing Poppy’s clitty through her knickers is hardly difficult.”
Girl saw I had a point. She moved forward and kissed quickly and then moved back.
“Kiss it like you want to,” I said with a sharp voice. Sometimes Girl annoys me with her prevarication. She’d kissed a clitty so why was she delaying? I pushed her head into Poppy’s erection and I took her hand and placed in against her balls. “Kiss like you love it. Now.”
She kissed her clitty as I told her and made no more fuss. I let her do this for a while. “Right. Pull her knickers down.”
Girl stopped. She hesitated so I have to admit I shouted. “Pull them down.” I don’t usually shout but she was delaying and dithering. Anyway, after a slight jump at my tone, she slid Poppy’s knickers down and her large erection popped out into the air. It was an impressive sight and like Jenny’s much larger than Girl’s.
It was at this moment I realised I wanted a lover with a bigger penis. I didn’t want Girl’s average thing any more, I wanted something with some size I could feel. I was going to move much quicker to take a lover.
I snapped out of my momentary daydream. “Kiss her clitty, Girl, and don’t give me any excuses. You kissed Jenny’s you can kiss Poppy’s. I saw Girl hesitate an instant before kissing Poppy’s erection on the side. “Keep kissing,” I told her. She did.
This was nice but I wanted to see it in Girl’s mouth. “In your mouth, Pansy boy,” I said to my husband. “All the way like a good sissy slut. Just like you did for Jenny.”
Girl opened her mouth but couldn’t put it in so I tapped the back of her head. She pushed her lips over the end. She held it there doing nothing. I held her head and moved it up and down Poppy’s shaft and let go after a few movements.
Girl took her mouth away. “What are you doing?” I almost shouted again.
“That’s like I did for Jenny,” Girl replied.
I leant into her face. “I don’t care. This time you’ll suck her until I say stop.”
She looked at me with surprise, she’d thought that was it but it most certainly wasn’t. I then had an idea based on my earlier one. Poppy had a wonderful erection. “This is what I want you to do,” said to Girl. I pushed her aside and knelt in her place. I sucked on Poppy’s erection. Girl’s eyes widened in horror.
I loved the feeling of the size of her erection in my mouth but I loved even more that I was sucking on another clitty. I didn’t want Poppy to cum in my mouth, of course, but it felt good to suck her in front of Girl and to have a much better erection to play with. I knew for sure then I wanted to find males with great penises to have a lot of fun with.
I pulled away and sat back. “She has a far better clitty than you, Girl. I love it.” I thought about sitting on Poppy’s erection and finding out how a large one felt after so many years of having Girl’s average thing. I decided that would be for another day.
“Now it’s your turn but I want you to make her cum.” I stared at Girl who looked horrified but returned to suck on Poppy who thought all her dreams had come in that afternoon.
Girl moved her mouth up and down Poppy’s erection. “Faster,” I told her, “Faster, make her cum in your mouth, slut.”
I saw Poppy jerk but Girl took her mouth away. Poppy held her hand out and came into her hand while rubbing herself. I didn’t push Girl to take it in her mouth in the end but I got her to that point. That could wait for another day. It will happen.
Next FLR steps
Our FLR has gone in a direction I never thought possible just a couple of years ago. The vanilla side of our life can hold things back for weeks on end but I believe that 2025 will be the year it all comes together.
I’ve also made friends with another Mistress who lives nearby. She’s helped me enormously to see that a Mistress should do exactly as she pleases. She’s explained that I haven’t yet fully shaken off the social conditioning of so-called vanilla relationships and branched out.
She has a sissy partner she keeps in chastity while taking many other lovers. She wants me to join her in going out on dates with other men as a foursome. I explained I don’t like alpha men but neither does she. We’ll still be in charge of things. Beta men watch out if you live in London.
I’ve told Girl that I am going to do this and we may even bring our boyfriends back. Or we may spend the night with our boyfriends at hotels or their places. I very much like the idea of sending Girl to the spare bedroom while I have sex in the next room.
I had planned to only have sex with sissies but my friend is persuading me otherwise and I’m more than tempted.
She’s also told me I should have a gift list on this site so I’ll also be setting that up.
In the meantime after tasting a large clitty, I’ve told Girl that I will no longer suck her clitty as it’s too small. Her only chance of having a blowjob from now will be from another sissy. Her orgasms will still be banned and any sissy sex can only happen with me there.
My new Mistress friend has been showing me how a true FLR should operate. She keeps her sissy partner locked for days on end and I like that idea too. I’m guessing that in 2025, I’ll move towards only having sex with other males and stop with Girl entirely. I love the idea of that freedom and fun and having a sissy maid at home to look after the house to make it clean and tidy while I’m on a night out.
Isn’t this what being a Mistress is all about? 2025 will definitely be the year of the Mistress.
Dear Lady Alexa,
You’re an absolute saint. Dealing with Girl’s semen must be simply awful for you. You’re so kind and caring to her. I find it very touching. Fortunately, you don’t have to deal with the unpleasant job of cleaning up the mess having training Alice to do it promptly afterwards. Very sensibly in my view, you kindly ruin her orgasm for her to save her both the embarrassment of having one in your presence, and, avoid the risk of diverting her attention away from pleasing you, which is where her focus should be at all times in an FLR. I assume were she to derive pleasure in any way from this purely precautionary procedure, you would simply apply an appropriate punishment to ensure compliance in the future ?
Yours curiously,
Frankie.
Male semen is so yucky
Dear Lady Alexa,
Thank for replying to my comments so graciously. I particularly like the asymmetrical nature of you relationship with Alice. A healthy imbalance is good thing in an FLR. I love the concept of an open relationship for you, but of course not for him/her. How utterly appropriate.
From my own lucky experience, I found cuckolding difficult to cope with at first – all those complex and conflicting emotions I felt were hard to reconcile. But fortunately, my then girlfriend, the ever brilliant and inspiring Angel, was able to skillfully guide me through them all. She wisely taught me that it was just sex and not a big deal. All I needed to do was imagine the situation from her perspective to better understand her needs, in order to service them. Basically, I needed to stop viewing things from my own selfish standpoint and focus myself solely on her. During this period of my education, I became concerned that ‘outside influences’ might lead me to via off course, but fortunately, since she managed our social diary, those dangerous influences were kept to an absolute minimum until my training was complete.
A similarity with your relationship with Alice/Girl and ours, is the absence of the male orgasm in our love making. This came about more through practical expediency than anything else. Angel was able to orgasm alarmingly quickly during penetrative sex, whereas I could take forever and a day to climax and mostly, never orgasm at all. This would become extremely tedious for her having already orgasmed, and not unreasonablely, she wanted to get on with other, non-sex related things, afterwards. So, we discided to dispense with my orgasms altogether, since it is superfluous to non-procreative sex and wholly unnecessary. What a relief though ! This saved me a great deal of embarrassment, sped things up, and freed me up to solely focus on her pleasure exclusively, which is something I’m more interested in doing anyway. It also saved me the work of clearing up all that sticky, gooey mess on the bedsheets afterwards. Revolting. I like things in the bedroom to be spotless and hygienic as any proud househusband would.
Anyway, my apologies for rambling on like this. I am sure your gracious self and obedient husband Alice are on a very fulfilling trajectory for the both of you: more sexual pleasures for you; more exciting challenges for him to overcome and conquer (with your considered leadership of course !)
May I again wish you both the very best of happiness for now and in the future.
Yours humbly,
Frank.
Yes, I don’t like the nasty mess of male cum and stopping that has made things much better. I ruin her orgasm using surgical gloves and a mask then move away for her to clear things up. I’d like to understand if even this is necessary as I’d prefer it to remain inside her but I worry about prostate health issues.
That was an amazing reading, I loved it so much. This is exactly relationship dynamics what I’m trying to find myself.
I really like that new idea of You cuckolding her with beta males and not with other sissies. It sounds much more humiliating for her. In my mind it would make me feel much less as a man and more like a sissy, that I cannot fill my dominant partner sexual needs and she must find that outside our relationship.
I’m very straight like Alice but that idea sounds so hot that my partner make me service men cause she like to watch. So I’m interested to read about how this jorney goes and what next steps You have for her.
I may use beta males, I may use sissies too. Let’s see.
Of course it’s Your decision and I’m eager to read next adventures. I’m also waiting Alice get to swallow her first load of cum, it would be special moment for her sissy slut jorney.
Wishing You all the best!
Sissy Audra
Wow! Wow! I am so conflicted right now. I am not a sissy and have no desire to be with another sissy (no offense to sissies. It’s just not my thing) but I am so aroused after reading your post. I could feel your power in your words and I could feel his submission and inability to resist you. I guess what I am feeling is what you have been saying about your husband- the excitement is about being humiliated and feeling your power. Well I have felt your power and you have stretched my mind. Thank you for sharing your amazing experience. So well written. It’s fantastic how your relationship with your husband keeps evolving into something new and exciting.
Lady Alexa, thank you for your reply to my question, it must be a bit of a bore to have to repeat the same answer again and again.
Dear Alice – maybe it is up to you to decide what you want to be – do you want to be introduced as ‘the best sissy ever’ or just ‘this is girl, she’s ok’? Just think of how Lady Alexa will feel if you give her what she wants? Don’t do it half-heartedly go for it heat and soul. You are not being asked to do anything nobody else has. Who knows maybe you will enjoy it, you will certainly enjoy the feeling of pleasing Lady Alexa.
Dear Lady Alexa
It seems as if your FLR relationship is moving on at pace but it was interesting to note that Girl has asked for a more extreme relationship and to ask you to push the boundaries. Having other beta men/sissies as lovers will take her humiliation to a new level. if you do take this step then it will have important ramifications for your relationship if will be intensely humiliating for Girl.
However you may both find it liberating. Having watched my own Mistress take a much larger sissy clitty, indeed I had the priviledge of guiding it back into her so she could continue to ride it, I realised how unworthy my own small clitty is. It is humiliating to realise that I had never given her that level of pleasure but strangely it has made me understand that for my Mistress to be satisfied and fulfilled she needs lovers. I know that I cannot fulfill her like that and indeed no longer have the desire to have my sissy clitty inside her it is much more fulfilling for both of us that I worship her with my tongue and when she needs something more she takes a lover,
Who knows perhaps once Girl has dealt with the intense humiliation she too can find a level of emotional happiness and love for you that permits this development of your FLR relationship.
She wants what pleases me. It’s for me to decide what I might do.
Dear Lady Alexa, I am intrigued by the psychology of the process that you have undertaken to feminize your husband. He clearly wishes to please you, that is understandable. Would you say that he is in general ‘a people pleaser’? Does he feel the need to what other people want, or to be helpful to others?
I explain this in various posts and my books but in short, she likes to please me rather than other people, likes a strong woman, likes to let go of responsibilities and gets off on being humiliated which goes to some extent with letting go of responsibilities.
Alexa, you and your gurl kind of remind me of a neighbor I had who was a member of the Bandidos motorcycle club (1%). Lots of parallels between you and him.
OK, and the story and who are the Bandidos?
Lady Alexa, thank you for your polite and kind answer. It brought up several ideas in me.
What made you and your blog special in my eyes was that it could show FLR and feminisation at the same time without focusing (much) on sadism, pegging or cuckoldry (which I saw as dangerous and repulsive extremities). It seemed to me (as it is to this day) that it is hard to find real life examples of FLR (or WLM) where these three are not present and your lifestyle suggested that FLR is possible (basically) without these. FLR and feminisation, both of them interesting new concepts of a radically changing world. (Even though you had some spanking but not a hardcore S/m relationship.)
When I wrote once in a comment that my marriage might only be semi-FLR because its speciality is only that mostly my wife manages our money and we focus our sexual life on her leading role and enjoyment then you encouraged me to call this a complete FLR because it is essentially that according to you.
But what if a wive’s enjoyment means such things as cuckoldry? Should FLR mean any limits as to what it means? Well, our opinions may differ at this point. (Perhaps.) Because I seek for interesting and exciting things in sexuality (like you and your husband) but I also seek for ideals that seem to be basically harmless on a societal level. And it seems to me that when a person is degraded to the role of an ever shrinking position of a stage prop of a sexual theatre (and this is what cuckoldry means, to my mind) this will probably rarely lead to a peaceful old age together for both parties. It might, in some cases. There are examples to everything – I am just interested in what might be (more or less) typical (myself being a researcher in the field of social sciences but also personally interested in this).
It is one thing to imagine extraordinary scenarios in a novel and it might be another to live things in real life. Life seems to be rawer, wilder and more complicated than our fantasies because these latter are often oversimplified. And it is so with sexual relationships: the more of it with the more persons the more of the trouble. I have read somewhere that „sex can be hurtful not only because of infectious diseases but also because it leaves us vulnerable and more likely to cling to people who don’t love us, mourn those who leave us, and not know how to escape those who need us but whom we don’t love”. This is a good observation, especially because what makes sexual life with a person more, essentially, than with a tool is the personal relationship. It is true that persons can be objectified and their emotions, hopes, just demands trivialised. But the mental injuries might be there then even if covered by these latter. It seems to me that this is what might be often done in diferent kinds of plays and lifestyles of the BDSM world and also, to some extent, in sissification and FLR as these came from that originally. And does the magic word of „consensual” solves these problems at once? I doubt that as it does not solve it in the consensually promiscuous „vanilla” world, either (as that quoted observation came from that, too).
It is true that your husband eventually agreed to everything you wanted in your process of sissifying him. So, everything is consensual this far, as you pointed out. But does this necessarily make those things harmless (s)he agreed to? Not necessarily, I am afraid. For two reasons. One is that two persons can make a mistake almost as well as one person alone. And the other is that he always conceded to your long standing mental pressure in the end – and while this „play” might understably be enjoyable (in a way) for both of you, on the other hand it might reduce the „rationality value” of his decisions. An example to this is the usage of buttplugs. When this question first appeared years ago you wrote to me that Alice is not interested in anything „there”. And then later – perhaps because this is a quite fashionable idea in the mistress / sissy world and that ignited your fantasy (I just guess) – you still achieved somehow that he be buttplugged constantly (as far as I remember). I do not doubt it was consensual. But as far as I know having a buttplug constantly (just like being pegged often – or having anal penetration often among homosexuals) might losen muscles of the anus so much that after a while a constant leakage of excrement might be the result. Am I not right in this? Have you checked this, inspected (googled) this question? And did he?
And then this cuckoldry question. Have you read about the possible drawbacks and risks of it? It seems to me that these are not easy to find on blogs because people do not tend to advertise their tragedies – and broken hearts and minds are not put into the shopwindows of the social media. But if you search „open marriage problems” with Google you might find some relevant experience and stories.
Once I heard that „the optimist invented airplane and the pessimist invented parachute”. Both are necessary, of course. In an FLR you are the pilot of your airplane but the endless possibilities of flying in 3 dimensions are so intoxicating… Are they not?
By the way, I found some ideas of yours quite erotic, like making your Alice / Girl having an erection for hours a day. (It was in a phase of yours 1-2 years ago – I don’t know if you still play this.) I might try this in my marriage. (I have already proposed something similar to that to my wife.) It seems to be an exciting idea of teasing and denial although I would not ask my wife to deny me in the end – a few hours of denial sounds quite enough. And a wife asking for pussy licking several times a day as an intermittent prolonged foreplay might be a match or counterpart to teasing her husbands male clit. Do I remember well that this latter also occurred in your marriage? Well, anyway, you had some incredibly erotic ideals and I guess they could be (or still are) really thrilling and satisfying in your marriage.
I have read that you began to shrink your Girl’s clit by chastity belt besides denying vaginal penetration. While this sounds an extreme and interesting concept you resisted some similar ideas (suggestions among the comments) for years claiming that you like his male clit and like using it very much. And I agree with that you and it seems to me that perhaps this went a bit too far this way by now and this might mean too much of a loss (in emotional closeness and erotic enjoyment) for both of you. What if you changed this a bit and let your Girl penetrate you at least few times a year – for example, your birthdays and your marriage anniversary? And you two could also use a Strap On Hollow Dildo Penis Sleeve – like this https://www.amazon.com/Consoladores-Adjustable-Reusable-Extender-Extension/dp/B0CQF87BF7/ref=sr_1_17 – often. Using that you could still enjoy vaginal penetration by your Girl (by contacting a bigger, artificial penis in your vagina) while maintaining that clitty shrinking projekt, as well.
As for the future, I still have some ideal I dare to propose and that is tit erotics. Your Girl admiring your female breasts, longing for them and reverently and gently pampering them, frequently – and you scratching and pinching your Girl’s small tits (you wrote that they are not too sensible) and extorting Alice’s regular visible reaction; not exactly extremely torturing (not causing injury) just teaching Alice that biological male tits are still sensible and they can be sources or erotic sensations. Ever more by the day as those tits become ever more sensitive. After some days or weeks of a bit harsher training it might be enough to gently touch your Girls tits casually throughout the day and even then you can tease Alice by this. Both of you could learn this, how to tease your Girl ever more through male tits (cautiously, without harming them) and make Alice long for ever more tit erotics – and then later wishing that her (his) tits were bigger. Like yours. After your Girl realised that biologically male tits are (or can be made) erotic organs and that they are important as that Girl will also realise that her (his) newly important organs are much smaller than that of a real woman and that (s)he is really a decreased woman in this respect. I think that this is one area where women are well visibly superior to men and this could be the source of an erotic female superiority play, roughly the way I explained. And this can lead to both of you having a new source of erotic entertainment as well as a new challenge and strange area for your Girl to deal with: much more sensitive tits (trained by you in a non-contradictory manner), a „tit envy” and an (erotic) inferiority complex to real biological women. (Should that lead to having silicon breast implants even later? It is a risky and difficult chance – anyway, not having female breasts when longing for them might feel somewhat frustrating and humiliating and that seems to be what your husband enjoys according to you.)
Well, of course, this is just an idea. But I know a few examples where it works, so, it might be worth trying.
I think I’ll do a post on this discussion as it’s interesting. I post here about the ‘fetish’ elements of our lifestyle and remember, my husband works with me on this and sees everything I write and is involved. There are posts here she has written too if you look back, including one on her orgasm denial.
I do not write about our everyday normal life which possibly takes up 95% of the time. We do a lot together and share similar interests but writing about going shopping, to the cinema, a show or a weekend city break is not what readers here want or what is interesting, readers want the 5% fetish bit. I don’t spend my life humiliating my husband or being bossy, that would be tiring.
The hollow penis was something my friend suggested but it’s not real so I’m not keen. It might be fun occasionally but it’s not a solution. There are also other personal considerations driving our ideas that I don’t share online – there are people I know in this scene who read my posts and some things are just too personal. These factors also drive what we want to do but I’m not going to share them online so I can’t answer all your points with specifics.
Dear Lady Alexa, you wrote that “I do not write about our everyday normal life which possibly takes up 95% of the time. We do a lot together and share similar interests but writing about going shopping, to the cinema, a show or a weekend city break is not what readers here want or what is interesting, readers want the 5% fetish bit”. Well, I was always interested in the everyday life of those living a very special lifestyle perhaps because, on the one hand, I am interested in the persons themselves – and on the other hand, because I am interested in the subtleties of their relationship, not the least to what extent the “specialties” might or might not appear in their everyday deeds and thoughts; so, in their very soul… I don’t know though if I am alone with this here or if there are others, too, who would also like to know more about these (in connection with you two). Anyway, you write about it more or not, I am glad simply knowing about your love and about you two having your everyday joys.
What I am still interested in is your opinion about the possible universal applicability of FLM and feminisation as relationship and sexual ideals. Some 6-8 years ago you wrote (as far as I remember) that these mean ideals (probably) for everyone and it would be nice to see their spreading everywhere. But does it still remain so if couples living according to such ideals use the chance to go ever further and further? Yes, every couple is different as you wrote. I am just curious whether there are couples who step on this road of FLM and feminisation and do not reach to things like spanking, pegging and cuckoldry. I still seek for such (should I say, moderate) examples and I would like to know their ratio.
We have discussed some of the problems of cuckoldry. When thinking further about this latter it came to my mind that the ideal of the universality of feminisation and FLM does not seem to be compatible with this because cuckoldry supposes the division of men’s world to alpha men (who become “bulls” in such a lifestyle) and beta men who are to be subjugated and feminised. Thus, alpha men are not to be feminised and led by women and then these ideals are not applicable to a big part of men. This seems to be one logical conclusion.
Or, another possible conclusion is that the concept of “alpha men” is a basic mistake (from the point of view of the ideal of the goodness and necessity of feminisation of all of the men) – and then every man might and should be feminised and led by a woman and then cuckoldry would be possible in a world (of a utopia) where cuckoldry is only practiced among mistresses who loan their sissies to each other. Such a world might have its intricacies (and I bet it already does) with possible infringements of limits or sensitivities, both of mistresses and of sissies. I am sure you will experience much more about these things than what I know if you immerse yourself in that world more deeply. Anyway, I am just curious again if such a society could work well, with more enjoyment and less psychological wounds than what is average in today’s society. Have you thought about that?
And another issue is family. Would most young people want a relationship if such an ideal went popular? Or would it be popular only for women but not for men? (And why would it be popular for men if their exploitation through cuckoldry was quite general?) And what about having children? Would it be a natural thing or only a rare whim that most often endangers more sexual enjoyment? And in a such a possible world, would or should boys taught to be subservient (and supposedly ultra feminine like sissies) and girls dominant (and then either more or less masculine – or feminine but a “sexually predatory way”)? These latter styles already appear in young women’s style of clothing so, although not many seem to think as much about these questions as I do they are probably present in many minds. But where would they be discussed in depth? I am curious about your opinion about these as well as about others’.
6-8 years ago, in your earlier blog entries and in your answer to my comments and questions you wrote (as far as I remember) that your aim with feminising your husband was to make him more tidy, polite and helpful and that wives or women partners doing the same to their men would civilise them by feminisation and by some subjugation connected to that. I have thought quite a lot about such an ideal and I still do not think it is impossible but all of this might be more complex as these latter questions also appear.
I want the freedom to have sex with who I like. That would not be alpha men as I don’t like that type of man. Sissies and beta men are fine, especially if they have impressive clitties. Beta males don’t need to be feminised just submissive to me. I will just want them to do what I tell them to do in bed.
Dear Lady Alexa,
Thank you for sharing with us all the intimate details of you and your husband’s private life. I have read with interest your future plans you intend for yourself and for Alice. One such which struck a chord with me is the practice of cuckolding.
Having had the privilege of being cuckolded twice myself, by two different girlfriends, I can honestly say that it can ultimately be one of the most surprisingly enriching experiences a sissy boy like myself could encounter. The first experience was whilst on holiday in a country cottage in rural France, and the second occurred here in England in the home which we had created together, which incidentally, made the experience all the more humiliating. At the time I was so alarmed at hearing my partner (whom she insisted on me calling ‘Angel’ rather than ‘Mistress’ or ‘Ma’am’) having passionate sex with a lover (a skinny youth from the scuba diving club whom she’d copulated with before she’d met me) in the master bedroom next door, that I felt as though I’d become a character in some weird foreign film. Except that it was no foreign film, it was a real episode in my life. I didn’t approach her for three days afterwards as I felt so shocked and disoriented.
When we finally conversed, which she instigated, and in a pleasant enough manner, I was suddenly overcome by feelings of such deep respect, admiration, awe and love for her which hitherto, I had I suppose, suppressed. With that sweet, kind and generous act of cuckolding me, she had transformed herself in my mind from being a strong willed, capable woman into a fearless super-goddess. Added to that of course were my own humiliating feelings of inadequacy and of course inferiority. The power imbalance in our beautiful relationship was firmly established after that I can tell you !
May I wish your inspiring self and Alice the very best of happiness together.
Yours respectfully,
Frank.
Interesting to hear the sissy side of things for cuckolding. I haven’t done anything yet as other life goes on and gets in the way but this is the year. Our take on cuckolding is that we’ve agreed I am free to do as I please and my husband’s role is to fasciliate that. So an open marriage for me, not for him. We both want that imbalance and indeed, it was him who pointed out that I hadn’t taken advantage of our agreement and that it wasn’t selfish for me if it’s what we both wanted. This is what led to me banning his orgasms and moving on to consider cuckolding. He admits he hadn’t considered those ideas when we discussed giving me full power but accepts them as part of the deal. Let’s see.
Everyone chooses his or her friends and then a route of fate with them. These mistress friends you listen to recently take you to somewhere else than the aim was where you went together with your beloved husband just a few years ago, even after you began to feminize him. It was about trying a new model of a relationship and new kind of gender roles together – thrillingly new ones – while staying in a loving and faithful relationship. I was partly attracted to that ideal because it seemed to make sense that men might be enriched in a marriage by their wives by taking some feminine features from them. (And that also the marriage itself might become better, perhaps, this way.) When you first brought up the topic of matching your darling with another man I pointed out that this might lead to the end of your relationship as both of you might find different partners as time goes on. You answered that I am not to worry that anything like that would happen it would be just an experiment of how (s)he would react (as it is interesting for you) and everything would be under close control.
But one thing brings another one and you seem to be halfway to the end of your marriage by now. You will have several men for partner as you plan and he will be a tolerated and still used house servant with no sex at all – rather than a spouse. Is fidelity not more loving and responsible than this? Was not that your common plan taking on a common destiny, throughout life, come what may? How was that changed this much? Are you not hooked by the constantly new possibility of an ever wilder opportunity in sexuality? Are you not driven by such a force as a helpless victim of this psychological drift?
But is there still any possiblity for you to change direction? Would it not be possible to tell those mistress girlfriend(s) that you changed your concept? I think you could choose this. And could it not be a better aim to make the sexual life of both of you as exciting and enjoyable as possible – as this seemed to be a common aim of yours for years – rather than picking a version of lifestyles from someone else that results in alienation and, lastly (probably), bitterness?
And what about he or you getting some STD or psychological trauma from one of your new partners? There will be many partners if you do as you have planned recently. And he might has new ones, too, as you already forced him – but it would be boring if you not forced him to have even more, I guess. And you might not plan to completely discard him yet – but you did not plan to shut him out of your bedroom 1-2 years ago, either. Plans change, on the road you have chosen this far. Thus, it is likely that not only you but also he will become exposed to the risks of STDs in a later phase.
You can say that I am too pessimistic but as for this last turn of your life I proved to be a “clairvoyant”.
I know you have a good fantasy and I am sure you can imagine many exciting things together with your husband in bed without the ever more problematic and risky help of the mistress / cuckoldry world.
I understand your point, Thomas, but you miss out two critical considerations. Firstly, your comment reflects your personal interests in this lifestyle rather than ours or that every couple has different drivers in a relationship and secondly, you assume that the direction I want to take is singularly mine. The reality is that I and my husband discuss every step we take. I may have the ideas but I discuss them first with her. We try them out and, if we don’t like them, we stop. My blog documents several of these points when we backed away. WHo knows, maybe this wil be one too.
We have agreed to live an FLR and as time has gone on, we have both wanted to go further and further in this area. It was my husband who first brought up the idea of making our relationship more extreme and persuading me I should do exactly what I want as that was a true FLR. The mistress friend of mine who cuckolds her partner merely pointed out that she likes dating other men and maybe I might like to as well. I do like the idea but I’m nervous as you might expect. I have discussed it many times with my husband and she is excited by it too and states that an FLR needs to be about my pleasure and desires. She’s uncomfortable with the reality of course but excited too. Let’s see. It hardly needs saying that I would take precautions to avoid STDs but since you brought it up, I had to spell it out. I’m not 15.
Wow. I say thanks to Thomas for being moved to write. And to Lady Alexa, I say well done. Not that you are looking for (our) approval of what you are doing for writing, but this is great and clear. It’s also reassuring for those of us who love your more strict direction and also want you to continue to find the sweet spot that works for both of you. It’s not easy to please your inner domme and his inner sissy at the same time, but you seem to be pulling it off! Thanks for letting us into your 5%!
PS….
For info I am still not able to see recent comments on here when on the blog…
I only know they are there by looking at the notification emails!… is anyone else having the same problems!±??
jane
Thanks Jane I’m not sure what is causing this. No one else has complained. Maybe you need to refresh your browser or clear your history?
I have asked my technical person to take a deeper look. That would be Alice but if she can’t fix it, then I’ll ask the IT person who manages my site.
I also see these problems Jane mentions. For example, I see you answered this post ‘no one else complains about this issue’ as a reply I got a notification with your response. But here in the site I don’t see your response.
Indeed I see a lot of action on the site in my email inbox, but none of those responses here visible on the site itself.
OK, it sounds like I might need to get my technical person on this one. Thank you.
My husband has changed a couple of settings in WordPress that may have been causing the problem. Can you try again and let me know if she’s fixed it?
I don’t know what Girl has done..but it seems to have done the job!
All the notifications now link to a comment I can see…so pleased!
Thank you Girl!..cuddles..x
Excellent.She said the comments were going on but to the end of the list rather than the beginning or something. So she switched it. Who knows? As long as it works.
Wow…just wow!…
You have just put on the afterburners and shot into the stratosphere LadyAlexa!
I read this transformational piece with my jaw dropped… it seemed such a far cry from those initial posts I started reading on Your blog some years ago! I am so excited how Your mind had changed and how devious You can be with girl and her new ‘friends’!
I cant tell you how exciting it was to read!
This opens up a whole new ball game.. and Your new mentor obviously has you firmly on a new trajectory with many experiences ahead for both You…and girl… (I am so jealous of her!)
A few years ago I was an avid reader of a blog from a US FLR couple who, over time. went down a similar route. Whilst at the start of my following them, I exhibited a mere curiosity of how an apparently loving couple in a strong marital relationship could go down this path, but as the months and years went by and his bisexual tendencies were explored along with his slow sissification, I became more and more enthralled and hooked! Her cuckolding exploits just took things to the level that you now are at and I had the very privileged honour of being able to talk to Her as another sissy, and discuss those feeling the sissy husband had. They were so close to one another despite all the humiliation, cuckolding and abuse..including from the Bulls she used, I was slowly convinced that a true loving cuckolding scene is possible… and from then on it became a huge turn on and fantasy for me. Sadly it remains a fantasy… but in reading Your blog I am , once again, able to live by proxy in that special world that so few inhabit!… You are very special Mistress Alexa.
I continue to respect and honour You and Your approach to girl and her journey. I was actually tingling with excitement when I read this account… I can’t wait to see how it develops!..Bravo!!!
Your dedicated sissy admirer
jane!
curtsy…
My ‘new mentor’ is very experienced in this area and my eyes are being opened. I do not believe my husband has any bisexual (or sissy) tendencies which is the beauty of ‘forcing’ it. She does, however, find humiliation the most enthralling turn-on of all. So being made to do unmentionable things with other sissies and ‘forced’ to dress as a girl and be called a girl are the ultimate humiliations and maybe cuckolding too. I would like to ‘force’ her to service men too but I believe that will be a step too far for her and there’s no point if she hates it as it’s meant to be fun.
Theoretically, cuckolding is very exciting for us both. For me, it’s an intoxicating mix of the power to be able to do as I please and secondly the freedom of it. And I love sex so why not? As long as I and my husband get something from it.
I very much doubt I will date ‘Bulls’ as I do not like that type of male at all. If I go ahead, and it’s still if, I’ll go with sissy males and beta males as I like to be fully in charge. I very much enjoyed the situation with Poppy where I was able to use her large clitty and I’ll explore that approach further for certain. Poppy didn’t complain about getting two blowjobs.
I am not yet in this kind of relationship, but I hope to someday. I’ll ned to convince my wife of this, slowly. Thank you for this inspiration!
Thank you, let me know how you get on
What a story and what a development! And what a tease for 2025!! This is my favorite reality show with three exciting storylines. Girl’s, your relationship’s, and your new dominant feelings surfacing. I look forward to the new season!
If I were Girl, I would be concerned (and OK a little excited) every time you go out to meet that new Mistress friend of yours. Where will this awakening end?
Thanks for sharing your story with us!
Girl is getting concerned as I’m being more explicit that I want lovers. But as you say, there’s something exciting there for her. She’s experiencing the feelings of jealousy and excitement.
I can imagine the excitement of these changes probably resonates for her as a positive. These are your wishes. It is exciting, and she is of course a part of your plan.
I might hesitate to call feeling jealousy a positive component for her, but maybe you can channel these feelings into something more enjoyable and tangible for Girl. When things are taken away, you appreciate the small things more. For example, when my hands are cuffed to a belt around my waist by my mistress, I appreciate putting my hands around her waist as that is as far as I can stretch. The small pleasures become bigger. Perhaps she deserves a small pleasure in this process.
It seems like you have decided to not let her ejaculate with the sissy. Is that the case? I still root for Girl being allowed to release, as I like the sexual engineering of associating her very unexpected pleasure with your mission.
Really interesting reading. It is showing me more and more that it is up to my Wife what She wants and not what I want in our relationship. I am finding it easier to respond to her wishes and I can see that if She wants bigger to stretch Her and give Her satisfaction then I need to support Her in this, and enjoy Her satisfaction. I will keep jealousy at bay as I want Her to enjoy life to the fullest. I have learned a lot from Your blog for which I thank You Lady Alexa
Girl is fighting jealousy now I’m being more explicit about taking lovers
Glad you have moved forward with your sissy. My Owner and very friend wants the same for me. As her owned sissy gurl shecwant to see me experiance sex with another male or sissy for her viewing pleasure and entertainment. We are in New Jersey ,United States. But we are having trouble finding someone we can trust and be comfortable with. Even a TS or pre op TS would be fine. We meet several times a month in my Owners private home so we need to find a trustworthy person. That’s are problem.
I said that Jenny and Poppy were sissies but they are pre-op Transgender. Pre-op in that they don’t intend to have the op. But they both live as women otherwise and both have boyfriends who accept their ‘playing away’. Jenny contacted me through my blog and we met well before anything happened to assess her. She introduced us to Poppy.
I can thoroughly recommend what your friend is suggesting. My sissy Sally is very useful when lovers come to visit me. She makes sure my sheets are clean and the bedroom tidy. She lays out sexy clothes for me and gets sex toys and condoms ready to hand. She serves us drinks before the fun begins, then goes and sleeps on a camp bed in the spare room.
This sounds very good. I like to go out a lot so the idea of dating and staying out sounds fun too.
Hello Miranda,
What a lovely, sweet, kind and thoughtful thing to do ! I assume you’ve trained her to do this ? Or has she just decided to do it of her own accord ? Whichever, it must be a comfort to you knowing that she’s sleeping contentedly in the room next door, satisfied with the knowledge that her Mistress is enjoying an evening of fun and fulfillment with her lover.
Have a wonderful life – it sounds like you deserve it !
Regards,
Frankie
Girl is so lucky to have you
thank you for shairng
Hello Lady Alexa,
I’ve said it before and can’t help it again. Girl is one lucky sissy. I wish I had her life. It seems she is in for a lot of new and amazing changes in the coming year. I can’t wait to read about them. And fantasize that it was me.
She is lucky but doesn’t always realise it
I, and I’m sure many others, would be happy to tell her. And explain just how fortunate she is to have you as her Mistress and leader. You are my idol and it is my dream to live girl’s life. Girl will be a true sissy cuckold. Something I can only aspire to be.